They are everywhere these days. There used to be a time when we thought bullies were just the mean kids in the hallways picking on the little guy. That’s still true but bullying has come to the forefront of people’s minds more and more these days and we are realizing they aren’t just the schoolyard jerks. For some of us, the bully is a family member. It could be a brother or sister, aunt or uncle, it may even be your spouse or parent.

We’ve read the headlines, heard the stories, almost weekly about another person being bullied to death. It’s not taken so lightly anymore. Gone are the days when your dad tells you if that boy picks on you again just clock him one. Things are a lot more serious these days as many people are taking their own lives to get away from the bullies. But what do we do when that bully is a family member? Here are a few things to keep in mind that may help you deal with the bully in the family better.

1. Walk away.

Always. Saying nothing back to them and not replying to their harsh mean words is the best thing you can do. When you try to confront them and their meanness, it will only spark a bitter battle that you will not win. And there is no winning in this scenario anyway. Don’t hang around and listen to them spew more hateful and mean stuff to you. Just walk away. It will leave them alone with their thoughts and when they no longer have anyone to use as a verbal punching bag, the bantering will stop, if even for the time being.

2. Nod and smile.

If you can’t leave the room, just nod and smile. Don’t acknowledge their harsh verbal attack on you. Do not engage and try to have a conversation with them. Just nod and smile and put them on pause. There isn’t much you can do about them going on and on and being the big bully that they are being but you can go on ignore mode, which is smile and nod and not really take anything in.

3. Stay centered.

This is hard but remember it’s not about you, it’s always about them. Their problems, their deep seated issues, their anger that is building up inside of them. It has nothing to do with you, it’s all the turmoil swirling around inside their heart and head. In most cases, you are the first person they see and they unleash on you. Stay calm and centered and remember it’s not about you.

4. Write a truth letter to them.

This is a very powerful tool and though it may not make the bully stop being a bully it will certainly help you to be better patient and understanding with them. Write them a letter explaining everything about what they are doing, and how it makes you feel. You can write a one-page letter or a 10 -page letter. Write until your hand gets sore. Get it all out. It will help to release any ill feelings you are carrying inside of you because of the hurtful things you must listen to.

5. Tell them to stop.

Stand up to the bully. Let him or her know that their words are mean and hurtful and you are tired of being their verbal punching bag. Many of us take verbal abuse because either we are afraid to stand up to our attacker or in some cases, it’s dangerous to stand up to our attacker (in which case you should definitely get help immediately). Some of us just want to keep the peace at any cost. If you have the opportunity to stand up to them and not fear for your safety, then do so. Shut them down.

Many people are trapped in situations where the bully is a spouse and do fear for their safety. In any extreme case of bullying always try to get help if you can. The bullying will never stop if nothing is done about it. Some bullies don’t even realize they are being mean. That’s the way they were raised and that’s all they know. Bullying can be wiped out. But it has to start somewhere.

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Everybody needs somebody. We all need people in our lives to teach u s things, nurture us, help us grow or anything else that supports our personal development. The trick, sometimes, can be whether or not they deserve to stay in our lives or how to get rid of them. Of course, there is family, who for some reason, we all feel they must stay in our lives, and then the high school friends that won’t go away even if we know they are toxic and don’t contribute anything good to our well being. But there are definitely certain types of people we need to have in our lives.

Some people come as lessons, some as blessings. Some are here to stay, others should leave immediately, once we’ve learned the lesson. Whatever the case may be, here are the 6 types of people we all need to have in our lives at some point.

1. The mean judgemental person.

This is the one we learn the lesson from and get rid of immediately unless we can teach them not to be so mean. This person will show us that the world needs more loving, kind and beautiful people and why you should strive to be one. This person will show us who we don’t want to be.  After witnessing one of their random acts of judgement, our hearts will break and we will feel sorry for them. Some of us may even get angry with their behaviour and that’s ok. They will teach us who we don’t want to be.

