Welcome to the battle for progressive conscious awareness!

Today’s fight is between the challenger – YOU, and the reigning champ –“Procrastination”!

Alright you two, I want a clean and efficient fight! No eye gouging, no hair pulling, and no ear biting!

The winner gets full control of the conscious willpower of the individual!

I hope you’ve laced up your gloves. Are you ready?! Ring the bell!

5. Start by Asking “Where is Procrastination “Pointing” Me?”

Stop perceiving procrastination as a problem to be overcome, and start perceiving it as a compass pointing you directly toward its own solution.

First on our list is sort of a self-trick, because it’s actually a transcendental, empowering truth in disguise! The key to really start buckling down on procrastination is to:

1. Stop worrying about why you’re procrastinating.
2. Become consciously aware of what it is that you’re actually doing instead of what you’re “supposed to be” doing.

If you’re avoiding work that others are insisting is of serious importance – and you just can’t get motivated enough to take it seriously (i.e you’d rather do something like read about a topic that genuinely interests you) – your problem isn’t procrastination.

Procrastination is a symptom of your source issue.

Your true problem is an incongruence between your internal, non-conditioned goals and aspirations, and your current external reality.

There’s a difference between procrastinating on something you genuinely want to be doing, and falling back into unconscious“default” behavior mode, where you just succumb to endless internet browsing instead of increasing your knowledge or skill-set.

The internet is the best example of conscious empowerment or unconscious self-abuse.

Unlimited knowledge and distraction are simultaneously at your finger tips.

How strong is your conscious will?

If you take away only one thing from this first suggestion, let it be this: don’t beat yourself up for having previously been led to believe that you need to be doing un-fulfilling work in order to be deemed a “successful” human being.

The majority of dissatisfaction and un-fulfillment in our world is not a result of being lazy and unmotivated; it’s a subconscious response to the fact that you’re engaged in work that is not congruent with who you actually are as an individual.

Let this voice guide you out of the maze of illusions, and into domains of wondrous self-exploration, excitement, and growth!

4. Start With The Hardest Task First!

Note that the hardest task is typically also the most important one for most people.

You shouldn’t be tackling it just because it’s hard or the most important, but because upon completing said task – everything else will be cake in comparison!

Also, you’ll be creating and building motivational momentum as you experience yourself plowing through your most difficult, important, or tedious task(s) first.

This is especially effective when you get your biggest challenge out of the way first thing in the morning/day.

This is a neat little trick you can play with yourself, because it creates elevated mood, confidence, and self-momentum for the rest of your day.

Don’t knock it until you try it!

3. Time Box That Task!

It seems like this article is just destined for one boxing pun after another 😉

Time boxing is an incredibly useful technique that helps get your momentum going in a positive, constructive, and productive direction.

What you want to do is identify a task that you need/want to complete, and set a timer (I use Online-Stopwatch for everything, including writing articles) for say, 20-30 minutes.

The goal of time boxing is to consciously focus only on the work at hand, as intensely as possible for the allotted time.

This is a critical point of time boxing: the entire purpose of this activity is to focus ONLY on the task you wish to accomplish. While that timer is ticking, you do nothing BUT that one task.

No checking Facebook.

No texting.

Nothing but the task until that timer goes off.

Then when the time goes off, you give yourself complete and total permission to stop working.

Knowing your work time is finite not only increases your mood and focus, but it also prevents you from over-thinking about variables that don’t matter. Instead of aimlessly spinning your wheels while things continue to be left unfinished, time boxing allows you to neatly and quickly nip that issue in the bud.

The real beauty with time boxing however, is that after that 20-30 minutes you’ll be so “in the zone” – you’ll actually prefer to continue working!

Time boxing makes you more conscious of the fact that it’s not really fear, anxiety, or procrastination that’s stopping you; it’s simply a matter of overcoming the initial momentum of those emotions!

It’s like pushing a boulder up a hill. When it crests, you can let go and everything works itself out naturally as a consequence.

It suddenly becomes blatantly obvious that the true challenge is enduring the pre-cresting period – not the final goal itself.

Learning to “create the conditions” that allow for increasing personal momentum via action is incredibly self-empowering!

2. Make Time for (Guaranteed) Fun!

If you consistently schedule yourself a period of the day where you’re guaranteed uninterrupted time to enjoy your favorite activity/method of relaxation – you’re essentially re-wiring your risk/reward system.

This is the same concept as “re-conditioning yourself”.

