The Simple Secret to Taking Massive Action Every Day

“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” Tony Robbins

The recipe to achieve what you want the most can be distilled down to taking action. Success is simply the result of many actions stacked on top of each other. Success demands massive action with purpose.

It requires consistent action until you get the results you want. It requires determined action when things aren’t going your way. It requires persistent action when you feel defeated by the many obstacles and challenges.

take_actionThat’s the price you have to pay to achieve your most important goals.

Often, we put up a solid effort but still fall short of the goal. When the setbacks derail us from success, we say things like, “I’ll buckle down and get it done next time. I’ll dig down deeper. I’ll be more motivated.”

The right answer to failure isn’t to try harder next time. The ideal response isn’t to change everything in your life. There’s a simpler, more effective solution: supercharge your results by setting bigger, better, and more inspiring goals.

Price of Success

To achieve meaningful goals, you need a clear road map and effective strategies. You need to persevere past the never-ending problems and setbacks that arise. You need to put in work when you don’t feel like it.

You need to put in work when you’re uncertain about the results it will produce. You need to put in work even though you will not reap rewards for months or years.

The price of success is paid with patience, sacrifice, and hard work. The price you’re willing to pay is determined by how much you want to succeed.

If you sort of want to achieve a goal, you’ll need enormous amounts of motivation and willpower. You’ll have to push yourself forward. Even then, you probably won’t have the level of commitment that’s necessary to overcome the most challenging obstacles.

When you don’t get your desired results, it’s tempting to make wholesale changes in your life. It’s tempting to look for a fresh start by moving to a different city or finding a new job.

It’s tempting to set out to replace all your bad habits with better habits: defeat procrastination, wake up earlier, stop complaining, and develop better mindsets.

Cultivating these habits will improve your life. A fresh start will give you a clean slate to build your dream life on. It would take years to overhaul your life though. There’s a simpler way to get the results you want.

Instead of trying to change everything at once, look for one change that can produce meaningful improvements and boost your results. Making one change is doable. That’s a plan you can carry out effectively.

Supercharge Your Action

“The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you’ve found it.” Steve Jobs

Uninspired effort indicates that the goals you’re pursuing aren’t worth the price that’s required to achieve them. When you want something, you do whatever it takes to get it. It’s that simple.

You display the whatever it takes level of commitment when it comes to your hobbies and passions. You pursue them without seeking money or praise. You pursue them with relentless and supercharged action and effort.

When you’re immersed in your passions, the hours fly by like seconds. The rest of the world stops moving. The work feels effortless. You feel alive and electric when you get in a flow state.

I’m usually up in my head. I analyze and evaluate every interaction and decision. When I’m playing basketball, all my worries disappear. On the court, my actions are spontaneous. My instincts take over. I react instantaneously to what’s happening on the court.

I’m singularly focused on what I need to do to help my team win the game. The only rewards for winning are high fives from teammates and the right to stay on the court to compete against the next challengers.

I play through discomfort and pain for those rewards. I play to the point of exhaustion. My effort, commitment, and dedication are a level 10.

When you’re passionate about something, you don’t need to force yourself to take action. You don’t need to search for motivation or inspiration. You find or make time for that activity.

The secret to taking action every day is not motivation, mindsets, or habits. They’re important. They’re not enough though. The way to take massive action in an effortless manner is to set better goals. Set exciting, compelling, and inspiring goals. Set goals that ignite you.

Chase Goals that Fuel You

When your goals set your soul on fire, you constantly think about how to achieve them. You creatively and resourcefully evaluate obstacles from every angle to determine the best way to overcome them.

Each problem you solve gets you one step closer to your desired results. Making progress is exhilarating and thrilling because of how much you want to achieve the goal. It’s not a grind or a chore.

You don’t need additional motivation or willpower. It’s the opposite. You have to add constraints to keep yourself from working or thinking about the goal all the time.

