Admit it. You’re wasting your time and energy.

And, you’re spinning your wheels endlessly but never getting any further.

Frustrating, right?

You’re burned up. But you don’t know how to change.

So, allow me to lay it all down for you as to why you’re not accomplishing anything at work.

Let’s get you a new and better work life right now.

1). You’re obsessed with your job.

You take your job home with you. You are disengaged from everything else except your job. You have no time to relax and rejuvenate, and, ironically, this has taken a toll on your work and is the reason you don’t accomplish much.

Relaxing with your family, friends, pet, or just yourself after working hours will freshen you up to accomplish more.

2). You’re not spending enough work hours actually working.

Social media has taken a toll on your work. You put in fewer hours on your job, and the rest of the time you spend reading Facebook, shopping online, playing games, or trolling your fans.

If you want to accomplish more, you must draw a line between work and leisure during your working hours and spend more time doing your actual job.

3). You’re constantly rebelling against the regime.

Your employer keeps changing the work process. Modern tools and programs keep replacing the system you’ve been used to for so long, and you keep resisting. You don’t like change.

Stop resisting, and accept that these new ways of doing things are designed to make life

easier for you, not harder. You just need to be open to it.

4). You’re working while barely conscious.

You love to sleep, but you can’t get enough of it. You charge your phone next to your bed, and every time some notification ding goes off, you wake up to check.

To be conscious for better performance, try charging the phone in a different room so that you can get enough sleep.

5). You’re over-trained.

You are constantly getting training after training. You barely have time to practice what you’ve trained on before another training session is scheduled.

You don’t need all that training to accomplish much. Relax and start putting what you already know into use.

6). You’re not the right person for the job.

You’re spending more hours learning how to do the job and fewer hours doing it, and you still get it wrong.

It’s frustrating, right?

Admit that the job is not right for you.

So, delegate what you cannot do, and focus on what you can.

7). You let everyone take advantage of you.

Everyone loves to pick your brain, and you gladly let it happen. You help everyone else, but you forget about yourself.

Well, if you continue to do so, they’ll keep coming, and you’ll keep accomplishing little.

Stop putting yourself last by putting others first.

8). You work in a cluttered environment.

According to research from the Princeton University Neuroscience Institute, working in a cluttered space limits your ability to focus and process information.

So, get your workspace organized, and you will be able to focus and accomplish more.

9). You never accept challenges.

You slow down your work on purpose because you’re afraid to be challenged by something else after you finish.

Understand that no job is without challenges. Step up your game, and start moving faster to accomplish more.

10). You’re a perfectionist.

You allow no room for error. Your workspace has to meet your standards of perfection before you can start a job. This perfectionism leads you to perform less than expected.

Forget being perfect if you want to accomplish more.

Perfect less, and judge yourself less.

11). You’re constantly procrastinating.

You start a project and never complete it on time, and sometimes you start a new one hoping to complete the old one later. You keep on postponing until the last minute, and then you rush through the task. You end up not accomplishing much.

Stop dilly-dallying, and work when you should if you want to accomplish more.

12). Your job bores you to death.

You’re just going through the motions. You perform less because the job bores you.

You have to fuel your fire and have a clear purpose as to why you have your job. Then give it your best shot if you want to accomplish more.

13). You never speak out.

You never speak out even when you see things getting out of control. Instead, you let situations bog you down to a point where you cannot work.

You deserve to be heard. Question things, and speak out in a respectful way. Getting things off your chest will motivate you to perform more and accomplish much.

14). You Insist on doing everything yourself.

You avoid teamwork all the time. While independence is needed to complete your job, teamwork plays a great role in productivity.

Learn to promote teamwork. Applying team effort will help you be effective and get more done.

15). You’re too much of a follower.

You always wait for others to tell you what to do, and if nobody give your orders, nothing gets done.

If you want to get things done, you must take risks and guide yourself toward getting the job done.

16. You’re a multitask junkie.

You think multitasking allows you to do multiple jobs at the same time, but in reality, you accomplish much less than when you’re giving one task your full attention.

