The world is sleeping.

Even though it’s clicking, liking and sharing, interaction on a deeper human level is lacking for many of us. Rates of loneliness and depression are rising in the Western world ( Data) even though our connectedness is better than ever before.

According to a 2013 article in Canadian publication The Globe and Mail, 25 percent of Canadians say they feel lonely. In the United States, 40 percent of people say they feel lonely, a number which has doubled in the past 30 years.

Modern-Day Zombies

Zombies are fictional, of course — they’re mindless, reanimated human corpses with a hunger for human flesh. Anyone who’s seen an episode of The Walking Dead knows what we’re talking about.

But in today’s society, we’re becoming more like the zombies we see stumbling around on our television screens. We resemble the living dead in the way we are present with our family or friends, but so far removed as we gaze into our phones and scroll through Facebook and Instagram posts, hardly aware we’re surrounded by humans who love us.

Meanwhile, we’re fighting obesity, depression and loneliness even though we have a gym on every corner and healthy food on the shelves of our local stores. Why do we feel so disconnected and distant in such a connected world? Why are we living like the dead?

The Science Behind Our Loneliness

There’s a reason why we go into a zombie-like coma after using social media, and Facebook in particular. A study by two German universities showed that 1 out of every 3 people using Facebook “feel worse after visiting the site and feel more dissatisfied with their lives.”

Another study showed users with low self-esteem and high narcissism use Facebook more frequently, for longer periods of time and post more self-promotional material.

Eventually, with enough scrolling, posting and liking we become unconscious of our own mental patterns and choices.We are running on autopilot, and for many, it creates a mental state I like to call “zombie”.

Here’s a checklist to determine if you or a loved one is turning into a zombie:

1. You’re sleeping through everyth…zzzzz…..

You don’t like your life, the people in it, or yourself, so you switch your brain into off mode. Autopilot. Time-lapse wonderland.

Suddenly you find out you have no idea how this week, month and year — or a decade, if you’re a pro zombie — disappeared.

You escape life through daydreaming, addictions, overeating, and anything else you can find to numb out the noise of reality. You silence your emotion, too, which is the tuning fork to by which we experience reality in real time.

2. Narrow focus

Modern-day zombies don’t waste their energy on trying to be happy — it’s too costly and draining. Instead, they use reptile reasoning to make it through the day. Like an alligator, snake or other creepy/slimy ground dweller, their interactions with the world are focused on three thoughts:

Can I eat it?
Can I have sex with it?
Will it kill me?

We’re not kidding when we say reptile brain, either. Experts call it the “old brain”, an ancient part of your mind linked to our basic human instincts.

Behavioral science specialist Susan Weinschenk says “the job of your old brain is to constantly scan the environment and answer the questions: ‘Can I eat it? Can I have sex with it? Will it kill me?’ That’s really all the old brain cares about: food sex and danger.”

If this focus gets too extreme, addictions get added to the list and you take your zombieness to another level, cutting out empathy and self-respect to support a habit that makes your brain and body addicted to escaping reality.

3. Reality Check

You may not be a zombie by technical definition, but you pretty much try to eat people alive when they point out your strange, act-like-the-dead behavior. Do any of these sound like you?

You get angry when people remind you about your behavior or lifestyle.
You are scared of change, and since you can’t control your mind, you react to fear with anger.
You lack true empathy because empathy does not support your own behavior.
You attack others, gossip and lie in order to support your mindset.
You are insanely jealous of people who have things you want because it reminds you of the reality you want.

4. Zombified Responses: Run, Attack or Denial

Zombies don’t like to be confronted about their behavior. Since they are in reptile brain mode, they see questions about their behaviors as an attack. Only two responses exist: attack, or run.

To simplify a complex world, you make blueprints to handle situations that are meant to wake you from your zombie state.

5. Zombies Are Your Only Friends

You love like-minded zombies who mimic your (supremely low) level of enthusiasm and do not challenge your beliefs, thoughts, or pattern of behaviors.

You lack coping mechanisms to make friends with honest non-zombies, so anytime anyone criticizes you, you go into full zombie-attack mode, hungry for warm flesh and the death of all who dare point out your zombieness.

Misery loves zombie company, right?

6. No Mindfulness

You have little or no ability to concentrate or meditate .. it’s a waste of time, and it’s for non-zombies who are spiritual or into some weird alternative world.

