You have watched them from afar for quite some time now. You hang on every word they say. You get butterflies in your tummy when you see them. Your heart skips beats, you may even have a little dance in your step. All this love and so much emotion. How you wish they would show some sign of having the same feelings for you but you know they don’t and they may never.

It might even be that they hardly even notice you or have any idea that you feel the way you do. Even if they did, you are sure that it won’t b e returned, the affection and love you feel for them is one sided. Always has been, always will be. No matter how much you have tried to get this person to love you back, it just isn’t happening and chances are, it probably never will.

So what do we do when we are in this situation? Here are a few tips and a few things for you to think about before you go throwing yourself at them and embarrassing yourself.

1. Question your love.

What is it about this person that you love so much that even them not loving you back doesn’t make you stop and turn around? Why do you love them so much? Is there something within you that is missing? Perhaps they remind you of someone from long ago.  It might not be them you love but the idea of them reminding you of someone else. Imagine how you would feel if you didn’t love this person and what your life would be like.

2. This is one sided and empty.

If you continue from #1 and imagine your life without them or the love you feel for them, it is possible that you might be blocking a real and true love from coming in to your life. Why would you want to give all your love to someone who will never return it? Your love is a beautiful love and it should be given to someone who respects it and can return it.

3. Spend time with you.

Honour and nurture yourself. Learn more about who you are and what there is to love about you (which is everything by the way). Be alone, be with friends who love you, spend time with family who adore you. The more time you spend away from this person who doesn’t love you back and the more time you spend with those who love you very much, you will see that you are deserving of a true and mutual love.

4. Talk to a friend.

Sometimes our friends see things in us that we don’t. Maybe you are lacking in the self love department and your friend can help you elevate it or at least help you to see why you should be loving yourself more and not some person who doesn’t even know you exist. Many times we love desperately because we are lacking self love. Once you have self love in place, your views on love will change and you will see your true worth.

5. Distractions.

Find something to do, places to go, different people to be around. If this person happens to work at the same place as you keep away from them as much as you possibly can, though sometimes this isn’t possible at all. If that’s the case, then you need to kick your self love discovery journey into high gear so you can revert your attention to you, not them. Stop going to places you know they will be and try new places to hang out at. You may even meet the person of your dreams at this new locale.

Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is very frustrating and heart breaking but remember and know that you are deserving of a true and mutual love. Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t see your worth.

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Men and women… as different as they can be. So, ladies, are you sure you know your man? Everything about his world?

It’s an easy way to find out! You’ll have to answer a couple of questions about your man’s world.

Take now this quick and fun quiz to find out if you are one of a kind.

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They say every 7 years we go through a change of life. A new life cycle, if you will. Some of us feel it, others ignore it. If you pay close attention to your vibration when you start to feel things are slightly shifting or you have that feeling of being antsy then you know you are going through a life cycle change. What you do with it, is up to you.

I try to pay attention to these shifts. For me they mean it’s time to switch gears or up the ante on an idea or project. So what exactly are these signs anyway? Maybe you have felt something and really had no idea what it was other than just anxiety. Here are a few signs you may recognize.

1. Your vibration increases.

Your body will physically alert you that it is ready for a shift. Imagine little beings in your blood, muscles and nerves and every little cell in your body start tingling, almost running around. They are getting ready to switch lanes, vibrational lanes. You almost feel antsy-like.

2. Daydreaming has taken on a whole new level.

You have taken your day dreaming up a notch or two. Things you used to only give a thought to for a second are now lingering on a little longer. You actually are starting to believe that this dream of yours might really manifest. And it’s rather exciting.

3. Get excited.

You’re starting to feel more excited about your goals, dreams, ideas and plans and are actually putting a plan in place. You have this right time right place feeling and know you are on the right path. Follow it. Don’t ignore it. The time is now.

4. Losing interest.

While you still maintain many different interests and hobbies, you are starting to find the ones you used to enjoy no longer bring any enjoyment. This could also be friends and people you have been hanging around with for a while. Could be you no longer have the same interests or mindsets and it may be time to move on. That’s ok too.

5. A new purpose or passion is emerging.

That something that is brewing inside of you could very well be your new purpose or passion. As we change, so do our passions and purposes as we discover new things and let go of other things. Make room for something new.

6. Spending time alone.

You may suddenly have the feeling that you want to be alone more often. Alone in your house, in the woods, at the lake or wherever. You just want to be by yourself, with your thoughts, in deep peace or in a meditative space. This is intuition speaking to you and reminding you to welcome solitude and new ideas.

7. Reading more.

Do you find yourself drawn to more books rather than tv shows? Do you suddenly have a thirst for knowledge as opposed to watching the rerun of your favourite show? You’re growing, expanding and evolving. This is your brain’s way of saying please feed me, we’re switching gears.