You spend more time working on the mistakes you made while multitasking instead of working on something new.

Not being a multitasker is okay; just do one project at a time if you want to accomplish more.

17). You don’t know how to schedule time.

You spend your day sorting out a crushing schedule. You forget important meetings because you are carried away by impromptu thinking.

You call your friends to chit-chat and end up forgetting to complete your work.

Plan your day by having a to-do-list. Check off accomplishments  as time goes by. This will keep you stay on track, and you will accomplish more.

CHANGE STARTS WITH YOU.

You can accomplish a great many things if you want to.

Don’t be like others who don’t like to go for what they’ve been anointed to do.

Start working smart not hard.

“ The greatest accomplishment is not in never falling, but in rising again after you fall.” Vince Lombardi

Are you ready to take action today?

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When a person compromises his or her life with addictive habits, loved ones shake their heads and wonder why they do it. Even when addicts get clean they often continue to sabotage their lives and health with substitute habits. Addicts suffer from a soul sickness that will not be healed even if the addictive substance or activity has been removed from their life.

There are three underlying causes that are always driving the addictive behaviors. In my experience, whether an addict lights up a joint, eats a box of cookies, drinks a six-pack, or seeks nameless sex, he or she is using that addiction as a painkiller, an escape, and a punishment. I call this the “PEP check.” One or more of these motivators is at work. Let’s take a look at each one.

1. Painkiller: People use addictions as a painkiller. The pain could be physical, but most of the time, it’s emotional. They are using an addiction to numb themselves so they don’t feel anything. They may not be consciously aware of their pain, but difficult circumstances in their childhood generated feelings they were not emotionally equipped to process. So they were buried and forgotten. But when we bury feelings, we bury them alive. They don’t go away. Instead, they fester and grow more acute, driving us to seek relief.

The fact is addictions saved our lives at one time. I know that I would never have been able to survive the hell I experienced as a child were it not for fantasy, food, masturbation, cigarettes, and alcohol. Those things saved my life and kept me off the ledge. They deadened the pain of my circumstances so I could live long enough to find a solution. The irony, of course, is that addictions ultimately turn on us and destroy our lives long after they have helped save us.

2: Escape: Besides using addictions to kill pain, we also use them to escape our reality. Addicts tend to be extraordinarily fearful people, and living in fear makes reality unbearable. We take ourselves way too seriously and try to be perfect, thinking this will alleviate our fear. But instead, it generates an inordinate amount of stress and resentment. At some point, we throw up our hands and say, “Screw it!” and dive deeper into our addiction. We want nothing to do with the responsibility of trying to be perfect. Addictions allow us to escape the oppressive fear and stress that weigh on us like a ton of bricks.

3. Punishment: The last purpose our addiction fills is punishment. This one is less obvious. When anyone sets out to binge on their preferred vice, they don’t think they are punishing themselves. On the contrary, it seems that they are setting themselves up for a real treat. That hot-fudge brownie sundae is a special treat, all right, but after three bowls of ice cream and brownies, we are stuffed, and dazed from a sugar coma. The next day, we cancel plans with friends because we feel sick and bloated. We berate ourselves for losing control yet again after promising ourselves we would show more self-restraint. This doesn’t really sound like much of a treat, does it?

When you look at what your vice is doing to you, instead of what it is doing for you, you may be able to see that you are punishing yourself. And the reason you’re doing that is because you carry a burden of guilt that you have not addressed and, therefore, can’t escape. You are subconsciously taking matters into your own hands by beating yourself up. You think you are bad and deserve such punishment. And until you heal the underlying guilt, you will always sabotage your life in one way or another.

Addressing and healing these three underlying causes of addictions is vital in order to achieve lasting abstinence from your addictions, and to be able to enjoy that abstinence. When you are free from the pain, fear and guilt that drive addictions, your life automatically improves in every way.

