Our simple presence can affect others in many ways, even if we don’t realize it. Think only at the moments when somebody’s mood changed just because you were there. For sure, you have been told that many times. The explanation is pretty simple: our energy influences everything around us.

Since everything in Universe is energy, our soul makes no exception. But how it influences other people? Do you know what vibes are you transmitting?

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If keeping up with the Joneses is raising your day to day stress levels, have no fear – it happens to everyone! As social media takes over our life we are faced with new social challenges that have never been seen before to this grandeur in human history. As news media becomes neighbour media, everyday we see the proverbial Joneses in the face of everyone we follow, as they take lavish vacations, birth beautiful children, buy and sell homes and receive sought after promotions.

And where are we in all of this? Infamously lurking behind on Facebook, watching everyone go about their daily lives and gradually becoming more concerned about our own social status. When was the last time we celebrated something? When was the last time we had something to be proud of to show? When was the last time we posted something that got “100 Likes” on Facebook or new followers on Instagram? How come she has so many followers and I don’t?

There are some brilliant art commentaries out there on the internet about how today we validate our self worth by the amount of “likes” we get, the amount of “friends” we have, and so on and so forth. They hit us right where it counts because we are all aware that it happens to us. Think about the last time you made a good post – you felt good. Then a few minutes later you felt a buzz in your pocket; you will open your phone to see who liked your post… who commented on your post… who shared your post…

That act of social activity has now taken over your day until you grow tired of waiting for Likes. You feel better when more people like it, and feel estranged when no one likes it at all, or someone comments something you did not expect. It’s normal, it happens, we all do it.

The pinnacle era of human comparison is on us, and it’s our duty to our health to see it for the entertainment that it is without becoming critical of ourselves, for of course self – criticism is the easiest and most accessible scapegoat when it comes to personal judgement.

Remember that you are a humble person. The reason you do not seek validation from things like this is because you are already happy with yourself. You know you do not need reassurance from the internet to show yourself that you are having a good day, or that what you did was worthy of praise.

You are the kind of person who can leave a tip when the barista isn’t looking, the person who will donate to a charity when no one asked, the person who can dance when no one is watching because you are happy with your life. You don’t need the approval of friends, acquaintances and strangers for you to remember what you already know. Learning to give praise without receiving it is a fundamental concept in religions and moral ethics that we learn from childhood. It is our ability to congratulate others for their merits when we have no expectations to receive any such p raise for ourselves. We have to earn it, just as they did.

Should you be jealous? Why? Who cares?

Although I do not think comparing each other is a good way to usurp other people’s credits, maybe sometimes it’s a good way to keep things in perspective.

I had a great friend from University who was always quite the go-getter. He always posted about his academic achievements and great field trips into the wilderness for scientific research. I was living an enjoyable life myself, but I didn’t have a constant reminder of it. I did however, always have a constant reminder of his enjoyable life. Recently he had really achieved the american dream with his newest post of his new car and new job, at a high up banking agency. I was very happy for him, and wondered, was I jealous of his success? Did he do it right, and I, did not?

A little more research into it and I recognized that his new job and home was in one of the smallest towns in our area, with the highest rates of depression, child teen pregnancy, adolescent drug use and other unfortunate statistics. Although it seemed like he was about to start a great life with his career and assets, I became more thankful for my own life in the city where I enjoyed a more cosmopolitan life with more amenities and less of a poor reputation.

Whenever we are congratulating someone for their efforts, is a time to reflect the feelings back onto ourselves and look inside to allow our self to congratulate ourselves for our milestones and successes. There is plenty of love and space in the world to offer pats on the back to everyone around us as well as ourselves. We don’t have to be jealous about anyone’s life because we have our own amazing life to lead. And isn’t that worth celebrating?

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Age is just a number! We often hear that. And it’s true, because we rarely feel and behave exactly the the number of years shown in our ID. Most of us are feeling younger, maybe with some exceptions, like very bad days.

But, are the others seeing us the way we do? Are we in their eyes as young as we think we are? It’s easy to find out if the way we behave reflects the real number.

Take just now this quick, fun quiz and find out what age people think you are!

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The industrial revolution hit, the internet era is in full gear, Japan is inventing robots with uncanny AI, and the world is experiencing exponential scientific growth. With 7 billion people, our brightest are constantly re-inventing the wheel to propel us further. More and more entrepreneurs are popping up all over the world, self funded and with great ideas to share. There are over a billion web pages, blogs, e-stores, and now that China has opened up, the world of global trade has exploded.

Without Steve Jobs and his peers we wouldn’t all be walking around with iPads; without Bill Gates we wouldn’t be logging onto Windows everyday at work; who was Mark Zuckerberg before Facebook? All of these guys started their multi-billion dollar industries in their basements and backyards, slogging through schoolwork and devoting themselves to their efforts. Could you be the next big entrepreneur ?

