Oh, how breaking up hurts. Not only that, it really does suck. The feelings we go through after almost consume every ounce of you. It feels nearly impossible to function day in and day out. Your heart hurts, your head hurts and every other part of you seems to just ache. It’s downright horrible. But we all know it’s only temporary. That still doesn’t make it any easier. Is it possible to love and honour yourself after a breakup and while you are going through this whirlwind of dreadful emotions? Of course.

Let’s go through a few ways to do this now.

You are perfect.

This is a hard one to wrap your head around especially if you are the dumpee and your partner told you there are things about you that aren’t good enough. Don’t believe that and release that thought from your mind immediately. You are perfect just the way you are. There is someone who will appreciate you exactly as you are.

Date yourself.

Take yourself out on a date. Dinner, a movie or a night of dancing.  Get dressed up and get out and have fun. Do the things that make you feel happy. Go do something you haven’t’ done in a really long time that makes your heart sing. If you want to invite your bestie, you can do that too but make a date with you and stick to it. Take a whole day and be selfish. Which leads us to the next point.

Be selfish.

More than in number 2. I mean be really selfish. Go shopping if you can and buy a new outfit, or a new car! Think about only yourself and how magnificent you are. Remind yourself that you are the most important person in the world and take a whole day reveling in that thought. You are the best. Treat yourself like you are. often when we are in a relationship we forget about ourselves because we are too busy trying to make the other person happy.

Have a sorry for myself day.

Take a full day if you need to and just cry or scream or yell or throw a fit. Do whatever you have to do to get all the anger and sadness out. Full and hard. Don’t answer the phone, don’t go out (really don’t go out), stay off the computer and no texting. Just you and your sad emotions. Feel them, own them, embrace them and then let them go. Cry and cry and cry and scream and yell if that’s your thing. Get it all out.

Unplug.

Carrying on from number 5, turn off all gadgets. Be in the now, with your emotions. No distractions or possible texts from your ex or your ex’s friends or even your own friends. Just be with yourself, alone with your feelings. Turn off the tv, the computer, shut off your cell phone and iPad. Turn on some music if that will help you a little bit.

Meditate, get a massage, or have naps.

Or all of the above. Do mellow, quiet and mind calming things.  Relax your mind and send your thoughts, all negative thoughts, out to the universe. You will be consumed by horrible negative thoughts for days and weeks, maybe even months after a breakup. It will be very important to take time to calm yourself and your mind and be at peace. It is in this place that you will find answers and relief.

Though breaking up is really hard and really shitty, it doesn’t have to be horrible forever. Take time to do things for you and remember you are perfect and awesome just the way you are. Love yourself.

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Everyone gets anxious from time to time, mostly when outside of the comfort zone – speaking in public, exams, big decisions and so on. But sometimes anxiety becomes so frequent that it begins to take over our lives.

Do you worry about anything? Do you have problems sleeping? Your worries interfere with your day to day activities? Then you might be anxious.

Take now this quick, easy quiz and find out what’s your anxiety level based on what you see in these paintings!

Can We Guess Your Anxiety Level By What You See In These Fine Art Paintings?

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Success means different things to all of us. Many of us still believe that we have to work really hard to be a success. Others make sure that their children work really hard at school in order to become a success. For some, success is a high paying, high ranking, suit and tie position. What does success mean to you? Is it money, status quo, assets? Fame and fortune? There are many things that make up success and what it stands for.

Before you put yourself in the failure category or the unsuccessful one, let’s have a look at a few things you should remember about success. This should put things in perspective for you and hopefully make you feel a tad more optimistic about your life if for any reason, you don’t feel you are successful.

It’s not about money.

Success really doesn’t have to be all about what’s in your bank account. Having a 5 or 6 figure balance in your savings account doesn’t necessarily mean you are successful it just means you have lots of money saved. If you don’t have a huge savings account that doesn’t mean you aren’t successful either. Money really has very little to do with success for some.

You have nothing to prove to anyone.

If you feel like you aren’t successful and are afraid family or friends will think you are a failure, stop right now. What anyone thinks of you is none of your business and often has nothing to do with you. you aren’t here to prove anything to anyone but yourself. If there is a part of your life where you feel you have succeeded, then that’s good enough.

There are no medals at the end.

So many work so hard to try to achieve super success status only to realize there are no medals, no awards and even if there are, often the novelty wears off after a while anyway, only to discover they worked so hard and missed out on a lot of life. Don’t kill yourself trying to a success story. In the end, it’s not worth it.

