5 Bizarre Goals to Help You Live a Greater Life

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Perhaps you’re fed up with regular goals? Maybe a monthly income target, or an ideal weight size, just doesn’t get you motivated like it used to.

Or perhaps you’re done with goals altogether? No matter how specific and measurable they are, it doesn’t seem to have much impact on whether you can achieve them.

Well, if that’s the case then I’ve got something that will pique your interest.

My 5 bizarre goals will make you think more than traditional ones. They may seem strange at first but their implications are far reaching. Build your life around them, and you’ll find you’re inexplicably guided towards a stress free, meaningful and, probably, wealthy life.

Goal n#1: To NEVER Write a CV in your Life

What would happen if you never wrote a CV?

Obviously, it would be unlikely that you’d get an employed job, but would it mean that you’d never make money?

Think about that for a moment. Clearly, it would limit your options. However, it would do so in a way that would likely lead you towards far more enjoyable and meaningful work.

70% of the employed American workforce either hate, or are unstimulated, by their jobs. When you consider this, writing a CV is likely to lead you to a stressful and boring life. Not to mention that they’re a pain in the ass to complete, totally inauthentic (coz you know if you were authentic, you’d never get hired!), and most times they get overlooked or ignored. Wouldn’t it be a more productive and enjoyable use of your time if you ditched the CV altogether and started looking for ways to earn money through your own initiative?

Perhaps you have a skill (playing a musical instrument, plumbing, languages) or could train in one, that you could market and then sell or teach?

Maybe you have a unique or expert knowledge about a subject that would allow you to become an information publisher? This route is becoming more accessible through promoting yourself on social media, having a website or blog, selling through Amazon and getting paid through PayPal. You could write an eBook on your specialist subject, coach people on it via Skype and have them sign up to your course on Udemy.

Perhaps you could set up a shop on Amazon or join a network marketing team and build your own team under you?

None of these options require a CV. Pursue one of them, and you get the freedom of being in control of your destiny, the added wealth from all the money going to you and the reward of being responsible for your success.

Goal n#2: To Live your Life Loan Free

What are the implications of refusing to take out a loan?

Does it mean you could never go to College or University, buy a home or start a business?

It would certainly make it harder, but not impossible.

Perhaps higher education would be beyond your reach but you could always defer until you had the necessary funds or work while at University.

Buying a home would be a massive stretch. However, the necessity of having to set your sights higher when it came to earning an income, and being scrupulous in your saving or investments, would instil some positive life and financial practices.

Without a loan, you’d be limited in the businesses you could start. However, these financial constraints would prevent a lot of the unnecessary wastage that goes hand in hand with the initial stages of starting a business.

While these, undoubtedly, are difficult restrictions, let’s consider the positives of never taking out a loan.

On leaving University, you can avoid the debt trap that chains so many people to working jobs they don’t enjoy. Instead, you can take your time, perhaps start your own business or work for free to gain experience.

The home is yours. There’s no obligation to work a job you hate to maintain monthly mortgage payments.

The pressure you face when starting your business is massively reduced. You have the freedom to learn from your mistakes rather than feeling like they might cause the end of your venture.

Goal n#3: To NEVER appear in a court room

Jury service aside, sticking to this goal will save you a whole lot of money and misery.

Clearly, you’ll want to avoid a court room on any criminal charges. However, for most people, this is an unlikely outcome.

What’s more probable is that you might see the inside of a court room over a marriage breakdown or a minor dispute. Preventing yourself from being in this position is of the utmost importance.

It’s easy to avoid minor disputes. Just don’t engage in the trivial. Remember the bigger picture for your life and rise above. Take the hit if necessary. In the long run, it’ll be worth it.

It’s harder to predict the likely outcome of a relationship when changes like age, children, one person growing and the other not wanting to, can all upset the perfect harmony experienced at the start. This means that you must be very cautious when entering a matrimonial union.

Perhaps you and your partner don’t need one. Your love doesn’t require societies stamp of approval.

If it does, then listen to your intuition. Is there a voice inside you, telling you there’s something wrong with the relationship? Do you have any doubts at all?

If so, getting married is a huge risk when you consider the emotional trauma, huge loss of finances and time that can result from ending it in court.

Goal n#4: To be Guided by your Conscience with EVERY Decision You Make

This goal requires a deeper analysis of your life choices and decision making. At first glance, you may believe all your decisions are made in line with your conscience. What kind of a person would you be if they weren’t?

But are they really?

When was the last time you disagreed with something that was happening at work, either to yourself or another person, yet kept quiet for fear of losing your job or damaging your prospects at the company?

Have you ever kept quiet about an issue in your relationship for fear of losing the person who’s treating you unfairly?

Do you buy unethical products (e.g. eating at McDonald’s, investing/saving your money in a mainstream bank or fund) out of convenience or personal gain, knowing that the company is having a detrimental impact on the world?

