If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wanders.
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Motivation
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Success can be defined differently for everyone but the fact is some people achieve it and some people don’t. What is it that successful people do or have to find success that others don’t? There has been a lot written about the skills and habits needed to live a successful life and I think most of us know the things we could work on like building confidence or overcoming fears to be more successful in areas we want to. There are people that have a higher likelihood for success than most. Frequent travellers, people constantly on the move learn many life skills exploring our world. Here are 15 reasons why frequent travellers are more likely to be successful because of that:
1. They Know how to Thrive Outside their Comfort Zone
Frequent travellers are in unfamiliar situations regularly. They must work through the unknown because of necessity. Faced with countless new experiences they learn valuable coping strategies that help them shoulder uncertainty and remain calm and effective. This is a key skill for success in both business and leading people.
2. They Welcome and Embrace Change
Travellers invite novelty. People constantly surrounded by new and different things avoid boredom and learn to focus better. This way of thinking inspires innovation and creativity.
3. They Know how to Manage their Emotions
Frequent travellers experience varying levels of stress routinely; tight flight connections, interrogations by border guards, and rude hotel staff can all cause ones nerves to fray. Travellers hone the ability to manage emotions and remain calm under pressure developing keen self-awareness. Being self-aware increases productivity and helps people find what makes them happy in life, the ultimate success.
4. They Trust and don’t Always Need to be in Control
Travellers have to rely on people they don’t know all the time. They deal with language barriers, cab drivers in strange cities and are often dependent on the kindness of strangers. Accepting the fact they can’t always be in control helps them build new relationships. They develop confidence in their ability to choose friends and acquaintances that are genuine and trustworthy.
5. They Manage Fear and move Past it
The key to success is taking action. When you travel a lot you put yourself in situations where there is no turning back.This makes people face fears head on and develop coping skills to take action despite the fear.
6. They Recognize and Seize Opportunities
Travellers have a wider breadth of experience and knowledge about the world. They learn new and better ways of doing things being exposed to different customs and cultures. This knowledge helps them recognize opportunities to improve and innovate at home and in the places they visit.
7. They Know how to Negotiate to get What they Want
Travellers negotiate to avoid being taken advantage of. Good negotiating skills are needed to get what you want or need without becoming pushy or aggressive. This skill is important in influencing others and helping them understand and accept your ideas in business and as a leader.
8. They see Beauty Where Most don’t
Frequent travellers see many different types of things and train their brains to focus on the beautiful. Constant novelty keeps the mind and the eyes sharp. People who travel see beauty where others see the ordinary. This skill belongs to great photographers, poetic writers and fertilizes the garden where inspiration grows.
9. They are More Confident and Know how to Fake Confidence when Vulnerable
People who travel a lot learn to rely on themselves and are confident that they can accomplish what they want to. This belief helps them to be persistent in the face of obstacles and recover better after failure because of that.
10. They Better Understand Differences in People and are More Accepting
Travellers are always meeting new people. They become good at asking questions to learn about the people they meet and what their opinions are on their city and culture. The questions come naturally because of travellers curiosity and desire to learn about the places they visit. This inspires great conversations that help travellers understand and accept the person and their views on a deeper level. They make friends easily and are loved by many because of this.
11. They Know When to live in the Moment
Learning to live in the moment has many mental and physical benefits. Frequent travellers know their time in a place is fleeting. This helps them think to live in the moment more than average.
12. They Smile More and feel Happiness More Often
Studies show travel makes us happy. Frequent travellers smile more than average because they explore new places regularly. They feel happy because they get to meet different people, see incredible sights, eat new and delicious food. That living in the moment skill helps with happiness to.
13.They Understand the Importance of Listening
This is a life skill that a lot of people struggle with. Learning to focus and really listen to what people tell us is so important to success in life. Achieving success is about building relationships and you build strong relationships understanding people. People who travel a lot know you really need to listen to have good understanding.
14. They are Less Judgmental and More Empathetic
Great leaders know the ability to relate to others gains loyalty and moves business forward. Frequent travellers learn to show empathy and avoid being judgmental because of that. Empathy comes from a willingness to understand, people who travel come by that willingness naturally
15. They may not be Rich but they Know how to Save and Spend Wisely
Frequent travellers know where their money goes farther. Making the world your home you can choose places based on cost of living. People who travel and work can make less and live well in a lot of countries.
Travel inspires and educates in a ways that build character and develop skills naturally. Frequent travellers learn these skills and are more likely to be a success as a result.
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Train yourself to find the blessing in everything.
