This a great quiz to help you find out how visually perceptive you are to the tiniest of details and find out how OCD you might be.
Can you spot the tiniest of detail changes in this quiz?
Let me know how you get on with it.
How Sensitive Is Your OCD Radar?
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Winter is coming around the corner and everyone is getting excited to start booking their holiday escapes. As the winter winds come in and the snow starts building up, we all want to disappear and spend our days kicking up our feet on the beach; but we don’t have to wait for winter to unwind, or spend thousands of dollars on expensive vacations. Here’s a few things we can do that feel great year round, and don’t cost us too much (or any!) money. Enjoy.
If you have the time, try getting out to a local lookout point and watching the sun set, either alone or with a friend or special person. Don’t take your phone out; just meditate in the moment. Watch the silhouettes of the trees, feel the change in the air, gaze out into the world as the sun goes down and the moon shows up – find peace. It will be a moment alone, maybe somewhere new, with undisturbed beauty. Likewise, if you can get up to watch the sun rise, another epiphany may be upon you; feel good that you’ve taken the time to watch the spectacle of a new day, and think of all the great things a new day means for you.
If you’re lucky enough to have a local nature park or reserve nearby, (perhaps even a central park), take a bit of bread or nuts and go out with a friend or relative to feed the animals. Imagine it’s a nice, sunny day and you have a couple of tiny chipmunks stuffing peanuts into their face right out of your hand. When we play with dogs we have an interaction with them that feels very humanlike – they can understand us and feel our energy. But so can the wild animals that are around us everyday. There’s an interesting and friendly energy about becoming in tune with wild local animals that we don’t get too often. Take the time to find it.
We have to be reserved these days, given our close proximity living quarters and having to uphold social qualities. But don’t you just feel like screaming out loud sometimes? It doesn’t have to be out of anger or frustration – it could be joy, or success! Well then, let’s do it. Where do you like to sing loudest? If you have a house you might be able to enjoy a quick shower concert, but if you’re stuck in an apartment with thin walls, that luxury may not be so present. Try getting in a car and singing to your heart’s content, or going out for a karaoke night. Singing releases endorphins in our brain that make us feel good. So don’t be shy – let it out!
If you need to relax, there’s a good chance something is on your mind. Getting together with someone to talk and tell stories can get our mind off things, or help us put the matter of contention at rest. Talking to someone you confide in helps us deal with our issues and grow a stronger connection with others. We get to laugh, relax, feel good, and share common ground with someone else. We discover that our problems are pretty much universal, and nothing to worry about.
When was the last time you heard absolute silence, or just the sounds of the natural world around you? It’s not something that we get the privilege of listening to too often, thanks to the fact that we live in such large cities and mostly in human clusters. We are busy listening to cars, phone chatter and shopping malls. Try to go for a nice walk around a local park or natural area and take in all the sounds of the different birds, animals and winds. Let your mind clear out and find peace where you otherwise couldn’t find it.
Who needs to spend thousands of dollars on a vacation to a sunny place when you can replicate it at home? We love the beach and sun, which we might not have at home, but something else we love is the feeling of free floating in water. Check online or through your friends for local listings and try to track down a nice swimming pool nearby your home or community. Go with some friends and have fun with it – you’ll forget all your worries when you’re free floating in the nice water, eyes closed, troubles drifting away.
Smiling is maybe something we take for granted, but it’s something we should all practice more often. You should get out of bed with a smile on your face and go to bed with one too – start and end the day fresh. If you can get into the habit of being able to smile at yourself and laugh at leisure, you will be unstoppable. Smiling is attractive and powerful – it makes everyone around you feel good, yourself included.
This is particularly stated for people in places with heavy winters. The sun has retired for months and we all hibernate in what seems like year round darkness. People who live in these climates experience a high lack of Vitamin D due to the absence of the sun, and seasonal affective disorder starts kicking in, sending many people spiralling through depression. Combat this with a short tanning session at a local salon every now and then. It aims to replicate the same feeling that being in the sun gives us, and will steer you towards a better mood.
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Wigs are a great way to transform your look! They are quick, easy and, as an added bonus, only temporary.
The right wig can transform you from Snow White to Cinderella in the blink of a wand. Or, you can be your favorite movie or book character.
Men, want to return to the days when your hair was worthy of being in a hair band? Then let’s get wiggy with it!
Wigs are user-friendly and easy to wear. So, whether you want to give someone a shock or a scare, here is some info to get you comfortable wigging out.
Tip: When purchasing a wig for a costume, grab a stocking cap. A stocking cap is a nylon cap designed to keep your own hair in place and add a buffering layer between you and the wig making it more comfortable.