What you’re actually doing is allowing yourself to create feelings of excitement regarding the fact that you’ll get to do something you enjoy later in the day, week, etc.

This can often make it easier to move through work that might not necessarily be exhilarating, but needs to be done.

“Batch” this suggestion with the time boxing tip above, and you’ll really be packing some punches ;).

You’re far more likely to maintain self-discipline and action if you’re rewarding yourself for doing so.

Don’t settle for society’s risk/reward system; build your own!

This is also incredibly empowering for anyone who has ever experimented with this approach. I use it on days where I feel a bit too “meh” to hit the gym, but I know my routine and progress depend on it.

So, what I do is imagine the lunch I’ll be able to make and enjoy after my workout. Sometimes I’ll just start making lunch, and that’s enough of a catalyst to make me want to hit the weights for 60-90 minutes.

Every single time I do this, I get to the gym and think “Man, the hardest part is always just getting started; once I’m here, everything’s awesome!”.

Which brings us to our final punch-tastic, procrastination-pummeling point…

1. Just Get Started NOW!

If you’ve been paying attention to the several points above, you’ll notice that “just getting started” is one of the most common denominators regarding procrastination.

This is because the hardest part is always going to be going from your “Zero Point” (point of complete rest) to your “Non-Zero Point” (anything that’s more than complete rest). Newton’s First Law of Motion graces us with its presence yet again.

It doesn’t matter how big or how small these steps are; what appears easy to one person is a nightmarish, bang-your-head-against-the-wall-fest for another. This is why it’s incredibly important not to confuse other people’s goals with your genuine goals.

Missing that first step will simply have you spending your time boxing shadows instead of procrastination.

Time boxing is a fantastic way to “just get started”. As we revealed above, it will often create the conditions necessary to allow you to just keep working (taking action). You’ll probably end up working longer than you would have if you didn’t implement that strategy.

If you can muster the courage to start saying “no” to the people, places, and activities that are incongruent with you, you’re making progress.

If you can then muster further courage to begin consciously replacing those things with people, places, and activities that are congruent with you who actually are as an individual, reality then opens up and becomes a treasure trove of opportunity.

The only condition is that you start becoming more conscious and deliberate with how you’re investing your time and energy – beginning right NOW.

Conclusion

Learning to gradually cope with, and eventually overcome, your own personal desire to procrastinate is a huge step forward in the right direction.

No longer will your life be a series of distractions, each baiting and pulling you in different directions.

No more will everything appear to be urgent and require your attention immediately.

You’ll learn to “have eyes” for what’s truly worth doing, and what’s a genuine waste of time.

Mastering your time and attention is the true secret to mastering your life across the domains of career, relationships, health/fitness, and hobbies. Until you begin doing so, you’re reality will be contingent on people and organizations who have already done so.

So lace up those gloves, move (don’t stick!), and refuse to stay down for the count! 🙂

Jason Demakis is a psychology & philosophy-based personal development writer, certified personal fitness trainer, and nutritional consultant. With a focus on prioritizing conscious decision making and behavior, Jason strives to motivate and inspire others to achieve their true potential and fulfillment. You can find more of Jason’s writing via his personal website, JasonDemakis.com.

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You don’t want an ordinary life. Working a job you hate, putting up with a passionless relationship and having to compromise your individuality is not for you. To paraphrase Theodore Roosevelt, you don’t want to be, ‘one of those cold and timid souls who live in the grey twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.’

Instead, you want something extraordinary. You want excitement, inspiration and the chance to leave a positive mark on the world. You want to answer that immortal Steve Jobs quote – If today was my last day, would I want to do what I’m about to do?  – in the affirmative.

And that’s great. You should be congratulated on your ambitions. The world needs unreasonable people like you to keep it moving forwards.

But how do you get there? How do you go from your present reality which, let’s face it, might appear light-years away from your musings, to this life of your dreams?

Luckily for you today, you stumbled upon this article. I’m going to guide you through the ultimate 3 point plan to rising above your present conditions into the life of your dreams.  So it doesn’t matter whether it’s a boring job that saps you of your time and energy, poor health that robs you of the vitality needed to put your plans into action or a lack of connections and contacts that leaves you feeling clueless about where to start, there IS a way out of ANY negative circumstance.

The proceeding plan will show you how.

Step 1: Raise your Energy

The problem with the three negative circumstances listed above is that they rob you of energy. The dreams in your mind may be golden but when your daily environment is depressing, physically painful or seems helpless, a huge disconnect occurs.