Listening and acting on your conscience isn’t just about abstaining from screwing people over. It’s about honouring the deeper wisdom that knows right from wrong and can, consequently, guide you to a greater life.

Note that I said greater, not easier life. Undoubtedly, being guided by your conscience in every decision you make is going to lead you into conflict with those that don’t. However, it will give you peace of mind, the pride of being able to look at yourself in the mirror and the respect and love of other people that do.

Goal n#5: To Meditate Every Day of Your Life

Don’t feel you must confine this practise to meditation only. I use this term because it’s the most recognisable. What’s important is having a daily spiritual/mindful practise that connects you with the deeper part of your being.

Sure, getting into the habit of doing this can be a pain in the ass. You’d rather watch TV, do something supposedly more important like work on your business or just make a start to your day. However, the time you invest in this practise will bring you rewards that resting or being productive can’t match.

You gain control over your thoughts through meditating daily. As a result, your susceptibility to fear, anxiety, minor worries and stress will diminish. Furthermore, you develop the ability to focus your mind.

This power will prove invaluable in achieving other life goals. Your mind can be your greatest friend or greatest enemy. While we’re conditioned to believe that our problems and successes lie outside ourselves, our minds are the true gatekeepers.

Meditation teaches you this.

What greater knowledge could you ask for? To know that you are the architect of your destiny is the most liberating realisation you can experience.

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Joe Barnes is creator of the Screw The System website and author of the critically acclaimed Escape The System. His mission is to give all Dreamers, Adventurers and Entrepreneurs the inspiration and information necessary to pursue their true calling. He also works as a hypnotherapist and tennis coach.

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Sharing These 20 Truths with Your Child Could Change Their Life

Sharing These 20 Truths with Your Child Could Change Their Life

“Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.”
― Margaret Mead

Our children grow up so fast.  Before we know it they’re out there somewhere in the real world, and we’re left hoping that we’ve done enough to prepare them for everything they’ll encounter.  Angel and I talk to course students and coaching clients on a regular basis – mothers and fathers alike – who share these sentiments.  They worry about their children.  They wonder if they’ve done a good enough job parenting up to this point.  And Angel and I totally get it too.  Oftentimes we feel the same way.  We’re concerned about our son Mac’s well-being and education, and we discuss it frequently, just like most parents.

In fact, from what we’ve researched and studied, the well-being and education of their children is more important to most parents than just about anything else – health care, cost of living, public safety, and even their own well-being.  And believe it or not, most non-parents also say they’re concerned about the well-being and intellectual growth of society’s youth; this concern seems to cut cleanly across gender, ethnicity, age, income and political affiliation.  So the reality is, to a great extent, we all collectively care about our children.   And that’s a really beautiful thing when you think about it.

Anyway, I awoke this morning thinking about all of this – especially the miraculous, life-changing responsibility of parenthood – and two related thoughts immediately crossed my mind:

  • Whoa!  Time flies.  How in the world did Angel and I suddenly become parents to a little boy that’s running all over the place and asking questions about everything under the sun?
  • There are so many important truths I want to share with Mac … before he’s in high school with his friends and too cool to listen.  And before Angel and I go from “mommy and daddy who know best” to “mom and dad who couldn’t possibly understand.”

So I’m writing this post as a reminder to myself, and to all parents… (more…)

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When I am an old woman I shall wear purple. With a red hat which doesn’t go, and doesn’t suit me.

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Why You Should Implement A Regiment In Your Recovery

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How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work

Can a regiment make or break your recovery?

It doesn’t really matter what your recovering from, whether it be drugs and alcohol or sex and over eating. Even the common cold can be troublesome without some organizational structure or a regimented process. The question remains how and why should you implement a regiment into your daily process.

My experience with a regiment was after 10 years flipping in and out of recovery. I found myself on my last leg to stand on and clueless as to what to do. I evaluated what made me feel good physically, mental and emotionally.  I concluded that there were several things that I could do throughout the day that would keep me busy and lay my mind at ease.

I will list what I built into my regiment below:

  • Prayer
  • Exercise
  • Meditation
  • Long boarding
  • Working/Learning

However, the biggest issue I had was implementing a schedule or process to implement these healthy activities in my life. I would do them sporadically and mix them up, but what I really needed was a healthy regiment to fill my time up during the day.

So, I devised a strategy based on waking up at approximately 7:00 AM every morning. I would first start out with prayer followed by a meditation to reflect on my purpose for the

How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work
How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work

day and to carry it out to the best of my ability. After making my morning coffee I would prepare for a 1 mile run and some push-ups. I would get done with this by 8:15 – 8:30 AM and start to get ready for work. I started work at 10:00 AM and would stay till about 4:00 PM. Once I arrived back home at 5:00 PM I would prepare for my evening. I started prepping for my evening and/or watching TV or some YouTube tutorials. Once it was about time for bed I started to implement prayer and meditation prior to going to sleep.

