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David Essel’s 8 Laws of Success

The “Law of Attraction” excites Americans with dreams coming true, like imagining “checks in the mail “, so that we become millionaires or, by having a vision board, we will somehow magically attract our soulmate. It taps into the emotional side of many people who love to live in this realm of life. But it’s not very realistic. It’s more “wishful thinking” than anything else. Let’s think for a moment. If a program offers huge results, with little to no effort, isn’t it time to stop buying into the insanity? Millions of people have used this technique, yet few will ever find success from “wishful thinking or fantastical affirmations.”

So, where do we go from here? …

In my #1 best selling book, “Positive thinking will never change your life…But this book will! The myth of positive thinking, the reality of success,” I share that affirmations are a great way to start the day…But it doesn’t matter how much emotion someone puts behind them, they are never going to radically change anyone’s life, unless it’s a miracle. Enough of the nonsense!

The following information can be used by anyone to create the life they desire.

#1. The ability to be successful lies within everyone. Yes, you can create an incredible income, lose the weight you desire, create deep loving relationships, release addictions and find a pathway to your creator. You have THE RIGHT to be successful, as much anyone else on this earth.
#2. Unless it’s a miracle, your thoughts are not powerful enough to create success on their own. Your thoughts will not create “checks in the mail”, weight loss, nor will they attract the perfect lover. We’ve been fed nonsense, if we believe these success fallacies. This is crucial to not only understand, but to accept as true.
# 3. The number one block to success, are the beliefs held deep within the subconscious mind. The role of the subconscious, is to keep you exactly where you are, which is commonly referred to as the “comfort zone of life.” Now, this doesn’t mean that the “comfort zone”, or these subconscious thoughts are healthy. Wherever you are lacking success, we can guarantee that your subconscious thoughts are sabotaging the success you desire.
# 4. A thought, regardless of how positive it is, cannot change a negative behavior long term. Unless it’s a miracle. You cannot “think, or affirm”, your way out of an addiction, financial hardship or a terrible relationship.
# 5. The only way to turn the subconscious mind around, from a saboteur to an ally, is to repetitively, on a daily basis, do the action steps you would rather not do. Success demands that we all invest more time, effort and money into our biggest goals. Over time, you can create a subconscious mindset that will continue to push you forward on your path of success.
# 6. In 37 years of work in the field of personal growth, we have found on average that an individual who is struggling deeply with addiction, weight, finances or their love life… Will have to put approximately 12 months, or 365 days of doing the work they would rather not do, in the area of life they are struggling with, in order to turn the subconscious mind around.
#7. Through action steps into the uncomfortable for a 12- month period time, the uncomfortable just becomes who you are. Where in the beginning it was a struggle to lose 100 pounds, at the end of 12 months of changing your diet and exercise habits, the new habits simply become who you are. An effortless part of your
life. Success.
# 8. Affirmations, vision boards, and the like, will be important for only 20% of your success. Regardless of what you’ve been told, statements such as, “what you think about you bring about” are not true. Unless it’s a miracle. 80% of your success will come from your willingness to do the steps you would rather not do on a daily basis. This is the true “secret” of success.

David Essel, M.S. is the best selling author of 9 books, a counselor and master life coach and inspirational speaker whose work is endorsed by celebrities like Jenny McCarthy, Wayne Dyer, Kenny Loggins and Mark Victor Hansen.

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There are a lot of positive things about being analytical. Being analytical allows you to make better decisions, develop a deeper understanding of the world around you and become a more successful person.

There is a fine line, however, between being analytical and overthinking everything.

Overthinking is detrimental to a person’s happiness and almost never makes a situation turn out any better than it would have otherwise. It also leads to indecisiveness, which can prevent a person from taking action when action is needed the most.

According to Amy Morin, “Whether they’re beating themselves up over a mistake they made yesterday, or they’re fretting about how they’re going to succeed tomorrow, over-thinkers are plagued by distressing thoughts. Their inability to get out of their own heads leaves them in a state of constant anguish.”