Roy Nelson is the author of Love Notes from Hell: Stories of Hopeless Addiction, Obsession and Freedom. Living with a violent, alcoholic father drove him to pursue a life of escape by any means possible—until he conceded that his self-imposed hell was killing him. It was then that he had a profound experience that changed everything. Based on his personal experience of total freedom, Roy developed The Nelson Method™—a plan of spiritual healing that is designed to help people heal from their own personal hell, even when all other approaches fail.

 

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I was in a funk for a very long time around my “Quarter-life crisis” period and like most people, I turned to the Internet for advice before asking someone for it.

I kept running into much of the same “visualize, affirm and be grateful” stuff – but it really didn’t do much for me. I felt like it was almost like telling someone to visualize that they were skinnier – and then actually expecting to see it happen without doing any work.

Eventually, I found a few key principles that make a massive difference.

Here are five things that worked for me.

1. Be 100% honest with yourself

Sometimes, many of the decisions we make on a daily basis aren’t even our own decisions – we think they are, but they’re really society’s decisions.

We tell ourselves we want to be successful, or want to be a doctor, or want to spend the summers in Paris and learn French.

I mean, who doesn’t want to do those things, right?

One of the big things I found myself wanting was to be perceived as a success – I wanted to be successful, even though I had no idea why I wanted to be successful.

When I dug deeper and asked myself why, I realized it was just for respect. I didn’t actually care about becoming successful; I just wanted the respect from other people.

So did I really want it? I guess not. I guess it was something I picked up that society “told” me I should want.

It’s harder than it seems. We often live based on the outside – not the inside.

The hardest question in the world is this: “What do I really want?”

And while we’re on it, think about it: how do you really define success?

Is success the nice car, the trophy spouse, the big house with the white picket fence?

Does it mean waking up and doing what you enjoy?

Does it mean traveling multiple times a year, or maybe just traveling year round?

What is success to you? You might find that you’re not far off.

2. Do a brain dump

The daily rush of confusing, back and forth emotions is one of those things that can drive you insane if you’re in a period of life where there’s lots happening between the ears.

We don’t want to wake up, and then we don’t want to go to sleep.

We’re thinking about the past and wondering about all the mistakes we made, then we’re projecting into the future and feeling anxious about what may come next.

Here’s what worked wonders for me to silence that monkey mind:

Vent… on paper. Just write all the stuff that frustrates you, confuses you, and makes you want to scream.

If it’s frustration about the present, write it down.

If it’s depression thinking about the past, write it down.

If it’s anxiety thinking about the future, write it down.

And it’s miraculous – it’s almost like as soon as we voice these frustrations, they get quieter. And sometimes, they get silent. But all of them get more stuck on the page the more we write them down. Suddenly, we go from having a hundred negative thoughts in our mind to having just a few. And then the more we write things down, the more they rest on the page.

3. Create positive snowballs

When we feel like we’re a sinking ship, it can feel like everything has massive resistance surrounding it.

Go to the gym? No thanks.

Get up and take a shower? I’ll pass.

Get out of the house and meet someone for coffee? Not happening.

After a while, pretty much any and all motivation and desire to do stuff has gone out the window.

And then we find ourselves sitting on the sofa, endlessly watching TV really struggling to do much at all.

One thing that can work dramatically here is what positive psychology calls positive snowballs. Here’s how it works:

Let’s say you wanted to develop the daily routine of meditating thirty minutes a day.

The average person will just jump right in to meditation full-force, go for a few days, and in less than a month will be back to the exact same routine of not meditating at all. That’s what happens to me a few times a year.

It’s tough to go from zero to one hundred in a week, but it’s also even tougher because mentally we’re not in the routine of doing this. And once we get discouraged, it’s tough to get back on track.

So rather, what we do is simple:

Rather than trying thirty minutes of meditation, we just do ONE minute.

Yes, one minute.

It seems pointless and it seems like it won’t do anything, but it’s not the time that matters: it’s that we develop the psychological positive snowball – we begin associating meditation practice (achieving the one minute goal) with being happy.

And when the bar is set so low that you continually hit the goal, you develop a positive snowball that’s easy to maintain, rather than a huge goal we fail to achieve which constantly discourages us.