Top performers provide great examples to model. They’re driven by a burning desire to succeed. This drive leads them to put in intense work when no one is watching.

Steph Curry, the best shooter in NBA history, makes 500 shots a day during the offseason. Tom Brady, one of the best quarterbacks in NFL history, performs at the highest level because of his methodical training and preparation: strict diet, cognitive exercises, regimented sleep schedule, and workouts that keep him in peak physical condition.

Tony Robbins is one of the most successful life coaches and strategists in the world. His presence, passion, and energy are unmatched. His commitment to excellence is exhibited by his desire to improve constantly and do more for others than anyone else.

Top performers like Steph, Tom, and Tony don’t have a larger tank of motivation, energy, and drive than everybody else. They simply have a deep sense of meaning and mission. They direct their energy towards goals that fuel them.

Find goals you deeply care about. Find goals you’re passionate about. Then, you’ll be driven to take massive action every day.

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8 Interesting Enough Reasons To Travel More

Travelling isn’t everyone’s thing. I get that. Many of us are quite content to stay in our own backyards where it’s nice and safe, sitting by the bonfire, looking up at the stars. It’s safe, it’s cozy and it’s home. Why leave? Then there are those who love to pack a bag and go. Go on an adventure to any town, city, country, continent.

For those who are still on the fence about travelling and might be gently persuaded to do a bit of travelling, here are some interesting enough reasons why you might want to add travel to your bucket list.

travel_more1. I’ve tried that.

You’ve seen the surfers on TV, the paddle boarders, the water skiers. You’ve always wanted to do it but never had the chance. Wouldn’t it be nice to finally get to one of those places, do it and finally be able to say you’ve done it? You can tell the story of the adventure, knock it off your list.

2. Experience people.

From around the world. Make new friends. Hear great stories of travel and intrigue. Get ideas for your next trip. There is more to this world then the town or city you live in. Get out and explore it, see it, love it. Take pictures of it and tell your family and friends I’ve been there! It’s a great feeling when you can say that.

3. Broaden your horizons.

That may sound slightly vague but there really i s so much to learn, see and experience. Get out of your comfort zone and go see what the people in the town next to you are doing. There might be a great little festival happening or weekend market. Go across the pond and check out some other countries, if you can. Find out what it really is like over there.

4. Go live life.

Outside of your back yard bonfires. There is so much to see and do in life that it’s a shame to see it only from your yard. What do the people do in the evenings in Spain? What about Thailand? Maybe no one watches TV and they are out strolling along the park. There is something cool to see in every place you go.

5. Try that.

You’ve eaten Mexican food at Taco Bell for years but you know that’s not true Mexican food. Wouldn’t it be fantastic to actually eat Mexican food in Mexico? Served up by Mexicans, with that true Mexican taste? Of course it would. Go and do that. Maybe you’ve always loved Indian cuisine. Head on over there then.

6. Discover you.

There are many things you will learn about yourself as you travel. Some things may very well surprise you. Maybe you had no idea that all this time, you really love hiking up and adventuring up volcanoes. Or you might have discovered that orphan ages pulled your heart strings and now you have a new mission in life. When travelling, especially alone, you will discover parts of you you never knew you had. And it will be wonderful.

7. Appreciate what you have.

You may end up in a third world country and h ave your eyes and mind blown wide open. Maybe you’ve been complaining for years about your shit life and your recent trip to El Salvador just made you realize that you have everything you need and are wonderfully blessed. Sometimes we need that eye opener to get it and to appreciate what we have.

8. Go it alone.

If you can. Go on at least one trip by yourself. Face so me of your own fears, plan your travels and go. Many of us have fears of flying, being alone and other things. When we face them, they are easier to manage every time they show up. Get in your car or book your plane ticket and go. This method of travel forces you to be brave and also to speak to other people and make new friends too.