2. The happy loving person.

This is the person you want to hang on to for eternity. They are beautiful loving caring souls and we will learn how to love, be happy with what we have and share love freely. They show us to not be like #1, to spread love and enjoy people. If you have suffered a recent heart break, they will help us to heal our hearts again and to love again with no inhibitions.

3. The no bull person.

This person will not only teach us how to find our voice but will also be in our corner when we can’t find our voice. They are our cheerleaders, our protectors and our supporters. They are also our encouragers. They want us to find our voice and will show us how to stand up for ourselves and go after what we want, while not taking any bull from any body. This person doesn’t want you to be a doormat and will show you how not to be one.

4. The stressed out person.

After spending even one hour with this person you will surely learn to and appreciate how to stay calm and meditate. This person is filled with anxiety and too much nervous energy. From the poor stressed out soul, we can learn how to take life one day at a time and not sweat the small stuff. We can see that stressing out gets us nowhere and the calm person always wins.

5. The calm person.

Another one you want to hang on to. If you are the person described in #4 then you desperately need the calm person. This is the person who will show you how to not take things so seriously, enjoy life more and maybe even teach you how to meditate. The calm person has a very soothing energy field that instantly puts you at ease. It also makes you feel like you want to be with them more. Do it. If you are a stressed out soul, hang out with the calm person more.

6. The successful person.

Success comes in many forms. Professional success, life success, health success. It’s not just about working your arse off and finally making a million dollars a year. The successful person has their shit together and knows how to get it done right. There is much to be learned from this person. Hang out with them. Learn some tips and tricks. Find out what the meaning of success is and how they achieved it. Success is yours too if you are willing to learn.

It’s true that people come into our lives for a reason. If any of these people come into your life, open up to learning what they have to teach you. Hang on to some, dump the others. Remember we are all here to love learn and grow.

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When I first started online back in 2006 I didn’t have a clue about how to make money from my passion, which was blogging and writing.

Then I realised it wasn’t just about making money and I discovered the key was to have a mission of helping as many people as you can to make their lives better.  That’s when everything changed for me and I am now nearing 7 figures per year in my online business.

There were a few people I followed in order to learn the craft of helping people whilst making a living for myself as well.

One of them is Anik Singal

His book last year Circle of Profit was a real eye opener for me and showed how one person can change the lives of millions of people around the world, directly and indirectly.

He has now written the 2nd edition of that book:

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Anik Singal Story

Anik started his online business over 13 years ago right from his dorm room. He had absolutely no experience. He stumbled into the world of information marketing by mistake.

After 18 months of struggling through mistakes and missteps, he was just about to give up when he finally broke the first part of the code.

Within just six years – and all from the comfort of his laptop – he built a $10 million a year business which was operating around the world.

Not an Easy Journey

His journey was not easy. He experienced many ups and downs. He made millions – and lost millions. He nearly went bankrupt while mastering the formula presented in The Circle of Profit. But it was this journey that has led to the world’s #1 rated digital publishing system – the very same system that has gone on to change thousands of lives around the world.

Since he started teaching this system, Anik Singal has been featured in BusinessWeek as a Top Young Entrepreneur. His Internet business has been featured as an Inc. 500 company for two years in a row, all using the same business systems that he teaches now.

Anik Singal has spoken as a motivational and entrepreneurship coach for thousands of people on stages from Singapore to London to Washington DC. He has influenced the lives of thousands by developing and sharing the simple yet powerful system responsible for his great success.

During his career, Anik  has sold over $100 million worth of digital information online – all by using the simple model presented to you in The Circle of Profit.

He has now made it his personal mission to create over 1,000 digital publishing entrepreneurs who will take their passion and transform it into an amazing entrepreneurial venture that leads to their financial freedom.

The Story Doesn’t End There

You might be thinking, oh just another internet millionaire story, but NO!

What fascinated me about Anik was the work he was doing behind the scenes to change the lives of millions of people around the world.  Watch this video:

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Now that’s what I call making a difference and leaving your mark on the world.

What I am starting to realise is that being wealthy is not for the elite, being wealthy does not mean you hoard money, being wealthy shouldn’t be discouraged it should be encouraged in order to help more people around the world.  Look at the work Anik is doing in the video above.

