36 Inspiring Quotes on Letting Go and Moving On

36 Inspiring Quotes on Letting Go and Moving On

Letting go can be one of the hardest things to do in life.

But at the same time it can be one of the most powerful and liberating things too.

So this week I’d like to share 36 of the most thought-provoking and inspiring quotes from the past few thousands of years on letting go, moving on and living your life fully and happily.

I hope you’ll find something helpful here.

  1. “Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.”
    – Hermann Hesse
  2. “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
    – Alexander Graham Bell
  3. “Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.”
    – Erich Fromm
  4. “Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.”
    – Oprah Winfrey
  5. “We need to learn to let go as easily as we grasp and we will find our hands full and our minds empty.”
    – Leo F. Buscaglia
  6. “There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life.”
    – Unknown
  7. “It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things.”
    – Theodore Roosevelt
  8. “The greatest loss of time is delay and expectation, which depend upon the future. We let go the present, which we have in our power, and look forward to that which depends upon chance, and so relinquish a certainty for an uncertainty.”
    – Seneca
  9. “Your past does not equal your future.”
    – Anthony Robbins
  10. “To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit.”
    – Jack Kornfield
  11. “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.”
    – Lao Tzu
  12. “This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet.”
    – Rumi
  13. “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
    – Deborah Reber
  14. “Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.”
    – Guy Finley
  15. “I demolish my bridges behind me…then there is no choice but to move forward.”
    – Fridtjof Nansen
  16. “Why do people persist in a dissatisfying relationship, unwilling either to work toward solutions or end it and move on? It’s because they know changing will lead to the unknown, and most people believe that the unknown will be much more painful than what they’re already experiencing.”
    – Anthony Robbins
  17. “We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”
    – Joseph Campbell
  18. “Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.”
    – Raymond Lindquist
  19. “Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.”
    – Lyndon B. Johnson
  20. “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.”
    – J. K. Rowling
  21. “Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.”
    – Wayne Dyer
  22. “The most difficult aspect of moving on is accepting that the other person already did.”
    – Faraaz Kazi
  23. “Laughter gives us distance. It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on.”
    – Bob Newhart
  24. “Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energy moving forward together towards an answer.”
    – Denis Waitley
  25. “Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.”
    – Daphne Rose Kingma
  26. “Let go of your attachment to being right, and suddenly your mind is more open. You’re able to benefit from the unique viewpoints of others, without being crippled by your own judgment.”
    – Ralph Marston
  27. “When we go back in to the past and rake up all the troubles we’ve had, we end up reeling and staggering through life. Stability and peace of mind come by living in the moment.”
    – Pam W. Vredevelt
  28. “Just remember, when you should grab something, grab it; when you should let go, let go.”
    – Unknown
  29. “You don’t need strength to let go of something. What you really need is understanding.”
    – Guy Finley
  30. “There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.”
    – Jessica Hatchigan
  31. “You’ve got to make a conscious choice every day to shed the old – whatever ‘the old’ means for you.”
    – Sarah Ban Breathnach
  32. “Leaders spend 5% of their time on the problem and 95% of their time on the solution. Get over it and crush it.”
    – Anthony Robbins
  33. “Anything I cannot transform into something marvelous, I let go.”
    – Anais Nin
  34. “The best skill at cards is knowing when to discard.”
    – Baltasar Gracián
  35. “Let go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?”
    – Leo Buscaglia
  36. “You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.”
    – Jan Glidewell

What is your favorite quote on letting go? Feel free to share the best one(s) you have found in this article or in your life in the comments section below.

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What Social Over-Achievers Know That The Rest of Us Don’t

Here’s the uncomfortable truth. Some of us feel like melting into the floor the second we walk into a large social gathering. It can be a work function, a friend’s Super Bowl party, or just meeting a group of friends for dinner–doesn’t matter. Large groups make us seize up and devolve into the most socially awkward version of ourselves.

