The Artist’s Closet

When I was a senior in high school, I wrote to one of my favorite artists, Maira Kalman, and asked if she had interns and if she’d like one. She said I could come reorganize her moss collection, walk her dog, and meet her mother. It was like peeking behind the curtain and finding the thing you’d both hoped for and dreaded: the actors still perfectly in character.

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Kīlauea Point National Wildlife Refuge’s dramatic backdrop of…

Kīlauea Point National Wildlife Refuge’s dramatic backdrop of steep cliffs plunging to the ocean is one of the best places in Hawai’i to view wildlife and take in the amazing island scenery. Home to large populations of nesting seabirds, visitors also have a chance to view spinner dolphins, monk seals, lush coastal plants and Hawai‘i’s state bird – the nēnē or endangered Hawaiian goose. Photo courtesy of Andre Raine, Kaua’i Endangered Seabird Recovery Project.

Wonderful House Designed by Tescala Architects

This wonderful house not only has spectacular outdoor spaces, but its interior is a combination of spaciousness, simplicity, and good taste. It has an outdoor terrace, decorated and furnished for the enjoyment of its residents, as well as a swimming pool. The program was divided into three areas: private, social, and service. This strategic configuration aimed to protect the interior spaces, while allowing shade in the rest of the property…

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You Can’t Miss Your Boat

I know quite a few people who spend a fair bit of time thinking about all the might have beens, what-ifs and opportunities they’ve missed. They spend their lives constantly feeling like they’ve missed out on something big.

Their boat has sailed.

They’ve missed their one and only opportunity to be rich, famous and do something really amazing.

I know someone who used to enter the same numbers in the lottery every week. One week, she was too busy to get the ticket before the agency closed.

And her numbers came up.

There were no winners that week and the jackpot money rolled over to the following week: 10 million pounds.

She’s never forgiven herself. The lady that used to go halves on the tickets with her never forgave her either.

Since then (this happened more than 20 years ago), she’s lived her life feeling like she’s missed her boat, the only opportunity she’ll ever have to be happy. It’s gone and that’s it. She lived like she must be miserable, bitter and twisted because she failed to do something. She felt like she didn’t deserve to be anything else.

I suspect most of us would be pretty upset if that happened to us.

Now, the question is, would we allow it to rule the rest of our lives? Or should we consider the possibility that it happened for a reason?

What if, instead of spending more than 20 years beating herself up, that lady had said to herself:

“Isn’t it interesting that THAT happened? I wonder why it happened THAT way? Since I KNOW that everything always happens FOR me and not TO me, this happening can only be for my good. So, although it looks like a major setback, it’s neither a mistake nor a missed opportunity. Ooh, I wonder what life does have planned for me.”

Now, I’ll admit that I’d have a VERY hard time saying anything along those lines for quite a while if something like that happened to me.

But, if I knew that I was putting every effort into being wealthy or happy, then I would also know that just because something didn’t happen the way it OUGHT to happen, everything will still be alright. I will be able to relax and let it go.

Nothing ever happens TO me, but everything always happens FOR me.

Just because I can’t see how something can possibly be moving me towards my goals doesn’t mean it isn’t. So long as I’m keeping my eye on my goals, everything that happens is the Universe moving me towards my goals.

It’s definitely easier said than done, particularly at first.

But it is doable.

It’s simply a choice. You haven’t missed your boat. It just wasn’t the boat you thought it was. Your boat is still there.

Your boat is still waiting.

But, if you’re standing on the dock, staring at someone else’s boat, feeling miserable because you think you’ve missed out or you think someone else’s boat looks better or because you think your boat should look like that…

Then, you’re never going to get on your own boat.

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You’re never going to live your own life.

Stop looking at someone else’s life and wishing yours was like that. Be present to what it is YOU want.

See Also: 4 Sure-Fire Ways to Motivate Yourself to Reach Your Goals

Tips On Achieving Goals

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  • Write about how you want your life to look in great detail.
  • Keep writing it weekly at first, then monthly.
  • Write a bucket list.
  • Write about how your day is going to go EVERY DAY.
  • Tell yourself how your life is going to go.
  • Look for evidence that it’s going that way and ignore all evidence that contradict it.
  • Focus and put energy into what IS working.
  • Notice what ISN’T working and write about how you DO want it to look.
  • Don’t waste time beating yourself up because things aren’t going as you think they ought to.
  • Keep your eyes on the goal and move towards it.