Anyone can be, and small ideas sometimes turn into the largest wheels. Nevermind that, look to your local community and you are bound to find fellow neighbours thriving off of ideas that they have taken to the next level. Do you have an ambitious mind? Here are a few places to turn up your brain’s revolutions-per-minute and transcend to new entrepreneurial levels.

1. Any Retail Stores

This seems obvious but hear me out. More and more people today are selling things online and sourcing them from overseas. Next time you are in a store – fitness, pets, food, hardware, automotive, anything – walk through the aisles and take inventory of all the strange things you would otherwise never look at. Cat carriers, funny pillows, resistance bands, strange tools; all made overseas, and shipped to retailers by local sellers. Attract ideas to yourself by noticing sale patterns of easy to ship items that can be made and designed easily without much threshold for damage. Sometimes you just need to see something new to inspire a creative idea with yourself.

2. Etsy, Ebay, Redbubble…

These are a few examples of websites where people are able to sell things that they created. Although you might not be the world’s best industrial designer, these websites are another source of valuable information about what people are buying. People go on the internet to safely satisfy their desire for impulse shopping. They can order things online without leaving home or even seeing money leave their bank account. They can purchase things that look interesting, at low prices, without feeling guilty about blowing through their savings. Here you will find different kinds of shelving units, creative dish wash brushes, alternate wall ornaments and graphic tee shirts that you haven’t thought of before. The mind is easily stimulated – let it happen.

3. International websites

This one seems remote but it’s not. Try to log on to some foreign websites in places like Japan, Indonesia, Vietnam and India. These are countries that although have lower GDP’s than ours, have massive populations of people who love shopping and technological advancements. See what is popular in other countries, what young people are buying, what the market trends are in other places. You’ll find giant Pikachu pillows, motorbike helmet ornaments, and strange fashion designs that are surprisingly fashionable and popular.

4. Celebrity buzz

Daymond John may not be a household name, but he is the founder of FUBU clothing, a billion dollar clothes company from America. He was also a judge on Shark Tank, a popular business reality show. He famously started off by selling hats in parking lots during sports games, and is now a millionaire. It didn’t happen overnight, and it wasn’t easy, but celebrity buzz helped his company explode when he got a famous rapper to wear his clothes in a music video that became huge. Everyone saw the style, and everybody wanted to become a piece of it. Celebrity news might not be our favourite source of entertainment but it is instrumental in determining what will be the next trends in fashion, style and public interest, and it’s worth keeping an eye on for the business savvy.

5. Freelance websites

Did you know you could become a professional audio book transcriber? Or health and fitness blog writer? Through a myriad of websites people are now able to develop streams of income through peer-to-peer networking like Fiverr and Upwork. If you have any talents at all, they can be listed in your profile and certainly somewhere out there is looking for someone like you. All you have to do is a bit of groundwork everyday, and soon you could find you replace your salary with the work you are doing online. Amazing!

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No matter how hard you try, nothing seems to go right. One moment you’re determined to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals and the next moment you lose all your strength to continue doing what you’re supposed to do.

All your strong resolutions seem to go out the window and success simply feels a far off thing for you.

Frustrating, isn’t it?

Hoping and wishing great things to happen won’t actually make it happen. If you really want to achieve big goals in life, you’ve got to work for it. And all that starts with a self-determination.

Now, who am I to teach you about self-determination? Honestly,

Here are 4 steps you can follow to develop a solid self-determination to anything in your life.

1 | Make a commitment

A commitment kept is a prerequisite for success. Making a commitment means you make a promise to yourself to keep going no matter what happens. But if you fall, it’s perfectly okay. A true commitment means you have eliminated any possibility of backing out. It means you keep going and keep working hard despite the harsh circumstances you encounter. This is one of the best ways to get started with self-determination.

So, how do you go about making a commitment that’s right for you? One thing you must remember is that any kind of commitment requires clarity. If you truly want to commit to something, you must have clarity about what you’re committing yourself to. Better ask yourself:

Do I really want this?

What are the benefits of having this thing in my life?

Once you’re clear about your vision, create a clear plan of action. Invest in your goal. Let go of all the conflicting commitments. Stay focused and stop making complains and excuses. Don’t get driven by over planning, small pleasures and temptations. It’s also important to take into account possible drawbacks of making a wrong commitment. So, STOP making unrealistic commitments.

2 |Create a habit of daily practice

Let’s get real here. Regardless of what our goals are – at some point or another in our life we’re going to mess things up. The problem is: many of us give up. We tend to lose all the enthusiasm when our inner critic creeps in to debilitate us from moving forward. That’s where we stop trying. But you know what?

If you get past that and create a daily habit to automate certain aspects of your life, you can be as successful as you imagine. Having a goal isn’t enough – it’s equally important to break it down into smaller steps and take daily action to work for it.

You’ve probably heard this one before: it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Yes, this has been scientifically proven as true. If you don’t keep practicing your new habit each day consistently for the first 21 days, chances are, you won’t be able to keep it. So the idea is to do the same thing at the same time each day and stay consistent with it for the first 21 days. Eliminate excessive options and just do what you’re supposed to do until it becomes your new habit.