So whatever we’re struggling with doing, even if it’s just getting up off the couch, what can we do for just one minute to begin building that positive motivation again?

It’s not about the time at the start – it’s about associating the activity (like meditation) with being easy. And if we bite off too much at the start, that won’t happen.

4. Just quit… and do whatever YOU want

I’ll never forget, I had a conversation with my mom a few years back when I was in the midst of working to build my own business and I was putting in agonizing hours with a full time job.

She said, “You’re always so serious… you try too hard.”

A massive light bulb went off.

I guiltily admitted that half of the time, I felt like I should be working 12-14 hours a day – even though I didn’t necessarily even want to.

I felt like that’s what new business owners just do. It was such a ridiculous idea, and I was fully caught up in the myth without even realizing it, but I got sucked into someone else’s dream.

In fact, I thought about my average daily routine and the things I did every single day, and you know what I found?

Most of the time, I wasn’t even doing stuff I wanted to do. I had all these lists of things I should do:

“I should do Judo because it’s pretty cool, it helps me defend myself, and it’s fun to talk about.”

“I should volunteer on the weekend because that’s what a good person does.”

“I should work more hours in my business if I want to get ahead.”

I had all these “shoulds,” but you know what?

I asked myself if I actually liked doing any of these things – if I considered them play, fun, and the answer was a very clear no.

So why did I keep doing them?

I made a promise to myself: I’m just going to quit doing all the stuff I “should” do for ANY reason other than enjoyment and fun… and do whatever I want.

I also removed the stress that comes with forcing myself to use all my time “achieving goals.”

Once I filled my afternoons with stuff I wanted – reading in coffee shops, going for walks, working on fun projects – my happiness and playfulness came back.

5. Do a life 180

Sometimes we hear people say, “Just quit your job, move across the world, and start over again!” as if it’s the magical cure for depression.

For those of us that can’t “escape” our lives, there’s something else we can do to feel a lot better.

When we’re feeling depressed, it feels like there’s something missing. It feels like we’re in this supreme state of lack.

And it’s paradoxical that when we feel the most lack, like we need something, that’s often the best time to do something awesome for someone else.

So I gave myself a new rule: on the days where I felt the absolute worst – especially when I didn’t feel like doing anything for anyone else – I had to do one awesome thing for someone else.

Sometimes it was as simple as going to the coffee shop during the morning rush and buying the person behind me coffee.

Sometimes it was as simple as volunteering at a local pet shelter.

And sometimes it was just volunteering at a soup kitchen.

The paradox is that often service is what leads to completion.

When we’re in an extreme state of lack the last thing on our mind is wanting to help someone else (how can I help someone else if I can’t help myself?) but it’s fool proof.

Whenever I was my worst, I simply made myself forget about myself – and helped someone else live the life they wanted.

These five daily changes dramatically pulled me out of my funk. What about you? What else has helped you get through a tough time?

About Alex: Alexander Heyne runs Modern Health Monk, a site that helps busy professionals get the body, health and life they want through the power of tiny habits. You can get his free guide, 5 daily habits to double your energy & get your dream body here.

 

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1) You think you’re your job

Nobody is asking you to love your job, but there’s a fine line between doing your job and becoming your job. The latter means you’re basing your self-esteem on the status the job brings and the amount of money you make.

Stop that. Your life is out there, not in the office.

2) You’re hungover a lot

And no, you can’t escape all your problems with alcohol and partying. Not all the time at least.

3) You’re fat

You aren’t eating right. You’re not exercising and you’re tired all the time. It all adds up!

Happy people have energy!

4) You’re chasing money

Money is absolutely important, but the bottom line is whether you want to chase it or not. Usually, chasing it doesn’t work.

5) You’re always bored

Because you aren’t trying new things!

6) You’re surrounded by negative people

This is truly sneaky. We all tend to brush off a little annoyance from what we call friends, or a crappy boss, but it can really seep into your life if you allow it to be. Regardless, a happy life is one where the people around is totally positive and want the best for you.