See Also: Writing Therapy: How It Can Make Your Life Easier

Remember: Everything happens FOR you, not TO you.

Your boat is waiting for you. Don’t waste your life crying over someone else’s boat. Step onto your own.

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House Designed by Oliver Hill in 1935 is Currently for Sale

This house built and designed by Oliver Hill in 1935, not only holds stories of its years within its walls, but also maintains its look from yesteryear intact. It is located in the seaside development of Frinton-on-Sea, Essex, England and is currently for sale for £ 575,000 ($ 732,000). This house is one of 35 houses built as part of a showcase of British modern architecture. It has been beautifully..

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Cabin Constructed A top Mount Kanin by OFIS Architects

This project is perfect for those who love to live on the edge, and at the same time enjoy nature and its wonderful landscapes. OFIS Architects has designed this winter cabin on top of Mount Kanin in Slovenia. They worked closely with various structural engineers in order to develop a self-contained wooden shell with a cantilevered form. The only way to reach the structure is by climbing or using a helicopter..

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3 Ways Your Circle of Friends Determine How Far You’ll Go in Life

You’ve heard it countless times.

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

The reason why so many people are unsuccessful today or haven’t begun their journey to success is that they take the said statement too lightly.

Are you one of those people?

Maybe you’ve been keeping your fingers crossed and hoping your current friends would wake up and change. You keep giving them chances, yet nothing happens.

Newsflash: People rarely change. If they do, it usually takes a tremendous amount of consistent effort to change their habits.

But, did you know that your circle of friends could determine where you’ll be in terms of success?

You might not notice it yet, but take a moment to reflect on your friends’ attitudes, words and actions. It’s best to write them down or type them on a screen so you could see and cast proper judgment.

How do friends influence your life? Observe these three things and you’ll get a clearer idea.

You Start Thinking the Way They Do

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More often than not, we start to mimic people who surround us. It’s Biology.

We use it as a bonding method and to encourage social interaction with people who we want to like us.

How do friends influence your life?

If your friends are always complaining, chances are, your mind will be filled with complaints daily and you won’t even know it.

And this is exactly why I asked you to carefully reflect on your encounters with your friends.

In high school, I remember spending time with a group of people who were fans of Anime movies and TV shows.

Nobody I’m related to watches Anime and I didn’t grow up being too exposed to it. However, after being with that particular group in high school, I started to watch Anime TV shows and movies as well.

Of course, today, I no longer hang out with that group and my interests have changed. This strengthened my point further.

The good news? You always have a choice.

If you see yourself growing with your current circle of friends, good for you! If not, take action to change that.

Remember, everything starts out with a thought. Right now, if your thoughts aren’t already gearing you up for your dream life, take a closer look at the environment you’re in.

We can’t change how you got here, but you can steer yourself to where you want to be by first changing the way you think and the ones who influence your thoughts.

See Also: How To Design Your Circle of Friends

You Act the Same Way as Them

anime influenced by friends

Like my example earlier about the Anime group, I started to act like them.

I learned words I’ve never heard of before and went to events I never thought I’d be in. I even started cutting my hair similar to the characters I watched!

Did you notice this about yourself?

Even in subtle ways, our friends’ behavior could influence the way we act. It could be the way they flip their hair or how they play with their fingers.

What more when it’s toxic habits?

There are still people who have REALLY good willpower.  But, the general rule is we tend to act like the ones we spend the most time with.

One of my sisters used to have a weight problem. She was obese the first fifteen years of her life. On the year she turned seventeen, she lost over sixty pounds.

One of the people she hangs out with the most is a friend from the gym.

My sister would come home with different kinds of healthy food recommended by her friend and tells me about new workout places that we could go to. Never in a million years did I expect this to come out of her mouth before she started losing weight.

She was the sister who couldn’t stop eating all the time and would just disappear whenever you started talking about exercise.

Her biggest factor? Her friends!

They had similar goals and aspirations, so they helped bring her to the direction she wanted to be!

Whether it’s losing weight, creating more networks or building your startup, your friends will be your guide and support group.

Besides, whenever they’re doing their own thing, you can’t help but be inspired and challenge yourself to new heights.

They Could Expand Your Network and Give Valuable Connections

It’s not about what you know; it’s who you know.

Who you’re associated with can either increase or decrease your value to another person.

Let’s say, if you’re associated with Bill Gates, you’re more likely to be viewed as a VIP.