Though, it can be a difficult cycle to break, here are three simple steps to stop overthinking and take back your sanity.

1. Accept that not Everything has an Answer

Not everything in the world is meant to be understood, and not everything has an answer. People who are overthinkers have a tendency to try and find the underlying cause and effect behind everything that happens.

Unfortunately, we live in a complex world, where cause and effect is often times a near-endless web. Trying to unravel this web and follow every line of cause and effect will only lead to heartache.

Just accept that not everything has an answer. Sometimes, things just happen, either for no reason at all or for reasons so complex and unrelated that trying to figure them out is pointless.

This is a difficult fact for analytical people to accept. As analytics, we want to get to the bottom of everything and find the underlying truth. Most of the time though, there is no underlying truth to find, leaving us searching down one rabbit hole after another for something that isn’t there.

Accepting that not everything has a clear-cut answer and not every effect has an easily identifiable cause takes a lot of patience and maturity. If you can come to truly accept this fact, though, your life will be a lot less stressful.

2. Think Big with Small Steps

You need to stay focused on the big picture. Too often, overthinkers get hung up on a single situation. It consumes them, keeping them focused on it for far too long and inhibiting them from seeing the bigger picture.

Don’t get so caught up in the details that you forget what’s really important. As long as you are staying focused on the big picture, you can avoid getting bogged down by the why’s and how’s of a single event.

At the same time, though, it’s also important to take life one step at a time. Overthinkers are as guilty of getting caught up worrying about the future or how it’s all going to come together as they are guilty of getting hung up on a single event.

The best way to approach this predicament is to keep an eye on the big picture while taking the small steps you need to get there.

Don’t get so caught up on a single step that you stop progressing forward. At the same time, don’t get so caught up on the big picture that you begin to wonder aimlessly and lose focus of the steps you need to be taking to get there.

Truth be told, it’s a delicate balance, but it’s one that’s well worth finding.

3. Have a Clear Vision

Overthinkers are often times easily distracted and sidetracked.

Their thoughts are hijacked and derailed, and it’s almost like the person themselves are suddenly trapped in a line of thought that they have almost no control over.

To prevent these distractions from taking over your mind, it’s important to have a clear vision.
This could mean having a clear vision for what you hope to accomplish today, a clear vision for what you hope to accomplish with the rest of your life, or anything in-between.

The point is that if you stay focused on your goals and vision for your life, it’ll be much easier to overlook situations and events that might otherwise hijack your mind and force you to dwell on them for far more time than they are worth.

Having a clear vision is crucial no matter what you are trying to accomplish, but it is especially important for people who have a tendency to overthink situations.

Develop a clear and concise plan for yourself, stick to it, and don’t let tiny roadblocks become so large that they get in your way.

Let Your Mind Be Free

Highly analytical people are born with both a gift and curse.
Though thinking through a situation before you act is an excellent trait, it’s often far too easy to slide down the slippery slope of overthinking.

Thankfully, there are ways to filter out the negative aspects of being highly analytical and leave yourself with only the positive.

Remember that almost no good ever comes from overthinking events and situations, and often times doing so only leads to even worse results. In most cases, the simplest answer is the right one, and in many cases, there is no right answer at all.

By accepting this fact, focusing on what’s important, and developing a clear vision for your life, you can avoid falling into the trap of overthinking.

As the saying goes, don’t make mountains out of molehills. Give each situation only the amount of thought that it really deserves, then move on. You’ll find that your life is much happier and stress-free if you do.

Kolyanne Russ is an Accounting Manager with CPA designation for one of the largest commercial real estate companies in North America. She is also a founder of Pinch of Attitude blog. It focuses on attitude-building, self-improvement, and lifestyle design to help people draw the right action plan and achieve a desirable balance between success and happiness. Her goal is to share her personal experiences as a guidance for others to learn from and build the life of their dreams and experience true happiness in every area of their life.