State of happiness is success too.

If you are happy with your job, your family, your life and everything in general, you have reached success. You don’t have to be rich or have a famous spouse or anything to that effect. Happiness is success. Somewhere along the way, you reached a point where life is good.

If you lose it, you can have it back.

Let’s just say, by some slim chance, something happened and you lost everything that signified success to you. It’s ok. Any step back is only temporary. As long as you check yourself, see what went wrong, pick up the pieces and start back up again, you are going to be ok. Everything is temporary.

Keep your ego at bay.

So let’s say you are financially successful. Don’t be a mean successful person. There are many. Money and greed have consumed them and they no longer know compassion or what it’s like to be a caring person. Don’t let that happen to you. Stay true to who you are and who you were before you became financially successful.

Lift others up.

Being successful wasn’t handed to you and probably was a lot of hard work. There were probably a handful of people that helped you achieve your success, in whatever method you have it. Don’t forget to help others too. We all start somewhere and we all need a helping hand. Pay it forward.

Be grateful.

Don’t take your success for granted. Remember to always to be grateful for all you have and how you get there. Also don’t forget the hard work it took to get there and the people who helped you get there. No matter what, be in a state of gratitude. Always.

Success is a beautiful thing but so is gratitude and appreciation. Enjoy your success with an open heart, open arms and an open mind.

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Have you ever compared yourself to someone else? Definitely!

If your answer is “No” to this question, then it means two things: either you are lying or you are not a human. Sorry.

Millions of years ago our ancestors compared themselves to their tribe members   and   adjusted   their   actions   accordingly   in   order   to   be accepted and approved by other members of the tribe. If they had not acted like this, they would have been excluded from the tribe to face hunger and life or death situations at every step all by themselves. Hence, the natural instinct of comparing one’s actions with those of others served our ancestors to stay in tribes and survive.

Although   in   the   modern   world   we   do   not  have   to   worry   about   our survival as often as our ancestors did, we do need to acknowledge the fact that comparing oneself to others is wired into human brain and remains part of our human nature. The problem, however, arises when we get obsessed with comparing almost everything we are, we do or we have with what others are, have and do.

Furthermore, while comparing ourselves to others, we tend to forget a very significant fact:

Each person starts different.

Let’s assume that your dream is to become a renowned actress. You work your way hard, trying to hone your artistic skills to get that dream role  in  the  theater.  But  you  see  Mary who  has brilliant  artistic   skills getting that role. Then you beat yourself up for not being able to reach such   a   high   standard   in   spite   of   your   hard   work.   You   keep   on underestimating   you   own   talent,   skills,   and   the   progress   you   have made so far as an actress. You are almost ready to give up. But wait… Do you know that Mary, the amazing actress that got your dream-role comes   from   a   family,   where   both   of   her   parents   are   from   theater industry, while none of yours are?

Since   childhood Mary   has   been   engaged   in   conversations   with   the most brilliant minds of the theater world and had a chance to learn from the most prominent actors, playwrights, directors and producers you could only dream to meet in your entire life. This does not at all
imply that she did not work hard, but the fact that the environment she was raised in paved the way for her artistic excellence is undeniable.While you had to spend long hours of hard work all by yourself and make  a  number   of  sacrifices   to   make   your   way   to   the theater,   the actress that got your dream role had an amazing advantage of picking up the brains of the great minds of theater industry at tea-table at her parents’ home without any obvious sacrifices.

Bringing such  an example, I do not at all advocate for giving up on your dream if you are not lucky enough to have been raised in in the right   environment. Not at all. I simply suggest that rather than comparing yourself to every other person who is doing better than you or seems to have what you dream of having, just pause. Pause and consider that no two human beings start the same. It is like comparing two runners whose starting points are different and tell the winner based on the fact who crossed the finish-line first. Instead, you should consider the starting point for each runner or the amount of time it took each of them to reach the finish.

The idea here is that one person may take a particular thing for granted in his/her life, for another person it may take years or even decades to acquire the same thing. And how on earth can you compare these people?

You can’t and you shouldn’t.

Period. Similarly, when you witness someone achieving big success in life and you are ready to call them “lucky”, pause and reflect. Do you have any idea on what it took that person to achieve success? Do you know what that  person has gone through to be where s/he is today? Most probably, you do not.