7) You’re not getting enough sleep

Four hours is enough to function tomorrow, but it’s not enough to feel energetic and well, happy. Get some sleep now!

8) You’re jumping into relationships too fast

To a certain extent, going with the moment and indulging in romance work, but eventually, you need to start thinking and make smart decisions.

If you want to be happy, then protect your heart!

9) You’ve not righted the wrong

If you made a mistake and incidentally hurt somebody, you’ve to apologize. Cowering down would only cause feelings to fester in you.

10) You let social media run your life

Checking Facebook, updating Twitter or surfing Instagram have become so common that people don’t even realize it’s mundane. The convenience and ease of it has made people disconnect from each other and not want to pursue enriching activities.

Get out of using social media every once in a while. It will do you a lot of good.

11) You aren’t doing the work

You’re procrastinating. You’re putting it off. You’re coming up with a ton of excuses! Work usually feels daunting, but if you don’t power on through, it’s going to make you feel unaccomplished and downright unhappy.

12) You’re choosing to be unhappy

It’s a choice. It’s all about perception.

Maybe it’s time you  stop being so pessimistic and stop whining. Do the right thing. Make the choice to be happy!

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You may or may not be aware of it, but your current beliefs around love, money, health, relationships, fear, self worth, success, happiness and virtually all other things are most likely the same beliefs you had when you were 10 years old. It sounds unbelievable but it is true.

How is this possible? Essentially, most of your subconscious programming happened between the ages of 0-7, and unless you have worked on changing those beliefs, they still run in your mind today. Most people are unaware that they have subconscious beliefs that are at their core. In reality your subconscious mind is 95% of who you are.

The subconscious mind is a massive memory storage with a virtually unlimited capacity and space. It’s function is to store and recall memory forever so you don’t have to keep relearning the same things every day. It’s where the blueprint of all your habits, beliefs, memories, learning and physiological processes are held, so you can easily navigate your world and stay consistent with your programmed identity. The memory and function of the subconscious is quite powerful.

So why is it that our programming from childhood is so long-lasting? Between the ages of 0-7 we are essentially in a trance-like state and absorbing everything around us like sponges. Children are subconsciously picking up and storing everything that the adults around them are doing, feeling and saying in order to figure out how to navigate their own world. Our sense of identity and who we are to become in the future is very much contingent upon our early subconscious programming.

The three primary ways we downloaded our subconscious blueprint is through words, modeling and specific major experiences. Most of our learning and beliefs were formed through these primary filters.

1. Words – Verbal programming happened when you heard adults speaking to each other or to you when you were growing up.  If something was repeated enough times it got stored in your subconscious memory. What did you hear  when you were young?

2. Modeling – Modeling happened when you saw how your parents and other adults around you behaved. Their actions and reactions to different situations and people influenced your understanding of how to engage with the world.  What did you see when you were young?

3. Specific Major Experiences – The specific experiences you had while growing up impacted your learning process. Everything that happened in your childhood and early adulthood taught you how to survive, live and thrive. What did you experience when you were young?

Now don’t get too stressed about how you were raised or the programming you received as a child. If it was not perfect (nobody’s was) that is okay! The events of your childhood have a big influence on your adulthood but they do not need to permanently define you. It is possible to change your subconscious programming.

Perhaps you want to change your programming around health, money or relationships and install more empowering beliefs. It is not only possible to change them, it is also possible to do it pretty quickly.

Here are 2 ways to make powerful changes to your subconscious programming:

• Hypnosis – Hypnosis  is simply a deep state of relaxation where it is possible to give suggestions to your subconscious mind to make changes. Going into hypnotic states allows you to make changes to your core beliefs and habits. Countless people have used hypnosis to quit smoking, get over trauma, focus, increase test-taking skills, eat healthier, and make more money, among other things. Hypnosis is probably one of the fastest ways to make changes to the subconscious mind.

• Meditation – Mindfulness and meditation are really great tools to increase your self- awareness and thinking habits. Slowing down, even for just 5 minutes per day, has tremendous benefits for your mind and body. Just by sitting still and focusing on your breath you are able to increase self-awareness and change your internal state.