This is why it is SO IMPORTANT to develop the ability to detach from your circumstances and focus on your energy. You can’t remain at the same level of thinking and feeling as your present environment. To advance, you always need to be one vibrational level above.  To do this, you must detach your mind (i.e. not focus on/let go of) from all the petty arguments at work, minor and major injustices against you, aches and pains in your body, all the things you lack and perceived obstacles standing in your way.

This, in itself, is a monumental mental discipline. However, once you have mastered it you’ll be free to, in the words of Master Yoda, ‘feel The Force’. What I mean by this is that you must find time to focus on the magnificence of your dream. Ask yourself this question.

 What’s going to feel so great about living the life I want to live?

Capture the energy of this answer and focus on it as much as possible. Do this consistently, and your drive will be stronger, the strength of your immune system will increase, your ability to convince other people of your ideas will improve and your life will begin to move forwards.

Step 2: Find Proof

Overcoming your negative circumstances and living the life you want is largely a game of belief. Everybody has the potential to do it, but many remain trapped because they can’t believe in a life better than their day to day environment.

To rise above your present circumstances you need to KNOW that it’s possible. In other words, you need proof. You need concrete examples of the fact that you can positively move your life forwards despite the negative circumstances you face. This is why I instruct anybody I coach to record ALL the positive results they achieve. If they get a new client, win an important match, gain a promotion or receive a compliment about their work or personality then they have to make note of it in a designated ‘results’ diary.

The power of this practise is compound. A month’s worth of positive results doesn’t do a lot but a years’ worth of achievements sends a message to the subconscious. ‘I CAN DO THIS,’ is what you start to believe.  After all, you’ve got the proof right there in your diary.

Then, it just becomes a case of repeating a formula. Raise your energy, record your results and, as your life begins to improve, you’ll be left with the belief that NO circumstance has the power to halt your progress. After all, if you can overcome one set of difficult circumstances then why not another?

Step 3: Create a Meaning

I want to give you an example. I want to show you that no negative circumstance, in of itself, has the power to prevent you from moving your life forwards. To do this, I need to find a person who endured the most harrowing of conditions yet still managed to emerge triumphant.

Enter Victor Frankl.

Perhaps you are aware of Frankl through his best-selling book, Man’s Search for Meaning, which stands as a testament to the ideal that man is not made by his conditions. However, if you’re not familiar with Frankl, then here’s his story.

Frankl was imprisoned in a Nazi concentration camp in 1942. A doctor and psychologist before the war, he found himself thrown into an environment where suffering and death were an everyday occurrence. A starvation diet combined with hard physical labour, unhygienic conditions, frequent exposure to sub-zero temperatures, sleep deprivation and beatings at the hands of guards comprised the daily environment Frankl lived in for 3 years. Every single member of his immediate family died, as did countless numbers of his fellow detainees. Faced with such conditions, Frankl estimated his own chance of survival as 1 in 20.

Despite these terrible circumstances, though, Frankl did survive. Not only that, he thrived. He went on to write a 9 million copy selling book, speak around the world and have his own approach to therapy – logo therapy – become a universally recognised form of treatment.

How was this possible?

According to Frankl the secret to overcoming any negative circumstance is to create a meaning for your life. There are 3 ways of doing this.

1. Through love. Forming loving relationships that make your life worthwhile.
2. Through work. Having a dream or project that inspires you more than your negative circumstances drain you.
3. Through struggle. Even if there is little in your daily environment to rejoice about you can still take pride in the way you react to your situation by maintaining your dignity and keeping a positive outlook.

Creating a meaning through one, or all, of these channels means that you wake up every day with a sense of purpose. In effect, you are on a mission. Irrespective of what you’re going through, you know what you are moving towards. With such a mentality and approach, when the opportunity to improve your day to day life finally emerges, you’ll seize it with both hands.

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The power of mind determines the mental strength of a person. Controlling one’s own mind is inevitable for achieving success in life. When the mind gets controlled then it is easy to concentrate in different task that are confronted in daily life.

There are different meditation practices that are endowed with the effective techniques of controlling the mind. These meditation practices make your mind calm and steady. Therefore the greatness in the mental stability can be seen, so that made meditation as a significant activity in day to day life. It is not recent that the meditation became as the part of life.

What is spiritual meditation?