And then, while we’re fumbling to even introduce ourselves to ONE stranger, what do we see out of the corner of our eye? The social over-achiever. You know the one. He or she is always surrounded by a tight circle of fans. They’re throwing their head back laughing, while their entourage leans into the story, clapping and oohing and ahhhhing, and falling off their chairs laughing.

Um, I’ll have whatever she’s having, we think, because we can’t imagine ourselves pulling off the social spotlight that successfully.

The good news? All these feelings are totally naturally. Some of us like people, but we just don’t love them in enormous groups all at once.

Nevertheless, as one piece of evidence that life is indeed not fair, we will still be required to make an appearance at more than one social event in our lifetime. And that’s where this article comes in. Because when we do have to survive a large social gathering, there are things we can do to be less of a giant ball of nerves and more of an…adult person who can enjoy diverse experiences.

Here are 10 tips that will improve your social wizardry skills immediately.

1. Enter the room believing that the experience will be beneficial

It’s fine to acknowledge to yourself that you feel tension, but reframe the night as an opportunity to challenge yourself to grow. After all, research has overwhelmingly shown that relationships are good for our physical and mental well-being.

2. Look interested in meeting other people

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Here are the cliff notes of what that looks like: Stay off your phone, smile and don’t slouch or cross your arms, and get ready to offer a friendly, confident hello to anyone who makes eye contact or speaks to you.

3. Don’t wait around for someone to initiate conversation with you

Go in with a few versatile small talk topics in mind. Some good starters: Where are they from? Where do they work? How did they end up at the event tonight?

See Also: 10 Ways to Make a Good First Impression 

4. Start by talking to one person

Then, pull a couple others into the conversation. Big groups are less intimidating when you break them into smaller, more manageable conversation groups. If you exhaust one group or are curious to meet additional people, excuse yourself to go and say hello to someone else and begin again.

5. It’s the little things that set you apart

Make sure to get the person’s name and then occasionally use it when talking to them (like say their name three times, as opposed to 30). Then once you’re past the introduction, focus on finding and pointing out some common ground…even if it’s small. Some possibilities: your career field, where you live or grew up, the number or gender of your siblings, the size or makeup of your current family.

6. Ask questions

And then commit to being an above average listener. Tip: Do this by following up with additional questions. You work at Company X? How long have you worked there? (Listen.) What is your role? (Listen.) Do you see yourself there for the long term? (Listen.)

See Also: How To Keep A Conversation Going With 8 Different Topics

7. Be generous

That means being generous with compliments, generous with acts of service (get someone a refill, save them a seat), and even maybe some gifts (a round of appetizers, drinks, or desserts to share, for example).

8. Don’t try to be a Social You–i.e. a pretend, polished version of you

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When you get nervous, you may be tempted to try to impress people by trying to sound super smart or really funny or by telling some outrageous story. When you feel that urge to put on a show, squash it, and circle back to being Real You–quirks and all. People trust those who share authentically, so go ahead and mention it if you feel uncomfortable in big social scenarios. Or laughingly talk about how you already dropped ketchup on your shirt or drove around for ten minutes looking for the place because you’re so bad with directions. People like and feel comfortable around sincerity.

9. On that last part, show you have some boundaries though

Don’t vulnerably spill the “whole story” about any of these topics the first time you meet someone: your divorce or breakup, medical or psychological issues, long term grudges or personality conflicts, your miserableness at work.

10. Set realistic expectations that allow you to be resilient

Don’t go into large group gatherings expecting to walk out with five new best friends. Best friends are usually forged over smaller gatherings. Large social scenes are just a chance to have some positive interactions and maybe meet someone you could hang out with in the future. If someone’s verbal or non-verbal signals suggest they aren’t interested, then, prep yourself not to take it personally, and move on to someone else. They might not be in the mood to talk, but one person of many shouldn’t shut you down for the night.

