You’re driving in a new city (perhaps going over to a friend’s place for the first time). The roads are not familiar to you. You have a destination to reach but aren’t sure how to actually get there.

Using trial-error approach, you try to figure out which road is going to take you to the destination. Now unless you’re really lucky, it may take you hours (or even days) to figure out how to reach your friend.

Now consider using a GPS system installed in your car. You set the destination and it quickly plots out the shortest path to destination. No need to worry about being in an unfamiliar place. The GPS will guide you. Turn left here. Go straight there. Turn right there etc.

The fact that you’re reading this post proves that you’re a fairly smart person who has dreams and wants to make them come true. Perhaps you’re a regular reader of blogs like this one and are constantly looking to grow and improve.

You understand a lot about growth and development and can surely talk intelligently about it; however the rate of your own growth is average at best. Somehow the ideas are failing to convert into tangible results. And you’re looking for the answer to this question. What is missing?

You are missing the GPS that’ll guide you.

WHY THE COMMON WAY IS NOT THE BEST WAY FOR YOU?

If you browse through various self help blogs, you’ll find that most posts are based on defining the tips, tricks and steps needed to achieve a certain goal. 5 ways to do this, 7 tips to achieve that, 9 things to avoid…. the topics are endless.
While there is nothing wrong about these ideas and most of them make good sense, they are not enough to “skyrocket” your growth. Most of the advice gives you a whole list of possible options. But how do you use them effectively? How do you find the option that is best suited for you personally, from a post that is intended to help an audience as a whole?

BUILDING A FOUNDATION

In order to pursue focussed growth, give up the idea of using the exact tips and tricks as they are presented.
Instead, you can build a “foundation”. The foundation helps you to decide what will serve you best personally. You still use the principles you learn from the books and blogs but now you can use them in a focussed way to create the best results for you.
The foundation acts like a GPS that helps you to find the fastest route to your destination. There are other roads. They shall take you to different destinations in the future. But for now, you’re concerned with meeting your friend.
But before we formulate our own foundation, let’s take a look at some real life examples to get an idea of what the foundation will look like.

HOW TRUE GROWTH ACTUALLY TAKES PLACE?

These real life stories put things in proper perspective.

The creator of this website, Steven Aitchison has an interesting story. At the early stages of his life, Steven had serious doubts about his identity and role in life. He even considered committing suicide at the age of 19/20 (just read the “About” page). But the book “Think and Grow Rich” helped Steven to make a profound realization of the “power of thoughts”. Creating an amazing life is a choice was an amazing discovery. Steven went on to earn a Bsc in Psychology, become an addiction worker and create this amazing platform “Change Your Thoughts”.

You are probably familiar with Steve Pavlina. Steve got into the destructive habit of shoplifting while in college, getting caught multiple times. A couple of days in jail cell sent Steve thinking seriously about redefining his life. The experience was enough to make Steve commit to become the best human being he was capable of becoming. With a new sense of purpose, Steve re-enrolled for college (he got expelled from his previous college), taking triple than normal course load and graduated with two degrees in just three semesters. Time management became top priority. After college, he went on to run a successful games business for ten years creating the award winning game Dweep. Later he gave up games business and launched StevePavlina.com that went to become a pioneer of personal development.

The third story is my own, because there is no better way to learn than from our own experiences. At the age of 16, I came across a book that totally contradicted the path I would have taken automatically in life. Growing up in a middle class family, the model of living the ideal life was to get good grades in school, get admission in a good college, find a job, settle down, don’t create waves, don’t ask too many question, be happy in the little you have. However, “The Magic of Thinking Big” by David J Schwartz made a strong point about thinking big in life and how it can help you to live your dreams. I did not blindly believe in the book but it did invoke a strong curiosity.  I remember thinking to myself, if what this book says is true, I don’t have to settle for mediocrity in life. I can create a beautiful and amazing life. Fast forward seven years, I feel grateful for having read the book and constantly strive to improve and seek to create a life of meaning, abundance and freedom. I launched my personal growth blog about a year back (I am re-launching it now).

If you observe the details of the stories above, you can conclude the following –

A conscious choice was made in the moment of profound realization.

Steve Pavlina realized that he needed to redefine his life and chose to create a better life. Steven Aitchison realized the power of thought and chose to center his growth around this idea of self reliance. I chose to break social pattern of mediocrity with the help of empowering big thoughts.

The growth that followed from the moment of realization was based on a certain “theme”.

