I wish they could teach kids at school how to forgive. Forgiveness may not be a skill to grade a student for, yet it is a better predictor of the quality of individual’s life than all the A+s combined.

Yes, forgiveness is absolutely crucial if you want to live a life of fulfillment. Without forgiveness you just can’t give your true potential to the world…

Why? Because most of your energy will be drained while reminiscing the past and even worse, making up some bitter thoughts about revenge. You will not be able to focus on your life, you will not express your creative potential and you just will not be able to be happy, unless you learn to forgive and let go of the hurt in your heart. As a Chinese proverb goes,

“The one who pursues revenge should dig two graves.”

I do not think anyone will be happy by the end of their life to realize that they have been chained by the wounds, anger and pain throughout their life. It will be just too late to break the chains. Believe me the moment you forgive “the unforgiven”, life will look, taste, feel and even smell differently, much better and much lighter.

The popular expression “It is easier said than done” definitely applies to forgiveness. Forgiveness will take time, it will take efforts, but the results will be rewarding. The most important thing is that you are sincerely willing to forgive.

Remember none of us is born with some supernatural ability to forgive. You may think that such historical figures, as Mother Theresa, Nelson Mandela or Martin Luther King were somehow blessed with divine characteristics of unconditional love and forgiveness. They were not. They just made a choice between living a life of captivity and liberating themselves from the chains of bitterness. They chose liberation. Mandela was one of them:

“As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”

All these heroes of humanity have put tons of efforts to cultivate forgiveness in the garden of their hearts. So can you!

Caution! Do not ever attempt to forgive someone if you have not taken time to forgive yourself for your own mistakes or failures. Please acknowledge that no human being is perfect (including you and me), we all have made mistakes, at some point in our lives we ourselves hurt someone else, whether consciously or unconsciously, and were to be forgiven. This understanding makes us feel more compassion for other people and recognize the human nature of their mistakes.

The more you grow on your humanity, by taking responsibility for your mistakes and by learning to say “I am sorry. I was wrong”, it becomes more and more natural for you to forgive others easily.

One person forgiving the other may at first sight be a trivial issue on the global scale. But it is not, in my opinion. It is vital for the well-being of the particular society and the world as a whole. People who were hurt in the past, and have not been able to let go of their pain and forgive, may grow into people who “enjoy” hurting others. Who knows, maybe the world history would not know Hitler if he was taught to forgive…?

If we want to live in a world where people love and care for each other, we first need to give out love ourselves, including to those who have mistreated us. Your willingness and determination to forgive a particular person is vital. However, be ready that the feeling of having been hurt may come to you occasionally, especially at times when you feel low.

Just keep on reminding yourself that forgiveness does not imply that you are weak, or that you do not respect yourself. Your choice to forgive means that you value yourself much enough to free yourself from the chains of bitterness and live the fulfilling life you truly deserve.

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What is it actually to be spiritual? What does it mean? Is it the same as being religious? Let us take a stab at defining what spirituality is.

You know that ´something´ beyond the physical exists

When you are spiritual, you know that you are part of something much bigger than you. You have left the materialistic worldview behind, and you know that the world cannot be reduced to what you can see and touch. You know that ´something´ beyond the material exists. We can call that spirit, soul or higher self. You know that there is a guiding principle in the universe and that we are all one. You can call this guiding principle God or Source, but you do not subscribe to the old religious concept of an angry and judgemental God. Your God is a loving entity. You know that you must treat others the way you want to be treated yourself, and you know that this is not the only life you live.

Spiritual science

The Danish visionary and mystic Martinus called his bulk of work, consisting of more than 9000 pages of spiritual wisdom, ´cosmology´ or spiritual science. Martinus´ work reveals the science of the spiritual dimension. He reveals the laws that govern the spiritual world, because obviously the spiritual world is governed by laws in the same way as the physical world is. We all know the law of gravity, which dictates that an object will fall to the ground, when it is no longer sustained. Just as there are laws for the physical world, there are laws for the spiritual world. Let us look at some of these laws:

The laws

• The law of movement: this law decrees that there is no straight line in the universe. All matter moves according to this law, be it physical or spiritual matter (energy). What we see as a straight line, is actually a part of a circle, but the circle can be so huge that a part looks like a straight line. Movement is also transformation from one to state to another. Everything is changing constantly, everything is in movement and nothing is exactly the same as it was yesterday. This principle is important as a basis for the understanding of other spiritual laws.