Finally, just like you couldn’t read an article on how to throw a javelin and immediately go out and compete in the Olympics, you can’t read an article on socializing and be an instant social wizard. Start small. Have one good conversation. Do one thing outside of your comfort zone. And the next time you go out, try again. Practice will turn these suggestions from “tips” into habits if you give them a chance.

 

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A Virtual Look Into Richard Neutra’s Unbuilt Case Study House #13, The Alpha House


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Neither of Richard Neutra’s Case Study Houses, post-war thought experiments commissioned by Arts & Architecture, was ever realized. In the imaginary village of these unbuilt homes, next to #6, the Omega house, stands #13, named Alpha. Archilogic’s 3D model gives us a unique chance to experience this innovative concept home.

Each of Neutra’s projects was designed for a family of five, and each reveals his psychoanalytic approach to architecture, in which the house itself is an intimate part of family relationships, as important as the personalities involved. (Neutra was personally acquainted with Freud, and a committed follower of birth trauma theorist Otto Rank.) Underlining this Freudian view, his imaginary clients are not just neighbours—they are related; Mrs Alpha being sister to Mrs Omega.

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The magazine’s introduction of the Alpha house avows: “Together these people had decided on a most favourable scheme, to settle themselves side by side”—which of course provides the architect with an excuse for designing two houses as an intimate pair, but might cause a raised eyebrow if we consider the psychological state of grown women insisting on raising their families in this twinned condition. Neutra, known to employ psychoanalytic tricks on his clients to win their commitment to his ideas, and by his own admission “quite enthusiastic in placing the accent on individuality on the consumer,” surely delighted in this fantasy.


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As with the Omega house, and appropriately for the southern California setting, the (hypothetical) brief emphasizes outdoor living, and in particular the need for the space to accommodate a large group of children—the groups from each family co-mingling and travelling around from patio to patio. Wide open sliding doors meet that need for easy traffic, this transparency contrasting with the suggestively hidden, libidinous play area provided by the lath house “overgrown with vines.”


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More innuendo comes to light with the requirement that guest accommodation should be far away from the family bedrooms and their “negligé-behavior.” They are “not prudish,” these Alphas, and indeed most families might be uncomfortable with their practical notion of having “a lavatory right in the room” of the eldest son in order, apparently, to facilitate sleepovers.

Like the Omega house, Alpha has a sloping roof, but in this case it tilts down toward the kitchen and garage—avoiding the Omega time-trap of having children stuck in low-ceilinged rooms they are sure to grow out of. Just as well, since the Alpha kids are already heading into adolescence; this does point to the impending obsolescence of the play area, but then, it is just a wide corridor after all.


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The shared features of the two houses—tilted roofs, identical fixtures, finishes and facing materials—make a statement about neighbourhood planning. These houses are not intended to stand alone, but to be part of a community (albeit perhaps less intimate than the almost incestuous Alphas and Omegas). They look outward; not just literally, thanks to the abundant glass that takes advantage of those Californian views, but figuratively, acknowledging that an individual home takes its place within a neighborhood and contributes to it. This community spirit and the indoor-outdoor lifestyle planning evinced by Neutra’s designs—both firm tenets of modern housing development—withstand examination perhaps better than the details of the bedroom arrangements.

Don’t miss Archilogic’s other models of Case Study Houses and seminal projects shared on ArchDaily—click here to see them all!

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Belzberg Architects Design a Unique Home in Los Angeles, California

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Tree Top Residence is a residential project designed by Belzberg Architects in 2015. It is located in Los Angeles, California, USA. Tree Top Residence by Belzberg Architects: “The Tree Top Residence celebrates the site’s complex landscape, merging with it seamlessly and emerging from it atop the canopy of trees that surround it. Built along a natural ridgeline, the long and narrow plan of the three-story house mimics and inverts the..

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The 5 Best Productivity Books to Read

I have read many productivity books over the years. These are books that aim to improve your personal productivity. They aim to help you get more done in less time.