Travelling doesn’t have to break the bank either. If you aren’t up for global travel, get in your car and head off to the next town. You might be surprised, pleasantly, by what you find and discover there.

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What Type Of Spirit Do YOU Have?

We all have different spirit types depending on our level of development: emotionally, psychologically and spiritually.  As we get older we tend to develop the spiritual side of ourselves as we learn to let go of the past and learn how to deal with people on a different level.

This quick, fun quiz will tell you what type of spirit you have.

Take the quiz just now to determine what type of spirit you have.

What Type Of Spirit Do YOU Have?

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7 Questions To Ask Yourself In Your 50’s

It’s the halfway point. Being slightly optimistic here on the chance that you get to live to 100. If you want to that is. But we’re at the halfway mark. This is how I gauge it. First half of life is done and over with, last half coming up now. What do we do with it? Oh, so many answers to that question. And so many other questions to ask yourself as you move through your 50’s.

I like to think that first 50 was learning, growing, evolving, changing and semi settling in to the real you. Once you’ve established that person, it’s time to go live. Ironically and sadly enough, many divorces happen at this point. The turning point. The point where both parties have realized they are both growing, but in different directions. It’s not surprising really. Sometimes, one party grows and the other one doesn’t. Growth and change are very important.

50_s_birthdaySo what are some of the questions the 50+ people should be asking themselves as they trip through life?

1. What have I missed?

Did you miss something somewhere along the way? A chance to study something, learn a new language, meet your true soulmate maybe. Did you miss out on learning to play a new instrument? It’s not too late. You still have time to go do all that and you should.

2. Am I happy?

Truly, are you? How do you feel day in and day out? Are you miserable everyday but throw in the odd fake smile here and there or are you smiling all day and life really is good? How happy are you, really? Being happy is a pretty important. No one deserves to live a life in misery.

3. Do I know what my purpose is yet?

Have you discovered your purpose yet? We all have one. We all have that one or two reasons why we are here. Our soul purpose, our life’s calling. Do you know what yours is yet? You still have time to discover it. Lots of time. Go and do new things and see if something sparks a passion in you. Chances are, something will.

4. How much longer?

Do you have you to stay in the job you’re at. Maybe you love your job and retirement will be sad. Maybe you can’t stand your job and can’t wait til the day you can tell your boss to, well you get the idea. If you are at that point of counting down days to the end, is there something else you can do to make work life more enjoyable? Remember we aren’t stuck anyway, everything is temporary and money is only a means.

5. Do I have to?

Try to please everyone all the time? Nope you sure don’t. You actually never did have to, you just did. It’s your time now. It’s your time to live your life the way you want. It’s time to start breaking the chains and binds that are holding you back from the life you deserve. It’s time to start making you happy and leave everyone else to their own defenses. You’ve been towing the line long enough. Let it go.

6. Can I really?

Yes, you sure can. Whatever it is you are asking yourself, if you can dream it, think it then you can believe in it and have it. Many of those in their 50’s think they are too old to do or try new things. On the contrary, this is the perfect time for you to start and try new things. You are a sponge. A very happy eager sponge, ready and willing to take in all things new. Yes, you can really do new things, try new things and go new places, even if all that means by yourself. Face your fears, flick them away and go live life.

7. Have I been taking good care of myself so far?

If you haven’t, it’s never too late to start. You have to start somewhere right? If you have bad eating habits or drink or smoke too much or do anything else that is harming your body physically and or emotion ally, today might be the day to start to change all that. You’re also in an age period where things are going to show signs of abuse, if they haven’t already. Your skin, your heart, your teeth, your soul. All of that is starting to break down. You can get them back up again. do it.

Aging doesn’t have to be dreadful and or depressing. Some people age beautifully. It’s not the end of the world, in fact, a whole new world for you is opening up and showing itself to you. Embrace it.