Let’s now imagine John, a college student who had a big dream to start his own business. However, his family background was far from entrepreneurship. He had always been taught by his wonderful parents to study hard so that he could find a well-paid job. John was all alone in the  pursuit  of his dream, he  did not have  much understanding and support from his social circle and there was no one who could guide John in his entrepreneurial journey. While most of his classmates were busy taking selfies, fooling around or partying, John had to study   long   hours   to   accumulate business knowledge, work on a part time job to sustain himself and chase investors to believe in his dream. Yes, the path was challenging and full of sacrifices, but there came a moment when John was in his beautiful office, giving an interview about the successful company he had established.

For some people there is only one explanation to a person’s success: “S/he is just lucky”. Still, they   do not even have the slightest idea about how many obstacles s/he had to overcome, how hard s/he had to work and how strongly s/he   believed in their dream in order to become LUCKY!

These two examples may seem contradictory; in the first scenario Mary achieves success because of the luck of being raised in the right environment, and in the second scenario John achieves his dream because of the hard work that most people have no idea about.

The idea is that in most cases you do not know the story behind someone else’s achievements, what you know and know for sure is your own story. As the popular advice goes, “Mind your business”. I would add, “Mind your own story”. You don’t have anything to do with anybody’s life.

Comparisons constantly make us alienate from ourselves, look outside, rather than within and seek happiness in being better than someone else.  When comparing ourselves to others, we tend to ignore our own talents and underestimate all the progress we have made so far in our lives.

Instead, our only  concern should be to  acknowledge where we are now in our life journey   compared to where we started from, and never compared to where another person is. Too many of us put ourselves in the danger of forgetting our own life, wasting our precious time on what  others are doing and  living by the standards that others have made for us. The next time your natural instinct will tell you to compare yourself with someone else or be jealous for someone’s success, just ask yourself the question “Do you know the story behind?”

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Witches are present in many cultures for as long as the humanity existed. Nobody can say for sure that witches are real, but believing in a bit of magic can’t hurt.

What kind of witch would you be if you were one? The Wicked Witch of the West or Glinda the Good Witch? Or maybe somewhere in between?

Take just now this quick, fun and easy quiz to find out what kind of witch you are!

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We all want to change the world but we wonder how. What special skills do you have that will make a difference? Often we think we are nobody special and there isn’t anything we can do to help or change the world. This is where you’re wrong. Each and every one of us has unique gifts and talents that no one else has. What you think is nothing someone else might think is fantastic.

So you don’t think you can make a difference? You think the world is too big for you to make a dent in its progress to global peace? Think again. Below are just a few things you can to do make a difference that will be greatly appreciated by many, much more than you think.
Donate old clothes and household items. Instead of selling them and trying to make a profit, why not donate them to a shelter? There are many people in need who can’t afford to shop in second hand stores. They need help too. Holding a yard sale or selling old things to make money is financially smart but when you just give them away, from the heart, exceptional abundance will find you.

Give someone a smile.

The one person you just smiled at might have been on his/her way to making rash decisions based on their state. When a stranger smiles at me, I think it’s the nicest and simplest thing that anyone can do that is guaranteed to brighten up my day. They don’t know if I was already sad or happy or hurt or angry but they instantly just made me smile back. Your smile will brighten someone’s day and give them faith in humanity.

Say hello to strangers.

Saying hello to a stranger does many things. First it makes them smile. Second this person may be looking for some company or someone to talk to and you may well be this person. Thirdly, you just may be the only person who gave them any attention or showed them kindness today, simply by saying hello. Some people live alone and could go days without talking to anyone. By you saying hello, you just gave them the gift of human interaction and probably made their day.

Buy a homeless person a coffee.

Simple but still so few people do it. next time you are at a coffee shop grabbing your latte express and a muffin, grab one for the guy sitting across the street who looks like he hasn’t eaten in days. He may even like a bottle of water or a sandwich. Really they don’t care what you give them, they are just happy you noticed them and are kind enough to do something for them.

Pitch in.

Garbage is all over. Too many people don’t use the trash can and aren’t teaching their children to use it. Imagine if each and every one of us did that? The whole world would be clean. You can do your part. Use the garbage and if you come across someone who just threw their trash on the ground, speak up. It’s your right, it’s your world too. It’s up to each and every one of us to educate.

Give a hug.