You hate mindfulness because it takes your head out of the sand and makes you uncomfortable. Your goal is to numb your feelings and keep yourself removed from reality. Your number one focus is to binge on video games, TV, food, drug/alcohol addictions and anything else that can remove you from the unpleasant human world.

Your dream is to get home from work so you can do absolutely nothing.

Your entire identity is trapped in a uncontrolled, unaware zombie state filled with limiting beliefs that scare you so much you shut off even more of your conscious mind and your brain goes into permanent autopilot. Denial of reality is the main force behind your zombieness.

7. Emotional Vampire

You eat others’ energy like it was warm flesh. After all, you stopped believing in your own passion and purpose a long time ago and settled into your bitter way of life.

When meeting people who have positive energy, you eat them alive or put them down because you feel scared and insecure they’re actually alive.

You get happy when someone falls to your level and indulges in zombie misery. You feel more connected with them especially if they also like to bury their days in a mountain of junk food, cigarette butts, drugs and a handsome sprinkling of empty beer cans. As in every zombie movie, you won’t attack someone who is “one of you”.

Big City, Big Zombie Problems

Traveling around the world last year, I saw a lack of zombies in Costa Rica and a serious concentration of them in New York. How is that even possible?! You’d think a third-world country with less resources and less education should be more zombified than the culture capital of the world. But, it’s not. Why?

Costa Rica is a place where the people live in the moment. They aren’t controlled by money or time or fear. Or Facebook. Or media and television. They spend time outside, focusing on friends and family in real-time and not through Facebook or Skype.

New York, on the other hand, is the complete opposite.

Endless options make people numb. The brain stops working. The ego takes over. Our lives become plastic and fake. Deep human connections are lost. Zombies rise up from their life-graves and devour the living.

The bigger city, the bigger the community of zombies.

Zombiness is a disease. We get addicted to the mindset of being mindless. Of being in off mode. Of escape. Of demolishing mindfulness. And we lose sight of working toward a life we cherish, love and desire.

A Quick Zombie Checklist

Think of these questions in the context of what happened yesterday. If you answer no to any of these questions, seek human interaction immediately:

Do you remember what you did last day?
Do you remember what you ate?
Do you remember who you connected with?
Did you get a hug or did people avoid you (Run away?)
Did you see any nature, flowers or people and feel connected in that moment?
Do you go “offline” when you eat, and suddenly see you have eaten everything.
Do you get annoyed by support and guidance?

Four Ways To Cure Yourself from Zombieism

Are you a modern-day zombie? There is a cure. In fact, there are things you can practice every day that will snap you out of your undead state.

Mindfulness

Zombies are mindless. Mindfulness is the opposite of mindlessness.

A mindful life might be very unpleasant in the beginning and your reptile brain might tell you that embracing reality is way more boring that food, sex and survival. I promise, your new mindfulness won’t kill you.

The more zombie you’ve become, the more mindfulness you require. Unlatching that brain of yours from your piles of reality-robbing addictions and plugging into the real world is exactly what you need.

Self-Love

There’s a reason why you never see a zombie movie where the undead do yoga, hug a friend (without trying to maul them like a wild dog) or smile just because they felt like it. Zombies are busy feeding the numbed beast within.

You can get a head start on self-love by determining your purpose in life, that thing which makes you jump out of bed in the morning (human flesh not included).

To figure out your purpose, take a look at the stuff in your life you embraced to keep yourself locked in zombie world — job, partner, friends, habits, etc. Find a way out that doesn’t involve self-hate, self-harm or daydreaming.

Then, practice the three P’s:

Find a purpose you love
Find passions you love
Find the people you love who will support your mission to unzombify yourself.

Once you’ll do this, you’ll start to feel the very unzombie feeling of love for and from your authentic friends. You’ll realize the power of being loved by people who love you for who you are and are willing to let you be whoever you want to be.

You’ll become aware of and connected to your mind, body and soul — this is self-love

Honesty and Trust

You wouldn’t trust a zombie, right? Honesty — being real and authentic — totally kills the zombie lifestyle. Honest people are trustworthy.