8. You’re changing.

You have noticed a shift but your friends are definitely not icing it. You aren’t the same person. They feel it, not just notice it in your behaviour but in your energy. Your vibration is so high it is affecting others around you. That’s a good thing.

9. Sensitivity is happening.

Do you find yourself to be slightly more sensitive lately than you have ever been? That’s pretty normal. Your mind, energy and feelings are changing and as they are, you are becoming more in tune with your surroundings, to people and quite possibly the sorrow that is happening around the world. You are more aware of the homelessness and suffering of those around you and wonder how you can help.

10. Curiosity killed the cat.

You want to know how things work, how they did that, who they are, how did they get there, and questions keep flooding in. Suddenly you want to know all things about everything around you. It’s not about going to the coffee shop with a friend anymore and kicking back with a latte. Now you want to talk to the guy at the next table and find out all about him.

Yes, this vibration is different, and powerful and you shouldn’t ignore it. Pay attention to it and all it is presenting to you. Your shift might be happening right now.

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Every married couple wants to be happy. As they exchange their vows on their wedding day, their minds and hearts are filled with thoughts, dreams and expectations of a happily-ever-after future. This is good and right, but what few anticipate is that it will require a large amount of perseverance and determination on the part of each spouse. A happy marriage is not going to happen automatically or easily. You will carefully need to set and maintain the right priorities. And both spouses will need to be fully committed – after all, it takes two to tango – if only one of you is trying to make things work, it won’t.

So what are these priorities? I am talking about relationships… all the important relationships that we all have in our lives. If you were to represent yourself as being in the centre of a circle, surrounded by expanding concentric circles, the person closest to you would be in the innermost circle, and other important relationships in the next circle and so forth until you have mere acquaintances in the outermost circle.

For a married person, the innermost circle of your heart is where your spouse belongs, and every other relationship needs to shuffle up to another level. When your children come along, as precious as they are, they will need to go in the very next circle. Then close family members and friends and so forth. When these circles (or priorities) get mixed up and displaced it does not bode well for the marriage. For example, it often happens that children can slip into the inner circle and displace the spouse – this is bad news for both the marriage and the children. Another danger would be when the parents or in-laws are dominating a marriage and the husband or wife allows their mother (or father) to take priority over their spouse.

Keeping your spouse in this inner circle is in fact the only way to cherish and safeguard your marriage to last the distance of a lifetime. It often happens unintentionally that you allow other relationships or the busyness of life to creep in and overwhelm this sacred circle. So if you are thinking that perhaps you and your spouse may be floating in different circles, it’s time to do a little relationship stocktaking and set your priorities on track, getting the circles of happiness in your marriage in order again.

Here are a few practical tips and things to remember every day as you make sure that you place each other in the number one circle closest to your heart.

It’s the little things that count

Before you scramble out of bed in the morning, take a few seconds for a good morning kiss. Tell your spouse that you are so glad to wake up beside them and share another day together. It really is the little things that count – a simple thank you, or please, instead of just letting things pass; putting your cell phone off when you are having a meal together; showing affection, a gentle touch as you pass each other or an arm around the shoulder as you sit together on the sofa, noticing a smile or a frown, and sharing a funny moment.

Keep in touch throughout the day

Nowadays with so much technology and social media it does not have to be a matter of ‘out of sight, out of mind’ when you leave for work. Send each other little messages or pictures at least once during the day, just to say ‘I’m thinking of you and I’m looking forward to seeing you again soon’. You may find it will make a big difference in helping you to stay feeling connected, and when you do meet up at the end of the day it will be even better. Then before you turn in for the night try sharing with each other your best and worst moment of your day.

Be there for each other when needed

The wonderful thing about being married is that you have someone special to face the ups and downs of life with – right? So make sure that you are there for each other during the highs and lows. If your spouse is giving a speech or playing in a tournament, you are the primary fan! If you are sick or in hospital, you will surely want your spouse to be perched on the side of your bed holding your hand. When your spouse has a big disappointment or loss, like a retrenchment or a bereavement, that’s when you need to be especially close, understanding and sensitive. And then of course, don’t forget the anniversaries and birthdays.

Do the chores together so you have more time for each other

There’s no doubt that most women find it extremely sexy and attractive when her man helps her with the dishes, cooking, cleaning, ironing and whatever else needs doing. It’s much more fun to do stuff together – it gets done more quickly too, and then you have more time to relax and really get romantic. This not only sets a great example for the kids to see mom and dad working together, but also conserves precious energy which can be well used having fun together.

Show your kids how it works

When mom and dad are safely tucked into each other’s inner circle of happiness in marriage, with the kids held closely in the second circle, it creates a firm foundation for the home and shows the kids how a marriage was meant to be. This also prevents the children from becoming self-centred and thinking that the universe revolves around them which can often happen if they slip into that inner circle and oust the spouse. Hopefully you and your spouse can give your children a great foretaste of what their own healthy and happy marriages can look like one day in the future.