The spiritual meditation is a practice of arousing the serpent power, a biological energy in man. This energy is utilized for the perfection of his very nature that is having a profound meaning in his life. The awakened man meditates in the energy centers along the spinal cord termed as chakras. These chakras are related with various psycho – physical qualities and meditating in these chakras are responsible for balancing the energy and enhancing the power of mind. This meditation is also known as the kundalini meditation, siddha meditation, chakra meditation, etc.

Kundalini – the spiritual power

Apart from other usual meditation practices, the spiritual meditation which involves the latent power known as ‘kundalini’ to manifest, which resides in the base of the spine in the sacral bone. The common meditation practices are limited in controlling the mind to a certain extent and do not go beyond that state of consciousness. There the higher power of the mind cannot be experienced through this.
The power of mind in the spiritual meditation is limitless. This will take the aspirant beyond the frontiers of imagination. The concentration of the mind can be increased immensely. It says that the highest level of concentration is attained when the mind itself withholds a single thought that would arise successively as a chain of a single thought. This is the state where the mental waves get reduced and your actions become clearer and effective.
The spiritual meditation makes one mystic, as that it forges him as a superhuman. But it is not an easy procedure.

Getting what you want in life

Most people look for the greater mental capabilities so that they could use maximum potentials in their actions (works). Controlling one’s own mind is very much needed in every life situations, whereas the concentration of the mind gets increased, so that it cannot be distracted very easily. This makes one to do perform his duty perfectly in short period of time and therefore to yield the maximum benefit from them.
When the mind lacks in reaching the state of concentration, then the mind fails to utilize its available potential. This makes one to stumble in his actions and indeed makes him less confident thus reducing his self-esteem. This will led him to accumulate the undesirable stresses and when fails to achieve his goals perhaps leads to depression eventually. So the potential is within oneself, it is his effort that makes to avail it.

Know your strengths

In spite of salvation as the ultimate goal of this spiritual meditation, one would acquire the enhanced mental ability; the power to achieve his goals; leading a life that is consistent with the nature. He will have the total control of himself so that the emotions do not take over him. Then he is a perfect yogi.

As Swami Vivekananda said,

“Meditation is the greatest means of controlling the rising of thought waves. By meditation you can make the mind subdue these waves and if you go on practicing it for days and months, and years, until it has become a habit, until it comes in spite of yourself, anger and hatred will be controlled and checked.”

It is that the thoughts that matter. These thoughts make what you are. These thoughts are the boosters of your actions. They are intended for doing the actions. The positive thoughts are responsible for positive actions and negative thoughts are responsible for negative actions, hence it has to be controlled. These thoughts can be controlled only by controlling one’s own mind, thus attaining enhanced mental stability. This is the type of mental strength one has to acquire that makes his mind powerful in confronting the life situations that would make him as a super hero.

Praveen Kumar is a Physicist and a kundalini meditation practitioner. He is a passionate writer and upholds the words of noble persons who had changed the world.
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Do you ever secretly wish you were just a little more creative? Maybe inventing a life changing gadget is your unrealized childhood dream or perhaps you just want to hand in a more original essay for once. Whatever the case, the good news is that even if you don’t feel naturally creative; there are plenty of ways to get into the right frame of mind.

Taking a walk in the park or on a treadmill, for instance, could increase your creative output by 60%, and a quick nap can also be helpful, with one study showing that power naps boost activity in the right side of the brain, which is most associated with creativity.

But since these are fairly ordinary things that most of us do (or should be doing) on a regular basis, here are five slightly more unusual and generally frowned-upon things that actually have the potential to help you get into the creative zone.

1. Entitlement

Entitled people want what they want, when they want it, and they don’t care if they have to break a few rules to get it. Simply put, they’re not much fun to be around. But new research by psychological scientists from Cornell and Vanderbilt University shows that in small doses, a sense of entitlement can stimulate a person’s creative problem solving skills.

For the study, participants were made to feel either more or less entitled by writing out three reasons why they deserved more than others and should demand the best in life, or three reasons why they didn’t deserve more than others.

After this, they were asked to complete creative tasks like coming up with new uses for a paper clip and drawing an imaginary alien creature. Sure enough, the participants who felt more entitled at the time produced more interesting and novel ideas.

The takeaway is that when people feel entitled, they think and act differently than others, which means they are better able to think outside the box. Even if you don’t want to become an entitled jerk for the sake of creativity, it’s an easy enough experiment to recreate when it’s time to think innovatively.