Steve Pavlina began to focus extensively on time management to maximize his growth. Steven Aitchison growth was centered the power of thoughts, actions and beliefs. I focussed exclusively on thinking big to expand my options for a better future life.
To stress the importance of conscious choice, realize that many people end up in jail, many people read books on creative ideas, and yet these same events triggered a turning point in Steve Pavlina and Steven Aitchison’s life. See the role of conscious choice? They chose to make things different….

The “theme” helps you to create focussed results. It helps you to clearly define which are the habits, tips and ideas that will directly help you to grow, and which ones won’t. It is the GPS in your journey of life.

It would have been highly unlikely for Steve Pavlina to explore spirituality while working hard on his time management. At that moment, graduating with two degrees in three semesters was the goal. Nothing else mattered. Time was of primary value. Not spirituality, not simplicity. Only productivity.

FOUNDATION = FOCUSSED THEME FOR GROWTH

There can be many more themes that can be used to centre your growth around. Here are a few common ones that are very intuitive to understand and use.

Courage/Fear
You need this theme when you have unrealized dreams but hesitate to go after them in the fear of disrupting what you already have.

Habits
You need this one when you’re disorganized and seriously wish to put your life in order. You want get rid of disempowering habits.

Personal Excellence
This one helps you to improve the overall quality of life and not just in a few specific areas.

Simplicity
You need this if you feel that your life is cluttered with lots of unnecessary things and activities. You strive to get rid of the unessential to create some space and peace.

Freedom
You wish to create the freedom of creating the kind of life you want. This includes career choices, financial stability, travelling etc.

Finance
Money has its own role to play in life and you want to ensure you create plenty for a smooth living.
The list is not exhaustive so feel free to come up with your own themes. The idea is to simply find an area for focussed development.

USING THE FOUNDATION
Once you define your foundational theme, you can begin to find what actions will help you achieve your goals.

The foundational theme acts like the GPS. The GPS plots the shortest path and helps you to decide which roads to take and which ones to avoid. Similarly, your foundational theme acts as a guidance system to help you realize the actions that will help you to accomplish your goals.

Over time, you can move from one foundational theme to another, but at any given moment of time, the fewer themes you use, the better it will be. Overall you may want to develop in various areas of your life like career, habits, beliefs (different themes) but you want to focus on them one at a time (for example, You may want to focus on increasing your work productivity this year).

IMPLEMENTING FOCUSSED GROWTH

What you’ve read and understood so far will be of no value unless you can implement it in your daily life. So here’s a simple action plan to help you effectively implement the above ideas. All you need is a pen and paper. Get it right now. Why wait to improve your life?

Answer these two questions –

Which area of your life needs most attention right now OR which area of your life do you want to improve the most?

Whatever area pops up in your head is going to be the “foundational theme” for your growth. Use your intuition and simply pick one area. If you are having trouble in choosing from the many possible options, just pick any. The order in which you grow in different areas of your life won’t matter. What really matters is that you grow.

If you’re someone who has always been shy, you can choose “confidence” as your theme. If you feel fear in chasing your dream, perhaps you need “courage”. If you feel overwhelmed by the way you normally spend your day, then “simplicity” needs to be cultivated.

What people and resources will help you to achieve growth in your foundational theme?

If you’re reading this post, then this question should be easy to answer (assuming you read such self help blogs regularly). What you need is a few books, development blogs, audio podcasts that guide you to grow in the field of your chosen theme. Look for the ideas and advice that are directly related to your selected theme to implement them.

ONE WEEK PLAN
You should look forward to implement any one of the following ideas for a week.

Read one book on your theme and implement its ideas. OR

Find the top three blog posts that are directly related to your theme and implement their ideas. OR

Listen to an audio podcast and follow the lessons mentioned there.

Will focussed actions for a week be enough for you to succeed?

Probably not. Any worthy goal takes time. But a start is better than no start and a good start can take you pretty far.

THERE IS MORE TO THE PICTURE THAN YOU REALIZE

Why should you grow?

Life has a natural tendency to strive for a higher ideal. Take a look at how plants grow. As the seed ruptures and a small plant emerges, it grows towards the direction of sunlight. It wants to grow and live. It should therefore, be of no surprise to you that you yourself have dreams and want them to come true.

You affect everybody

It may not be obvious but how you live your life directly affects the whole planet (I am not exaggerating).

GO FOR IT

If I were to summarize this whole post, it will be just two words.