The typical price range for a wig is between .99 cents to $1.29.
Trick: Don’t let wigs give you the slip. For added security, add a few bobby pins on either side of your ears. Place them through the wig into the cap, crossing them in an x shape.
Most costume wigs can be worn, with a little fluffing, straight out of the bag.
Tip: Take the wig out of the bag, turn it upside down and give it a firm shake. Allowing the fibers a little “hang time” can help with any misshaping that occurs in storage.
Be careful when handling a synthetic wig though. If you handle it for too long, it can tangle easily.
Trick: Got tangles? Fear knot! Take a wide tooth comb and run it through the wig to loosen any tangles. A little moisture spray can work wonders to help remove knots that can occur from over handling.
Tip: If you want added drama (and who doesn’t?), you can tease the wig at the base. Teasing the wig at the base will add a little lift. To keep the effect, add some hair spray for hold.
Trick: Not a tease? You can add volume by doubling up. Try stacking two wigs, one on top of the other. This works best for cury wigs.
Additionally, try a sock! You can stuff a clean sock in the wigs under side cap area. Fold the wig in half, hiding the sock, to create a dramatic fall for your hair.
Use bobby pins to secure the edges at the crown or top of your head. You will be using your own hair for the front and the wig at the back. Use a head band or ribbon to create a seamless look.
See Also: 7 Hair and Makeup Looks to Try This Week
A thinner wig or stocking cap can offer shear perfection without cutting a single hair.
Tip: For this particular look, make sure you minimize your own hair as much as possible. Braid or wrap your hair around your head as close and smooth to your head as possible, then put it under a stocking cap. You can double up on the stocking cap if you have a lot of hair.
Trick: Going bald? Try a stocking cap. Choose one that is close to your flesh tone. Place the stocking cap over your hair.
If you just want to be bald on top and have hair on the sides, then put the stocking cap on and add beard or mustache hair found online or at costume shops. Using a hair safe adhesive like spirit gum, attach the beard hair around the base of the stocking cap. Do this on a foam head form (also found at the wig or costume shop) and place wax paper or aluminum foil on the base of the head for easier removal. Allow for plenty of drying time.
On a budget? You can use cotton balls to make hair where you want it on the stocking cap.
Coloring your hair in a salon takes time, effort, and money. Wigs, on the other hand, come in a rainbow of colors.
Tip: Not seeing what you want? Start with a white wig and use color spray to create your desired of color. Use a spray safe for hair and always spray in a well ventilated area.
Caution: your temporary color will sweat when you do so keep it off clothes and furniture you care about.
Trick: Feeling less patient than Picasso? Then grab a wig in the base color you desire and some clip-in color hair sold on thin tracks in wig stores and costume shops. It’s quick, easy and less messy.
See Also: How to Remove Hair Dye From Your Hair
Costume Treat!
Consider the scariest costume of all — the candidate coiffure. If you are looking to go as your favorite or most feared potential POTUS, here are some tip for finding the perfect wig.
For Hilary: This look will be a little spendy.
Look for a lace front wig where you can wear your hair off your face. Make sure it has a monofilament top so you will have a believable part and multidimensional colors. This wig, well-groomed, would be either human hair or synthetic and could be anywhere from the $200 to $500 dollar range.
For Donald: You can get this look on the cheap.
Look for a wefted wig, a wig where the top usually has a pre-teased base to hide the construction. You will want a solid color wig and will likely be a synthetic wig.
To find the signature Donald Trump volume, you may need to look for a women’s wig in Large. Use a teasing comb to dishevel the top and you too can look like a billionaire for just $40!
I hope you have a hair raising Happy Halloween!
About the Author
Jeanna Doyle is a veteran makeup artist with over twenty-five years of experience working in both medical and media settings. Licensed in cosmetology, a certified Medical Aesthetic Provider, and trained in oncology esthetics and corrective makeup, Jeanna is the founder of the nonprofit Suite HOPE (Helping Oncology Patients Esthetically) and the developer of The HOPE Method – a corrective makeup curriculum. Jeanna has written articles for and spoken to audiences of both medical and beauty industry giants, and has worked with A-list actors, athletes, models, musicians, politicians and a former president and first lady of the United States.
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When I was a wee little tot, my mom and I were homeless. We were sitting on a sidewalk dirty and hungry and she was having a terrible time while I was giggling at my “spaceship stick,” waving it through the cold, rainy air.
With tears in her eyes, she jokingly says to me, “how can you be so happy?” I drop my stick, look over at her, and say, very matter-of-factly, “because it just feels better, mom.”
The state of your livelihood is all a matter of your state of mind. Having little to do with outside circumstances and everything to do with how you perceive and look at the world around you. Your world, literally, is what you make it up to be.