An honest life is built on a real foundation, not a bunch of false fronts and deceptions. I’m not going to lie — once you start leading an honest life, your zombie friends will run for their live because they do not like the sound of authenticity

It scares the crap out of them because they don’t know how to mirror authenticity in themselves.

4. Reduce Your Ego

Ego-driven people make the perfect zombie because they eat people alive. Their need to make everything about them goes back to the desires of the reptile brain – food, sex and survival.

Of course, you don’t want to a reptilian-brained zombie, right? So make sure your heart is bigger than your ego, and awake to experience all the great things zombies can’t see, hear or feel because they’re walking through life in zombie mode.

If you need less ego, participate in activities which focus on others, not yourself: charity, support groups, a friend who needs your help or even a movie that makes you feel connected with the world in a bigger sense.

Do everything you can to train the empathy nerve that zombies numb or ignore. When empathy is triggered, the heart is growing, which is a good thing. A big heart doesn’t just cure zombieism, it makes your whole life more warm, loving and meaningful.

Some video strategies that will help you break out of Zombie lifestyle:

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What Are Your Five Dominant Traits?

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Our thoughts can be so destructive.

One bad mood after another, negative energy gains momentum. Like poison, negative thoughts seep into your bloodstream, slowly infecting any ounce of happiness remaining.

After your body is contaminated by pessimistic thinking there’s no cure to purify yourself from the self-administered venom. The damage is done.

Or is there another way?

Accepting The Truth

The first step to changing your thoughts is realizing how powerful your thoughts can be.

You can control your thoughts to lead you to amazing places but if you become a victim of negative thinking you’re destined to nowhere.

It’s an awful feeling. All my years growing up I spent thinking about how hard life was and asked why these terrible things kept happening to me and not my friends.

It took a long time to realize I was only poisoning my life with negativity and the only cure was to change my thoughts to becoming a positive person.

The problem is most of us don’t notice the negative thinking going on that’s slowly killing us, and if you can’t acknowledge it how do you know to change?

So I came up with a list of the 10 most venomous thoughts that poison your life so you can identify and eliminate them from your life.

Self Entitlement

So many walk around acting like the world owes them a favor. The gift of life isn’t good enough.

Let’s make this clear: You are entitled to nothing.

The truth is you’ve been given the opportunity to live on this planet and there’s nothing you can do to repay a blessing so grand.

Dan Sullivan, author of Laws Of Lifetime Growth, calls this a No-Entitlement-Attitude.

Live life with no entitlement and life can only exceed your expectations. Let go of expectations and see how everything you ever needed is right in front of you.

Crappy Genes

“Your genetics load the gun, your lifestyle pulls the trigger.” – Mehmet Oz

Limiting yourself because of your DNA is another way of saying you’re too lazy to try.

There are a few exceptions, an extra copy of the 21st chromosome causing down syndrome plays a significant role in one’s abilities. Although there’s amazing people who’ve overcome it.

But blaming your weight or mental capacity on poor genes is nothing more than an excuse.

The only thing you need to know about genes is they play a part in your life, but aren’t the whole play. Not even the main character.

If you want something bad enough your genes place no limits on reaching your max potential.

Pure Bad Luck

In Napoleon Hill’s book, Think & Grow Rich, he discusses the principle of auto-suggestion. When you tell yourself the same thing over and over, your subconscious mind believes it to be true.

In other words, when you continue to express how unlucky you are, your subconscious turns that belief into reality.

It’s no coincidence those who are luckiest happen to be the ones who talk about how lucky they are and those with terrible luck blame bad luck for their failures.

Thoughts become things, be careful what your thoughts are manifesting into the world.

Caring What Others Think

“To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing and be nothing.” – Aristotle

It’s human nature to seek approval. When others accept us we feel good about ourselves.

It’s one thing to want others to like you but never at the cost of who you are and what you believe in.

Many are afraid to stand because they’re afraid to hurt someone’s feelings. Instead they settle for trying to please everyone on the planet except themselves.

Whatever it is, stand for something. It doesn’t matter what, but something. Stand because it’s what you believe in, not because you want to be liked.

Waiting For The Right Time

“Don’t wait, the time will never be just right.” – Napoleon Hill

There are plenty of reasons people fail to reach their goals, but none more common than this.

Waiting for the perfect moment is useless because there’s never been a more perfect moment to go after your dreams than now.

The longer you wait the harder it is to get started and the further away that perfect moment becomes.