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The 4 Best Ways To Save Yourself From Regret In Life

Regret. It’s presumable the number one feeling you preferably want to avoid in your life. Regret is defined as feeling sorry or sad about something that you did or did not do. Did you fully comprehend the previous sentence? Regret is somehow always bad. On the one hand if you did something that you wish you didn’t do you’ll feel miserable. On the other hand if you didn’t do something that you in fact wanted to do then you’ll also feel miserable. That’s why everyone wants to avoid regret, but unfortunately not everybody is successful in doing so. Therefore, let’s take a look at what the best ways are to save yourself from regret.

breakdown_11. Put it in perspective

Most people have a hard time with putting things in perspective. Most people never know how strong they are and what they’re capable of, because they lead their lives by limiting beliefs. They’ve created these limiting beliefs by themselves because someone once told them they couldn’t do something or they might have had a bad experience in the past. However, most things aren’t as bad or as frightening as they might seem. Often it’s the mind that distorts our reality. The best way to find if you’re making situations worse than they really are is by ‘stepping out’ of your biased mind and look at something you’re scared off with a fresh perspective.  ‘Getting out’ of your mind might sound crazy, but I encourage you to try it. When you do, ask yourself questions that put the situation into perspective. For example; is it really that frightening or is my mind making things up and what is it that I’m really afraid of? These questions will relax you and make you think more clearly. Most of the time when people put ‘things in perspective’ they start to realize that it’s not their inability to do something that’s holding them back, but that it’s their mindset that’s holding them back.

2. An ‘Oops’ Is better than A ‘What if’

In twenty years from now, you’ll be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did do. You’ll come across many opportunities in your life and not one will ever happen twice. It’s normal to be in doubt about something. However, the people who tell you about all the potential risks that are involved in something you would like to do are often even more scared than you are. Their fears ‘feed’ the doubt that you may already have. To prevent that from happening you need to remember one thing; the worst thing that can happen is that you fail. So what?

Failure is one of the best teachers to gain new experiences and valuable insights. You might think that this is a too optimistic perspective on life. However, instead of thinking about it like that, see it rather as an inspiring and an ever improving perspective on life.

3. Communicate & listen

How often did you wish that you said something more precisely or explained yourself more clearly? Or maybe you said something on accident out loud that wasn’t meant to be heard for a certain person. These are just a few examples of regret that almost everyone can relate to. So how can you prevent this from happening? By communicating and listening. The words that are unsaid and issues that remain unresolved will haunt you for the rest of your life until you start to make change in approach on how you treat people. Try to approach for example the conversation with the mindset as if this was the last time ever that the two of you spoke to each other. Many issues can be resolved by just listening diligently and communicating without accusing or judging.

4. Be real

Being unhappy and pretending like everything is okay is one of the worst things you can do. Not only is it bad for your own well-being, but you’re also lying to your loved ones. You might expect that they will find eventually if they truly know you. Although it’s true that some people who know you well enough can see through the act, they still need to be willing to take the effort and to have the courage to ask if there is something wrong with you. If you do this you’re making it their responsibility when in fact it’s your own. Your family/friends or maybe even both may not like this fake attitude and it can really have a negative impact on your social life. The best way to prevent this from happening is by being real. Maybe now your social circle won’t always like what they see, but they respect you for not pretending that everything is fine. You’ll prevent the occurrence of feeling guilty, mad and maybe even betrayed.

You’ll have to make a lot of tough choices and decisions in your life. Of course you would like to make the right ones since no one wants to look back at their life and wonder what would happen if they did things differently. However, the truth is that you can’t always know that you’ll make the right call, because no one knows what happens tomorrow. Despite the possibility of making a wrong decision, you can always base a decision on the right intentions. And that will be far more important in retrospect, because in the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take!

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6 Things To Do When You Are Stuck With A Manipulator

That word makes us cringe. The thought of being stuck with anybody or anything really is horrible but what happens when it’s a manipulator? People say you aren’t stuck anywhere and for the most part, they are right. If you don’t like where you are move, you’re not a tree. Right? Sometimes it’s not that easy. You are required or obligated to stay where you are. Whatever the case may be, you are in a room and you are with a manipulator and you are stuck. What now?