Here, I will share 5 simple ways to change your mind and get much more out of life starting today.
Our eyes act more like projectors, then lookers. Many would argue (including more and more emerging scientists), that the images we hold in our minds act as “pre-matter” for what’s to be materialized in the world outside of ourselves.
When we imagine, in our mind’s eye, what we want to create and manifest in our lives, our images work as cogs in a reality machine, creating these images in real life.
Have you ever had a wish come true, to find out that maybe it wasn’t exactly what you wanted, and you didn’t feel as great as you thought you would after having received it?
Sometimes we are unaware of what will make us the absolute happiest. For that, I suggest that while visualizing, visualize positive, happy emotions, rather than specific events.
Imagine yourself yelling and throwing your arms in the air in celebration, dancing in a bright light, or being confident and filled with joy.
To crank it up a notch, don’t just visualize, FEEL. Put yourself so much in the state of mind that you begin to feel the feelings associated with your visualizations. Joy, clarity, confidence, abundance, whatever it is.
The more you can feel the emotions, the quicker they will be manifested into your life. Plus, doesn’t feeling good emotions feel good, anyways? Emotions are powerful.
An important thing to note is to not over-do it. Don’t spend your entire day visualizing and thinking about the future. By doing this, you could easily be missing out on your present life and taking it for granted, forgetting what you already have to be happy and feel good about.
Sometimes our perception is skewed and we can easily fall into negative mindsets that literally block out all the beauty around us. Have you noticed the difference between when you are walking down the street on a day you feel bad, as opposed to on a day you feel good?
When you feel good, you see so much more beauty around you. The plants are more vibrant. The sky is saturated. The people are smiling. The birds are chirping.
The street you walk down is the same street, either way, it doesn’t have to change to be made into a better street. The first step to make the street a better street is to change your mindset about the street.
Make a list, mental or physical, of all the things to appreciate about you, your life, and those around you. You can even begin as simply as being grateful for your eyes, for giving you the miraculous gift of sight.
The more you bring awareness to the beauty of what is already all around you, the more beauty will be generated into your life.
I oftentimes think of my death bed (a daring thought, I know), and when I do, I can only think about what type of life I will look back on. What kind of story do I wish to tell? What type of life will I wish to have lived? What Natasha will I have wanted to be?
It’s important to keep this in mind, and what’s even more important to think about, as daunting as it is, is that you have no idea when you will be laying there, reflecting on your life.
We are not promised to live to any certain age. After all, when we die all of our material things go to someone else (or the dump). So the only things that are truly ours are the memories we have and the stories we have to tell.
So start living and creating your story, right now. Take the road trip, talk to the girl, take the leap.
Rather than looking at your troubles as tormentors, look at them as lessons. What am I learning from this? What is it teaching me? In what ways am I growing? For example, instead of getting upset at the long line in the post office, look at the line as a teacher of patience.
Suffering is only suffering if it is unjustified. If your muscles are sore and burning because you are at the gym, you might not perceive this experience as suffering because you know that the pain means you are growing.
We can use this as a metaphor for the fact that any time we are uncomfortable, it means that we are growing. If you can justify your suffering (i.e., gain something from the experience), all of the sudden it transforms into an opportunity for growth.
Our journey here on Earth is not to suffer, but to learn and grow.
The difference between pleasure and happiness is one of the most valuable distinctions I have ever made in my life. Pleasure, on one hand, comes from things outside of yourself, and the feeling is constantly fleeting. You are always having to fill yourself with these outside things to keep feeling good.
For example, driving a nice car, watching an exciting movie, or eating a delicious meal. All of these things feel good, in the moment.
Many people trick themselves into believing that they are happy because they fit the socially constructed profile of “having it all.” A nice house, a successful job, steady income, fancy car, big screen TV, you name it.
Happiness, on the other hand, is a state of mind. It’s a constant, independent of outside variables. The oh-too-common phrase, “things that make us happy,” should very well be replaced by, “thoughts that make us happy, or, perspectives, or states of mind, that make us happy.”
Happiness is a choice, and something we must experience from the inside out in order to experience it at all.
The quickest, most-powerful, and most cost-effective way to start getting more out of your life, right now, is to simply change your mind.
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“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” ~ Helen Keller ~
One of the basic attributes of any successful person, is their high level of optimism. This is one of the main drivers of all winning and high achieving people. Without some degree of optimism, we would never try anything new and our lives would remain perpetually stuck in the same place. All the advances and achievements in history have been fuelled by a sense of optimism. Besides, being optimistic just helps our lives to be more fulfilling, enjoyable and fun. While some people believe optimism is something we are born with, we do have control over our thoughts and actions and therefore create our own level of optimism.
