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Month: July 2016
10 Things You Should Never Say To Someone Who Is Trying
We’ve all been there. Either you or I have been in a really shitty place, realized it was crap and took the time and all the necessary steps to change. We know what we did was either wrong or just ridiculously stupid. We all make mistakes. Some of us stay in that place while the rest of others desperately try to figure out what we did, why we did it, recover and grow from it. While we’re trying to make our lives better there are certain things you should never say to us. I mean, we are trying.
Naturally, there is always a handful of naysayers. The loud mouths who don’t want you to succeed or change or grow. They like you just the way you are and don’t want you to improve. These are the people who are also afraid of your growth. They realize it may be a new beginning for you but the end for them. If you are one of these people or know someone like this, send them this article and tell them that while you are learning, changing and growing, these are the things they should not be saying to you.
1. Remember your Uncle Gerry tried that and it backfired on him.
Look at him now. Chances are I don’t really care about Uncle Gerry’s demise. I am not Uncle Gerry. I am me and I am confident in my growth.
2. You better be careful, you know it’s not just you who will pay the price if this goes wrong.
If this goes wrong? First of all, nothing is going to go wrong and secondly of course it’s just me who will pay whatever imaginary price you are talking about. This is my life. I am responsible for me, no one else.
3. Why would you want to do that?
Why would I not want to do that? I’m trying to change my life. Change is good. Hasn’t anyone told you that? We can’t stay the same forever. There comes a time where you will have to be open to learn and grow. A little encouragement goes a long way here.
4. Didn’t you already try that once and it failed?
Maybe I did and maybe it did fail. So what? I’ll keep trying until I get it right. When was the last time you tried to improve your life? Stop bringing up my failures.
5. Oh, you’re doing that again are you?
Yes, yes I am. So what of it? I see that me trying to better myself and improve my life annoys you. Is it fear or jealousy? The sooner we figure out what it is the sooner you can work on improving that.
6. If it doesn’t work out, we’ll still be here for you.
Why would it not work out? Why wouldn’t you be here for me if it does work out? Do you think I’m going to fail at improving my life? Thanx for the vote of confidence.
7. Oh well we all know how this is going to end.
We do? How? Do you know a secret that I don’t? Are you referring to my past just now? Why would you do that? We’re moving past the past and into the future. You should stop bringing up yesterday please.
8. Why can’t you just let things be?
Let them be as shitty as they are now you mean? You mean leave things just as they are and stay the same forever like the rest of you guys? Why would I want to do that? That sounds like a horrible idea.
9. Your life if just fine the way it is.
Really? Is it? It hasn’t changed in months, years even and it’s filled with misery and sadness. I’m stuck in a horrible job and stagnating. Why would you say my life is fine? It’s not fine. There’s nothing fine about it. You just don’t want me to change.
10. Well, good luck with that.
How am I supposed to take that? You don’t sound remotely sincere. As a matter of fact, you sound very sarcastic when you say that. Are you imp lying I am going to need all the luck I can get with trying to improve my life? Ok, well thank you.
People who are trying to improve their life really just want a few words of encouragement. That’s it, that’s all. Be happy for them and show them you care and you believe in them. That’s not so hard to do, is it?
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The Accorhotels Arena / DVVD Engineers Architects Designers
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- Architects: DVVD Engineers Architects Designers
- Location: 12th arrondissement, 75012 Paris, France
- Project Directors: Vincent Dominguez and Daniel Vaniche
- Team: Paula Castro, Céline Cerisier, Vincent Dominguez, Toma Dryjski, Bertrand Potel, Louis Ratajczak, Daniel Vaniche
- Area: 62000.0 sqm
- Project Year: 2015
- Photographs: Courtesy of DVVD Engineers Architects Designers
- Contracting Authority: POPB operating company
- General Contractor: Bouygues Bâtiment Île-de-France
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The challenge posed to the DVVD agency was huge, primarily involving the skilful management, with no overrun, of 17 months of works, divided into two phases. A rst phase of 7 months, for the renovation of the ice rink and the start of works on the main hall, with a 2-month interruption in works for an interim reopening to host the BNP Paribas Masters tennis tournament and some thirty concerts. The second phase of 10 months, to be executed at a brisk pace, was to involve the reconstruction of the concert hall, the ting-out of reception rooms, dressing rooms, public spaces, sports facilities, press rooms and show production facilities, the reworking of technical premises and the acoustic and thermal treatment of the outer shell of the building. All this was to be done without the slightest adjustment to due dates and costs, there being no possibility of an extension to the works budget of 110 million euros, and the Masters tennis tournament being an annual event. A just-in-time schedule, with an extremely precise sequencing of phases, was devised as a result.