Manipulative people know their gift. They aren’t stupid. Understand this right now, they know they are manipulators they probably just don’t call it that. They know exactly how to make people do what they want, when they want as often as they want. You aren’t the first to get caught in their web and you won’t be the last. Happens to the best of us. The positive side of this, if you can even find one, is that there are ways to deal with this type of people.

controlling_partner1. If it’s just you and them alone in a room, just nod and agree.

Only of course, if you aren’t agreeing to anything that will hurt you or anyone else. Just let them go on and ramble and come up with whatever ridiculous plan they have and let them be. It is pointless in trying to argue any reason into them so don’t even bother. If the manipulator is your partner it might be time for you to come up with your own plan soon.

2. No need to argue.

It’s an argument you won’t win if winning is the end result you are looking for. It won’t happen. You are probably right and have all the logic but that will all fall on deaf ears. The manipulator is also never wrong and always right. Remember that now and it will save you tons of grief, frustration and days of tears and anger. You can’t argue with a manipulator.

3. State your case and your opinions too.

Let them know that you have a voice, be diplomatic, and have your say. If they have pushed you too far then flip to your stand your ground mode. There’s nothing wrong with doing that. The only problem is, they may or may not listen to you or care what you have to say. You could be wasting your breath. Remember #2. Be calm, assertive but not argumentative or aggressive.

4. Everything is temporary.

Even the time you have to spend with this person right now, it will come to an end soon, unless it’s your partner, then your problem is much bigger. If it is only a family gathering or a one-night event or something of the sort, you will be done with them soon. Before you know it, you will be back home and detoxing all that negative energy.

5. Let’s talk.

Is it possible to discuss this situation with this person? Sometimes it is and you may have great success so don’t discount that route. Try and talk to them and let them know their behaviour is uncalled for and how it makes you feel. If the manipulator happens to be your partner, maybe they will try to get help for whatever their situation is. You won’t know until you talk about it and find out. Get to the root of the matter. Work together if you can. People can change.

6. Talk to a friend.

Is there some way you can deal with this person that maybe you aren’t aware of yet? Maybe someone you know has been through this exact same thing and they can help you. Seek out the advice of guidance of a friend you know who has been involved with a manipulator and what tools they used to handle them. It just might make your encounters more enjoyable, if anything.

Manipulative people may not be the nicest people to deal with, but like any other person, there is always a positive and loving side to them. They know this too. They are charmers. Though it certainly isn’t pleasant to deal with them, it s also not impossible. If they need help, subtly offer it to them and let it go.

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5 Things To Do When You Feel Your Energy Has Been Sucked Out Of You

You’ve had this happen before. More than once. You’ve been to a party or a gathering where there were numerous people there and each and every one of them sucked a little bit more out of you than you would have liked. They were time vampires and you were a wonderful sieve for them to draw from. The trouble is, you are home now and exhausted. Not only exhausted but you feel heavy, very heavy, and you’re not really sure why.

The heaviness you feel is simple other people’s energies and it’s time to let them go. Release them if you will. You’ve been carrying them long enough. When we pick up on other people’s energies, and I must say that not everyone can, but for those of you who can, it is easy to block energies. For others? Not so much. We take it all in and by the end of the night we’re done. We’ve picked up almost everyone we’ve come in contact with, the good the bad and the ugly.

So what do we do now? How can we dump this energy or better yet, can’t we just shield from all this? You can shield yourself, indeed, by imagining a shield all around you, choose whatever material you like, and keep it securely around you so no one can break through it. Easy way to shield yourself. So if you have trouble shielding, what do we do with all this toxic energy?

negative_energy_11. Breath deep.