Here are 7 ways we can boost our level of optimism.
We know that our subconscious mind will go over the last thoughts we had before going to sleep. Spend a few minutes thinking about everything that went right and that you enjoyed during the day just before going to sleep to program positive thoughts and images into our minds for the night. This will allow us to have a better sleep and awake more positively to face the day.
As soon as you wake up, begin thinking about what you want to accomplish with the expectation that it will happen. Visualize yourself at the end of the day having achieved everything, or more than you had planned to do. Spend a couple of minutes repeating your long term goals, purpose or life mission to yourself. Visualize yourself already having achieved these goals.
Look at life and success as a marathon; built upon continuous small wins and improvements. Look over your day and make a mental note of achievements, learned and improved. Write them down or tell yourself while looking in the mirror. This will not only build self-confidence but make it more natural to think of things that have gone well during the day.
Successful, optimistic people never forget what they have to be grateful for. While striving to reach our goals and achieve more, it is important that we are grateful for what we have in the present. I keep a gratitude book in which I write in at least 10 things that I am grateful for before beginning my day. This ensures that I start the day in a positive frame of mind and gives me comfort, knowing that I have a wonderful base to be working from each and every day.
In any situation, problem or difficulty we have a choice of where we focus our thoughts and efforts. Optimists don’t waste time looking for who to blame, or commiserating on the problem. Instead they focus on the solution and look for ways to improve the situation. They look at failures as lessons to be learned that will help them avoid or overcome the same circumstance in the future.
Optimistic people don’t have the time, energy or inclination to spend being around naysayers and negative people. They realize these people will only drain their energy so avoid them as much as possible and find other positive, motivated people to surround themselves with and bounce ideas off of. Being optimistic will attract other optimistic, success oriented people who in turn will support us, our ideas and continue to boost our optimism. It is common for successful people to be in a mastermind group to support each other in reaching goals. Find one to join, or set one up.
Being optimistic lets us believe that the future will be even better than the past and we look forward to it with excitement and anticipation. People like Peter Drucker, who lived into his 90’s, made it a goal to learn one new thing every year. One year he learned to speak Japanese. Not only does learning support us to be more optimistic, it keeps our mind active and open to new possibilities and opportunities.
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Most of us know by now how important self-love is for our emotional health and physical/mental wellbeing.
We’re often bombarded with an avalanche of books, videos, seminars and workshops discussing the importance of loving ourselves. But, while most of us understand the concept of how self-love works, realistically, how much do we truly practice it?
The fact is, we live extremely busy lives and are constantly under pressure these days. We’ve become accustomed to juggling the incessant demands of our work, family, social and personal lives.
We spend an hour or two at the gym, meditate and practice yoga, convincing ourselves we are ‘on’ it. Meanwhile for the other 22 – 23 hours, we run around like headless chickens caught in a never-ending cycle of pressure and stress.
Over committing, over-working, over-giving – over stimulated. It’s not our fault – it’s the way life these days has evolved.
Where is the love?
Where is the balance as we slot self-care into the fast lane drive that our lives have become?
What happens to us when we lose ourselves in the demands of life, and more importantly, what happens to our relationships?
How is it truly possible to have a healthy loving relationship with another person without first having created a healthy loving relationship with our individual selves?
When I asked myself these questions I was guided to write my own story Sunshine in Neverland. While writing about my journey, it became crystal clear that although we all have our own individual life stories, we share very similar human experiences and can easily relate with each other. After all, pain is pain, whatever and wherever the source comes from.
When we connect to our story without judgement, it helps take us out of the concept of self-love and into a deeper bond with our own true heart. With this, we gain clearer insight and the ability to access our soul wisdom along the way. In addition, we build compassion on a bigger scale.
As each one of us courageously embarks on our own inner journey, whoever we are, wherever we have come from and whatever our experience, all of us have the ability to reach a place of deep inner peace, truth and love.
Loving yourself – it starts with you. But what does that truly mean?
In all the situations you are in, or have been involved with – you are the common denominator. You play the leading role.
We send unconscious messages to ourselves the whole time and these messages will be reflected back to us from the outside world to help us see and learn something about ourselves. If the message being sent is “I don’t matter” or “I’ll get to myself when everything else is done and everyone else is looked after”, the world will continually reflect this back to us until we eventually get tired enough to begin bringing ourselves into the equation. Only then can we see that our happiness and life matters, and, is just as important as the happiness and life of everyone we know and love.
It’s all about balance.
This doesn’t mean you don’t care for others – it simply means you care a little bit more for yourself.