Focussed growth…

Next time you go through a self-help blog, don’t just read through all the advice. Don’t just aim for the feel-good factor. Hold an attitude of intentional learning. You’re looking to grow in a specific field and you want to find out valuable insights that will help you to achieve your goal.

Answer the above two questions. Go mad chasing your dream this week. And then report back in the comment section to inspire others as well.

Grow Conscious.

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In Sanātana/Hindu and tantric/yogic traditions and other belief systems, chakras are energy points or nodes in the subtle body. Chakras are part of the subtle body, not the physical body, and as such are the meeting points of the subtle (non-physical) energy channels called nadiis. Nadiis are channels in the subtle body through which the life force (prana) (non-physical) or vital energy (non-physical) moves. Various scriptural texts and teachings present a different number of chakras. There are many chakras in the subtle human body according to the tantric texts, but there are seven chakras that are considered to be the most important ones.

Their name derives from the Sanskrit word for “wheel” or “turning”, but in the yogic context a better translation of the word is ‘vortex or whirlpool’.

The concept of chakra features in tantric and yogic traditions of Hinduism and Buddhism.

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Everyone wants to feel happy and free, but sometimes we don’t realize that the things we’re doing are responsible for our disappointment.

There are 7 things you must stop doing from now on, so you can start living your best life ever…

1) Stop Resisting.

We all encounter problems and bad days, but it is how we respond to our current situation that really matters.

Perhaps a trusted friend has betrayed you, a loved one has passed away, or your business has experienced a great loss.

In any of these situations, you could either accept the situation and move on – or you could resist it and deny the fact that it’s really happening to you.

The moment you resist, you suffer a great deal of stress and lose your inner sense of peace because you’re “fighting” against something beyond your control. And you’ll never win!

What you should do is “adjust” yourself to your current condition and learn the lessons from the experience (if any).

Do what you can to solve or reduce the problem. But if there’s nothing else you could do, just go with the flow and live to fight another day.

2) Stop Dwelling In The Past And Future.

Don’t get so caught up with an incident from your past, nor be so concerned with what the future holds for you, that it “steals” the present moment from you.

Yes, learn from the lessons of the past. And yes, prepare and set goals for your future.

But live in the present moment and make the most of it!

If you’re talking to someone, talk to him like he’s the most valuable person in the world at that moment. If you’re playing with your kids, live their childhood and be “one” of them. Do stuff like they’re the most important things to accomplish at that time.

Fully immerse yourself and focus at what you’re doing in the present, and your life will become so much better every single day!

3) Stop Letting Others Tell You What To Do.

Your parents, relatives and friends may have the best intentions; but they will never know what truly makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

So if they said you should do or become something “for your own good” or because they only want “what’s best for you”, thank them for caring so much about you… but listen to your heart and do what it says. Only then will your life be filled with meaning and purpose.

4) Stop Getting More Stuff.

Simplify your life. You only need to keep 2 types of things – those that you need and those that grow in value. Give away the rest of your stuff.

Don’t keep on accumulating (or worse, buying) things for the sake of using them “some day.” That “some day” may never come.

The less things you have to manage, the more in control you’ll feel and the less stressed you’ll be.

5) Stop Persisting (If It’s Not Working).

Many quotes acknowledge the power of persistence, but it’s not applicable in all cases. Why?

Because never giving up on something that doesn’t work is simply stupid! If you keep on doing the same thing, you will always get the same result.

So if it’s not working, stop doing it and think of another way. If it fails again, then try something else. Don’t stop changing and improving until you eventually get the result you’re looking for! Now that is true persistence.

6) Stop Whining.

Complaining will only bring more of what you’re whining about into your life. So stop complaining and start looking for the positive side in everything.

Even a negative event can be beneficial – you’ll learn valuable lessons from the experience and become stronger in character.

Appreciate every blessing (even the most minor ones you could think of) – the sunshine, the air you breathe, the food you eat, the people you love, etc.

Practice gratitude at every moment and you’ll soon find complaining a thing of the past.

7) Stop Wasting Time.

You can judge the quality of a person’s life by the way he spends his time. Every second of your life is important, so use it wisely.

Read books and/or listen to audios for at least 30 minutes a day, on any topic of your choice, and you’d become an expert on that field in just a few years!

Do you often find yourself lining up in long queues? Use that time wisely by reading! If you feel uncomfortable doing it, download an e-book or audio on your mobile phone and read/listen while waiting.

Do you spend hours driving? Bring some audio CDs before you hit the road and listen while you drive. Transform your car into a learning machine!