You Can’t Help People If You Don’t Have Money Yourself

When I was working a full time job as an addiction worker and my wife was working as a CEO of a charity for abused women, we were living from month to month: paying the mortgage, paying bills, giving the best we could to our two sons, but we definitely didn’t have a lot of spare money to give to charity, only donating around £100 per year to charity.

Now as an online entrepreneur I have given thousands to charity, and no not as a tax dodge, that’s actually a myth, but because I see it as me giving back to a world that has helped me so much.

My mission in life, just like Anik’s is to help as many would be entrepreneurs to make money from their passion in order to put more money back into the world giving it to those who need it most.

This all started by turning my passion into profit which is the book that I am offering you today for free:

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Lots of people tell me all sorts of things, and while I am not going to be breaking any confidences here, one thing that has often puzzled me is when people say they don’t like journaling. It doesn’t agree with them…

…Really?

Journaling as a tool is time and space for you, with you. You and You alone!

‘Me time’ is central to everything as without you replenishing you and connecting with yourself and, having that time to process, clarify, ponder and complete, your energy is always scattered.

When people say that journaling doesn’t agree with them, it isn’t actually the art of writing in a book it is the fact that they are not comfortable with themselves.

Whether it is the excuse of time, or only wanting to use technology, or don’t see the point of it or something else, if you fall into this category of believing that journaling isn’t for you or necessary I want to inspire you to change your mind today.

Journaling, by hand, the old fashioned way is one of the most integral aspects of personal development.

I say old fashioned, only because we are a technology fanatical world and the act of using your physical body and putting pen to paper has a different energy than putting it straight into a file that you save online or similar.

The energy of writing the old fashioned way anchors and grounds and then if you choose to copy it to your computer you are inviting action energy, however for journaling that is not necessary as when something grounds and anchors energetically, the ‘earth’ energy can do its thing without us needing to control it.

Journaling is a tool for personal (and spiritual) development. It isn’t a ‘dear diary’ exercise.

I like to see my journaling time as my opportunity to resolve energy; as if I am mentoring myself.

It is also a way for me to detox, especially if I have been experiencing a surge in emotions, or self-judgments. Journaling enables you to cut the noise of the emotional and mental body and hear your soul. When you say journaling doesn’t agree with you, or you don’t like it then you are basically saying, I do not want to listen to my soul.

I am sure you are thinking, yes, I would journal … but what do I journal about then?

To help you I am going to give you 5 journaling questions to get you started and you can rotate these questions every 5 days and then you have your journaling blueprint.

I suggest you give yourself a minimum of 5 minutes to journal. You can journal for more, however even 5 minutes at first can seem like a huge amount of time and like all things in life it is about the quality not quantity.

I suggest you let your journaling time be sacred too, so just you and your journal. Make sure you aren’t going to be disturbed as much as possible and smile, you are going to enjoy it!

Day 1: Today’s journaling task is to answer the question: How far have I come today?

Human nature through mass consciousness is wired to focus on what hasn’t been achieved, or what wasn’t successful and then that is used as a whipping stick for self and sometimes others. (The blame game is always a shame game!) Today’s journaling question steps you out of this pattern and look at how far you have come. Include everything, if you cleaned out the fridge that hadn’t been cleaned in a year then acknowledge that in your journal and equally if you have published a blog post, written an eZine, made some headway with a programme you want to launch etc… then write that too.

The only rule is you aren’t to judge whether you have come far enough as then you are affirming you haven’t and the universe can only give you more opportunity to say just that!

Day 2:What did I do well today?

This really is about complimenting yourself from the mundane to the extraordinary. It may seem contrived initially however you know the Law of Attraction, you get more of what you focus so it makes sense to focus on what did go well and build from there.

Day 3: What limiting and repeating emotions am I ready to let go of and what am I willing to replace them with?