If you hang out with friends who are known in the business field, you’ll most likely be introduced to like-minded people and even be associated with their traits.

And you shouldn’t limit yourself to offline friends either!

You can have online friends with whom you can exchange ideas and insights with. You can even attend activities, like webinars, together.

Picture yourself living exactly the way you want. You’ll thank your family, relatives, mentors, coaches and supporters.

Do you think you could say the same to your friends?

See Also: Making Friends and Increasing Business Contacts is Easy If You Know These 7 Secrets of Socially Successful People

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The One Secret to Becoming Smarter (Hint: It’s not what you think)

You’re reading The One Secret to Becoming Smarter (Hint: It’s not what you think), originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’re enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.

We all want to know the one secret to becoming smarter, don’t we?

If you search for “ways to become smarter” on the internet, you will get a lot of crazy suggestions. Maybe some more than others. After all, do you really think that a pill will make you more intelligent? Rather use these search results as a test for your preexisting intellect. Looking closely at what you find is the first step to understanding that it is BS.(over-generalizing)

The secret to becoming more intelligent is nothing special, yet it has been overlooked in the past times.

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The absolute secret to being smarter is READING.

“Wow, you’ll say. Thanks for sharing this novel information. Where do I exit this article?”

But before you go, stop for a minute.

If you truly were clear about the effects that reading has on your intellect, why would you have clicked on this article? You already knew the ultimate secret, didn’t you?

Here’s the catch: Many of us know that reading does wonderful things to our intellect, yet we do not really know where to start. Oftentimes we even try to read as much as we can, but never really end up taking anything from it. We end up as a smart as we were before. We might as well use our time for something else.

Yet, why is this the secret of every successful and bright person on earth? Why do others take so much from reading and we don’t?

The thing is we do not think about what we read.

You’ll find thousands of blog posts and YouTube videos on reading faster, but fewer about how to think about what you read.

After all, we do not read for the sake of reading, but because we want to learn something.

Three ways to be a better reader:

Understand that it will take time. Invest it.

We are too often misguided by the illusion that we can read fast and still make use of what we are reading.

I am not saying you have to read as slow as one book in two months, yet you have to be willing to stop and reflect.

If you simply rush through a book, what will you have taken from it?

When you are only reading for pleasure, you could easily read one novel in one day (Or however fast you read.).

However, it looks completely different when you are reading non-fiction for self-improvement.

Do your truly believe that by reading a non-fiction book in a day, you will be able to significantly improve your life? No, improbable.

So why do we still do it?

Because we want to seem smart and boast of all the books we have read.

But what does it actually serve you, if you only take a fraction of the book’s benefit with you?

Nothing. If you are out for skimming through a book you might as well not read it.

You have to be willing to invest the necessary time to read a book.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you cannot read it in one go. You could read the book once and then once you are familiar with the content and the principles, you can go back and further engage with it.

So how do we think about what we read?

First and foremost, if you want to unlock the secret to becoming smarter, you need to know some of the basics. It is critical that you make the information you read, your own.

Paraphrase it, write it in your journal (if you don’t journal, you might as well start now!).

Then try to transfer the information onto your life.

How does this apply to me? What can I use this for in my life?

By making information more personal it is ‘categorized’ as relevant to our brains and is then stored, thus making us remember it better.

And why would you want to retain information better?

When you retain the relevant read information you can apply the theories and suggestions. So you take the maximal benefit from any book you are reading.

This goes right into our next tip:

Apply the information to your life

Spoiler alert: Potential to change your life!

By applying information from the book to your life, you make use of the book. Books are there to help us improve our lives. They are supposed to help us learn a language, a principle or a strategy. Why wouldn’t we use it?

Think about it this way: The author has most likely put years’ worth of experience and knowledge into this book. He has enough skill to be accepted to publish it. He has invested time into writing and publishing.

The content is probably highly valuable, so why wouldn’t you use it to improve your life, based on other people’s experiences?

Through books, we learn to live a thousand lives in one lifetime.

Every time you see that a proposition is outlined, a strategy you could apply, take notes and then create a step-by-step action plan for how to apply it to your life.

You’d be surprised by the outstanding effects this has on your life!

You won’t understand why you ever read in another manner!


If you are applying these ways to your reading and make them a habit, you’ll soon be the smartest person around.

Why? Because rarely anyone will read as thoroughly as you do.

Seek challenges every day. Read consistently and make something from it. Use reading as a matter to the means.