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Meditation is of utmost importance in self-discovery and spiritual growth. But what if you find it really difficult to meditate? Despite trying multiple times, I have never been successful to meditate. Whenever I sit cross-legged and close my eyes to focus on breathing, I begin sweating and feel a strong urge to move my legs. In spite of my determination to meditate, my body starts trembling and I feel as if I am drowning.

At first, I thought that this must be because of the release of tensions and anxiety, but whenever I open my eyes, I feel more agitated and the result of this whole adventure is that I can’t meditate. I am in a deadlock now. I can’t afford to miss the life-changing benefits of meditation but I can’t meditate. So I discovered some of the non-conventional meditation techniques which I would like to share:

• A walk with a twist– We all walk to go from one place to another but do we ever walk for the sake of walking itself? No, I am not talking about the conventional morning walk to maintain good health. Usually, after the sun sets and darkness pervades, I choose a quiet street and start walking. After ten to twelve minutes, I enter a trance-like state where my conscious mind gives way to subconscious intelligence. The key here is to choose a tune for humming, not a song with lyrics. Also be careful that it must not be your current favorite song. When we choose a song with lyrics or our favorite song, our conscious mind begins associating the tune with emotions and memories but when we choose a random tune, we focus on the tune coming out of the larynx only which is similar as focusing on our breathing. When we walk, our body does not feel physically restricted so we don’t feel any struggle to break free. This technique works well for people who are hyperactive and find it difficult to confine to a single posture.

• Sky-gazing– We are the universe. Irrespective of our age and the size of our bodies, our souls are as ancient and vast as the infinite universe. So whenever I want to do some soul-searching, I turn to the universe which never fails to surprise me by reflecting the depths and insights of my own soul.

• Make bathing a ritual– Bathing is not only a process to cleanse the body but it is a ritual to reenergize our soul. Three-fourths of our body is water. Life originated from water. So whenever we come in contact with water, our body and soul acknowledge the life source and the water molecules pass infinite wisdom to our cells.

• Doodling– Whenever we doodle, we are governed by our intuition rather than logic. Therefore we can get answers about our life in this process. Whenever our doodles contain pointed edges, it signifies that our mind needs challenges to thrive. It is the perfect time to set a goal and work hard to achieve it. Whenever our doodles contain waves, it is a sign to go with the flow and introspect. Doodling helps to release the tension of our mind and it helps to find the solution of our problems.

Though no technique can replace meditation, these are the techniques which I found effective to achieve similar benefits as meditation. Please let me know what are your alternative meditation techniques?

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You’re reading What To Do When You Can’t Meditate?, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’re enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.

Meditation is of utmost importance in self-discovery and spiritual growth. But what if you find it really difficult to meditate? Despite trying multiple times, I have never been successful to meditate. Whenever I sit cross-legged and close my eyes to focus on breathing, I begin sweating and feel a strong urge to move my legs. In spite of my determination to meditate, my body starts trembling and I feel as if I am drowning.

At first, I thought that this must be because of the release of tensions and anxiety, but whenever I open my eyes, I feel more agitated and the result of this whole adventure is that I can’t meditate. I am in a deadlock now. I can’t afford to miss the life-changing benefits of meditation but I can’t meditate. So I discovered some of the non-conventional meditation techniques which I would like to share:

• A walk with a twist– We all walk to go from one place to another but do we ever walk for the sake of walking itself? No, I am not talking about the conventional morning walk to maintain good health. Usually, after the sun sets and darkness pervades, I choose a quiet street and start walking. After ten to twelve minutes, I enter a trance-like state where my conscious mind gives way to subconscious intelligence. The key here is to choose a tune for humming, not a song with lyrics. Also be careful that it must not be your current favorite song. When we choose a song with lyrics or our favorite song, our conscious mind begins associating the tune with emotions and memories but when we choose a random tune, we focus on the tune coming out of the larynx only which is similar as focusing on our breathing. When we walk, our body does not feel physically restricted so we don’t feel any struggle to break free. This technique works well for people who are hyperactive and find it difficult to confine to a single posture.