For as long as you have to. Breath in good energy, breath out the bad. Sounds simple because honestly it really is. All you are wanting to do at this moment is simply get rid of the negative energy. All you have to do is blow it out through y our mouth into cyber space. This way too, that energy won’t hurt anyone else that night either.

2. Ignore.

Sounds kind of mean actually to just ignore the person you are with but really it’s not. You’re in the same room, you’re listening, sort of, you’re just not engaging as much as they would like you to. It’s all good. You engage as much as you want and when they get into negative energy mode you can either politely walk away or diplomatically ask them to change topics. No one deserves to hear shit like, all the time.

3. Isolate yourself.

An hour, a day, a week a month. However long it will take you, do it. Spend time alone to get all their energy out of you so you don’t come across as an angry person to all your friends and family. Spend time alone listening to Zen like music, reading, or anything else nice and quiet. Just be with you, in the moment and zone out.  This will be a great clearing exercise too.

4. Smudge.

You don’t just have to smudge your space; you can also smudge your body too. Sometimes that’s very necessary to do. When we take in too much energy from others around us, especially after a large event or party, the only way to cleanse yourself from all that is a full out smudging ceremony with your whole body. You will feel a mil lion times better. If the event happened to be at your place, then by all means, smudge your house too . It definitely won’t hurt.

5. Reach out.

To a friend, that one trusted friend you have who totally gets you and is always just a phone call away. That one friend that has been there from elementary school to the birth of your first born. They get you. You need them. Call them. Sometimes just talking it out helps to release all the negative vibes that are sitting inside of you. When we talk it out we can hear ourselves discussing it and realize that some things we picked up on, are about us, not them.

No one likes to have the energy sucked out of us and some of us don’t even realize it is happening until too late. Before you pollute everyone else’s energy, clear your own. You’ll feel a million times better after too!

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7 Powerful Ideas For A More Successful Life!

Everyone wants to live a more powerful life…

Everyone wants more success in one or more areas of life.  It is the way we are designed – to continually expand.

However most people do not look at the areas of their life that need assistance and so they passively create a life that does not fulfill them.

That does not have to be you!

Here are 7 questions to ask yourself to make sure you are on track to creating a deliberately, fulfilling and successful life.  It is a deliberate choice, you know!

happiness_11. Do you care too much about the opinions of others?

If you find yourself always checking your activity based on what you feel a friend, family member, partner may say if you step out of the norm and do something different, then you will find it hard to create success.

Realise that most people do this and most people get a mediocre life.  If you want something different, get deliberate about being bold.

2. Are you intimate with your higher power?

Most people do not like religion but most people know there is more out there.  However, bad experiences with religion may cause you to deny this part of you.  Denying something does not make it disappear and it takes a lot of energy to deny something you do actually believe in.

Instead, choose to cultivate an intimate relationship with Spirit and tap into the wisdom of the ages.  This will prove priceless as you deliberately choose to create a successful life.  Ideas for business and personal development will bubble up within you when you willingly choose to tap into spirit and intuition.  You will no longer give away to the opinions of people you once considered more wise than you because now, you have a direct line connection with source.

3. Are you stifling your sexual energy?

This is another powerful area of humanity.  And most people seek to stifle it because they feel ashamed of their sexuality.  They forget that this energy births new life.  And it can birth new ideas, new strategies, new relationships.  All of this can cause you to experience more success in your life experience.

Stop stifling and start stirring it up.  Your sexuality was not some mistake tacked onto you by the universe.  No, it is a source of power – Tap into it!

4. Are you procrastinating?

Most people act as though they have limitless amounts of time to start living the successful life they dream of.  We are not Edward Cullen of Twilight Series fame, we do not have eternity in this form.  If we are to make our lives count, then we have to start now.  There is no more time left to live the wrong life.

Procrastination must go!  It is time to live!