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Life in medieval times was rough on everybody, but often we dream about it. What would we have been then? Maybe a knight in shinny armour, or a princess. Or maybe, the jester! Hard to tell…

We will never know for sure, but with some imagination we can draw a picture of our life then. Of course it would be based on our current interest and personality, but it would be a great way to discover some things about us.

Take this quick, easy quiz to find out what job would you have in medieval times.

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No matter which way you look at it, being betrayed is shitty. Plain and simple. Whether it be from a spouse, friend, colleague or even a family member, it hurts and we have a heck of a time getting over it or even understanding why it happened. We ask ourselves the million-dollar question what did I do to deserve this? Probably nothing. So how do we handle a betrayal?

Our first reaction, anger, is natural. All things you do after that, are your choices. We want to stay mad though. We don’t want this person to ever forget how much they hurt us. Sounds like a grudge to me. Do we really want to hold onto that?  That’s one way to handle a betrayal but probably not the most effective. Here are 10 other ways that may be easier on your heart.

1. Understand where it came from.

Is this the first time this person has done that? Are they going through something that perhaps no one understands and this is the only way they know how to deal with it? Consider the source. It may put things into perspective for you.

2. Did you deserve it?

Chances are, probably not, but could this be a payback for something you may have done to them in the past? Karma maybe? If this is the case, take it on the chin, own up to your wrongdoing from who knows how many years ago and move on.

3. Get mad.

Of course. Why wouldn’t you? Let out some steam. Don’t get in the car and drive while you are this mad or take it out on your friends or family either but maybe go in the forest and scream. Perhaps writing a truth letter and getting it all out. Let it all out.

4. Let’s talk about this.

Go right to the source and discuss it. They already know what they did was wrong and they surely know how you feel, or do they? Maybe your anger or hurt is bigger than they thought it would be. Sometimes people simply have no clue how others feel. Tell them.

5. Cry all you want.

Don’t hold your tears in. Crying is a wonderful way to detox the soul, clean out the toxins if you will. Get all those tears out and when you think you can’t cry anymore, cry some more.

6. Dump them.

If this has become a pattern for this person, this betrayal, then it could be time to get rid of them. Obviously if it’s your partner you want to hang on to the relationship but at what cost? Being continuously betrayed is not healthy for anyone.

7. Call a friend.

Some of us can’t deal with these things on our own. If that’s you, call your friend, or whoever you trust to talk to about it. Get someone else’s viewpoint on it or maybe you just need a shoulder to cry on.

8. Prevent it from happening again.

That goes part in parcel with #6 but if it’s not so easy to dump this person, take measures to ensure it doesn’t happen again. If they borrowed money and haven’t paid it back, don’t lend them money again. Small example but you get the point.

9. Thinking clearly.

When we are angry our minds are clouded with hate and evil thoughts. Don’t act immediately. Take a day or a week if you have to before you respond or react to this act of betrayal. Take time to think it through clearly before you lash out. Some things can be prevented with a clear mind.

10. Accept it for what it is.

And move on. I know, easier said than done but sometimes things happen that we have absolutely no control over. If this is a recurring habit from this person, know that you can’t change or fix it and move on. There’s little to nothing you can do. Remember, hurt people hurt people.

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For our closest ones we might play sometimes the role of a guardian angel. We watch their backs, we help them, we take care of them. Everybody does this in his own way.

So, if you were to be an angel, what kind of angel would you be? A Guardian Angel, an Archangel…?

Take now this quick, easy quiz to find out what type of angel you are!

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What vibration are you operating on right now? Is it high or low? Is it consistently high or low? Do you even notice it? Are you always happy or sad? We, ideally, would all love to be happy all day every day. Who wouldn’t want to be? Let’s be honest though, it’s not always easy to switch off negative emotions and just step up to a higher place. Or is it?

Keep in mind this one very important thought. Energy flows where attention goes. If you give too much attention to all the negative things in your life, that’s where the energy, or vibration, will go. Not an entirely healthy way to live. When we stay in a low vibration for too long, we run the risk of not only having emotional exhaustion but also physical ailments as well. High blood pressure, anxiety and insomnia are just a few of the things you can manifest if your vibration is low and stays low for too long.

So how do we get this vibration higher, right now? Follow these steps to a happier and healthier lifestyle.

1. Upon awakening.

Before you even get out of bed, say thank you for a new day. Place your hand on your heart, smile and express gratitude. Smile and feel it in your soul. Feel that gratitude for a new day and follow it up with anticipation of something good to come. Imagine that today, and do this every morning, something absolutely amazing is coming your way. Get in that vibration first thing in the morning.