• Sky-gazing– We are the universe. Irrespective of our age and the size of our bodies, our souls are as ancient and vast as the infinite universe. So whenever I want to do some soul-searching, I turn to the universe which never fails to surprise me by reflecting the depths and insights of my own soul.

• Make bathing a ritual– Bathing is not only a process to cleanse the body but it is a ritual to reenergize our soul. Three-fourths of our body is water. Life originated from water. So whenever we come in contact with water, our body and soul acknowledge the life source and the water molecules pass infinite wisdom to our cells.

• Doodling– Whenever we doodle, we are governed by our intuition rather than logic. Therefore we can get answers about our life in this process. Whenever our doodles contain pointed edges, it signifies that our mind needs challenges to thrive. It is the perfect time to set a goal and work hard to achieve it. Whenever our doodles contain waves, it is a sign to go with the flow and introspect. Doodling helps to release the tension of our mind and it helps to find the solution of our problems.

Though no technique can replace meditation, these are the techniques which I found effective to achieve similar benefits as meditation. Please let me know what are your alternative meditation techniques?

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“Be the kind of energy, that no matter where you go, you always add positive vibes to the spaces and people around you.”

I’m quite a positive person usually, but it’s easy to remain upbeat on days when everything is going to plan. Sadly, this isn’t always the case and I think we all have those days where everything just keeps going wrong, don’t we? It’s on those days that it can be useful to learn some techniques for keeping your positivity up!

I had a day recently where I really struggled to maintain my positive vibes.  I’d recently had my fourth baby, just fourteen months after my third.  It was my first week on my own with all four children as my husband had returned to work. It was my most stressful day of the week anyway as my eldest had swimming and karate after school that day.

I was feeling good as I’d got the oldest two into school on time with babies in tow and spent a lovely stress free day at home with my smallest ones.  Everything was on track for the rest of the day to go swimmingly.  I planned to pick the girls up from school, get home where I’d have 45 minutes in which to feed the baby and get the girls to pack their swimming bags.

Of course, when I got home, the house was covered with feathers . . . the cat had brought a bird in!  Thanks Universe.  I stepped with trepidation into the house trying to spot the carcass that would await me, told the children to sit down in the living room and not move until Mummy had sorted it.  Couldn’t see the thing in the living or dining room so moved into the kitchen, where the bird was very much alive and well and flapping around my head! I panicked, I’m irrationally scared of them, so I screamed, and then the 5 year old screamed as did the toddler and before I knew what they were all crying.

I pacified the children with a giant box of chocolates I’d been bought as a ‘New Baby’ present and headed back into the kitchen where I opened all of the doors and windows and attempted to shoo the creature out of the house with a broom handle.  I was panicking, the bird was panicking and neither of us were getting anywhere.  So I left everything wide open, shut the kitchen door and returned to my children.

By this point I had twenty minutes until we had to leave for swimming, so I decided I’d just have to hope that the bird would fly out of its own accord and continue with my original plan.  I got the girls to do their bags, whilst I fed the baby.  Checked the kitchen.  Bird was curled up in the corner of the windowsill, right by the open window!

So I popped round to tell the neighbors I was leaving my house wide open and ask them to keep an ear open, then left for the swimming pool with my four bambinos.

Then when we were nearly there, but on a 60 mile an hour road . . . I had a tyre blow out!  Most frightening experience of my life.  I’ve never had a car accident or anything like that and obviously it was just made so much worse by the fact that all four of my babies were with me and all I could think about was keeping them safe, but I was so scared I wouldn’t be able to.

Unaware of what had really happened, I managed to coast the car safely into the swimming pool and park up.  In the chaos at home, I’d forgotten to bring my phone, so I sent the girls in for their lesson and asked to use the phone at reception.  I called my mum and asked her to pick us up at the end of their lesson, take us to McDonald’s, drop the eldest at karate and drop us home – which she did, God bless her.  She even came in and vacuumed up the bird feathers for me!  Our friend the bird was nowhere to be found.

Day from hell, right?