Unless you are actively working on updating your subconscious programming, your old programs run on autopilot forever, regardless if they are serving you or not. So be mindful of your thinking and let go of the beliefs that don’t serve you anymore.

Change your mind to change your life!

Stephanie C.N. is a self-improvement writer with a background in hypnotherapy and NLP. She blogs about wellness and self improvement here and runs an online membership program called Align With Wellness. You can read more about her and contact her.

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Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.

~ William E. Gladstone, British Prime Minister, 1892 – 1894

What is real happiness? Is happiness that we make up true happiness?

According to social psychologist, Dan Gilbert, there are 2 kinds of happiness. One is natural happiness which we experience when we get what we want and the other is synthetic happiness which we manufacture when we don’t get what we want.

Here’s a question for you: Is one better than the other?

Let’s find out.

In denial or truly happy?

I am sure you have heard about people who after experiencing a bad event or a disappointing setback tells others and themselves that they are better off despite not getting what they want and that they wouldn’t change that for anything in the world.

Well, it turns out that these people aren’t overt-optimists who are in denial about their misfortune. It turns out that their “synthetic” happiness did make them happy. For real.

In his Ted Talk, social psychologist Dan Gilbert talks about people fabricating happiness after not getting what they want or experiencing a real nasty experience such as being wrongly convicted and served decades worth of a jail sentence for something he has not done.

The sentiment expressed by the man who was wrongly convicted was that it was a “glorious experience”. Really? Surely that is not the right feelings to have after serving time for so long for something you did not do?

Naturally, we think that these people must be lying to themselves, they can’t be truly happy with their experience but we could be wrong….

Using unconscious memory to test happiness

Well, in an experiment Gilbert conducted on patients with anterograde amnesia who cannot form new memories he first asked the patients to rate a lineup of 6 Monet prints from 1 being the least-liked to 6 being the most-liked. Then, he told them that as a gift they would be given either print number 3 or 4 as a gift and most of them picked number 3 over 4 just because of preference. The researchers then left the room and returned (bear in mind that the patients do not remember the research team nor what transpired before) and the patients was asked again to rank the 6 paintings from least-liked to most-liked.

Here’s the interesting bit:

The individuals now rank the number 3 painting at number 2, higher than before and the number 4 painting which was rejected was now ranked even lower than before at number 5. The results indicated that they are happier with the painting they had owned more than before and they liked the rejected painting even less even though they do not have any conscious memory of the paintings.

With this experiment, Gilbert found that individuals make their own synthetic happiness unconsciously. Gilbert also found that this unconscious ability to synthesize happiness happens more often in situations where we do not have control over the situation.

In essence, we are really good at making ourselves feel better about an outcome that occurs from a situation that is out of our hands.

Now, what does this mean for you and why should you pay any attention?

Here are 3 reasons why you should pay attention:

1. Synthetic happiness is not fake. It is not something you make up when you are pissed off about not getting what you want. Synthetic happiness is a natural mechanism we all have in our brains that lets us see a not-so-ideal situation in a different light and learn to like our situation which in turns does let us become happier in time to come.

2. The ability to synthesize happiness is a vital skill to have because we cannot have everything we want all of the time. The truth is we will all face disappointment at some points in our life and we need to be able to manufacture happiness and become adept at seeing the better side of life.

Here’s a point to ponder: clinically-depressed individuals do not have the ability to synthesize happiness in most situations of their lives and that is why they find it harder to see the greener side of life.

3. We often grossly overestimate or underestimate how naturally happy we will feel in any situation. Truth is we will only truly know how happy we will feel and continue to feel when we are actually experiencing thus being able to synthesize happiness helps us cope with the uncertainty of our future outcome.

In Conclusion:

The joyful state that we feel is made up of both synthetic and natural happiness. Neither is better than the other because to lead a balanced life we need both: Natural happiness lets us experience the good stuff and synthetic happiness lets us adapt and appreciate what we do have when the outcome is less than ideal. When you start exercising the ability to synthesize happiness, you may find that some situations are not as terrible as they appear at first.