2. Journal.

Put your coffee on and get your journal out. Write out all the things you are grateful for. People, places, things, life, health, yourself and everything else you can think of that you are grateful for. You are going to do this every day so repetition is ok.  While you are writing out all the things you are grateful for, take a few seconds to feel that feeling for each item or person.

3. I love you.

As you go about your day, say I love you or you are amazing to each and everything you pass by. Your car, the tree, your front door, the flowers in your yard or maybe the flowers in your neighbour’s yard. All the things you see every day that you haven’t noticed before, take note of it and appreciate it, all of it.

4. Go be with the trees.

Or the lake, or go hang out at a dog park. Go and be somewhere that feeds your soul and makes your heart sing. Go to a place where all your negative thoughts are only a distant memory and you are in a state of ridiculous joy. Be in that place every day. Make it a point to get to that place for at least 15 minutes every day.

5. Tune in to the higher power.

Whatever your higher power means to you or is to you. Tap into it for at least 5 minutes every day. Look up to the sky, open your eyes, your mind and your heart and let your higher power know that you know it’s there for you. Tell your higher power you are extremely grateful for its presence in your life. Spend time talking to it and letting it know how much you appreciate everything it does for you, every day, all day. Express all your gratitude and love.

It’s quite easy to tune into or tap into a higher vibration as long as you keep an open mind and allow it to happen.  You will notice, also, as soon as you raise your vibration, all the great things that you will miraculously manifest into your life. When you operate on a high vibration you bring great things to you, when you stay in a low energy, you will continually only attract negative things. Get that vibration up and watch your life change quickly.

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Our soul is at the same time the most volatile part of ourselves, but also the part that defines us. We cannot see the soul with our eyes, but we can see it filtered through our actions.

This quiz, is meant to help you understand through which part of you your soul is visible. You shouldn’t take it ad literam, but rather in a poetic way. As in “Your soul shines through your feet!” , that means that you have an adventurous spirit.

Take this quiz now to find out through which part your soul shines!

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Our minds run constantly. It never shuts off. Work, family, what to cook for dinner, I can’t believe he said that, what should I wear to the party this weekend, are my kids being good at school and on and on and on. When does it stop? Only we can stop our minds from overthinking. But how? You’ve tried a million times but you give up after half an hour of desperate trying.

We are creatures of habit. For many of us, worry is commonplace. Our mind is filled with worry. We worry about things that haven’t even happened or quite possibly will never happen anyway. Our overthinking is full of this worry. Overthinking really is just taking one issue, worry or situation and thinking it to death. It pollutes our brain and eventually leads to illness and physical ailments.

So how do we make this stop? How do we get a handle on overthinking and eliminate it from our minds? It’s easier than you think! Here are 5 simple ways to get you started.

1. Find the positive stuff.

You have lots of it tucked away in your memory bank somewhere. Pull it out and bring it to the forefront of your mind. Remember all the things that make you smile, laugh and make your heart sing. Switch to your happy place. Do it as soon as you recognize you are in overwhelm mode. Imagine an image of a cute puppy you saw today or perhaps a funny joke you heard yesterday.

2. Get in the moment.

The right here right now. Tell your mind to just stop for one minute and take in where you are at this moment. Are you sitting at the kitchen table sipping tea? Look out the window and appreciate the beauty of the clouds or a bird flying by. Be here now. If you are lying in bed trying to sleep bring awareness to your peaceful body, because your body is peaceful, and pay attention to your skin, your muscles, your breathing. Stay present.

3. Put your sneakers on.

Get out in nature or grab your flip flops and take a walk down by the lake. There is nothing like the fresh air and a big dose of Vitamin D to take your mind off of worries and stress and whatever else has taken up too much room in your head. Tune int o your iPod and turn it up. Music soothes the soul. When you have a great song playing and you start singing along, suddenly the mind is happy.

4. Peace out.

Stop and take a moment to notice your thoughts. Where are they taking you? How much stress are they causing you right at this moment? Tell them to stop. Say it out loud if you find that it may be more effective, whatever works best for you, but demand your negative thoughts to stop immediately. Once you command that, they will stop. You control your mind, right? Your mind will think whatever you tell it to think. Make it stop.

5. Map it out.

Write out some of the things that are clogging your mind. Have a look at them and see which ones you can actually do something about and which ones you are more than likely just making up (many of our worries, we’ve made up as most of them never actually happen anyway). Instead of worrying about these things to death, can you prevent them, find a solution or just completely toss it under G for garbage? Do the check and chuck with your thoughts?

You must remember that too often our thoughts can cause us to be sick and we are not here to be sick or stressed, especially because of our mind and all the made up stories we have stored in there. Release your mind, eliminate stress and live a happier more peaceful life.

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