5. Are you holding onto your past story?

Every successful leader has a history and that history can be used to propel them forward or to hold them back.  What will it be for you?  Will you keep using your sad past as heavy baggage that keeps you from moving forward into a more powerful experience of life?  Or will you deliberately choose to use the fact that you have overcome a lot as a story that inspires, motivates and continues to push you forward to greater heights?

You have the choice!

6.  Do You Have A Strategy?

It is not enough to have dreams and visions!  You also have to translate those into actions that give you the result you want.  If you are an entrepreneur at heart and a lot of leaders are, then you will need to have a communication strategy that will enable you to reach the people you feel called to serve…

You will need a way to capture the information of people you are called to serve so that you can continually follow up with them…

You will also need to be willing to offer something for sale on a daily basis in order to get people to buy from you.  That is how you will create financial success.  Bear in mind that the more people you serve, the more money you make.  It is not something to hold back from but instead take responsibility for the fact that you have something that can help people so put a strategy in place to reach those people.

7. Do you believe in yourself?

At the heart of most people’s in ability to create success for themselves is an underlying lack of belief in their ability to make it happen.  If you are going to be different from the majority of people, you will have to deliberately cultivate self-belief.  It will not hit you on the head, you have to choose it!

And you can choose to start now.  Will you?

It is time to fight for and to deliberately design the life you are born to live.

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8 Ridiculously Easy Ways To A Woman’s Heart

Ridiculously easy? Can it really be? We all think that women are one of the most complex beings on the planet, and they probably are. Whether or not complex is the right word is anyone’s guess really. They are a rare breed and a delightful mix of beauty, brains and a bit of brawn. I wonder if sometimes they keep things complicated to keep us on our toes? Whatever the case, there are easy ways to get to a woman’s heart.

Men often shake their heads in bewilderment desperately trying to figure out what their next step, or even their first step, should be in getting the attention of the woman they have been admiring for some time now. What on earth do these beautiful beings truly desire and how easy is it to get to their hearts?

quotes_on_love1. Be kind.

Not just to them but to others around you. If you are out on a dinner date with her she is going to be watching exactly how you treat the people around you. Don’t be an arse. She’ll pick up on that immediately and you’ll be dumped as soon as she gets home. You want to win her heart and keep her? Just be nice, really.

2. Compliment her.

Not endlessly or in a fashion that you feel is almost expected, but in a sincere genuine way. If you love her dress, tell her. If you think she smells wonderful, tell her. Don’t be afraid to tell her exactly how you feel, at that moment (provided it’s nice). Ladies love to be complimented. Actually, most of us do like to hear nice things every now and then.

3. Be patient.

She’s going to run late, she’s going to want to stop everywhere, she’s going to have emotional moments for no good reason. Be patient with her. If you lack patience, then maybe you should set your sights on a gal that doesn’t require a lot of patience to be with. If she senses, even in the slightest, that you are running out of patience, then she will know, you are not the guy for her.

4. Random nothing stuff.

You know, the odd text, the flowers for no reason, even the “get dressed we’re going on a weekend adventure”. Women love to know that you are thinking about them and your little actions will prove to them that they are, in fact, on your mind. Don’t be shy to send out that text.

5. Take control.

They like a take charge kinda guy. One who knows exactly where to go, what time it starts and where we’re going after. Don’t leave too many decisions to them. They don’t always want to make decisions. Sometimes they want everything taken care of for them. Don’t forget though, some women need some time to get ready so give them ample warning so they know what to wear.

6. Tolerate her family.

If you can go hang out with Uncle Gerry and Aunt Terry and not lose your shit, you’re in her good books. Family is important to her and though she may have a Jerry Springer family, she still loves and adores her family and doesn’t want to be with someone who will bitch and complain every time they have to spend time with. If you love and tolerate her family as much as she does, you’re a keeper in her eyes.

