Let’s face it! Nobody’s perfect! Everybody has defects. We can only hope to improve all the time. One way to do that is to know our defects and to work on them. Some of us might already know very well the not so nice parts of our personalities, but others might need a bit of help to discover them.

Either ways, a personality test that can asses your flaws should not be missed.

Take this quick, fun and easy quiz to find out what’s your personality defect.

What’s Your Personality Defect?
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Criticism is a tough animal to take. Reaction is everything. Of course, for most of us, our first immediate reaction is to lash out, get angry, get defensive and perhaps even storm away. No one likes to be criticized, period. Others have no trouble with criticism and it barely even fazes them. They either laugh it off, brush it off or take notes.

Depending on where criticism comes from will usually influence our response. When it comes from family it’s a little harder to take. It doesn’t always have to be this way though. There are easy ways to deal with criticism. Here is a small list to help you next time you are subjected to someone’s verbal lashing.

1. Kill them with kindness.

It drives them crazy. Downright irritates them actually. How can you be so calm? They just said something really rude and ignorant in the hopes you would lash back and you didn’t. You took it like a champ. Just smile, say something polite and kind and walk away.

2. Don’t take it personally.

It usually has nothing to do with you. Most people lash out or criticize because they are dealing with inner demons or other anger issues and none of them have anything to do with you.

3. Step back to cool down.

You really want to snap back but you know that it probably won’t end well and nothing that you say is going to be very nice. Try your hardest not to respond immediately. Naturally we want to. Resist the temptation to do this.

4. Acknowledge and make it better.

If the criticism really was deserved and you know it was (perhaps an angry customer?) don’t try to justify your error. Don’t make excuses. Just apologize and correct.

5. Internet troll?

Is this where the criticism happened to come from? Let it go. They are looking for attention, a good fight and entertainment. They need someone to feed their small minds and their bullying appetite. Ignoring is the absolute best way to deal with this

6. Walk away.

Sometime you simply need to walk away. Don’t add any fuel to this fire. Some people are looking for a fight and feel you may be a good opponent. You’re not. It’s not a game you want to play. Don’t put any of your precious energy here.

7. Be gentle and curious.

Ask them where this criticism comes from and why did they feel the need to spew it out like they just did. Find out if they are in emotional pain and if there is anything you can do to help them. That will stop them dead in their tracks.

8. Dump them.

If this is a person who does this all the time perhaps it’s time to eliminate them from your life. Yes, even if it’s a family member. Family isn’t always blood, remember? Sometimes it’s completely necessary to simply avoid the criticizing toxic person. Sometimes that’s the only way.

9. Is there a lesson here?

Take a minute, before responding, to figure out if there really is something to learn or gain from this criticism. If it is deserved, then maybe it’s time you fix or change something that is long overdue. Give it some thought.

10. That look.

If it’s a family member getting out of hand at a family event, flash them that look, they know the look, the one that says that is unacceptable, without you even having to actually say it. They know. That look can go a long way in diffusing a situation and people get it.

Criticism certainly isn’t an easy pill to swallow but with the right beverage, it can go down much smoother.

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The Norse mythology is full of rich characters. Everybody has heard about Thor, the supreme deity or Valhalla the land of the dead warriors. But there are many, many more gods in the Norse pantheon. Everyone has specific powers and rules over a certain world. The nine worlds in which all beings inhabit centers around a cosmological tree, Yggdrasil. The gods inhabit the heavenly realm of Asgard whereas humanity inhabits Midgard, a region in the center of the cosmos.

Now, beside assessing the qualities you share with a Norse god, you have the opportunity to find out more about those gods an their realm.

Take just now this quick, easy quiz and find out which Norse God are you.

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Even after working 9 to 5 for the last decade, we still hate waking up in the morning. Some people were born for the morning and some of us definitely weren’t! Scientifically speaking though, we are actually all born to be “morning people.” We have something inside of us called the circadian rhythm, a natural phenomenon that tells our bodies to kick it into gear when the sun comes up, and tells us to shut down when it becomes dark out. As humans we have created a society where we need to be functional all day long, and it has been ruining our connection with our natural rhythm ever since. It’s actually quite easy to start loving the morning, and here’s a few ways to do it.

1. Go to sleep.

There’s an interesting advertisement in Canada from the Dairy Farmers of Canada that airs in between YouTube videos. It’s a 15 second short of a couple of farmers falling asleep. That’s it; it’s not trying to sell anything, it’s just pointing out some natural healthy habits. Today we are addicted to coffee, television, smartphones and anything else we can stimulate ourselves with. We need to put down the phone, and just go to sleep. Go to sleep earlier and relax your mind for a nice night’s sleep, and you will wake up hours before your alarm without expecting it.

2. Stretches!

It’s lovely to roll out of bed (and back into it), but try rolling out of bed and doing some stretches. Google a couple of big, yoga-type stretches that are easy to do and require little acrobatics, and get your blood circulating in the morning. Reach for the stars for five minutes and your body will feel ready to go as soon as you step out of your bedroom.