Become your own best friend instead of your own worst enemy.
Our true friends are interested in us. They listen to us, want to get know who we are and what we love. They support us in our lives. Our job is to give ourselves the same level of respect as a dear and true friend would give to us. And give to our-selves the same love and respect we give to our most beloved friends.
Therefore we must listen and hear what is good, right and true for us. Otherwise, how can we get to know what we need far less give it?
What we can do to create the Real Deal!
Following the 5 Steps to self love – not just now and again or even daily but consistently on a moment to moment basis — takes us from ‘doing’ to ‘being’ the real deal of self love. Practice, practice, practice and use as a tool when necessary.
To even be in the position to self-love, we need to stop. Or to put it another way – breathe.
Before any decision or action is taken, stop and breathe. The purpose of this is to check in with yourself first to see where you are physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This offers a moment of space to step back from any drama before we react from fear or a people-pleasing habit.
Stopping offers us the ability to respond to a situation from love, value, truth and honour. It’s the first step to loving ourselves.
See Also: 11 Simple Ways to Fall in Love With Yourself
Remember stopping doesn’t necessarily mean stillness. Our minds can be full of irrational thoughts even when we have stopped.
Stillness requires focus, practice, and presence. Being rooted in the present moment allows us to land in stillness and places us in the position to listen and connect to our truth on a deeper level before we make a decision.
With listening we get closer to honouring ourselves but in this step, our fear-based ego minds can still come up with many reasons, excuses, explanations and justifications to override ourselves at this point. To honour our-selves truly, we must drop deeper into the next step and hear from the compassion of our hearts. This allows us to have the same compassion for everyone involved. We hear our truth with our HEAR(T) which is the next step.
See Also: Self-Acceptance: The Key To True Happiness
Hearing is listening with our hearts, our honesty, compassion and kindness. It includes us in the equation and delivers the message to ourselves that we also matter. It helps us make decisions to honour ourselves and others.
Taking action without first listening and hearing is usually reaction and it’s likely you are repeating the same habits as before from fear, habit, or stress. Taking responsible action, from a place of presence, honour and connection to a deeper truth delivers the message to yourself and others that you are on the ball with living from self-love, value and respect for yourself. If you have it for you – you will have it for everyone.
“When you awaken to your own inner power, you become the light in the darkness and are able to see the way through to the other side, bringing Sunshine into your own personal Neverland.”
Here’s to you becoming your own best friend.
For your life, love, and your eternal honour.
Moira Darling
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We all know that in order to live and function we have to nourish our body, so that it is supplied with energy that can make it function. We know that if we do not feed our body, we will eventually perish. Our whole experience of life depends on having a body that is well nourished, because if it is not, then our experience will become less than perfect, and we will get weak or ill. We cannot experience life to the full unless we give our body the best nourishment, and a lot of us are concerned with what we eat. We strive to eat healthy things that will nourish us in the best possible way, and we try to avoid things that we know are not good for us, such as sugar, saturated and trans fats, refined carbohydrates, red meat, alcohol, tobacco etc. Our knowledge about what kind of food we should put into our bodies is quite substantial, and a lot of research has been carried out in this field. We strive to get enough vitamins and the right balance of carbohydrates and protein to avoid being ill because of undernourishment. We have realized that we must learn to take responsibility for our own physical health, so that we get the best possible experience of life. We know that when we are ill or in hospital our experience of life has been reduced and a lot of us are trying our best to stay healthy.
But we not only have a physical organism, we also have a spiritual organism. This spiritual organism is often referred to as our psyche. This organism must also be nourished. While the physical body needs physical food, the spiritual body needs spiritual ´food´. What is spiritual food or nourishment? It is our thoughts. Our thoughts are ´something´ and they are a type of energy. It is extremely important that we feed our psyche the right types of thoughts because, according to Martinus, the Danish visionary and mystic, our thoughts are the most important factor in our health. Our thoughts are more important for our health than the physical food we eat.
Just as we have hunger and satiation for physical food, we also have hunger and satiation for spiritual food. And just as we can harm our physical body with the wrong type of food, we can harm our spiritual body with the wrong type of spiritual nourishment. And when we feed our spiritual body with the wrong type of ´food´, our spiritual experience of life is also reduced. For that reason it is of importance that we reach clarification about what nutrition is the best for the spirit or psyche. But whereas there is lots of information out there about our physical nourishment, it is a different matter when it comes to our spiritual nourishment. There is not a lot of information about this, and a lot of people are feeding their spirit or psyche with nourishment that can only be defined as junk food. A lack of contact with the right spiritual nourishment will result in spiritual undernourishment. When you never give any thought to what kind of spiritual nourishment you consume, you will in the long run undermine your spiritual health. The human beings must learn that its spiritual health is as important as its physical health.