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In a world of hustle and bustle, it’s sad that we have to wait for the harsher realities in life to jolt us awake. In the end, all the worldly possessions we strive for or the status we all reach for mean nothing. Have you loved and did you love? That’s all that matters in the end. Here are 14 inspiring quotes about life from Mitch Albom’s beloved book Tuesdays with Morrie.
1. “Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hold on too long.”
Mourning has to happen, we have to honor those that we lose by really sinking into that feeling of loss. But we are amiss when we spend too much time there. Use pain and heartache to catapult you to new purposes and look around at what’s left of living. Look at it with a new-found perspective. Don’t be defined by your losses. Let your losses define your motivation.
2. “Love each other or perish.”
A life without love is like a plant without water, it slowly deteriorates. Love brings life, it brings motivation and inspiration. Love brings with it confidence and adventure. Love makes life come alive and without it we are wilting away day by day. Start planting the seeds by putting love out there and watch how the more love you share, the more comes back to you.
3. “What if today were my last day on earth?”
Nothing teaches gratitude as much as thoughts about how precious time is. Truly the best way to go forth in life is to appreciate how precious it is to be alive. When we think of it this way, we are more purposeful with how we spend our time and what goals we give ourselves.
4. “Love is the only rational act.”
We try to fight love but fighting for make believe walls and holding on to insecurities. Let it all go and just let love out. Stop letting your life be ruled by anything more than what’s in your heart.
5. “Love always wins.”
Resistance and friction happens when we’re fighting to protect the little bubble of a world we live in, we’re hoarding all the wrong things in this bubble. We want to be right. We want to have pride. We want the wrong things. Love is the only solution to conflict. Love heals all wounds.
6. “Find someone to share your heart, give to your community, be at peace with yourself, try to be as human as you can be.”
Don’t isolate. Get in the world and interact with it. When it seems that nothing is going your way think about what vibes you give out to the universe. Usually what you send out is what comes back to you. Get comfortable with people and with giving of your heart. The art of a big heart takes practice. The more you share your heart, the more you feel it will be reciprocated. Then you start to get the confidence to tr harder. Soon you become good at it with practice and more of it comes back to you.
7. “The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”
We all spend so much time with our energies everywhere but in our hearts. All of searching for happiness and acceptance when it’s within us, right with us all along. Isn’t it funny that when we figure this out, everything else seems to fall into place?
8. “If you really want it, then you’ll make your dream happen.”
Sometimes we don’t know what we really want. Sometimes pain finally forces us to look inside and figure it out. In pain, good things happen, if you let it. Find out who you are and start crafting the dream that’s inside of you. The better person you’re meant to become. Once you know what you want and it’s clear it and you can see it, you can move mountains to make things happen.
9. “So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
Everyone needs to find something inside that drives them, that they’re willing to push themselves through tough times. Don’t wait for a tragedy to happen or a tragic loss to happen for you to realize that you need to find your purpose. Take the time to find out what it is, do the work to find out who you are and what you want.
10. “Don’t cling to things because everything is impermanent.”
Things come and go. Life seems so much more stressful with more stuff. Think about how our life has evolved even over the last 10 years. The rise of consumerism has given way to so much clutter in our lives. We all each have 10 pairs of shoes for one season. Eight different versions of a jackets for one season. A raincoat, a workout coat, a nice dressy coat-okay maybe one in black and one in red, a long one, a short one, a leather one. Remember when it was so easy to keep up with one? So we’ve created a lot of stress in our lives trying to keep up with our possessions. This stress takes away from the quality time we can be spending with people. Life is about relationships, not things.
11. “Accept who you are; and revel in it.”
The biggest lesson is life is that the sooner you know how to be as authentic to your self as possible is when you really come alive. Be no one else but you as you can be.
12. “Everyone knows they’re going to die but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently.”
The best thing is to not live life in denial. There is as bit of pressure in life to make it count. Don’t be complacent about life. Be aware and try to make something matter in the time you are here. If you don’t know where to start, it usually good to start with giving of yourself and finding out where that takes you.
13. “Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others.”
Don’t live a life of regret. Don’t linger in the wrongs. Linger in making things right and moving from there. Say sorry even when you don’t want to, the act of saying it will release you. Hanging on to wrongs does nothing for you. Move forward.
14. “Without love, we are birds with broken wings.”
In order to fly we need to be intact. Love is what holds us together and keeps us up in the air soaring with the wind blowing in our faces feeling alive.
Featured photo credit: By Mitch Albom and Jeffrey Hatcher via google.com
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If you have the power to make someone happy, do it. The world needs more of that.
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Here’s a video that will make you feel small.