• The law of preservation of energy: energy cannot cease to exist. It cannot be dissolved or evaporate. And there is energy everywhere. What was once thought of as empty space is not empty at all. It is full of energy. Energy cannot be seen by the naked eye, but that does not mean that it does not exist. Thoughts are energy, according to Martinus. When we place electrodes on the head, we can measure thought activity, so it is clear that thoughts are a kind of measurable energy. Our own thoughts are identical to our life force, and the huge sea of energy that exists in empty space is also thoughts. Thoughts and consciousness are the same. We live in a conscious universe. A consciousness necessarily has to belong to somebody, as we cannot have consciousness without a living being. The huge and enormous living being whose thoughts permeate the universe is God.

• The law of immortality. We are primarily spiritual beings and we eternally have a spiritual body. It is only occasionally that we have a physical body. Because our consciousness consists of energy and energy cannot cease to exist, we are eternal beings living in an eternal universe. Our consciousness, consisting of our ´I´ and thought sphere, cannot cease to exist. What we think of as death is no death at all; it is just an exchange of bodies. When our physical instrument has become useless due to old age or injury, then our consciousness will be carried by one of our several spiritual bodies. But we are exactly the same as we were before, only now lighter, as we no longer have the heavy, physical body. In our spirit body, we will enter the spiritual world on a wavelength that corresponds to the most developed part of our psyche. We stay there until it is again time for us to reincarnate and create a new physical body.

• The law of reincarnation. Reincarnation is a fundamental principle and all life forms reincarnate, be they atoms, molecules, cells, organs, plants, animals, humans, planets, suns and galaxies. All these are living beings. It is through reincarnation that the breath of life is blown into the physical plane of existence.  We reincarnate on the physical plane to move on in our evolution. We cannot evolve on the spiritual plane, which is a plane of rest. Therefore, we come to the physical plane in a physical body to learn, experience and evolve. For each life we live, we add to our bulk of experience. We take all our accumulated knowledge with us into our next life. For each life we live, we become wiser, nobler and more moral.

• The law of attraction. This law decrees that energies on similar wavelengths attract each other and that energies on dissimilar wavelengths repel each other. This law is absolutely fundamental to the workings of the universe. The heavenly bodies such as planets and suns (stars) are held in place by this law. It is this law that enables us to listen to radio, watch television, receive text messages, talk on a mobile phone and move about in cyber space. Also in our own lives, the law of attraction plays a major role. It is this law that has placed us in our relationships, our jobs, our family and our circle of acquaintances. We can actively make this law work for us, when we consciously decide to ´clean up´ our thought sphere and only focus on things we like and what we want to achieve in life. The law of attraction will bring those things to us, if we focus on them consistently. Our wishes will come true, in either this life or the next. This is decreed by the strongest law of the universe: the law of attraction.

• The law of karma. When we send out an energy in the shape of an act, this energy will come back to us eventually. In this way we create our fate, because we reap as we sow. The law of karma decrees that what we do to others, we eventually do to ourselves. Everything we do to others will come back to our own life as fate. If you kill, you will be killed, if you lie, you will be lied to, if you steal, you will be stolen from, if you smile, you will be smiled at and if you love, you will be loved. The law of karma is regulated by the law of movement and the law of attraction. It cannot be recommended enough to only sow what you want to reap.

• The law of prayer. Even when we are sitting alone in our room, we are not alone. Nobody is ever alone. Each and every one of us has guardian angels, and they are around us on a constant basis. We have one ´head´ angel, who is our own personal guardian, and furthermore we have one or two lesser guardians, that can be called in when needed. Our smallest sigh is heard by our guardian angels, and they will always react. If we are in danger, they will come to our rescue, if it is our karma to be rescued. Our guardian angels will always procure the best help for us seen in the broader perspective. They will never interfere in our karma and will always act in our best interest in the long run. It is our guardian angels and other angels that act as God´s listening devices. They hear all our prayers and are always there to assist us. It is an extremely good idea to pray on a daily basis, as there is tremendous help in praying.

Spirituality is not faith based

Spirituality is not based in faith as the religions are. You become spiritual when you have left the dogmatic religions behind, because they did not nourish your intellect. You become spiritual, when you can no longer believe, but have a need to know. Most people will become spiritual after a certain period of atheism, because they need to distance themselves from anything faith based, and have not yet discovered spirituality. Spirituality appeals to our intellect and makes us see a much bigger picture that the one offered by materialist science. With a spiritual outlook, you lose all fear of death and can start enjoying life in a completely new way.