Martinus does, however, have very clear guidelines about what the best spiritual nourishment is, and he points out that many of us have accustomed ourselves to consuming harmful, not to say deadly, spiritual nourishment. There are many types of harmful spiritual nourishment and one of them consists of ideas that have been passed down from past centuries. It could be old habits and beliefs, such as believing that you need to eat the flesh of other living beings because ´we have always done that´, it could be being afraid of what other people might think if you do not follow the unwritten rules, it could be not wanting to go against the opinions of the flock, of being afraid to not drink and eat what the others are drinking or eating; in other words being afraid to be who you have become, because others do something differently. It is very important for our mental health to dare to stand up for who we are, even though all the others around us may look down upon us. In this connection it may be worth remembering that many of the traditions that we still live by today were forged centuries ago, so that today they really belong in a museum. This could for instance be discriminating against others because of race, skin colour, religion, sex, age or sexual orientation. If we don’t respect all people, on the spiritual level it’s akin to driving an old Ford T Model, even though on the materialistic level we might be driving a Mercedes or a Jaguar.
What then, is harmful spiritual nourishment? Quite simply, everything that makes people feel antipathy, anger and hatred towards other living beings. It is harmful to watch films that encourage revenge and hatred, films that encourage crime and unlawfulness and films that are packed with violence, blood and killing. Violence, hatred and murder are not healthy spiritual nourishment. It is worse than junk food.
Also there is a lot of harmful nourishment in magazines, such as gossip and focusing on the private life of well-known film stars, royals or billionaires, to see if they are getting divorced or are having affairs, what clothes they wore to this or that event, if they look fat or slim, if they looked good and had a good or bad hair day etc. These magazines have been produced by people whose interests are focused on the idolatry of ´glamour´ and money, and that is not what human life is about. It is poison for the psyche and only leads to jealousy, envy and a lack of self-worth in the reader.
One should also avoid speaking badly about other persons, speaking behind a person´s back and sowing the negative seeds of rumours and gossip. If one still has these tendencies, then one must realize that s/he has a medieval side to the psyche.
Another type of harmful spiritual nourishment is directed at yourself, by yourself, e.g.: self-criticism, dwelling on past mistakes, reliving painful episodes in the past and recycling emotional pain. Let it go! Learn from your mistakes but don´t dwell on them. Leave them in the past where they belong and move on. If your mind keeps returning to the mistakes of the past, then make a mental catalogue of loving and happy replacement thoughts that you can activate instead.
It is important to realize that we have the ability to focus and this means that we have an enormous choice of thoughts we can think. We have millions and millions of thoughts at our disposal and we are free to choose which thoughts we allow into our thought sphere. Some of the thoughts may have been dressed up in a chocolate coating, so that we think that they are healthy and attractive, but at their core they can be poisonous and harmful. We all have responsibility for our own mental or psychic life. Nobody else has. Not our spouse or mother, not our best friend. Only us!
As it is extremely important for the maintenance of a healthy psyche to learn which substances are the right spiritual nourishment, what then are they, in a nutshell?
It is first and foremost: humane and humanitarian thoughts. We must strive to be understanding, kind, tolerant and loving towards our neighbour and all the time evaluate and ask ourselves: is this act that I am about to do humane? Is it kind, is it loving?
The people you win with your love, will come to you to ask your advice, and the best way to influence others is by your example. The right nourishment is thoughts that make you want to be a blessing and a source of joy for your neighbour and help them when they are in need.
We must understand that nobody can be any different than they are today based on their evolution and the experiences they have gone through, and that every one of us is standing at the peak of his/her evolution. If they were wiser, they would have behaved differently, but they were not, so we should forgive, bless and send them light and love. We all stand at different stages of our development, and blaming a person that s/he is nor very evolved is the same as blaming a thistle because it’s not a rose. We have no right to judge, because we do not know the path other people are on, we do not know their challenges nor their sufferings. We have no right to criticise or throw stones, nor to feel enmity or bitterness towards anybody. When we strive to act in a kind, loving and tolerant way, we have started feeding our psyche the right kind of nourishment that will bring us spiritual health. When we think positive thoughts we magnetize our blood positively and this will bring health to every part of our body.
The spiritual hunger comes as a result of our material satiation. Once we have filled our material needs, we realize that fancy villas, expensive cars, fur coats, jewellery and designer clothes do not feed our soul. What use it is to be a millionaire and be able to buy everything you want, when you cannot make your family life function because of control issues, unkindness and lack of love? What use is it for the millionaire when he gets hit with a serious illness and has nowhere to turn in his hour of need? These states will eventually give rise to a spiritual hunger and to the questions: what is life all about? Why are we here? What is the solution to the mystery of life?