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“The redevelopment scheme was technical, functional and safety- related. What we have attempted to do is to go beyond this scheme by delivering a sensitive architecture which is emblematic of one of the greatest arenas in the world, and even influencing urban development by opening the building out onto the street, providing spaces and walking facilities for local residents.” Daniel Vaniche
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Works supervisors were to operate zone-by-zone; design analyses were completed to an extreme degree of detail, in order to avoid any change in design in the course of works. At the peak period, nearly 1,200 people were working on-site under extreme demands in order to ensure the on-time o cial delivery of the project on 18th October 2015. The venue has also changed its name: the Palais Omnisports de Paris-Bercy has made way for the AccorHotels Arena, following a naming operation which forms part of the economic model for the nancing of schemes with no public subsidy. In this major achievement, praise is due to the disparity between the economy of resources and the resulting quality of spaces and ambiances, unparalleled in modern arenas.
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Murman Arkitekter completes a Swedish villa that fans out in all directions
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Link Arkitektur Adds an Extension to a Private Residence in Sellebakk, Norway
Øvre Tomtegate 7 is a private residence designed by Link Arkitektur. It is located in Sellebakk, Norway. Øvre Tomtegate 7 by Link Arkitektur: “Inspired by the original 19th Century design, a rundown farmhouse on the east side of the River Glomma – Norway’s longest and largest river – has been brought into the 21st Century by LINK architects. The Lersch family bought the dilapidated farmhouse shortly after the millennium and..
Seashore Chapel / Vector Architects
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- Architects: Vector Architects
- Location: Beidaihe, Qinhuangdao, Hebei, China
- Principal Architect: Gong Dong
- Design Team: Dongping Sun , Yi Chi Wang, Jiahe ZhangClient
- Client: Beijing Rocfly Investment (Group) CO., LTD
- Area: 270.0 sqm
- Project Year: 2015
- Photographs: 陈颢 Chen Hao
- Site Architect: Dongping Sun
- Structural & Mep Engineering: Beijing Yanhuang International Architecture & Engineering Co.,Ltd.
- Structural Consultant: Lixin Ji, Zhongyu Liu
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We imagine the Seashore Chapel as an old boat drifting on the ocean long time ago. The ocean receded through time and left an empty structure behind, which is still lying on the beach.
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The space is thus divided vertically. The covered outdoor space naturally becomes a resting place for people on the beach. It is also a space connecting religious space to the mundane life. When the tide rises, this space will be submerged by water. At that moment, the imagery of the drifting boat emerges out of the chapel.
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The atmosphere on upper floor is intensely divine and religious. The spatial experience begins on the 30 meters path leading to the chapel. When people gradually approach, the cue emerges indicating the suspending space on the other side through the 600mm wide gap in the middle of the grand staircases. With a glimpse of ocean in distance, they walk up the stairs, go through the gate, and make a turn around the screen wall into the space with unblocking ocean view. The relationship between space and the ocean is closer due to the elevated position. The view is isolated from the beach and people, leaving the outstretched ocean the only view in sight.
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There are limited openings on the chapel. The only large horizontal ocean-view window is on the east facade. Its 2.7m height helps to avoid the interruption of excessive light to the interior, and also frames the view to the ocean. A few narrow gaps in between the walls also bring in natural lighting. Lighting is carefully controlled with the 10-meter tall interior space misting diffused light. On the east facade, a triangle opening gently illuminates the cross from both bottom and up. There is another light channel on top of the pitched roof allows the natural light streaming into the space which is a 300mm gap between the bended wall on north and the pitched roof. At the noon of spring, summer and fall, when the solar altitude is almost perpendicular, the light projects directly onto the wall on north, generating vivid lighting effect. Although the lights does not stay for long, the texture of the stucco wall is emphasized and celebrated by the light at the moment, and becomes a touchable skin. On the north side, there is a cantilevered space of meditation. The space can merely fit in one person where the walls wrap your body tightly, and one curvy wall extends the sight towards the distant ocean.