Today’s journaling is more reflective and gives you an opportunity to explore your emotions. Where is that you are on a default pattern, AKA reacting rather than responding? Where do you take things so personally that it immobilises you as you get into an emotional pickle? Is there an alternative way? You may not resolve the emotional pattern in one go of journaling, however it will be a step towards resolve, so allow yourself to use your journaling to evaluate and observe yourself so you can be your master rather than letting your emotions master you.

Day 4: My affirmation…

After yesterday’s more in-depth journaling, today you can simply write your affirmation out on a page of your journal and then explore the inner chatter that results. Is it supporting you? Is it challenging the affirmation coming true? Can you change a belief, just one to support you aligning with the energy of your chosen affirmation?

Day 5: What quality do I wish to increase and how will I bring this into my life further?

Most people can talk about how they would love to see more peace in the world, less violence, more happiness and more tolerance and so on. Today’s journaling invites you to bring the quality you may wish to see increased into the world into your life, or simply a quality you wish to expand in your life. In exploring this you can start to both invite the quality to increase in your life and discover ways you can consciously bring it into your everyday life.

Your journaling time is for you and your soul. It is supposed to be fun and sacred, light hearted and enlightening.

If you can bring this practice with regularity and commitment into your life you will see your energy shift and your life experience improve. How can it not when your soul is being engaged?

What are your thoughts? What else would you add to this?

Do leave a comment, share your wisdom and ask your questions and let me know how you have got on with your new journaling practice!

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Ok so maybe not nicer than a pretty face or a handsome face but a sexy or sultry voice can certainly be more appealing than a beautiful face. I’m hoping you don’t take this as sexist or chauvinistic or anything negative of sorts. It’s just a fun read really. Keep an open mind, as always.

We have all experienced that one moment when you meet someone and when they speak you get weak at the knees. Or perhaps their voice makes you a little flush because you just experienced a whole bedroom scene while they were talking. Voices have more power than we give them credit for. It could also be that when someone spoke their voice sounded like nails on a chalkboard. Whatever the case, here’s a few fun reasons why a sexy voice really does have a great impact.

1. Say that again?

When you listen to someone who has a great voice, you almost hang on every word they say and whether or not you actually are listening is another story. Sometimes we get so hung up on their voice, we didn’t hear a word they say. The pay off? You have to ask them to repeat what they said, and you get to hear their voice even longer.

2. That was very interesting.

So in the case where you actually were listening and did hear what they said, because their voice is so damn sexy, you pay attention to every single word they said and their story is far more interesting and intriguing than if that same story was told by someone who had a normal voice.

3. I feel you.

You can feel all the way down deep into their soul. Their story is great, their voice is amazing and you can almost feel an instant connection with their words, their story and even their heart and soul. This is definitely a person you want to have more conversations with in the future.

4. What time is it?

Who cares? Suddenly you realize you’ve lost all track of time, something that definitely wouldn’t have happened if you were talking to someone who had a monotone voice. It really doesn’t matter what time it is any more. For once, you are enjoying good conversation while enjoying a pleasant voice.  For once, you aren’t stressed about the time either.

5. Thank you for your business.

People are more apt to want to do business, or more business, or maybe even actually purchase something, from someone who has a sexy voice. They want to stay and hang around you longer and listen to you talk about your business. Because of that, you are more likely to close a sale or have more success upselling a product. They love to listen to you and if you go on and on about your business, your voice alone will convince them it’s a great deal. No really. I’m not even kidding.

Having a sexy or sultry voice can definitely be an asset if you are in business or if you are looking for a partner even, maybe. People will generally gravitate towards someone who is pleasing to listen to. Research has proven time and time again that many factors contribute to whet her or not people will want to spend time with you or not and your voice, happens to be one of them. Imagine going shopping in a furniture store and your sales clerk has a whiny or screechy or high pitch voice. Studies show that you are more likely to bolt and not buy anything simply because you were annoyed by the sales person. We are odd creatures at times. Next time you are out shopping or hanging out with new people, pay attention to the voices and see if you notice you feel differently depending on the tone of their voice. Simply just a fun little experiment for you to try.

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Each week I will pick a page that i have recently liked and share their most shared posts for this week.