Among them, I have some favorites. There are many other books on productivity, of course, but these are the ones that you should read if you want to read just a few of them.

Without further ado, here the five best productivity books to read.

1. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (book) (summary)

Years after it was first published in 1989, this book is still on Amazon’s best sellers list. That’s amazing because there are hundreds of thousands of books out there. But there is a good reason for that: this book works.

As the title says, the book covers the habits of highly effective people. Among them, the one that is particularly relevant for personal productivity is the third habit: Put First Things First. It uses a matrix (also known as the Eisenhower matrix) that divides your time into four quadrants: important and urgent, important and not urgent, not important and urgent, and not important and not urgent.

The matrix is a simple but useful tool for managing your time. It helps you see how you have spent your time. It also helps you plan your activities.

2. Getting Things Done (book) (summary)

Getting Things Done is also a book that’s still popular years after it was first published. The subtitle of the book describes the topic well: the art of stress-free productivity.

The book shows you how to be productive without being stressed. That requires you to have a productivity system where you can put everything in so that you don’t need to remember it. That clears your mind and helps you avoid stress.

I have been applying this principle for years. While I don’t follow the book’s method exactly, I have found this and other principles in the book useful.

3. The Now Habit (book) (summary)

Do you want to overcome procrastination? If you do, then this is the book that you need to read. It contains some effective methods to overcome procrastination and help you achieve your goals.

For instance, it shows you how to change your self-talk from negative to positive to overcome resistance. It also shows you how to use the concept of persistent starting to achieve big goals.

4. The Power of Full Engagement (book) (summary)

When it comes to personal productivity, energy management is actually more important than time management. If your energy level is high, you can get a lot of things done in a short amount of time. But if your energy level is low, you could spend a lot of time on something and still get almost nothing done.

The Power of Full Engagement is the best book I have read on energy management. It explains how to manage your energy in four dimensions: body, emotions, mind, and spirit.

5. The 4-Hour Workweek (book) (summary)

This book isn’t strictly a productivity book, but it contains useful tips to increase your productivity. One example is the Parkinson’s law which says that “work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion.” Accordingly, you should set yourself a short deadline in order to be efficient.

Another helpful tip is what’s called “the art of non-finishing.” It says that you shouldn’t feel obliged to finish something if it doesn’t give you enough value for your time. For instance, you don’t have to finish a book if you think you can get more value by reading something else.

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I have found these books useful, and I believe they can help you form a solid foundation for productivity.

Do you have other productivity books that you’d like to recommend? Feel free to share them in the comments.

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EID Wins Competition for Stacked Block Mixed-Use Development in Chongqing


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China-based firm EID Architecture has been selected as the winner of a design competition for a mixed-use development, entitled Longfor Phase IV, in Chongqing, China. Designed as an exploration of vertical urbanism on a high-density scope, the project is composed of a “single tower and associated podium integrated as an assembled massing of stacked box-like volumes.”


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Courtesy of EID Architecture


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Courtesy of EID Architecture

At 150 meters tall, the building will offer office space in its upper levels, and retail on its lower levels.

An “urban void” is created in the center of the project, where on lower levels, an open space acts as a “gravitational core,” around which the rest of the building organizes itself, “stimulating movement and activity through the vertical space that energizes and defines the associated programmatical components and offers a visual and spatial connection to the multi-level exterior terrain at ground level.”


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On a design level, the project draws inspiration from the nearby countryside—with its natural karst formations— as well as from the surrounding city, where vernacular dwellings cascade down steep inclines in the city’s fabric.


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Courtesy of EID Architecture

“The outcome is a design that is both contextual and iconic, contextually integrated whilst unique in appearance that allows for a visual and spatial porosity and connectivity across all levels with a naturally balanced composition of stacked box-like volumes interlocked with a tower component, creating a design of understated monumentality and a harmonious contextually responsive composition,” said the architects in a press release.