Your life is a time ticking bomb, the sooner you get started the more time you’ll have to reach your goals and enjoy the ride before it’s over.

If I Only Had _____

More money, experience, time, you name it – Nothing will come by sitting there wishing you had it.

Instead of wasting your energy worrying about all you don’t have focus on what you do have, because you never need as much to get started as you think you do.

The right mindset is worth more than all the money and experience in the world combined. Give someone all the money and time he needs and if he doesn’t have the right mindset he’ll still fail. Guaranteed.

The power of your mind is the only thing you need to get started, don’t let external factors limit you in reaching your goals.

It’s Not My Fault

It’s easy to take credit when things go right and give the blame away when it turns sour.

Happiness comes in taking ownership for your faults. Instead of blaming someone else, embrace the mistake on your own.

When something good happens, acknowledge those who helped you and give them the credit they deserve.

By taking blame and giving credit when it’s due you’ll build strong relationships with others who will be more than willing to help you again and again.

Life Sucks

There’s never been a truer statement than the following: Life is what you make it.

With so many amazing things happening in the world everyday it’s hard to imagine life being so bad.

Without life there’s nothing. No experiences, no senses, no time. Life is the greatest thing to happen to us all.

The first step to creating the most amazing life you can imagine is changing your mindset to loving the life you live.

No alternative compares with the gift of life, being alive is a good enough reason to wake up everyday and give your all.

I’m Not Enough

We fall victim of believing we aren’t smart or skinny enough because of the ideas society drills into our heads on how we should be.

We’re trained to believe we aren’t good enough, but it couldn’t be further from the truth.

Take a moment to reflect over the course of your life – Did you finish school? Do you have a job? Have dreams and desires? Are you healthy? You’re still alive aren’t you?

You can’t change the message from society, but you can change the message you return.

That message is you are enough.

You have everything you need to be a happy, successful person and no outside force can stop you from becoming that person.

What If I Fail

“Before success comes in any man’s life, he is sure to meet with temporary defeat.” – Napoleon Hill

The most destructive thought which poisons our mind is our vivid fear of failure.

We’ve developed the mindset that if you fail once you’ll be forever known as a failure. It’s become instinct to avoid failure at all costs.

It’s never gonna happen.

Whether you choose to follow your dreams or to take the safe route failure always remains a possibility.

In fact, failure is inevitable. Failure is the way of The Universe determining how bad you want to reach your desires.

The only difference between someone who’s failed and a true failure is a failure accepts defeat and gives up forever.

When life knocks you down, you get back up.

You will fail but you’re not a failure.

Moving Forward

No one can change or control your thoughts unless you let them.

They can strap you in chains, whip you until you bleed and lock you away forever.

They can take everything you own leaving you with no material possessions.

But they can’t take away your thoughts.

The only person with the power to poison your mind is yourself.

The only person with the power to cure yourself from the suffering is yourself.

The power is in your mind for you to decide.

Abuse it, lose it, or use it, but don’t ever say you didn’t have a choice.

Changing from a negative perspective to an optimistic view starts by making a conscious decision to change your thoughts right now.

Decide.

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What is Your Dominant Character Trait?

We all have certain character traits which can help to define who we are as a person.

There have many theories put forward in Psychology about character and one such one is the Big Five:

A summary of the factors of the Big Five and their constituent traits, such that they form the acronym OCEAN:

• Openness to experience: (inventive/curious vs. consistent/cautious). Appreciation for art, emotion, adventure, unusual ideas, curiosity, and variety of experience. Openness reflects the degree of intellectual curiosity, creativity and a preference for novelty and variety a person has. It is also described as the extent to which a person is imaginative or independent, and depicts a personal preference for a variety of activities over a strict routine. Some disagreement remains about how to interpret the openness factor, which is sometimes called “intellect” rather than openness to experience.
• Conscientiousness: (efficient/organized vs. easy-going/careless). A tendency to be organized and dependable, show self-discipline, act dutifully, aim for achievement, and prefer planned rather than spontaneous behavior.
• Extraversion: (outgoing/energetic vs. solitary/reserved). Energy, positive emotions, surgency, assertiveness, sociability and the tendency to seek stimulation in the company of others, and talkativeness.
• Agreeableness: (friendly/compassionate vs. analytical/detached). A tendency to be compassionate and cooperative rather than suspicious and antagonistic towards others. It is also a measure of one’s trusting and helpful nature, and whether a person is generally well tempered or not.
• Neuroticism: (sensitive/nervous vs. secure/confident). The tendency to experience unpleasant emotions easily, such as anger, anxiety, depression, and vulnerability. Neuroticism also refers to the degree of emotional stability and impulse control and is sometimes referred to by its low pole, “emotional stability”.