I’m not really sure how to describe it; you just need to watch.
For those who don’t know, Andromeda is one of the closer galaxies to the Milky Way. (There are a few smaller ones that are a bit closer.) It’s larger than our own galaxy by a fair bit, and this video gives you some sense of that.
How does this video make you feel? Does it inspire you? Does it make you think about potential alien life forms? Does it make you forget your worries? Or perhaps, all of the above?
Watch the video, see firsthand the billions of stars housed within the boundaries of Andromeda, and write your thoughts in the comments below.
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We learn something through everyone that passes through our lives. Some lessons are painful. Some lessons are painless and some lessons are priceless.
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Never discourage anyone who continually makes progress, no matter how slow. – Plato
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We have all had our hearts broken. When it happens to you personally, it’s devastating and while people can relate, they aren’t in that moment. The pain is there and it’s real for you. Sometimes it feels like you’re completely helpless and you’ll never get past the suffering. The important things to remember are that there are people there for you and that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and ways to help you get there. Here are a few ways to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again.
1. Don’t Contact The Ex
This honestly is rule #1 in a break up. Keep your distance and don’t text, email, meet in person or call. You should probably take them off your Facebook or any other social networks while you’re at it. This doesn’t have to be permanent but while you’re vulnerable to any mean or in contrast loving words, it’s best not to have their voice in your head. The risk of getting back into a relationship when it wasn’t working is high. You may also end up in a war of words causing further hurt and anxiety. Cutting the ties for good when it’s over puts you on a faster path to healing.
2. Let Your Emotions Out
Cry, sob your eyes out, scream and yell. Act in whatever way gets you through the pain you may be feeling. When people kindly and humorously tell you all break ups are hard, it’s because they are. Don’t take this part of the healing process away from yourself or it festers within your body. You will naturally feel some negative emotions no matter how essential your break up was. Honor your feelings and know that they will get less intense the more that you let them out. It helps you move past them!
3. Acceptance
Coping with the end of a relationship is a little bit like a 12 step program. You will reach acceptance far sooner by staying away from that person. This strategy relies on time more than anything else but there are ways to move it along. Look at the situation objectively, even if you didn’t agree to the breakup. If they didn’t love you anymore, that’s really sad and you will cry a lot when you accept it. If you both agreed because it just wasn’t working, don’t overanalyze what could have been different. In the moments you were in the relationship, that’s when your actions mattered. They don’t anymore. Your mission now is to get to the place where you aren’t battling with yourself about the way things are. Do this with compassion and don’t beat yourself up. It may take some time for the mind to catch up with reality but in the meantime, accept that the relationship has ended.
4. Find Yourself
Chances are, you lost a piece of yourself in the relationship. Now is your chance to find you again and this should be fun. This is one of the more positives to your break up so embrace it. Maybe you let go of a hobby you used to love to do or stopped taking scented baths. You can eat salad and granola bars for dinner if you feel like it. There are a lot of personal things that made you special, you just have to find them again and get the feeling back. Alternatively, you may have grown in the relationship which means you can discover new things about yourself.
5. Have Fun
When you’re ready to authentically have fun again, get your girlfriends together and go out. Go dancing, go shopping, go on a roller coaster. Do something that makes you smile, laugh and feel good inside. I once went to haunted house where things jumped out at me and scared me half to death. This was so therapeutic. Be spontaneous and silly. Enjoy your life.
6. Pay Attention to your Thoughts
As you look to move forward in your life, don’t deny or grasp on to your ex’s memory. They may pop into your mind as a memory of a moment where you were happy (or not). Acknowledge it, smile or cry. Let the memory go instead of clinging onto it. Don’t intentionally look at pictures or look at old texts you got from him. It’s now about you and your present moments. Your ex is a part of the person you are today and you can be grateful to them for that but the chapter with them is gone.
7. Acknowledge your Vulnerability
Don’t bounce into another relationship too quickly, thinking that you’re okay. It is probably the best quick fix out there but at the same time, you never really get over your ex. In the long run you haven’t actually gotten over your ex and when your next relationship ends, you’ll have two ex’s to get over. You’re just prolonging the inevitable pain.
8. Meditate
Whatever life throws at you, meditation is always one of those things that can bring you back to yourself and your center. This one discipline can assist you in all the complicated emotions you have about yourself and your heart. Getting to the heart of your pain and the reasons things didn’t work out is a miracle worker if you’re willing to sit with it.
Follow these eight steps to work through all the aftermath of a break up, then breathe, smile, and move on!
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Life doesn’t get easier, you just get stronger.
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