Though there are still a few people who don’t like their personal space invaded, there are more than enough who crave human attention and affection. Give hugs. They are free and fun. People love hugs. If you’re not sure, ask first. If they say no, a gentle touch on the shoulder, or a small rub on the back will make them feel good too. Any of this will warm our heart and make us feel special and let’s face it, we all really want to feel special anyway.

Bring some flowers.

Do you know a lonely old senior who rarely has visitors who still lives in their own home? Or maybe they need help with things around the house or they simply want company. Go see them. bring them flowers or if it’s a man, maybe a pie or some other treats. Lonely seniors love company and treats. They love treats.

It’s so easy to make the world a happier place. it doesn’t have to cost an arm and a leg and it’s the little things that no one thinks of doing that make the biggest difference in someone’s life. Go be a world changer.

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Have you thought lately to make a change in your appearance? The easiest way is to change your hair color. As you might already know, there are many aspects to take into account when making the change: the color of your skin, the color of the clothes you usually wear etc.

But have you thought about your personality? if you have a sparkling, unique personality, why settling for a dull, common color? If you want to mean business, maybe pink isn’t the best choice…

Take now this fun, easy quiz and find out which hair color best suits your personality!

Which Hair Color Best Suits Your Personality?

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We all want a better life. Ok well maybe those of us who don’t have a good life now would like a better one and lucky are those who already have one that wouldn’t trade it in for anything. Let’s not use the word luck here though. Surely luck had nothing to do with these people having an ideal life. They worked hard at it, or they manifested it. Either way. They have a great life and you can have that life too.

So why don’t you already have a great life anyway? What’s keeping you from having the life you deserve? You may not like this but the only thing preventing you from having that life is the stories you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t have it.  the stories, the excuses, the reasons, the limiting beliefs, the lies. Call them what you want but they all mean the same thing. Here are a few that may be holding you back and I’m telling you it’s time to change your story.

It’s the way I was raised.

Ok, so we understand you weren’t raised in ideal conditions. You’re not there anymore though. You are an adult now, a grown up. Free to make your own decisions and be your own person. You’re not that child anymore growing up in that dysfunctional household. You are free to make decisions to change and improve your life any way you can. If that’s what you want of course.

I’m too scared.

Of course. Fear is a bitch. No one likes it and it has the power to keep us trapped in a really shitty life. It’s easier to stay in the life we’ve created than to change it.  Fear is like a punch in the gut. The minute you start thinking about making some major changes, pow, you get punched in the gut. Punch back. Tell fear to go away, you got this and you can do it, which leads us to the next one.

I can’t do this.

Why not? That’s a limiting belief. A story you keep telling yourself. It could very well stem from childhood or from fear. One thing you must remember, you can do anything you want whenever you want. If you don’t know how to do something, learn how to do it. it may not be easy and it may not be quick but it’s not impossible. If you want something bad enough, you will figure out a way to do it, including changing your life.

They will laugh at me/think I am stupid.

Who’s they and who cares? Still so many people make decisions based on what other people will think of them. We need to stop doing this and start remembering this our life and we are the only ones to live it. and if they laugh? Who cares. Let them. they are only laughing because their insecurities bring out that emotion in them. It’s a nervous embarrassed reaction to their own lack of ambition.

What if I fail?

Oh but darling, what if you fly? Have you ever seen that quote? Many of us won’t do or try something for fear of failure. You aren’t going to fail. In life there is no failing. We grow, we learn, we evolve and we keep moving forward. There is no option to fail. No matter what you do, it won’t be wrong. The only wrong thing would be to not try. You have got to keep growing.

I don’t know how.

Yes, you do. Everything you need is inside of you already. All the answers you need are at your fingertips. All you have to do is ask or seek. But we don’t. We tell ourselves we don’t know how. I’m scared, I don’t know how. That’s the shittiest lamest excuse ever. Figure it out. You’re a smart cookie. If you want answers bad enough, you’ll find them. How big is your why?

Fear of success.

This actually is a thing. So many people are actually afraid of success. They have never had it, they don’t know what it tastes, looks or smells like. What if they actually get it? Then what? How do successful people act? What are they supposed to do? Go and get it and then you tell me.

There is nothing easy about changing your life. Nothing. But the rewards are worth it. Go out on that limb. Take a chance on you and your new life. You are worth it.

