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Like a piece of art, a well-decorated and designed room necessitates time, attention, and good planning. Arrange your furniture perfectly for all rooms of your house by minding the following decor tips and tricks.
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TWRP is hands-down the best custom recovery out there. Its interface, on the other hand, is… well, let’s just call it utilitarian. The guys over at Team Win made sure that their product was robust, functional, and easy-to-use, but they didn’t put a tremendous amount of effort into polishing the looks.
While it might be lacking in design aesthetics, the great minds of its massive user base more than make up for it. When you have folks like themer Rusiuk Safiik using your product, you can afford to let the community apply the finishing touches themselves.
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“How come you never worry?” My wife asked.
In that moment, I had horrible flashbacks. The truth was, I used to worry constantly about future events and social conflict interactions in particular.
I had a Masters Degree in worrying and preplanning arguments and conversations in my head.
For 7 years, I had a boss who wouldn’t tell his employees what he wanted them to do, then get angry that they weren’t doing it. Ugh.
I was constantly on guard, planning my defense:
“If he says this then I’ll defend myself by saying THAT! Ha!”
It was exhausting.
Fighting battles in my head that usually ended up never happening was pointless, and I largely had no control over this.
It was awful.
Worrying was just a version of negative self talk. I was defending myself from imaginary arguments because I was worried I’d mess up every situation and I’d have to defend myself.
Because deep down, I didn’t think I was good enough.
Whoa.
“I guess I have a system.” I replied to her.
So, what should you do about worrying?
“Can I control This? > No? > Then disregard.” “Is this outcome likely > No? > Then disregard.”
Deeper Level: Why Do We Worry?
Now, for you weirdos (like me) let’s dig deeper to figure out where these worries and negative thoughts might be coming from.
Let’s go waaay back, through time and evolution.
In the 1960s Paul MacLean came up with the Triune Brain Theory. The Triune Brain Theory suggests that we all have 3 brains that evolved separately.
Each of these brains has a specific area of your inner psychology and personality that they are responsible for:
The Reptilian Brain: Aggression, Dominance, being territorial, basic survival mechanisms.
The Paleomammalian Brain: Emotions, Reactions, Memory, and Fear.
The Neomammalian Brain: Language, Abstraction, Planning.
Here’s an equation for ya:
Emotion + Fear + Reaction + Memory + Language + Abstraction = Negative Self Talk & Worry
So a likely cause of negative self talk is a reaction between your 3 brains.
Oh yeah, there’s also this wonderful thing called the negativity bias which is the psychological phenomenon by which humans pay more attention to and give more weight to negative rather than positive experiences or other kinds of information.
(I’ve written about negativity bias before in another context here)
When you woke up 9,000 years ago on the prehistorical savannah, what was the NUMBER ONE thing on your mind?
Survival.
Don’t get eaten.
What was that noise behind that bush?!
Have to get home to the tribe before dark.
This survival mindset served us well for millennia, we’re all here aren’t we?
Neuropsychologist Ph.D. Rick Hanson sums the negativity bias up perfectly:
“To keep our ancestors alive, Mother Nature evolved a brain that routinely tricked them into making three mistakes: overestimating threats, underestimating opportunities, and underestimating resources (for dealing with threats and fulfilling opportunities). This is a great way to pass on gene copies, but a lousy way to promote quality of life.”
Think of the negativity bias as an outdated operating system on a computer.
Key Points To Remember:
Final Thought:
Now that you have some more tools in your utility belt, what questions will you ask yourself next time you start to worry?
About Jeff:
Jeff Callahan is a Social Skills Strategist and Coach for people looking to maximize their social skills and charisma.
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It was a great to wake up after spending the night up here under the stars.
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There’s no denying it was a hectic 2014 here in the United States. We saw the rise of ISIS, dealt with an Ebola scare, and witnessed the turmoil in Ferguson (and its aftermath). Plus, let’s not forget about all of the hype revolving around The Interview, in which Sony was hacked.
Whether or not you’re as up-to-date on current political affairs as you should be, you should make sure to catch President Obama as he addresses the nation in his annual State of the Union address Tuesday, January 20th, at 9 p.m. ET (6 p.m. PT).
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OnePlus made a great Android phone, the One, bringing flagship-level specs with a nearly unheard of price point: $299 for the 16GB variant; $349 for the 32GB variant. And, oh yea, the devices come fully unlocked, ready for your SIM card to be plugged in (GSM/HSPA/LTE networks only—sorry Sprint and Verizon subscribers).
The only problem was actually getting your hands on one. While it may not be as bad as trying to snatch up a Nexus 6 with its perpetual “out of stock” status, it did require getting an invite from either a OnePlus contest or from owners of the device. If you’ve been trying to… more
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