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Do you know that some nurse life hacks are also useful outside the medical practice?
Nursing is a tough job. Over time, nurses developed their own life hacks that make daily patient care easier to accomplish. Due to their innate ingenuity and resourcefulness, some of their life hacks are actually useful not only in the hospital and wards, but also in our homes and offices.
Take a look at the following life hacks we can learn from nurses.
Hydrogen peroxide is a basic staple in every household’s medicine cabinet. It is a handy antiseptic solution for minor cuts and wound care. But did you know that you can also use it in removing blood stains from fabrics?
Start by putting one to three drops of hydrogen peroxide directly to the blood stain. Wait for a minute before adding more drops.
The solution works best for blood stains on white fabrics. For colored fabrics, test for color fade reaction first by putting one drop of hydrogen peroxide in the inner hemline of the affected garment.
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Nurses use ground coffee beans from their pantry as odor neutralizers in their station or in patents’ room. Ground coffee beans act like charcoal in absorbing unpleasant odors in an enclosed room. The fragrant coffee aroma also masks any unpleasant smell present.
Freshly grounded coffee beans work best but if it’s not available, you can also try used ground coffee bean from coffee making machines. Just put a handful amount in a bowl and leave near the source of the unpleasant smell.
If you need a lot, coffee shops will commonly give it out to you for free.
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Feeling nauseous? Reach out for some alcohol pads and swipe one under your nose. If alcohol pads are not available, rub a small amount of isopropyl alcohol on your palm and take a whiff.
While nurses get used to different medicines and body fluids, they sometimes have a bad day and end up feeling nauseous hence this little trick. Sometimes, they even swipe their facemasks with alcohol if they need to get back to bedside care while still feeling nauseated.
The sharp smell of alcohol is effective in relieving nausea for most people. This life hack is also helpful in relieving sinus discomfort.
Bedridden patients have one thing in common – tangled, matted hair. Nurses solve this problem by pouring a small amount of alcohol over patient’s matted hair.
Alcohol dissolves oiliness and breaks down any other substance that may be causing tangles. It also removes unpleasant hair odor.
To use this trick, put a moderate amount of alcohol in your palm and rub in matted hair. Let the solution stay for one to two minutes before trying to untangle hair with a wide-toothed comb.
It’s typical for nurses to be involved in stinky situations. When they clean and replace the diapers of bedridden patients, the smell sometimes sticks on their hands even while sill covered with latex gloves. For strong odors, handwashing is not enough and this is when they learned to use toothpaste as a trick.
To dissolve any unpleasant odor left in your hands, just rub toothpaste between your palms. Wait for three minutes before rinsing and wash again with soap and water. It is best to use minty bubblegum toothpaste but if not available, using any regular toothpaste is also effective.
If you are suffering from persistent nausea and vomiting, put an ice pack behind your ear for 5-10 minutes intermittently. You can also try moving the ice pack downward to your nape.
Cases of persistent nausea and vomiting can be related to inner ear problems. This can be relieved by putting an ice pack behind the ears. It can also be related to stress and for this case, rotating the ice pack around the nape area will offer relaxing relief.
If you have an elderly family member or a sick patient in your home who feels restless, calm them down with the help of a heated blanket. This will also keep your patient from getting out of bed too much.
If not contraindicated, keep the room dark and cool for an even more calming environment.
Nurses are used to unpleasant stinks but sometimes, smells get so strong that they need a good shield for their noses. Facemasks are not enough and during these times, Vicks is a handy solution.
If you can’t stand a particular smell but need to finish a particular task, just rub Vicks under your nose and breathe in the menthol scent.
Aside from ground coffee beans, mouthwash solution is also effective in absorbing unpleasant odors in a room. Nurses put a washcloth soaked with mouthwash solution in a kidney basin and they leave it at bedside. It absorbs unpleasant smells while filling the room with a minty scent.
You can use this life hack in deodorizing a room especially during winter season. In a small bowl, just soak washcloth in 1 part of mouthwash and 1/2 part of water. Leave it at the center of the room for the whole day.
Kids, elderly folks, or sick patients can get restless in bed. If you don’t want them getting out of bed when they need to be staying still and resting, give them a pile of stuff to fold. They can be washcloths or handkerchiefs. This little household task should keep them busy for awhile until they feel drowsy or tired again.
We’re sure nurses aren’t the only ones who get the run-in with sticky feces stubbornly sticking to skin. If you ever get in this situation (maybe from a pet or a baby running around the house), it’s shaving cream to the rescue.