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In order to connect the East and West sides, the project will feature a terraced grand stair, which will additionally create ground level entrances at multiple levels.

Furthermore, the building will include garden terraces and a green wall within its lobby, in an effort to connect the space with the natural environment around it.


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Courtesy of EID Architecture

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Longfor Phase IV is currently heading into the schematic design phase, and is expected to be completed in 2019.

The project was recently awarded an AIA HK merit award for unbuilt project.

News via EID Architecture.


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Moshe Safdie: Architects “Have a Deep Social Responsibility”

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In the latest edition of Section D, Monocle 24’s weekly review of design, architecture and craft, the team speak to Moshe Safdie – the Israeli-Canadian architect whose “signature geometric style of lavish curves and green space has made the self-styled Modernist an influential voice” in the profession. The conversation, broadcast from Safdie’s Marina Bay Sands complex in Singapore, reflects on his life and work – including Montréal’s Habitat 67.






Habitat 67 / Moshe Safdie

Habitat 67 / Moshe Safdie

Habitat 67 / Moshe Safdie

Habitat 67 / Moshe Safdie

Find out more about Monocle 24’s Section D here.

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Loft in a Historic Tenement / CUNS


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© Hanna Długosz


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© Hanna Długosz


© Hanna Długosz

  • Architects: CUNS
  • Location: Słowackiego, Poznań, Poland
  • Architects In Charge: Michalina Majcherkiewicz Chmielowska, Jędrzej Sobkiewicz
  • Area: 130.0 m2
  • Project Year: 2013
  • Photographs: Hanna Długosz

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© Hanna Długosz

From the architect. We would like to present you the reconstruction project of the loft’s space into the private accommodation in an apartment building. The building was built in the late nineteenth century.


Floor Plan

Floor Plan

Both district and the building itself are located in the preservation maintenance zone. The tenement is located in the compact residential of the street, it has 4 floors, a cellar and an attic.


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Such space requires an individual approach as well as the application of unusual solutions, we did not change the cubature, gross covered area, its height, length, width and the number of the stores, however we have created a new history of the place!


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We tried to keep the effect of the maximally open space and the exposure of the important elements for us. Among them you can find the roof construction and the original height of the rooms.


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© Hanna Długosz

Very clearly exposed wooden roof construction gives the interior the flavor and in our opinion  – it highlights its uniqueness. By creating a new function of the loft, we felt as if it was our operating pattern; the look of the interior is dedicated by the roof construction.


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© Hanna Długosz

Multiple number of windows in the whole loft allows the sun a better exposure of all the rooms. Moreover, the big white planes of the walls and ceilings do brighten the space. Lighted by the skylight, the  open kitchen interior is a link between the private sphere of the owners and the living and the guest room. The large kitchen with a huge cooking island is an excellent place for cooking and spending relaxing time in the hammock.

As well as the tenements, we also love the natural materials. Here, except for the pine wood, the brick  played the major role. We used it on the knee walls, and on the whole length of the tenement’s wall, By doing it – we have emphasized the length of the apartment.  


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© Hanna Długosz

The living room is a separate big part of the whole open daily space. This is  place with the TV and comfortable, variable seats, located around. It is a perfect space to relax with friends

The bathroom, dedicated mainly to the guests, but used as a toilet on a daily basis, has a basin, lavatory and the shower. Another bathroom was designed in the bedroom. The idea of  an open bathtub next to the bed is the removal of all the barriers between these spaces. The bathtub is located in the bay window, with an easy access to the wardrobe located in this room. Next to it, we have additionally designed a separate box with the toilet and the shower.


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© Hanna Długosz

The attic’s floor is a mix of the pine wood and the very dark gres tiles with an interesting and irregular surface. We kept the interiors in the earthy tones, that together with the timeless whiteness present themselves the prettiest.

Product Description. We wanted to keep  the original character of the tenement that’s why one of the most important materials we used are definitely the original sliced bricks and also wooden floors (pine).

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