And yet, sat at home on my sofa, with a very large glass of wine and my babies safely tucked up in their beds, I was still smiling.  Despite it all, I knew I had plenty to be thankful for . . . plus, I saw the humor!  I started to think about how it is that I keep my positive vibes high, especially on the days when the world seems to be against me.  And I’ve decided to share what I learned with you here, in the hope it helps you keep your positivity raised too.  Here’s how I keep my positive vibes flowing . . .

I focus on what I’m thankful for and what I have achieved.

When I have time to reflect, I don’t sit and wallow about everything that has gone wrong. If you take the example of my very bad day above, when I finally had time to think I was just so thankful that we were all safe and well.  I felt an amazing sense of achievement that despite it all, I’d done it! My children were well cared for, dropped off and picked up on time and made it to both swimming and karate.

I call on my tribe.

When it’s all getting on top of me, I call on those nearest and dearest to me.  Whether that’s for practical help or just a friendly ear, I know their good energy will help me turn the tide on that terrible day.  Just hearing the words ‘I love you’ makes your vibrations rise instantly.

I don’t sweat the small stuff.

Going back to my day from hell, does it really matter that on that day my children ate a vast amount of chocolate and had McDonald’s for dinner? No, not really.  It was what was needed to get me through it and it’s not like they eat that way every day.  I try to apply this attitude to all adverse situations.  When things are going wrong, I concentrate on the things that are really needed and I take care of myself.  Even if that means taking a breather for a moment to calm my mind and think how best to proceed.

I let go of the things I can’t control

Sometimes, life is sent to try us.  Negative things are going to happen that there’s absolutely nothing we can do about them and because there’s nothing we can do about them – there really is absolutely no sense in worrying over them.  This technique is easier said than done, but practice makes perfect.  I find talking to myself out loud really helps.  So in the moment I’m telling myself ‘There’s nothing I can do about this.  Just breathe. Let it go. Now, where do I go from here?’  After a while you don’t need to talk to yourself anymore as it just becomes the natural way you deal with things.

I meditate

I discovered meditation a few years ago and find it has improved my life massively.  Setting aside time each day to completely relax your mind and focus on your own energies is a brilliant way to raise your overall positivity all the time.  When you become a naturally positive person, that energy flows into every situation – even the bad ones.  And, you can also meditate in the moment, even if it’s just for a few seconds.  Just shut your eyes and find your balance and inner peace.  You’ll be amazed the effect that has on an adverse situation.

I seek out joy

When life is spinning around me, I ask myself ‘What will bring me joy right now?’ Whether that’s staring into the faces of my babies, blasting some music and dancing my troubles away, taking a walk in nature, reaching out to a friend or pouring myself a glass of wine at the end of the day – I find my joy.  You can bring moments of joy into the very worst situations and then you have those moments to focus on, rather than all the bad ones.

I think about what I’ve learned

Every bad day contains a lesson and if you allow yourself time to think about what it is you’ve learned, then the day is never wasted.  Tough times can make you stronger and when you feel that things have happened for a reason, it really helps to keep your positivity flowing.

I share my positive vibes with others

We humans are social creatures, we thrive off each other.  In a difficult and tense situation a smile and a laugh goes a very long way.  If you’ve got to laugh or cry . . . always go for the laugh.  Laugh and the world laughs with you.  I always try to act with kindness and with love and I do so without expecting reward.  These kind of positive vibes flow into every corner of you wellbeing and that of those around you.

It’s okay to have a quiet day, or a bumpy day or even a downright disastrous day!  What’s important is the way you approach that day.  The important thing to remember is your big vision and to know that the bumps in the road are just a part of your journey.  Remember the big picture and remember to paint yourself into the best picture of your life using the brightest, boldest colors!

Do you have any tips on how you stay positive in the face of adversity?

Becky works at Country Court Care where she see’s first-hand the importance of being a positive person and sharing your optimism with those around you.  She brings joy into the lives of older people every day and they also bring joy to her.  Her job is truly a vocation, but when she’s not at work or running around after her clan of small people she enjoys reading, writing, mindfulness and meditation, music, dancing and trips to the Spa!

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