Can you think of a time when you synthesized happiness? What event caused you to synthesize happiness at the time and did the feeling of happiness continued? Share your comments below.

Author’s Bio:

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How does it feel when you are not able to find meaningful patterns in life?

Are you getting fed up with your normal routine?

Are you feeling jealous about someone else’s life?

Before adding these negative ingredients in your life, spice it up by adding your individual elements.

Move out of your safe zone to feel the adrenaline of your true dreams. Strip off all the confusions to enjoy the adventurous ride.

Whenever you are getting bored with your life, grab these five effective strategies to remain happy and peaceful.

1. Analyze ‘Monday Morning Syndrome’

Are you getting frustrated by visualizing Monday morning’s?

Does the fear of weekday’s boring schedule spoil your weekend?

If yes, this is the perfect time to analyze your real purpose in life.  The best way to analyze this syndrome is to ask a simple question: Are you living happily or just crawling?

While living a fulfilling life, the person discovers a lovely connection with everything. There is no time for boredom because this person gets involved deeply with his passion.

The work becomes an effortless art.  All the disturbing visualization turns into a smooth ride.

We create a dull environment by crawling through the dense choking fumes of frustration and hopelessness.

As a result, we run away from our true motive. This question looks simple, but it will definitely provide a wonderful base for your bright future

2.  Reveal your mistakes and make people smile

I love to watch standup comedy shows. They stand at the center of the stage and do insane acts to make us smile.

To me, comedians are the best actors as they have the ability and willpower to laugh at themselves only.

We laugh at other’s mistakes, but we hide our own mistakes to not become a laughingstock.

There is always a fear of becoming a standing joke in front of your friends and relatives. So, we always try to suppress our faults.

It feels great when the other person is not able to catch our errors. What a relief, isn’t it?

We feel good by making others fool. But, we forget we are making a fool of ourselves only. In the beginning, we suppress our problems without thinking about the consequences.

So, just stand up at the center stage of your life and project your real identity. It doesn’t matter whether people smile or not. These acts provide great practical lessons about life.

3.  Accept more and judge less

We are not here to judge anyone because everyone is blessed with unique powers. Instead of taking other’s responsibility, we must start taking our own responsibilities.

As a charity begins at home, acceptance begins at our inner home. You know why we love to judge more and accept less.

Judging is a simple task as it is easy to target other people. Acceptance is a difficult task as we are the target only.

But, by accepting our true path, we spice up our life by adding our individual flavors to decode the complexities in an easy manner.

So, accept your past faults, accept your present journey and accept your future road map. Don’t dilute the taste of life by wasting time in judging.

4.  Get ready for the murder

I am not talking about any physical murder. So you don’t have to worry about anything. It is a safe and wonderful process to kill your fake identity.

In order to kill your fake mask, you have to make a secret plot because the victim is very close to you.

To achieve this mental murder, you will have to do the following things.

Reveal your true identity.

Stop living someone else’s life.

Come out of the stinky shell and rise above all miseries with full authority.

Discover your true path.

Instead of feeling jealous about other’s wealth, concentrate on your inner treasure.

So, are you ready for the murder?

5. Spicy and dull complement each other

Do you like dull moments? I know the answer.  Nobody likes a struggling phase. So, why am I asking this question?

We forget that these dry periods are one of  the most important moments to generate a lot of spice and adventure.

By surviving these harsh winds, we discover a lovely path. Without understanding sadness, we cannot measure the value of happiness.

In a similar manner, without understanding the bitterness of tough moments, we cannot taste the spice and adventure of wonderful moments.

Spicy and dull moments are like a pair of shoes. As the shoes are sold in pairs, so do the ups and downs comes, in a pair only.

Without the right shoe of a given number, left shoe of the same number has no significance.

In the same manner, without any experience of a rough journey in a given circumstance, the happy journey of the same circumstances has no significance in our life.

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