The plan

There is a plan with our existence, but when you only adhere to the materialist science, you are never going to be told what that plan is. The materialistic science, which has brought us a sea of technical benefits, only operates with what can be seen, measured and weighed, so it will never be able to come up with a revelation of the plan. This plan lies behind the creation of the universe and is the raison d´être for our own existence. We are eternal beings on an equally eternal journey because we are all a tiny part of God. Right now, it is part of the plan for us to evolve into becoming all-loving, peaceful human beings who live to serve others. But the plan is much bigger than that and you can read about it in my books.

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We are all intuitive!

Let that sink in.

Every person has intuitive senses, thoughts, feelings and even premonitions.  Our intuition is a combination of senses that serve to positively guide us for our highest good.  Some people have a natural gift with being more sensitive and perceptive with their intuition and energy, but anyone can become highly intuitive with practice and faith.  It is something that can be more and more developed over time.

The more intuitive you become, the more peaceful your life will be.  Intuitive senses can help you make positive choices and decisions much more easily, they can help you avoid stress, avoid danger, and ultimately make your life easier and less complicated.  Being highly intuitive fosters self-care and self-reliance along with compassion and kindness.  There is truly no down side to developing your intuition and learning to trust your instincts unconditionally.

People who are naturally highly intuitive operate in a different way; they tend to lead with positivity, trust and faith instead of fear and doubt.  Highly intuitive people generally have a more developed sense of self, which supports the self-trust,needed in following your intuition.  Highly intuitive people are also faithful people; they have a sense of and belief in that which cannot be seen or traditionally proven (the metaphysical, spiritual or super natural); and they are not afraid of it.

If you have an interest in becoming more aligned with your intuition, and creating more peace in your life, there are some habits or practices you can cultivate to support those desires.  For highly intuitive people, these things might come more naturally; but truly anyone can foster them.  These practices support our highest good and will have benefits far beyond improving your intuition; they will generally improve all aspects of your life.

Here are 5 things highly intuitive people do differently (and you can too):

1.  Self-trust

Highly Intuitive people trust themselves.  This trust is not based on a complete absence of doubt, it’s comes from knowing that our instincts are based on more than what our minds can fathom.  Our intuitive instincts are based on a combination of energy sensitivity, our higher-self knowledge and our experiences.  Without trust (and faith), the intuitive instincts shut down and we tend to make fear-based decisions.  The best choices in our lives always stem from our intuition.  Developing unconditional trust in yourself is vital to increasing your intuition to higher levels.  Start by becoming more aware of how you question your judgment and discernment on a daily basis.  If you seek the counsel of several different people when making decisions, that is a sign your self-trust is lacking.  Instead, go within and use techniques like meditation to help you become more comfortable with your own counsel.  When in doubt, ask for a sign that helps you feel more confident about the intuitive feelings you are having (guardian angels in particular are great at giving us helpful signs).

2. Understand Energy

Intuitive instincts are a reaction to energy.  People who are energy sensitive tend to have a more natural and stronger connection to these instincts, but they can be heightened even if you aren’t highly energy sensitive.  Understanding that everything is energy is important, because that is the subtle way our intuition communicates to us through our senses and feelings.  Lower vibrating energy, for instance, can result in a sense or feeling of being uncomfortable.  For example, when we are being lied to (lying is very low vibrating energy), we can usually sense it in some way; I feel discomfort in my Solar Plexus chakra or stomach area.  This is a reaction to the energy, it is our intuition communicating to help guide us.  Learning about your chakras, which are energy points in our bodies, is a great start to understanding more about energy and how our bodies react to it.

3. Accept the Unexplained

Our intuition is a guidance system, not an explanation system.  There will absolutely be times you cannot explain your gut feelings about a person, situation or decision.  Highly intuitive people are just fine with not knowing every reason for their psychic feelings.  In order to truly benefit from our intuitive instincts, we have to accept that some things are beyond explanation, or maybe just not for us to know at the present moment.  Getting comfortable with the unexplained opens you up to a more unlimited mindset and aligns you with the flowing, positive energy of abundance.  This is the habit of manifesting miracles; having this kind of faith will benefit your life in so many ways.