2. Mess

Albert Einstein once posed the question that if a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what then is an empty desk a sign?

It certainly seems he was onto something, as research led by psychological scientist Kathleen Vohs from the University of Minnesota shows that while tidy environments have the benefit of promoting good behavior like healthy eating and generosity, messy ones encourage new ideas and creativity.

In one experiment, participants were placed in either a tidy or messy environment and asked to come up with new uses for ping pong balls. Although they all came up with the same number of ideas, impartial judges rated the ones generated by participants in the messy room as more interesting and creative. So the next time you need to think creatively, do yourself a favor and don’t tidy up.

3. Boredom

No one likes to be bored, and most of us will do anything to avoid it. But by filling our every waking moment with activities designed to stave off boredom, we might actually be missing out on some of our most innovative ideas.

In one study led by Dr Sandi Mann, a professor of psychology at the University of Lancashire, participants were asked to display their creativity by coming up with new uses for polystyrene cups, but first, some of them were asked to complete the unquestionably boring task of copying down numbers from a telephone directory.

As you may have guessed, the ones who were already bored when they started the creative task came up with more original ideas. In another experiment the researchers asked an additional group of people to merely read the numbers, and this group turned out to be even more creative than the ones who had been asked to write the numbers out.

So what’s the takeaway? Don’t be afraid of boredom, but to get the most out of it, choose a more passive boring activity that doesn’t require too much mental energy and still allows for some daydreaming in-between.

4. Fatigue

Although being creative is probably the last thing on your mind after a long day, research shows that we’re most creative when we’re tired, whether it’s down to morning grogginess or evening fatigue.

In one study, Mareike Wieth, an associate professor of psychology at Albion University, had two groups of students, night owls and early birds, come in for a series of tests either at 8:30am, when night owls would still be feeling groggy, or at 4pm, when morning people would be starting to feel a dip in their energy levels.

When it came to analytical problems, the time of day had no noticeable impact, but for the problems that required some creativity to solve, the participants all did better at the time of day during which they were fatigued.

Why? Apparently, when you’re tired, your brain doesn’t filter out distractions as efficiently and connections between ideas or concepts are more easily forgotten. Although this may sound like a bad thing, creativity is all about making new connections and being open to new ways of thinking, so fatigue is actually the perfect tool for creative thinking.

5. Noise

When we want to get work done we usually seek out a quiet place without many distractions, but although silence is great for sharpening our focus for detail-oriented tasks, when it comes to creativity, a bit of noise is actually a positive thing.

One study by researchers from the University of Illinois had four groups of people complete a series of tests designed to measure creativity while being exposed to various levels of ambient noise; either 50 decibels, 70 decibels, 85 decibels or total silence. Participants who had completed the tests with a moderate level of background noise (70 decibels) did far better than those in any of the other groups.

So, just like fatigue, the right amount of noise creates some distraction, which helps you to move past your normal thought patterns and make new connections. So while you don’t want to be blaring music during a brainstorming session, a moderate level of background noise, like the hum of a busy coffee shop, could be just what you need.

Marianne Stenger is a writer with Open Colleges. She covers career development, workplace productivity and self-improvement. You can connect with her on Twitter and Google+, or find her latest articles here. 

 

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Decisions are not a democratic thing.

Trash the complicated charts with spider web diagrams.

You’ll just fry your brain.

The small stuff is easy, but those Goliath-sized choices…

They can bring a torrent of sweat and Richter-size nervousness.

As the complexity oozes in.

The biggest mistake you can make as a business owner

As a business owner, I would often put the “pro” in procrastination.

Not wise. Because he who hesitates is lost in this nanosecond age of global competition.

Napoleon Hill nailed it: “Indecision is the seedling of fear.”

While I was turning blue, life decided for me.

Because, as Will Rogers wryly noted, “Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there.” 

After all, time ticks on.  Sooner or later, I got an avalanche of “mañana”— and frenzied cope.  I had to drop everything and douse this fire immediately!  They don’t make aspirin big enough to zap that headache.

Is there a way to smother those flames of maybe?

How do you cut down on all that sweating and shaking?

Be like a Boy Scout

Be prepared!

Sure, emergencies will flare up out of nowhere: a water pipe explodes on the jobsite. A major client suddenly cancels their order.

And these urgencies, like a midnight tornado, add turbulence as they pull your decision making into the immediacy of the moment and away from expansion—where it needs to be. You’re reactive instead of proactive.