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Angels are our guardians and guides.  They are divine spiritual beings of love and light that work with humanity to help us in this lifetime. Guardian angels are unique to each person; we each have our own team.  For some people this may be one angel, for others it may be many; and you can always ask for more if you feel the need.  The Angels respect your free will and won’t directly interfere in your life unless asked, or, if your life is in danger before your time.  When you ask for guidance, your angels will communicate through your intuitive feelings and a variety of other ways.  When you are uncertain about a decision, you can always ask them for a sign to confirm your feelings.  Signs from the angels help us feel a direct connection, enhancing our intuition and giving us the confidence to move forward.

Through signs, the Angels also guide us in subtle ways  all the time, especially when they want to get our attention.  Your angels know your heart’s desires, your dreams, your true feelings, your fears, your flaws, your strengths and your weaknesses.  Your Angels know the real you; as a soul and as a human being.  Through this unique connection, along with the energy of their unconditional love, your angels understand you in a very deep and meaningful way; they know what you truly want, what is truly best for you and how to guide you to create it.  Your angels give you guidance, inspiration and ideas to help you create your dreams.  If you ask, they will conspire on your behalf in miraculous ways; putting you on the minds of people who can help you, plus so much more.

There are so many ways the Angels give use signs and many of them are completely unique to the individual person and what is needed at that time.  When the Angels want to get your attention, to warn you or remind you of something important, there are some common ways they get our attention.  Here are 5 signs from your angels you should not ignore (and why):

1. Ringing in your ears.

Ringing type sounds (the tone and variety is different for each person) in your ears are a very common way the Angels reach out to us.  The meaning can be for reassurance, letting you know your angels are near and available to comfort and help you.  It is also a sign of confirmation; whatever you are saying or thinking at the moment of an intense ringing, where you might even feel some pressure in your ear, is something important.  In this case, your angels are asking you to pay attention, you are on the right track with your intuition.

2. The number 11.

Numbers are a universal language and the Angels use them to communicate.  Repetitive number sequences have a message, depending on the number you are seeing.  There are many books on the topic, “Angel Numbers” by Doreen Virtue is a great place to start.  The number 11 in particular is a sign with multiple meanings, and one the Angels send over and over when they need to get a point across.  11 is an awakening.  Your angels are imploring you to “wake up” either spiritually or to a truth you are hesitant to face, but know is true (like a relationship you need to end).  11 is also a reminder to be mindful.  Pay attention to your thoughts and words, you are creating your reality.

3. Feathers.

Finding a random feather is a clear sign from your guardian angel to have faith.  It is a reassurance that all will be well and you are not alone.  It’s a reminder to ask your angels for help and guidance and not to struggle alone over a problem.

4. Hawks.

A hawk is a symbol of intuition.  Angels will send hawks as a sign to follow your instincts because your intuition at the time is absolutely correct; even though your point of view might differ from others.  A hawk is a powerful sign to not ignore what you know is right, it is a warning to avoid future problems.

5. Solar Plexus.

Sensations.

 Your Solar Plexus chakra (located a couple inches above your belly button) is very sensitive to energy; it’s why your intuition is also called “gut instincts”.  Your angels send sensations to this area to warn you when something is just not quite right.  This can feel like nausea, tightening, butterflies,and even slight discomfort.  Don’t ignore these feelings, pay attention to what is happening when they occur.  For example, if you feel nauseated every time you are around a certain person, that is a sign that something is off and you need to be aware and act accordingly (like avoid being alone with this person).

These 5 signs are important aspects of Angel communication.  The more you follow their signs, the stronger your own intuitive senses become.  You can always ask your angels for more guidance about any sign; they will bring you the information you need in a manner that is meaningful to you.

There are many books about angel communication that offer further details and  information about angels, I recommend those by Doreen Virtue.  Having an Intuitive Angel Reading is also an excellent way to better understand the messages, signs and symbols from your Angels; often confirming what you already know.  Becoming more open to these signs will create more peace in your life; every time you experience one you will feel the loving presence of your angels and will continue increasing your awareness.

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Carl Gustav Jung is a famous Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist who founded analytical psychology. In Jungian psychology, archetypes are highly developed elements of the collective unconscious. It is history, culture and personal context that shape these, giving them their specific content.

Deep down, every one of us is affected by these archetypes, our behavior patterns being based on them. But which one do you channel the most?

Take this quick, easy quiz and find out which Jung archetype best describes you!

Which Jung Archetype Best Describes You?
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