4. Follow Intuitive Guidance

Highly intuitive people listen to and follow their intuition on a consistent basis.  This is born of self-trust, but it is so because the times we have gone against our instincts have proven to lead us to unpleasant circumstances.  Following the path you know is right for you takes a lot of self-confidence, especially if it is not the popular opinion.  Strengthening your Solar Plexus chakra can help increase your confidence and support you in following your intuition more and more.  Our intuition is guiding with no other agenda than that which is for our highest and best good.  It brings us peace because we avoid stress when we listen to our true feelings, and in turn this makes our planet more peaceful (one person at a time).

5. Avoid Toxic Energy

Highly intuitive people are more sensitive to energy, they can feel it more.  Exposure to negative energy can literally drain or fatigue them or even make them sick.  The more intuitive your become, the less tolerant you become to negative energy; this is due to a heightened awareness to energy that creates more sensitivity.  Toxic energy simply doesn’t feel good and that is because of its lower vibration.  Negative behaviors, like violence or unkindness, ignite your intuition to warn you that something is not right.  Learning to avoid toxic energy heightens your intuition even more because it allows you to more easily maintain a higher vibration; which is necessary for these senses.  It also

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When we are coping with emotional pain, past or present, or body is forced to endure a tidal wave of experiences. We lose our appetite, behave strangely, and definitely are not our usual cheery selves. It’s too bad, but it’s ok because it’s all par for the course and we all have to go through it. Sometimes when we see our tough friends soldier through something tragic we envy their strength and perseverance, but we do not see what is happening behind closed doors. We cannot pretend to be strong forever, and it is in the privacy of our homes where most people unwind and succumb to stresses.

Pain is something we cannot rush, it is something we have to deal with individually and personally. One coping mechanism to overcome emotional defeat is to try and use the critical part of our brain. Especially after it’s been a while, we start thinking quickly, over analyzing and trying to reason our way through things. We can’t do this though because our heart has no room for critical analysis!

1. Take your time

After we’ve been dealing with stress for a long time, we get tired of it and wonder is this still happening? The truth is, yes. Some people take an extra long time to get over something, and it could be you and there is nothing wrong with that. People deal with break-ups and losses differently, but we are strong and are all survivors. After such a long time though, we try to rationalize our way through it, but it just makes us more stressed out because we cannot reason our way out.

That’s because we’re not supposed to. As my grandfather used to say, “take your time,” and I stand by that advice. When we are stressed out every day feels like a year, but luckily we have thousands of days to go through. Our brain needs to keep up with life while our heart lingers on. Let it linger on – it will heal itself when it’s the right time, but forcing it to happen by using your brain will only compound things.

2. There is no schedule for healing

Just like there is no rulebook for life, there also is no schedule allotment for times of healing and recovery. Alcoholics Anonymous has been a great resource to help people overcome drinking problems using a scheduled system, but we do not have the same luxury for emotional pain. We are all on our own schedule here, and we should respect that. If someone says, “oh, are you still on about that?” you have every right to be. We need our own time to heal, and are allowed to use it.

3. Do not try to rationalize your feelings

Feelings are not like the weather. They cannot be measured, treated or examined, really. They are personal and volatile. The feelings that you have are the same ones everyone else feels, but at different degrees. Some days we wake up tired, others energized. Sometimes we feel like we need to cry for no reason, or we cannot fall asleep because we are thinking so much. The point is, do not ask yourself why it is happening, you just have to go with it. If you start trying to rationalize it, you will just perpetrate a downward spiral of self loathing and over-analyzing. Save yourself the stress by just relaxing and let the feelings go when they’re ready to. You cannot control the unexplainable.

4.  The heart needs time to heal

Strong losses sometimes take years to overcome, and if it has to be that way, then that’s the way it has to be. It’s just important not to feel like you have to rush it. Some of my friends still talk about their girlfriends or boyfriends from years ago. It’s not because they still have crazy feelings about those old relationships, but those relationships continued to shape their lives and the course of their history for all the consecutive years after.

It’s not about hanging on to baggage, but about recognizing the lasting impact of decisions and consequences in life. No one lives through a perfect life without a few mishaps, and to some degree these experiences should be taken in stride. They should be expected in life, and perhaps the ramifications are worth considering. They allow us to reflect on our feelings in personal confidence, and help us to not do the same things again. Some heartbreaks are worth hanging on to – we can learn so much about ourselves.

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