3| Track your progress

Once you’ve gotten yourself set into a new habit, it’s a must that you track your progress every single day. You don’t want to lose that enthusiasm and momentum just as you don’t want to lose your time, people, money and things you value. Set up a tracking system so that you’ll forge a psychological need to keep that streak going.

So, how do you start tracking your own progress? Well, there are a number of methods to measure your growth, therefore it’s important that you choose wisely. The first thing you can do is write everything down. If you’re serious about making a quick progress, I suggest you keep a calendar where you can check off each day for completing your daily goals. Don’t break the chain. If you’re too lazy to reach your calendar, use a planner using your iPhone or Google Calendar. And don’t forget to rate your progress as you move forward.

However, there are going to be days when you’ll fail to keep track of your progress. In such cases, start from Step 1 again (Make a commitment).

4| Enjoy each step

What’s so important about enjoying each step of what you are doing? Most people go through life not doing what they love. And the most obvious question they ask themselves toward the end of their life is – “What if?” Now, think about all the greatest people you know, from past and present. They all loved what they did or still love what they do. The difference is – only a small number of people get it and most don’t. The secret is to enjoy each step of what you do.

While we’re working toward our goals, it’s likely that we get more centered on the result and lose focus on the journey. Every step you go through might seem a little bit of hard work if you don’t feel it with your heart. So don’t just rush it. Each step in your journey can be a lot of fun if you learn to enjoy it. It’s never about what you do but how you do it. Take each step as an incredible moment to be enjoyed. See the victory right now – not in the future. If you win your ‘today’, nobody can take your tomorrow away from you.

Smile. And put these steps into action. You’re bound to turn your short-lived determination into a long-lasting change – eventually achieving whatever you want.

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Everyone of us has his/her dark side. Some people more than the others. This dark side can sometimes help us succeed in life, but, please, be aware we are not talking about the real psychopaths, just the normal, plain Jane.

Aren’t you curious to see how dark are you inside? Are you moderately evil? Very dark? Or you don’t have any symptoms of evil?

Take just now this quick, fun test to find out how dark is your personality!

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Doormats around the world, come sit and read this please. We’ve been doormats for far too long. It doesn’t look good on us. We’re looking ragged and torn, dirty and worn. Is this look pleasing you? Are you happy with your life? Of course you aren’t. Are you ready to shed your doormat outfit? Enough is enough. It’s time to put your foot down.

We desperately try to please everyone and make sure the family is running smoothly, work is going off without a hitch, the neighbourhood is under control and life is good. For everyone. What about you and your life? How’s that running for you? If you are a doormat, I will guess that life sucks right now. Is it time to foot your down? Here are some signs it is time. Do you recognize yourself in any of these?

1. Nothing gets done unless you do it.

No one in the house con tributes to any chores or maintenance of the household because they know you are going to do it and you’re pretty tired of that. The most frustrating part is that you know if you don’t do it, nothing gets done. It might be time to sit everyone down and let them know how you feel. Perhaps you can come up with a game plan so that each person has a teeny chore or job and you get more time for you.

2. No time.

Continuing on with the first sign, you realize that you have no time for yourself anymore. It’s gone. Everyone around you expects you to do everything all the time. When you want to do something fun for you it seems impossible as someone is always beckoning you their way. Once again, your hobbies are put on the back burner. Could it be time to start saying no? Is it time to put your foot down now? You bet it is. That longing in your soul to do things for you is real. Stop ignoring it.

3. Resentment has kicked in.

You’re there now aren’t you? There was a time when you did things for love and enjoyment. Maybe even got a wee bit of pleasure out of doing things for people but you see it’s no longer like that. The only thing you feel now is resentment and you secretly wish everyone would just leave you the hell alone. You cringe at the fact that you have to cook dinner, do laundry, run errands, play taxi, etc., and no one else does or offers to help out. Tell them you’re done, make it stop. Let them know you are a doormat no more.

4. Constant fatigue.

You are just always tired. Not just tired of helping people, and not just physically but emotionally too, but tired of the constant phone ringing, texts, emails and everything else you are bombarded with daily. Is there no respect anymore? Doesn’t anyone understand you aren’t a robot? It could be time for you to put your foot down and tap out. Completely out. You need a break, and a big break at that.

5. What about me?

Doesn’t anyone do anything for you anymore? Are you starting to feel neglected and taken advantage of? There used to be a time where you did feel appreciated but that is a distant memory. No one cares how you feel and it’s actually starting to hurt your feelings and make you feel like you have no value. You do have value, by the way. You must start taking time for yourself and start saying no to those who don’t appreciate and value your time and efforts.

Your life is important. In fact, it’s the most important. You need to start enjoying and embracing your life, and you. No one is living your life for you and it won’t get enjoyed and lived to the fullest if you continually let people use you as a doormat. Enough is enough. Time to put your foot down and go live for you.

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