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The design of this chapel considers natural ventilation comprehensively. In order to maintain the uniform and continuous exterior appearance, all the windows are hidden in the gaps between the main envelope and several pieces of paralleled sliding-out walls.
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Seashore Chapel serves the resort community on its west side. It is the artificial space that is the closest to the ocean in the community. Apart from religious programs, many public and community events are planned in Seashore Chapel. Together with Seashore Library, they provide spiritual spaces at ocean front, where people can slow down their pace, experience the nature and examine their inner state.
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Mischer’traxler designs seesawing Equilumen lamp that brightens as it dips
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3 Public Speaking Brain Hacks From A Psychiatrist
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The ability to speak clearly, persuasively, and empathetically in front of an audience – whether an audience of ten or of thousands – is one of the most important skills anyone can develop.
People who are efficient speakers come across as more comfortable with themselves, more confident, and more attractive to be around. Being able to speak effectively means you can sell anything – products, ideas, ideologies, worldviews, and, more important, yourself.
It seems that everybody knows that. There are tons of articles about public speaking explaining about presentations techniques, giving tips and hacks.
However, as a psychiatrist for the last ten years, I’m missing something.
Those articles tell us to make eye contact, to be vulnerable, to be funny if we can, to be ourselves, to let go of our egos, to tell stories. They say not to ramble, not to go on about matters that no one else is interested in. And they keep saying “stay calm.”
It’s all good advice, and it looks great in theory, but the practice is a little bit different.
If you get nervous before giving a speech, you probably know that there is a difference between theory and practice.
And you are not alone.
Research show that 48% of the American population has some degree of public speaking fear, and a survey from Harvard Medical School estimates that the lifetime prevalence of extreme public speaking fear, characterized as social anxiety disorder, is 12.1%.
When we turn these statistics into numbers, we see that 140 million Americans would get nervous before giving a speech.
To overcome the fear of public speaking is essential to go beyond simple tricks and understand how your brain works when you are giving a presentation.
Here are 3 brain hacks to improve your public speaking skill:
Public Speaking Brain Hack #1: Change your thoughts
When you get nervous before a presentation, you have automatic thoughts and beliefs that contribute to your fear, like:
“People will think I’m stupid.”
“I’ll end up looking like a fool.”
“I won’t have anything to say.”
“My voice will start shaking.”
“I’ll seem boring.”
“I’ll blush.”
These thoughts are like traps. When you fall on them, you become anxious.
The first step is to recognize the automatic thoughts that underlie your fear. For example, if you’re worried about a future presentation, the underlying thought might be: “I’m going to blow it. Everyone will notice that I’m nervous.”
The next step is to analyze the thought. It helps to ask yourself questions about the automatic thoughts: “Even if I’m nervous, will people necessarily notice it?” or “Do I know for sure that I’m going to blow the presentation?”.
Through this analysis of your automatic thoughts, you can gradually identify some unhelpful thinking styles or think traps (check the most common think traps here).
Public Speaking Brain Hack #2: Learn to relax
Several changes happen in your body when you get nervous. But, there are techniques to teach you how to relax and reduce physical responses to anxiety.
One of the first body response in anxiety is that you begin to breathe racing. Rapid shallow breathing leads to physical symptoms of anxiety, such as a feeling of suffocation, increased heart rate, muscle tension, and dizziness.
Learning to slow your breathing down can help you bring your physical sensations of anxiety under control. Here is a breathing exercise to help you keep your calm in social situations.
Public Speaking Brain Hack #3: Face your fear
One of the most important things you can do to overcome the fear fo public speaking is to face it.
While avoiding momentarily uncomfortable situations may help you feel better in the short term; it prevents you from learning how to cope in the long term. In fact, the more you avoid a feared social situation, the more frightening it becomes.
While it may seem difficult to face a feared social situation, you can do it by taking it one small step at a time.
In other words, it’s important to face your fears gradually.
The key is to begin with a situation that you can handle and gradually work your way up to more challenging situations. It’s like to climb a mountain. You’ll build your confidence and social skills as you move up.
It’s never a good idea to move too fast, take on too much, or force things. This strategy will backfire and strengthen your anxiety.
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José Hamilton is a psychiatrist on a mission to empower people to overcome social anxiety and feel more confident. He is co-founder and CEO at Youper, the first mobile platform to overcome social anxiety.
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