The Big Five Model was defined by several independent sets of researchers. These researchers began by studying known personality traits and then factor-analyzing hundreds of measures of these traits (in self-report and questionnaire data, peer ratings, and objective measures from experimental settings) in order to find the underlying factors of personality. The Big five personality traits was the model to comprehend the relationship between personality and academic behaviors. (Source Wikipedia)

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Ok, you will notice that I wrote awesome dad and not responsible father. There are already plenty of those articles and frankly, I’m no child psychologist.

No, I’m simply a son of a father and a dad of three kids. With a few first hand tips on what I have observed over the years. And if your kids are happy the chances are, that they will think you’re an awesome dad.

So below are my 5 tips for being an awesome dad.

1. Talk to your kids – not at them 

Believe it or not but they may actually be smarter than you think. A great tip here is seeking their opinion on something, and getting them to explain why, before you tell what you think.

It will teach them to consider their own opinion more and justify it to another. It may even give you another perspective on the matter.

2. Remove fear – with an open door policy

If your child fears you then they are much more likely to withhold information or lie. If you don’t know the truth of a situation about your child how are you supposed to guide them for the future?

It’s one thing to say to your child “You know you can tell me anything right?” and it’s another to mean it. You may feel it’s sincere however ever once the trust is broken by one angry retort it can take many years to rebuild.

For added assurance make sure there is another adult that they can go to for guidance when they are simply embarrassed or afraid to come to you.

3. Consider carefully when you say ‘not now’

We have all heard the song “Cats in the cradle” by Cat Stevens where he paints a picture of how fleeting our time is with our children. This sentiment is often echoed by anyone with teenage children as they seen a young family.

At some stage in their development, as much as they may love you, they will prefer the company of their hobby’s, friends, boyfriends or girlfriends. Consider this every time you say “not now” as it may really mean “not ever”.

Grab them now and spend all the time with them that you can. You will miss it greatly when it’s gone.

4. Find a safe conversational landing ground

I speak to my father usually at least 3-4 times per week. If we had no common ground then these calls would be very short indeed.

They would probably go something along the lines of “How are you?” he would say. “Great, How are you?” I would say. “Great” insert awkward silence.

We do however both love the same football team and have similar jobs so we have a rich fertile grounding for our conversations. We talk about the players, their injuries, upcoming games and while it might not be deep emotional conversation we are spending quality time together which makes my day every time.

I try to understand my kids passions so that I can talk to them in the same way.

5. Make them feel important 

If your child does not have a say in their life then how will the grow to become a responsible adult? Let them be involved in some of the decisions for the family.

Also find opportunities to trust them to do things by themselves even if they will need to be cleaned up by you later.

Even the smallest contribution from a child can have a big impact.

These 5 tips are just the start.

Help us compile a full list of awesome dad tips by commenting below with your suggestion or any feedback you may have to ours.

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Today we have a another great little personality quiz to find out what is your dominant emotion that rules your life.

Share your results in the facebook comments below and tell us how accurate, or inaccurate it is.

 

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We all know that IQ is not the be all and end all to gauge how intelligent we are.  In fact I believe that there are many types of intelligence: emotional, social, intellectual, intrapersonal, and many more.

Emotional intelligence, popularized by Daniel Goleman  refers to the ability to perceive, control and evaluate emotions. Some researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others claim it is an inborn characteristic.

Since 1990, Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer have been the leading researchers on emotional intelligence. In their influential article “Emotional Intelligence,” they defined emotional intelligence as, “the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions” (1990). (source Psychology.about.com)

Today we have a quick quiz to determine just how emotionally intelligent you are

What is Your Emotional IQ?

 

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What colour is your aura?