Before you try wipes, apply a glob of shaving cream. Leave on for awhile until it loosens the sludge from your skin or from cloth faster.
We hope you can recall these nurse life hacks as needed. There’s no harm in trying them out as they are time-tested tricks of nurses in their work.
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Happy wife, happy life. If you’ve heard this before, you know that if you pissed off your wife royally bad, you have to make her happy again.
Even though each woman is different, some traits are common to all including feeling happy when showered with kindness and appreciation. Let her know how much you think about her, how glad your wife makes you with her existence and how much you care for her.
If you’re getting the cold shoulder, here are some ways to turn it around:
Search out a special gift or throw a surprise party. Keep in mind, a beautiful flower a day keeps the quarrel at bay. This is the common and most usual technique to lift your partner’s spirits.
If your pocket can take it, she will definitely enjoy a lavish cruise in gentle waters and blonde sunshine. Propose to take her out for shopping and be openly keen on the places your wife wants to explore.
If you’ve been spending too much time at work, a holiday would also benefit you.
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Romantic gestures don’t have to be expensive. If you can’t afford that luxury cruise, how about DIY-ing something your wife would love?
Handwritten romantic love letters never go out of style. Write down your most genuine and sincere feelings and they will be sure to reach her.
If she loves to watch movies, buy a ticket to a movie she’s been waiting to see. If she loves gourmet food, learn one recipe and try it out for a special dinner with just the two of you. Whether you succeed or not at whatever you plan, your wife will see your effort and be touched by it.
Some women (and men) suffer from feelings of neglect. Oftentimes, all they need is to know that one person loves them wholeheartedly and listens to them. Be that person for her.
When she encounters any troubles, pay attention carefully to your wife and explain your concern by uttering sounds of solace. Put down your mobile phone and instead give her your 100% attention.
When a person is angry, she might not be in the mood for jokes or humor. However, avoid clashing with her temper too as this will not yield any positive results. Instead, bide your time and know when to lighten the mood around the house.
Think of a household chore that your wife REALLY hates to do. Maybe she hates to do the laundry or do the cooking. Now start doing those for her for a couple of days.
Though presents and holidays are perfect but expensive treats, consider that there other heartfelt ways to turn around your wife’s state of mind. A shower of love and affection and a truly affectionate heart is needed to make her feel happy.
See Also: 10 Behaviors That are Hurting Your Wife
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Some change is welcome – some change is not. Every month or year or two life has a habit of throwing something at us that we can’t expect; it could be a job promotion, acquisition, sale, tournament loss, separation or graduation. Change comes in a number of ways in our life almost constantly, dictating our future step by step of the way.
Change is sometimes uncomfortable whether it be starting a new job or moving to a big new house. There’s always an adjustment period for any new habits; and despite our reluctant fear of change, we spend our whole lives overcoming it and finding new ways to adapt and deal with change.
Here’s a couple things to remind yourself about when you are struggling to get through some changes:
We tend to remember the bad changes more than the good changes and they reflect in our memory for a long time. Whenever a big change occurs we have to remember there is always going to be another time. Life has a tendency to move faster than we expect, and before we know it, new changes are occurring all around us. It only takes a minute for something to change in your life, and suddenly a new life is spiraling into being.
It doesn’t take a lot for us to perceive the immediate future but when something jars us it affects our plans. Perhaps bad timing of work incident upsets your schedule for a while. We should anticipate and be prepared for change whenever it rears itself. We can appreciate the moment we have but know that it may not last forever – whether for better or worse; and we will survive on through.
Remind yourself about all the times you’ve already survived a big change in your life. The last breakup, you made it through. The last time you got fired, here you are, we made it again. That time someone was really upset with you – well here we are. We seem to survive every single time our life changes, and we didn’t even break a sweat.
And every time we go through one of those changes things seem to start looking better. Everything gets really low for a few days, a few weeks, or months; we’re not sure what’s going to happen! We are however, an expert on getting through our changes, however we do it; and every time we come right back up again.
All those times we resurface from change, we continuing living the same life we did, being who we are, but with the memory in our heads; a lesson learnt, a story told or a tragedy survived. We become stronger with the knowledge and more confident the more experiences we have, and with that we become better people. We know what we can get through and we know how to do it.
Change comes in the form of anything from relationship separation and family deaths to job changes, moving houses, accidents or successes. Regardless of what path we follow in life, we are bound to experience change, and our resilience to succeeding obstacles is profound. We learn to adapt to new environments, form new habits, and readdress the way we perceive ourselves. We become stronger versions of ourselves with better defensive mechanisms and a smarter way of conquering our challenges.
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