Other meaningful ways to use your time include:
– Pursuing your passion
– Spending quality time and developing relationships with people
– Making a contribution to society
– Exploring different places, cultures, food, experiences, etc.
– Any other activities that you’d cherish and never regret doing when you’re on your deathbed

On the other hand, you should avoid doing (or limit your time on) these things:
– Watching TV
– Gossiping or talking about other people’s lives
– Playing video games
– Browsing Facebook for hours
– Any other things that you’d regret doing when you’re on your deathbed

If you’re currently feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, or even depressed… go through the 7 items above and see if any of them is causing it. I sincerely believe that anyone who stops doing these 7 things will begin to experience massive positive changes in their lives.

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What is Your Celtic Tree Sign?

Celtic Astrology was created by the Druids sometime around 1000BC. The Druid religion was based on 3 basic strands of belief: the first was to remember their ancestors and the past; the second was to have an understanding of nature so that they could work with it, not against it; and the third was to explore the connection of everyday reality with that of the spiritual realm.

In Celtic astrology, the zodiac is based on the trees that the Druids held sacred. It was believed that the trees themselves expressed personal characteristics that could then be associated with particular months of the year. This was done by connecting the tree to a lunar month through the use of the consonants in the Celtic alphabet. 13 of the consonants form the calendar of seasonal magic, and the 5 vowels represent complementary seasonal stations.

Unlike the Greco-Roman zodiac, the Celtic calendar has 13 astrological signs based on lunar months. Each month contains 28 days, except the last one which only has 24. However, the Celtic zodiac isn’t confined solely to the lunar cycle. The Druids split their years into 2 halves: the dark half and the light half to represent the recurring cycle of birth, life, death, and rebirth. As a result the Druids developed a zodiac rooted in both the lunar and solar cycles of life.

Find Out What Your Celtic Tree Sign Means

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“Being spiritual has nothing to do with what you believe and everything to do with your state of consciousness.”
― Eckhart Tolle

What type of spirit do you have?

I consider myself a very spiritual person, not in the religious way, but in a human way.  I know that we are all connected to each other somehow through an invisible force and we can tap into the spiritual consciousness of the world should we wish to do so.  To be connected to this consciousness takes a little silence every day, a time to just sit and let the thoughts of your mind just casually drift, instead of grabbing them and letting them drive you to a place unknown.

I thought it would be fun to add this little quiz to see what kind of spirit you are.

As always this is just for fun and truly doesn’t mean anything of significance, but it’s always interesting

 

What Type of Spirit Do You Have?

 

 

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Pictures surround us everywhere in life and we take in thousands of them every day on a subconscious level.  According to our personality and the different stages of life we are going through we prefer certain types of images, and they can give us an insight into our own personality.

Take this quick personality quiz  to find out what it reveals about you. Remember it’s only for fun, but I think you’ll be surprised with the results.

Personality Quiz – What do the Images You Choose Reveal About You?

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The inkblot Rorschach test is a famous test throughout the world, developed by Hermann Rorschach in 1921.

The test still gets taken by thousands of people around the world every day and it’s a fun quiz to take which is why I have decided to add it here on CYT.

Remember this is only for fun so please don’t take it too seriously, but it would be good to know your results.

 

Take The The Inkblot Rorschach Test

 

 

 

 

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The scars you can’t see are the hardest to heel.  They are the deepest and often the most painful.  The reason is because we do not understand them, and as humans, we crave to understand.  We crave to understand our own lives and the world around us… and when we don’t… we suffer from a feeling of conflict and uncertainty which only serves to exasperate the already existing pain.

Sometimes, we hurt for reasons that we are well-aware of; heart-break, job-loss, conflict with a loved one.  We understand our hurt.  It doesn’t take away the pain, but we understand why we feel it, and deep down somewhere within us, we also know that time will heel us; that eventually, we will overcome the pain.

When we feel a sadness, or anger, or hurt where we cannot identify the source, the pain is multiplied.  It is multiplied because when we don’t understand why something has arrived, how can we ever understand when and if it will ever depart.  We feel helpless. How can we cure something that was never diagnosed?

The pain that we do not understand is the sharpest of all pains.

Unfortunately I have no magic solution.  However, the best advice that I can offer is to seek awareness.  Seek to understand yourself; your feelings; your emotions.  Seek to understand their drivers and their manifestations.  Become present.

Awareness and understanding, like any other attitude, is a choice.  It is also a habit.  The more we do it, the more natural it feels and the easier it becomes.