7. Give her space.

As much as she needs, when she needs it. Don’t worry, you will definitely get your space too. As much as women love to be coddled and pampered and adored, they also need their own time, their alone time and their time with their friends. Contrary to popular belief, they don’t all want to be snuggled into your back pocket. Some, not all.

8. Be vulnerable.

Don’t be afraid to show some emotions. Show them who you are. Sure they love a tough guy but they also like to see a softer and sweeter side to their man. The vulnerable, innocent, sensitive one. If you are that guy, show her. She needs to know her man is real and raw. Not always putting on a mask or a game face. Show her all of you.

Now these are only 8 tips to get to a woman’s heart and I’m sure there are a million more but try these ones out for starters and see how any of them work for you. Women really aren’t that complicated at all when they are with the right partner.

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6 Reasons To Trust Your Intuition

Our human intuition is unique to us all individually and as a group. It’s what lets us make good decisions, choose what to eat, how to dress, and what to say in social situations. It lets us know when we want to be with a large group and when we need some alone time. Unfortunately, by lieu of past choices or alternate events, some people among us no longer trust their intuition. Perhaps it lead them astray before and they are afraid to make decisions today; or maybe they were never equipped with the guidance needed to develop a healthy sense of intuition. Let’s take a look at some reasons you definitely should trust yourself.

intuition21. You are the only you

The only person with the uniquely beautiful sense of intuition that you have in the world, is you! We here hope this isn’t a breakthrough. Be proud of the fact that you are the only person who can make decisions for yourself. Maybe it’s something we take for granted. Outside of the culture we live in, people in many countries live under oppressive rule or still follow very strict family based cultural styles. Imagine how deteriorating it would be to your intuition if you had to live by the rules of the government – or if you still lived with your strict parents!

2. Cut out the filler

Intuition helps us get right to the point. Instead of overthinking this and that, or analyzing simple situations like it was a Rubik cube, our intuition and gut instinct together let us capture the right feel for the moment and make us comfortable with who we are. The more you develop your gut instinct, the better you will feel about your self and the better you will be at trusting your gut. Soon, you will never second guess yourself!

3. Getting yourself out of trouble

Ever get the feeling that “ something isn’t right ”? A fishy situation causes our brain to go into overdrive with trying to discern the problem, get ting a feel for what reaction you should be having, and trying to assess a positive solution. Our intuition is what we use to avoid or get out of situations like this, and let us carry on stress free. Don’t fret about fear of missing out on something, if you didn’t have a good feeling about it in the first place. If you find out any bad news later, you have your intuition to thank.

4. Recognize your inner voice

Intuition is a tiny little voice in our head that serves as our moral guidance. And it’s worth listening to! The more you trust your intuition, the more you trust yourself and the better you will become at guiding yourself subconsciously. The more time you spend honing your inner voice, the less time you will spend on the fence about anything. You can quickly follow your gut instinct and your moral compass will be better honed for the path that is best for you.

5. Learn more

Furthermore, the better guided your moral compass is, the more you will learn about yourself. You will learn how to instantly decide important decisions and make day to day choices. You will trust yourself and be more confident; it will show in the way you present yourself in daily situations and your co-workers and peers will notice immediately.

6. Be more comfortable being yourself

At the end of the day, the most important thing we can do in our life, is be the best we can be. Learn about yourself by engaging your moral compass on a day to day basis, rediscovering the touch with your intuition and engaging your instincts. Be proud of who you are and remember that practice makes perfect. We don’t go through life without a couple of hiccups, and all can always be forgiven. Learn to forgive your self and try again. Keep going. Tune into your intuition for your everyday choices and stay the course faithfully. Years in the future you will be thankful that you let yourself trust your instincts, because you will have a successful and prosperous life. And if you are not satisfied yet, you must keep going. Eventually your intuition will harmonize properly. Learning more about yourself is a daily effort, and we practice it everyday by allowing ourselves to make mistakes, and recover. By the end of it all, I guarantee, you will be the best version of yourself ever.

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