3. Don’t drink coffee – drink water

I know this one is hard to digest! Studies have shown that drinking coffee in the morning is a horrible habit and in fact you can find much more natural energy from sources like orange juice and fruits. When we wake up our bodies are naturally dehydrated and the last thing you should do is drink a beverage that further dehydrates you. Wake up with a glass of water before your bed and put it in you before you leave. You need to fill your brain with water so you can wake up and function properly. It’s a great feeling and you are starting your day right.

4. Do not skip breakfast.

Use Step 1 to get yourself up earlier and let yourself time to make and eat breakfast. It’s the most important meal of the day for a reason. During the morning and afternoon your body’s metabolism is at it’s fastest time in the day. You become hungrier through less energy usage and you will start to become irritable and angry throughout the day if you are not energizing yourself properly. Have a good breakfast of fruits, proteins and water-related foods (ie. not leftover pizza) and give your brain a boost for the rest of the day.

5. Watch something funny.

Many of us wake up and listen to music or watch politics and other things that interest us. Great! How about something funny? If there’s a comedian you like or a silly show that may or may not be a guilty pleasure, give yourself a dose in the morning before you leave the house. Sit down for breakfast and see something funny. It will stimulate your mind and give you a smile first thing in the morning.

6. Go for a walk.

Sometimes leaving the house is reserved for “going to work” and “going grocery shopping” but if you have 5 minutes of time to kill before your routine starts, take it to the streets. Going for a walk will get your body going and wake up your entire self. You can smell the fresh air of your neighbourhood and maybe see some of your neighbours out and about as well. You may get a dose of people, fresh air , and a bit of exercise before you get ready for work. It will make you feel like you already had a few things to do before work, when you actually didn’t. By the time it’s time for work, you will be double ready!

7. Read something inspirational.

It doesn’t have to be anything special really – just something to get your mind going. Having something to think about while you drive to work will let you think about your life and get you problem solving before you have to do anything work based. You need your whole body active in order to attack a new day – including your mind. Give your brain some brain food first thing to put yourself in second gear – at least!

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When was the last time someone neglected to remember your name?

I’ll bet it wasn’t that long ago, maybe even today.

Perhaps the individual is a neighbor with whom you’ve conversed before. Or a fellow volunteer or co-worker. Perhaps a customer or supplier.

And how did this make you feel? Slighted? Inferior? Belittled?

And what was your opinion of the person who didn’t bother to remember your name? Jerk? Fool? [Expletive deleted]?

I don’t know about you, but when someone doesn’t bother to remember my name —   particularly after we’ve encountered one another on several occasions — my estimation of the offending party is that they’re lazy and don’t really value the formation of new relationships.

Now I’m going to turn the tables. And as one of my college professors used to preface each controversial topic he was about to broach: “If I offend you, it’s completely intentional.”

When was the last time YOU neglected to remember someone’s name?

It’s okay to admit it. I’m not here to wag my finger or to otherwise judge. Suffice it to say that you’re in good company.

But I want you to remember how you felt when that most recent person neglected to remember your name — because this is how you make people feel when you neglect to remember their names.

A bit of tough love, perhaps. But I’ll pay you the compliment of being brutally honest. If we hope to make any meaningful improvements to ourselves & our lives, a little self-reflection sometimes is in order. And that goes for me, too.

Yes, I’ll freely admit that I’m one of those persons who always remembers your name. And I’ve spent a great many years perfecting this craft. And no, I do not have a photographic memory. Far from it.

Had we met at some point in the past, I may have engendered in you a sense of annoyance at my ability to remember your name — I get this reaction all the time. Or perhaps you silently admired me for this subtle compliment that I paid to you. Maybe the entire encounter sailed right over your head. It matters not.

“But honestly, Bart. What in the world has all of this got to do with the Law of Attraction?”

In a word, everything.

Permit me to explain.

We all are supremely aware that with the LOA, a positive mental attitude attracts positive experiences and circumstances and that a negative mental attitude attracts conditions which we would regard as negative or undesirable.

I’m sorry, but when other people’s names are simply not important enough for you to take the time to remember, how can this be regarded as anything but a negative mental attitude?

Meeting people for the first time, and learning their names, comprises the very bedrock (or foundation) of all relationships. Over a quarter century of personal and sales experience has proven this maxim to be utterly irrefutable.

So if you’re a practitioner of the LOA, you want to maintain a positive mental attitude towards life & living, right? Towards your fellow travelers? In spite of all the reasons you shouldn’t?

Then I’m here to impress upon you the importance of remembering people’s names as a means to attracting positive experiences & circumstances.

The pure joy that this skill has brought to me is incalculable. And I want you to share in the joy.

“But I don’t know how to develop this skill, Bart.”

Understood. But you should take solace in the fact that there are plenty of books and websites which can guide you and provide helpful techniques.

The important part is to simply recognize how critical this one simple skill is to starting, and maintaining, lasting and meaningful relationships.