When we begin to better understand ourselves; our feelings, our emotions and where they are coming from, we find ourselves feeling more in control. We find ourselves feeling calmer from a sense of understanding that we previously lacked. And even if there is no ‘solution’, that awareness and understanding provides solace in and of itself.

How do you do it and were do you start?  All it takes is one choice, made every day, to be present.  Become a spectator of your own life.  Notice your surroundings when you are feeling energized, and notice when you are feeling drained.  Notice the people that make you feel alive, and the ones with whom you feel defeated.  Notice the situations that calm you down, and those that make you tense.  Become aware of the circumstances that make you angry, and those that make you kind.  Perhaps most importantly, adjust accordingly.  Invite more of the positive people into your life, and distance yourself from the toxic.  Seek out situations where you feel energized and alive, and avoid those where you feel defeated and beaten.  Create the environments that make you calm and kind and avoid those that make you tense or anxious.

The unseen scars are the hardest to heel, but they need not remain in the dark.

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I turn 30 this year. Yep. My twenties are about to be done.

There’re a ton of articles out there on life lessons while growing up past your twenties. They’re all cool and pretty fun to read, but I want to give it a little twist by talking about people and what I’ve learnt from them throughout my life.

In between dealing with several breakups, being cheated on, falling out with friends and watching my own dad die when I was 20, it’s safe to say that I accumulated a ton of valuable lessons.

Let’s go.

1) Be wary of people who are exceedingly nice for no real reason

When somebody was really nice to me on first meeting, it usually meant they wanted to sell me something or get something out of me.

They use a lot of flowery language as they say stuff like, “I don’t normally do this for others, but for you I will.

Be extremely wary and guard yourself. It’s easy to fall prey to these guys who are constantly on salesperson mode.

2) People are not what they seem, so don’t be too quick to judge

My first girlfriend, who I met in church was initially a really sweet and innocent person who wanted the best for me. Or so I thought.

I found out after the breakup from her best friend that she was cheating on me all along, which explained her erratic behaviour.

People are not what they seem despite their “credentials.” Unless you really know somebody over a long period of time, don’t give them the benefit of the doubt that often.

3) Some people should be judged quickly so you can steer clear of them

I know, I know. Everybody today says that judging people is wrong, but I disagree.

We’re all human and it’s natural to make snap judgements.

I say, judge people well and use it for your benefit then. Personally, I won’t bother hanging out with people who are rude to the waiter and treat service staff like crap.

Toxic people are meant to be dumped. Stop wasting time on them.

4) People change,  get over it

I’ve fallen out with a handful of friends over the course of my adult life. I just didn’t see the point in the friendship anymore.
Some of these friends changed for the worst and did not resonate with my values and principles. Of course, I also acknowledge that I change myself.

Thus, don’t hang on to a dying friendship. Let it go and be free.

5) You can never change your parents

Whether they’re always nagging, overly protective or not putting in enough time for you, it’s hard to change your parents.
You’re after all, still their kid. Try to go with the flow and see how you can improve relationships.

6) Some people are never on time

And it’s all the more mind boggling when they’re grown adults.

They’re never punctual and whatever you say or do can’t change that. I honestly think it’s pretty immature, but I simply don’t make plans with such people anymore.

7) What may seem logical to you is like rocket science to others

I know of a bunch of friends who enjoy taking their jokes too far by teasing about each others’ parents. Clearly, we have a different view on what’s cool and what’s not, but to be upset over them wouldn’t change anything.

That is why you shouldn’t waste your time enforcing your values on others. You just have to be patient with them or simply avoid them altogether.

8) The loudest person is usually the most insecure

I was once close to a guy who invested in expensive watches, talked frequently about sports cars, read up on soccer during World Cup even though he’s not a fan and boasted about how many girls he has slept with.

In truth, he was always cheating on his girlfriend, drove his mom’s car and worked part-time jobs to buy expensive brands. When we questioned him on his lifestyle, he was quick to change topics.

When somebody is always showing off, it usually means they’re insecure. That is why they need the external goods. They dare not look in the mirror.

9) People who aren’t introverts will never understand

I’ve come to embrace my introvert side as I grew up. I enjoy being alone and even staying in on weekends. I also personally decline most wedding invitations I get.

This may seem normal to me, but most others don’t get it, calling me “weird” or different.

But that’s their problem, not yours. Embrace your introvert side and continue growing your own way.