I think you’ll like this new page i found from Anik Singal

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Who doesn’t want to be happy all the time? In a perfect world, we are all already happy. There is no stress, no sadness and no troubles. This isn’t a perfect world and we have all those. Some we can avoid; others just happen to us. Ironically enough, some of them we actually cause ourselves with our thinking.

We try to have happy positive thoughts all day every day but we know that doesn’t happen all the time either. Negative thoughts creep in and we’re doomed. Some of us can easily turn a negative thought into a positive one rather quickly. Others of us are not so skilled and the negative thought makes a career of itself in our minds and we spiral into a vortex of doom and gloom.

We are in control of our minds, but sometimes, our minds take over. Some of the mental habits we have appear stronger than us and end up making us angry and ruining our day. Here are just a few of them.

1. Competition.

If you think a coworker, neighbour or maybe even a sibling or friend is doing better than you are at something, and you are not happy about it at all, you will drive yourself crazy over it. For some of us, it really is hard to share in our friend’s celebrations or victories. We instantly feel jealous and angry. Why did that good thing happen to or for them and not us? Let go of your need to compete. Life is not a competition. We are all here for the same reasons; to be happy, live and love.

2. Worrying.

About nothing really. Why do we torment ourselves by worrying about things that haven’t even happened yet? We make up horrible scenarios about things that will most likely never even happen. We drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out the outcome to a situation that doesn’t even exist. We are all guilty of doing this. It’s human instinct to immediately think the worst first. It’s time to turn that off completely, let things go and stop making up stories in our head.

3. Hating on ourselves.

Meaning, getting angry at ourselves for doing something we classify as stupid or idiotic. We made a huge mistake or we feel like we failed miserably at something, and spend the rest of the day, week, month or even year, beating ourselves up about it. Let it go. What’s done is done and furthermore, you didn’t fail at anything. As a matter of fact, you didn’t make a mistake either. You are learning. Growing and trying. You will never know if something is going to work or not if you at least don’t try. You tried it, it didn’t work, on to the next item at hand. Kudos to you for giving it your best effort. Most don’t even bother trying. You’re already two steps ahead, even if it did bomb.

4. Negative self talk.

We tell ourselves we are dumb, not good enough, ugly, fat and all other horrible things. The funny part of that is after we’re done talking ourselves into all that negativity and hate, we wonder why no one loves us or why don’t have many friends or why we are still single. We are all that and then some because you just spent the last hour telling yourself how horrible you are. Why should or would anyone want to be around you? Apparently, you don’t even want to be around you. Start being nicer to yourself. Try telling yourself you love you and you’re awesome and watch what starts to happen.

5. Ambition is at an all time low.

We don’t want to do something. We talk ourselves out of it. It will require too much work, too much change, too much skill and we simply can’t be bothered but we really want the desired result, we just don’t want to do all the work that goes in to it. The best part of all that? We then get mad at ourselves for not doing it in the first place. We give ourselves heck for being lazy or lack ambition. Don’t be so hard on yourself. We all go through that phase. You simply aren’t ready to do whatever it is you want to. When you feel it deep down inside, you will know it’s time. You’re not there yet. Be patient with yourself and remind yourself you are doing the best you can with what you have.

It seems so much easier to be mean to ourselves than it is to be kind and loving to ourselves. It actually takes just as much effort. Always choose love.

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When it comes to manifesting your desires, you likely know the basics. Ask for what you want, believe you can have it, and then allow the Universe to bestow upon you your every desire. But, what happens when you feel like you are doing everything right and yet you still haven’t received the goods You […]

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We have 7 of them. 7 chakras. Each govern a certain area of our life and our emotions. If you don’t know anything about chakras perhaps doing a wee bit of research might be beneficial prior to reading this article. Our bodies our more complex than we like to believe. It’s not just about controlling […]

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I can remember watching a program about Nostradamus as a young boy and being terrified and intrigued at the same time. How can this man from the 16th century possibly know everything that is going to happen to the world right up until the end of the world ? Where did he get his knowledge […]

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