And talk about enjoying an edge in business and in life? You’ll really stand out in the crowd sporting this rarefied ability.

Self-help swami Dale Carnegie, author of the timeless classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, said it best:

“If you want to win friends, make it a point to remember them. If you remember my name, you pay me a subtle compliment; you indicate that I have made an impression on you. Remember my name and you add to my feeling of importance.”

So go out and compliment some people in this fashion.

And relish all of the positive energy that you pull in.

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Manners! We learn them as children and we try to put to good use all our life. Of course, not everybody knows what to do in the most complicated situations, but everybody should have at least the basics. Unlike other things, our manners can be improved all our lives. It’s never to late to have them proper!

So, if you are not sure how mannered you are, maybe yo need an evaluation. This time, ladies only!

Take just now this quick, fun quiz and find out how ladylike are you!

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Popular statistics say that we will change our career 7 times in our life. Sometimes we need it, and sometimes we don’t. It’s hard to identify when we should change our job. There are a lot of factors involved that should be considered – sometimes we feel like we really need a change and sometimes we lose focus of how lucky we are to have what we do. It’s a serious issue for a lot of people and definitely worth the consideration. Some of us have worked at our job for many, many years. It’s our life, socially and financially. Here are a few things to consider before making any crazy decisions.

If you love what you do, you’ll never have to work a day in your life.

1. Do you have it good?

When I was in my twenties I had a very good job. I didn’t know how good it was, or how good I had it there, but I knew I was doing well for a boy in his early twenties. I went on with my savings to travel and enjoy my life after that , but when the going went tough afterwards it was when I really woke up and realized how good I had it. Although I enjoyed all the time I took off afterwards, nothing could rep lace the upward momentum I had at that first job. When I returned to work I was fortunate enough to retain my position and continue my progress – but with the humble realization that I had it much better than my peers. I was lucky to get my job back, and am still thankful to this day. It’s the realization that’s important.

2. Are you really having a bad day?

We all have bad days at work. Sometimes it’s not even the work that’s the problem; maybe we stubbed our toe before work and everything see med to go downhill after that, or we woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Before you feel like quitting your job, remember all the bad days you had, but take note of all the good days. The normal days where nothing special happened, or the great days where you made a customer very happy – these all outshine your bad days heavily. Remember that you will have bad days anywhere you go. If you have a job now, be grateful that you do and remind yourself that at least at this job you know how to handle the bad days like an adult.

3. Do you feel undervalued?

You have been working there for years, but you never feel like you have been given the respect you deserve, or the shifts you want. As you have become a staple of the store, you seem to have blended into the wallpaper as well. New employees are complimented on their learning efforts, and good work ethic is simply expected of you. Before you have a meltdown and quit your job, calm the steam and just talk to your supervisor. In an adult workplace, anything can be solved by acting like adults. Our brash emotions unfortunately don’t stop in adulthood and we still have strong feelings throughout our life. Instead of acting impulsively by making huge, life changing decisions, have a small staff meeting with your peers & supervisors and let everyone help you release the steam. Your boss will applaud you for being open, and remember to support you at work. Ask for a raise if you feel like you deserve it. There’s no harm in asking for anything.

4. Every job is a job

You have been working for years, and you are downright tired of it. Well, the reality is, you will also have to work for many more years! We’re not allowed to stop, and when you do stop, trust me, it’s not so pretty! Remember that if you are tired of your job and get a new one, that one will just be a job too. It will be a job with new bosses, new routines you may or may not like, new habits and new everything. But it will still be a job. If you are tired of your job now, just take a break. You can take a few weeks off – just ask. If that doesn’t work, demand it. You’re allowed to do that. Go somewhere for a bit, switch up your routine, do something exciting. But don’t leave your job because trust me you will just become bored of the next one too. Just try to enjoy every day.

5. Be grateful for your job.

I know, you’ve been there for 11 years too long already. But make an effort to remind yourself that you are grateful you have that luxury. Some people are from countries that have populations of over 100 million, where overpopulation and unemployment issues are massive. In our country people also struggle to find jobs, and kids are certainly having a hard time too. Be grateful you have somewhere to call “work” and be proud of yourself for it. You worked for it.

6. Take pride in what you do.

If you can be proud of what you do, you will be happy at work everyday. Take pride in the satisfaction you give customers for your service (no matter how grumpy they can be) and take pride in the solutions you offer to customers and other employees. If you’re proud at what you do, you are good at what you do, and if you are good at what you do, you are valuable. You are making a contribution to society and it is not going unnoticed. Thank you for that.

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Who doesn’t like movies? They make us dream, they influence us more than we can imagine!Of course, we all want to be the hero, the leading character on the big screen. And, in a way we are. We are playing the main role in our own movie, our life.

If we are not some celebrity the chances to see our life in theaters are low. Of course, we can make our own show, and thanks to the internet we can share it with others .But will it be a box office success? Until you start it, you might wanna know if something similar was already made.

Take just now this fun, quick quiz and find out which movie is actually based on your life!

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