10) You may be close to somebody you dislike one day

It’s funny how life works. There were a couple of people I never really liked. After a few years down the road, we became friends. All was good.

So here’s the thing: Don’t be too upset when somebody gets in the way. And don’t hold on to a grudge too tightly. You never know what the future brings, but it’s safe to say that, after everybody grows up, it’ll all be good.

11) Everybody is doing the best they can with what they have

We all clash and get upset with each other from time to time. It’s easy to start fighting over who is right or wrong.

But if you want to be happy yourself, you have to let it go and not force people to see things your way.

Others are doing the best they can, just like you.

12) Some people’s lives are only on social media

In other words, they validate their lives based on the number of likes or comments they get on Facebook, Instagram or whatever.

These are the same people who are always on the phone when you’re out with them.

13) People are attracted to status, social proof and money

If you want to make a lot friends, work a cool job at a cool place and then show that you’re rich.

It sounds cynical, but that’s just how life works. I think it’s good to make use of this idea to simply bridge the gap in making many connections, then filtering them according to your values to create genuine friendships.

I should know. I used to work in a club.

14) Almost everybody is guilty of gossiping

As much as I believe that only average people talk about other people and completely omit looking in and reflecting, I think all of us are guilty of gossiping.

We’re curious creatures, and we want to know what’s going with others.

I think the line needs to be drawn, especially when you’re using other people as an excuse to elevate yourself when you really are too afraid to work on your problems.

15) Death is very real

That is why people literally come and go.

I experienced this hard when my dad died of ALS when I was only 20.

After that, call it a bizarre coincidence, quite a number of my friends lost their parents too.

Death is indeed very real. Treasure your loved one. Try to be happy.

 

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I love this type of relational psychology quiz so I decided to add another one this week.  You can view the other one I posted last week at Innermost Thoughts

So let’s get started with this one.

Read the following scenario and questions, try and visualise yourself actually in the scenes and write down, or remember, the first thing that comes into your mind as you read the questions.  Don’t think too much about them, just read and let your intuition flow:

A Walk in The Woods

1. You are walking in a beautiful woodland area, as the sun shines through the trees and a gentle breeze flows over your whole body.  It’s a beautiful day.  You are walking with someone:

Who are you walking with?

2. As you walk through the woods, up ahead you see an animal in front of you:

What kind of animal is it.

3. What happens with you and the animal, and what interaction takes place between you and the animal?

4. As you walk deeper into the woods, you come to a clearing, and in the middle of the clearing is a your perfect house.

Describe it’s size

5. As you walk closer to the house and see more of it, is it surrounded by a fence?

6. You tentatively walk to the front door of this house and enter as the door is is slightly ajar. As you walk in you walk through to the dining area and see a table.  

Describe what you see on and around the table.

7. As you finish looking around you exit the house via the back door into the garden area, which has a large area of grass.  In the centre of garden, in the grass, you see a cup.

What material is the cup made of (ceramic, glass, porcelain etc)

8. What do you do with the cup?

9. As you walk to the bottom of the garden you find yourself standing at the edge of a body of water.

What type of body of water is it (river, lake, pond etc)

10. As you think about how to get back home you have to cross the water.

How do you plan on doing this?

Now scroll down a little to see what your answers really mean

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This has been a relational psychology test. The answers given to the questions have been shown to have a relevance to values and ideals that we hold in our personal lives. The analysis follows:

1. The person who you are walking with is the most important person in your life.
2. The size of the animal is representative of your perception of the size of your problems.
3. The severity of the interaction you have with the animal is representative of how you deal with your problems (passive, aggressive).
4. The size of your dream home is representative of the size of your ambition to resolve your problems.
5. No fence is indicative of an open personality. People are welcome at all times. The presence of a fence is more indicative of a closed personality. You’d prefer people to not drop by unannounced.
6. If your answer did not include food, people, or flowers then your are generally unhappy.
7. The durability of the material with which the cup is made is representative of the perceived durability of your relationship with the person from number 1. For example, styrofoam, plastic, and paper are all disposable and you don’t really value the person long term.  Glass, and ceramic are a little more precious and means you have a strong but fragile relationship; metal, wood, and plastic indicate a strong, long lasting relationship.
8. What you do with the cup is representative of your attitude toward the person in number 1.
9. The size of the body of water is representative of the size of your sexual desire.
10. How wet you get in crossing the water is indicative of the relative importance of your sex life.

Remember this is only a bit of fun so don’t take it too serious

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