All living things that need oxygen to survive have an aura. They generate a large magnetic energy field that can be sensed, felt and even seen around the physical body. We all can tell when someone doesn’t feel good to us, like they are full of anger or if they really live in their heart and feel deeply. You do not need to be psychic to feel/read an aura.

If a person walks past, very close to you, they may unintentionally steal some of your energy. If someone suddenly reaches out and grabs your arm, they are interrupting the flow of energy around your body. An example of this might be a time when you were talking to someone and you thought they were standing to close to you. You may have even thought to yourself, “They’re in my space,” and then you backed away. Even this slight intrusion into your aura or ‘space’ can interrupt your personal flow of energy and you may feel like you have been slimed. (source ind5.com)

Today we have another quiz to help you find out the colour of your aura.

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Colours are a natural part of our life and we rarely give them much thought, or do we?

When you are getting ready to go to work you will choose your clothes based on style and colour, it gives an insight into who you are.  For example if you wear bright colours: yellow, red, orange, and pink, it might suggest you have an outgoing personality and don’t mind being in the spotlight, alternatively it might suggest you need more attention than you are currently getting.  if you wear dark colours: black, dark brown or dark grey it could suggest you want to keep yourself to yourself and just blend in to take the limelight away from you, and it might suggest you’re a slightly pessimistic person.

When you choose a car to drive you will most likely choose a colour that suits your personality as well.  Your home furnishings will be based on colour, even the food that you buy could be unconsciously influenced by the colour of the brand

Anyway, I digress, I love the topic of the psychology of colours and find it fascinating.  Today I just wanted to give you another quick quiz called What is the Colour of Your Soul, this is a great little quiz and as always this is just for fun

What Colour Is Your Soul?

 

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Whether we like it or not we are influenced by others every single day, and it can be hard to stop being influenced.  Our thoughts, our beliefs and our actions are sometimes led by others and unless we consciously think about it, we are likely to be influenced all of our lives.

Here’s a few things to think about.

9 Things to Stop Letting Others Do To You

1. Stop taking on other peoples negative energy

This is one of the easiest things to do but once you catch yourself getting sucked into that negative energy, just remove yourself from the situation.  Avoiding people who constantly have negative energy is a good strategy, unless obviously it’s a friend who’s going through some tough times.

2. Stop getting sucked into gossip

Gossip is one of the worst things to get sucked into, and again it’s easy to do.  Once you make a conscious effort to stop getting sucked into the gossip arena, then you’ll see the difference it makes in your work and personal life.

3. Stop letting others make you doubt your beliefs

You deserve to have your own beliefs and you deserve to have respect for the beliefs you have so please don’t let anyone try and change your beliefs unless you’re openly looking for answers on certain subjects.  But if you have a firmly held belief about something, defend it as it’s yours to own, but also be open minded enough to listen to other peoples beliefs.

4. Stop letting people tell you what’s possible

Honestly, anything is possible, literally anything within the realms of the physical laws of the world.  You can do anything you want to and if you have a dram, a goal, a yearning to do something don’t let other people put the idea down.

5. Stop letting people dump their stuff on you

A lot of people become dumping grounds for peoples problems without giving anything in return.  We all know people like this, they’re great at giving you their problems, but are never around to listen to yours. Dump the dumpers and see the difference it makes in your life.

6. Stop letting people take control

YOU are the only person who controls you: your mind, your body, your spirit.  Never let anyone control any aspect of you.  When you realise it’s happening then it’s time to stand up for yourself.

7. Stop letting others opinions dictate your personality

An opinion is another person’s thoughts based on their beliefs and thoughts, so why the hell should you worry about what other people’s opinions are of you, the clothes you wear, the things you do, the people you see.  You are totally unique and you should always remember that.

8. Stop trying to please others if it makes you unhappy

We all do things to please others, and it feels good to do it, but when it starts to take over you and you’re constantly looking for ways to please someone and it makes you feel bad, then it’s time to take stock and ask why you are doing it.

9. Stop letting people take your power

Your inner power is the life that drives you forward in life and letting others control any aspect of that should be looked at immediately.  It might not be easy, but you have no one else to blame but yourself if you give your power away when you are aware of it.  Sometimes we are manipulated into doing things, but once you become aware of this manipulation, then drop that person from your life.

You are so brilliantly, amazingly awesome and you deserve to know that.  Stand up, be proud and drop the the leeches that exist in your life.

 

 

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