How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work?

On some nights, I would long board or do activities that would make me feel accomplished and get the blood flowing. Keep in mind that I am just coming back into recovery and had relapsed several times, so I was skeptical that I could recover from drug addiction and alcoholism. I wasn’t too confident in myself, but developing a process or regiment helped me stay the course.

The natural endorphin’s produced by the daily exercise had helped me remove the toxins from the body. It also helped me to think clearer. The prayer in the morning helped me to have faith. The meditation helped me heal and provided hope for my future endeavors.

What was I able to take from developing a regiment in my life?

Developing a regiment in my life helped me to recover from a hopeless state of mind and body, alcoholism and drug addiction. While I was always concerned with meeting my goals, I was less concerned with the obsession to use drugs or alcohol.

Please don’t overlook this because my experience was recovery from drugs or alcohol because the reality is too much of anything is no good. You could be someone that always wakes up late for work or someone who shops too much. The idle and unfocused mind will take you on a time-wasting roller coaster ride if you let it. A daily routine makes life a whole lot easier and more efficient.

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Why You Should Implement A Regiment In Your Recovery

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How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work

Can a regiment make or break your recovery?

It doesn’t really matter what your recovering from, whether it be drugs and alcohol or sex and over eating. Even the common cold can be troublesome without some organizational structure or a regimented process. The question remains how and why should you implement a regiment into your daily process.

My experience with a regiment was after 10 years flipping in and out of recovery. I found myself on my last leg to stand on and clueless as to what to do. I evaluated what made me feel good physically, mental and emotionally.  I concluded that there were several things that I could do throughout the day that would keep me busy and lay my mind at ease.

I will list what I built into my regiment below:

  • Prayer
  • Exercise
  • Meditation
  • Long boarding
  • Working/Learning

However, the biggest issue I had was implementing a schedule or process to implement these healthy activities in my life. I would do them sporadically and mix them up, but what I really needed was a healthy regiment to fill my time up during the day.

So, I devised a strategy based on waking up at approximately 7:00 AM every morning. I would first start out with prayer followed by a meditation to reflect on my purpose for the

How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work
How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work

day and to carry it out to the best of my ability. After making my morning coffee I would prepare for a 1 mile run and some push-ups. I would get done with this by 8:15 – 8:30 AM and start to get ready for work. I started work at 10:00 AM and would stay till about 4:00 PM. Once I arrived back home at 5:00 PM I would prepare for my evening. I started prepping for my evening and/or watching TV or some YouTube tutorials. Once it was about time for bed I started to implement prayer and meditation prior to going to sleep.

How did implementing a regiment into my lifestyle work?

On some nights, I would long board or do activities that would make me feel accomplished and get the blood flowing. Keep in mind that I am just coming back into recovery and had relapsed several times, so I was skeptical that I could recover from drug addiction and alcoholism. I wasn’t too confident in myself, but developing a process or regiment helped me stay the course.

The natural endorphin’s produced by the daily exercise had helped me remove the toxins from the body. It also helped me to think clearer. The prayer in the morning helped me to have faith. The meditation helped me heal and provided hope for my future endeavors.

What was I able to take from developing a regiment in my life?

Developing a regiment in my life helped me to recover from a hopeless state of mind and body, alcoholism and drug addiction. While I was always concerned with meeting my goals, I was less concerned with the obsession to use drugs or alcohol.

Please don’t overlook this because my experience was recovery from drugs or alcohol because the reality is too much of anything is no good. You could be someone that always wakes up late for work or someone who shops too much. The idle and unfocused mind will take you on a time-wasting roller coaster ride if you let it. A daily routine makes life a whole lot easier and more efficient.

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5 Ways to Crush Stress Without Exercising More, Meditating or Changing Your Diet

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed? Like there’s a huge burden you are carrying around.

You are not alone. Our days are jammed packed with things to do. Being busy is a heavy weight we all live under.

And the stress that comes along with this is no joke. Overtime stress can cause exhaustion, health issues, and even depression. You can chip away some of the negative effects of stress by exercising more, eating healthier, and possibly taking meditation. But those are huge lifestyle changes.

Is there something easier to help you manage stress?

Of course!

Morning routines do a lot to lower the pressure and feelings of overwhelm throughout the day. Here are five simple strategies you can put to work today to keep the stress beast at bay.

  1. Start your day the night before

No, you don’t need to work all night to catch up with work, social media, and emails. But you can plan tomorrow tonight and reap many benefits. When you plan your next day the night before, you won’t be stressed rushing out the door trying to figure out what you may be forgetting.