Avoid that by following your scout manual — aka the company policy you wrote ahead of time to contain the surprises of life.

So when they erupt, you can either scramble for a time-and-a-half plumber or calmly move into action.

And all the while, focus your decision-making on the big picture.

Don’t count the carnage

Injuries will heal, crashes can be reversed. Regret is leprosy to business survival; its scars spread to all involved.

And it’s infinitely more painful than simply doing something — anything.

The problem is not the wreckage we cause, but rather our failure to take responsibility for that strewn debris.

So, instead of fretting over the rubble, take a tip from Robert Kiyosaki: “Don’t waste a good mistake…learn from it.”

That holds true for you and your staff. Those who will decide ultimately get more respect than the wafflers. And as long as you hit more home runs than flies, you’re fine. But any decision beats no decision.

Keep the epidemic at bay

If you don’t delegate any company decisions, your business will soon be infected with the one-man-stand disease.

The symptoms are easy to spot: a snail’s pace of activity and a frantic, frustrated staff. Micromanagement is the father of uncertainty and fear.

And if left unchecked, the disease spreads procrastination and confusion as decisions wind up in the pending basket. Choices are never made in turmoil.

As this virus spreads, it cripples your workforce as your business contracts, just like that noose you tighten around the competency and stability of your staff. Thus sprouts the seeds of insurrection.

What’s the vaccine? Trust in the team.

You hired them. You trained them. Now let them make their own decisions. Any uncertainties they have are cured by simply having them follow your written policy.

Shed that flab

Like it or not, indecisions pile up like a ton of love handles. Time to go on a diet.

Otherwise, they will hang around like that third helping of pumpkin pie.

Ugh!

So make a list of those indecisions; complete what you can. Every decision that you finally make will feel like you’ve shed a pound.

You’re looking better already.

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Relationships are tricky. They make us do and feel unexpected things.

I myself have been through a bunch of unsuccessful relationships. They all hurt. Expectations were always overthrown and I ended up feeling a lot of pain.

Nonetheless, we can always try our best to not make or repeat some mistakes.

Here are 8 signs it’s time to let go of a relationship

1) You care for the memories more than a possible future

This one is tough, but logically flawed.

The future matters more than the past. And if you can’t possibly foresee in your mind, much less have the will to work for it a future with the person in front of you, it’s not going to work out.

To put it bluntly, the memories don’t matter at all ultimately. It’s sad, but no matter how much you cherish them, you’re going to have to let them go if there is no future.

2) They aren’t making you a better person

In other words, they don’t bring out the best in you.

For whatever flaws or issues you have, they’re highly amplified when they’re around. Perhaps they’re make you angrier or make you eat more.

A caring partner in a relationship wants the best for you and will do what it takes to make sure you achieve that so you can be truly happy.

3) They stop showing you basic respect

What do I mean by basic? They expect you to abide by their standards and do not care for yours. This is when they show up late or not reply you when you’re in need.

They’re plain taking you for granted.

4) They only come to you for basic needs

Be it money, a place to stay or even food, when it comes to things they should be able to handle themselves, they rely on you instead. They want you to give it all to them and you can bet they aren’t going to return the favor.

Again, they’re plain taking you for granted.

A relationship should go deeper and beyond the basic stuff. If you guys are just hovering around the basics, while making use of each other at that, you guys are not growing at all.

5) They never put themselves in your shoes

They do not ever bother to reflect. It’s all about them and how they feel. They don’t care about your point of view or how you feel.

A person who cares for you will stop to think and cut you some slack. A person who doesn’t care will simply find all sorts of excuses to justify their selfishness.

6) You start to think they’re a burden

You discover that you’d rather be alone. When he or she is around, it becomes tiring and downright annoying. You only think of what you could be doing alone and that makes you wishful.

Everybody needs their alone time, but if you really want to be in a relationship, the times when you want to be with someone would definitely outweigh the times you want to be alone.

7) Nobody is putting in the effort to deal with the underlying issues

And thus it reoccurs over, and over again. That will only mean more unhappiness and an eventual fallout.

You might as well let it all go now.

8) You know deep down that you can live without them

And with that, you can create a better and happier future. Why? Because you know it deep down. Your heart will never lie to you and intentionally bring you a lousy life.

All you’ve to do is to stop lying to yourself and start asking the honest, but terrifying questions.

You know this deep down. No more excuses. Listen to your heart, not others.

Then do what you have to do.

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