Interested in reading more about becoming a smarter and more proficient you? Then head on over to my blog and subscribe to the newsletter.

You’ve read The One Secret to Becoming Smarter (Hint: It’s not what you think), originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’ve enjoyed this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.

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The One Secret to Becoming Smarter (Hint: It’s not what you think)

You’re reading The One Secret to Becoming Smarter (Hint: It’s not what you think), originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’re enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.

We all want to know the one secret to becoming smarter, don’t we?

If you search for “ways to become smarter” on the internet, you will get a lot of crazy suggestions. Maybe some more than others. After all, do you really think that a pill will make you more intelligent? Rather use these search results as a test for your preexisting intellect. Looking closely at what you find is the first step to understanding that it is BS.(over-generalizing)

The secret to becoming more intelligent is nothing special, yet it has been overlooked in the past times.

joseph-chan-256778

The absolute secret to being smarter is READING.

“Wow, you’ll say. Thanks for sharing this novel information. Where do I exit this article?”

But before you go, stop for a minute.

If you truly were clear about the effects that reading has on your intellect, why would you have clicked on this article? You already knew the ultimate secret, didn’t you?

Here’s the catch: Many of us know that reading does wonderful things to our intellect, yet we do not really know where to start. Oftentimes we even try to read as much as we can, but never really end up taking anything from it. We end up as a smart as we were before. We might as well use our time for something else.

Yet, why is this the secret of every successful and bright person on earth? Why do others take so much from reading and we don’t?

The thing is we do not think about what we read.

You’ll find thousands of blog posts and YouTube videos on reading faster, but fewer about how to think about what you read.

After all, we do not read for the sake of reading, but because we want to learn something.

Three ways to be a better reader:

Understand that it will take time. Invest it.

We are too often misguided by the illusion that we can read fast and still make use of what we are reading.

I am not saying you have to read as slow as one book in two months, yet you have to be willing to stop and reflect.

If you simply rush through a book, what will you have taken from it?

When you are only reading for pleasure, you could easily read one novel in one day (Or however fast you read.).

However, it looks completely different when you are reading non-fiction for self-improvement.

Do your truly believe that by reading a non-fiction book in a day, you will be able to significantly improve your life? No, improbable.

So why do we still do it?

Because we want to seem smart and boast of all the books we have read.

But what does it actually serve you, if you only take a fraction of the book’s benefit with you?

Nothing. If you are out for skimming through a book you might as well not read it.

You have to be willing to invest the necessary time to read a book.

This doesn’t necessarily mean that you cannot read it in one go. You could read the book once and then once you are familiar with the content and the principles, you can go back and further engage with it.

So how do we think about what we read?

First and foremost, if you want to unlock the secret to becoming smarter, you need to know some of the basics. It is critical that you make the information you read, your own.

Paraphrase it, write it in your journal (if you don’t journal, you might as well start now!).

Then try to transfer the information onto your life.

How does this apply to me? What can I use this for in my life?

By making information more personal it is ‘categorized’ as relevant to our brains and is then stored, thus making us remember it better.

And why would you want to retain information better?

When you retain the relevant read information you can apply the theories and suggestions. So you take the maximal benefit from any book you are reading.

This goes right into our next tip:

Apply the information to your life

Spoiler alert: Potential to change your life!

By applying information from the book to your life, you make use of the book. Books are there to help us improve our lives. They are supposed to help us learn a language, a principle or a strategy. Why wouldn’t we use it?

Think about it this way: The author has most likely put years’ worth of experience and knowledge into this book. He has enough skill to be accepted to publish it. He has invested time into writing and publishing.

The content is probably highly valuable, so why wouldn’t you use it to improve your life, based on other people’s experiences?

Through books, we learn to live a thousand lives in one lifetime.

Every time you see that a proposition is outlined, a strategy you could apply, take notes and then create a step-by-step action plan for how to apply it to your life.

You’d be surprised by the outstanding effects this has on your life!

You won’t understand why you ever read in another manner!


If you are applying these ways to your reading and make them a habit, you’ll soon be the smartest person around.

Why? Because rarely anyone will read as thoroughly as you do.

Seek challenges every day. Read consistently and make something from it. Use reading as a matter to the means.

Interested in reading more about becoming a smarter and more proficient you? Then head on over to my blog and subscribe to the newsletter.

You’ve read The One Secret to Becoming Smarter (Hint: It’s not what you think), originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’ve enjoyed this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.

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