You’ll know when your meetings start, if it’s your day to pick up the kids from soccer practice, or if it will rain and you’ll need to bring an umbrella. In a nutshell, you’ll be prepared. The chances of unexpected things coming up as you leave your house are minimal, and that gives you great peace of mind.

The added bonus? Did it ever happen to you that you found a solution to a problem while you were asleep? Brilliant solutions are not going to pop up in your mind if your brain is wrapped up in a million little things you are hoping to remember tomorrow morning. Planning your day ahead helps you clear your mind and start the day less stressed.

  1. Refuse to read or listen to the news

Unless you are in the news industry, you don’t need to feed yourself with the news first thing in the morning. Have you noticed how few of those articles are positive? Headlines are designed to catch your attention and entice you to read on. And writers know that a headline which creates strong negative feelings will do the trick.

Your mind is somewhat like your stomach. If you have donuts for breakfast, you can expect to have less energy than if you have a balanced nutritious breakfast. If you feed your mind with negative news first thing in the morning, you can expect to start the day negative, pessimistic, and stressed.

Choose to delay reading the news till the afternoon, and you’ll see your upbeat self shine longer during the day.

  1. Set your alarm 30 minutes earlier

Does more sleep help you create a peaceful morning? Not necessarily. When you cut short the time it takes you to get ready, you kick start the stress cycle.

Instead choose to start your day at a slower pace. You won’t need to rush to get ready, have breakfast, and be out the door in record time. These extra few minutes in the morning will help you stay calm throughout the day.

You’ll be able to leave the house five minutes earlier. And you won’t frantically honk your horn at the first sign of slow traffic on your way to work.

  1. Create a Zen working space

A messy, cluttered, and unorganized working space is a great recipe for stress. Your workspace doesn’t need to be 100% minimal, but the more stuff you have, the more distracted you’ll be.

Clutter overloads your senses.  It creates opportunities for distractions and makes you feel like you always have things to do, even when you are done with work.

Of course we all have different tolerance levels to clutter. You need to find what works best for you. But when you notice that your eyes often get fixed on the pile of unfiled papers instead of the task at hand, it’s time to put those papers away.

  1. Radically reduce your options

Be boring. Don’t worry, you don’t need to be boring all the time, just first thing in the morning. When you have fewer options, it’s easier to choose.

Breakfast is a great opportunity to be boring. It may not be exciting to start the morning with the same meal every day, but you won’t have to give it an extra thought. It’s fast and frees your brain power to work on more important things.

Clothing is another great option where you can be boring. I know, not sexy. But, did you notice that Steve Jobs always wore the same outfit? President Obama only had two colors of suits to choose from. These were big public figures. If they were okay to wear the same outfits every day, so should you. It’s about cutting short the decision making process in the morning so you can create a smoother, more relaxed, and peaceful day.

You can conquer stress

We live in fast-paced times and we have a lot on our plates. It’s easy to fall prey to stress.

You know how pernicious stress can be for your health.

And you know that if you don’t make a decision it won’t magically disappear. You have to be proactive.

You won’t ever fully control what happens throughout the day, the last minute requests, delays, or emergencies.

But you can control how you start your day, and how much the day’s curve balls affect you.

Decide today to eliminate stress by starting your morning right.


Corina Semph is a mom, project manager, and blogger on a mission to help people transform their homes from chaotic to peaceful and uncluttered, even if they struggle to get rid of stuff.  Download her FREE Ultimate Cheat Sheet to Transform Your Closet from Crazy to Blissful in No Time.

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May 6th

Clouds come floating into my life, no longer to carry rain or usher storm, but to add color to my sunset sky.

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May 5th

Energy rightly applied and directed will accomplish anything.

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Get Smart! How to use Emotional Intelligence in a Technological World

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Let’s face it. We’ve all met someone who was “smart as a whip” but lacked certain social graces or was “clueless” when it comes to understanding how his words or behavior impacts others.

You know: the scholarly neighbor who bombs out at cocktail parties due to
off-color remarks or jokes told in poor taste, to the alienation of others.

Or the successful business executive who publicly berates his restaurant waiter for his order, not recognizing that what he could potentially be “served” once his plate is returned from the back kitchen might be even less appetizing.

Or the writer whose published blog rants come across as immature, irrational and irrelevant to his readership.

Truth is, although Emotional Intelligence is a very important type of “aptitude” it’s sorely lacking in far too many folks. Which is why learning to cultivate it can give you a competitive edge in your career, solidify relationships, and help you to make “smarter” choices to enhance your quality of life.

WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE?

The concept was introduced by psychologists Jack Mayer and Peter Salovey in the early 1990’s. Essentially it involves, “recognizing, understanding, and influencing the emotion of others.”
It also entails recognizing and governing our own individual emotions.

The English Oxford Living Dictionary Defines it as : “The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically: emotional intelligence is the key to both personal and professional success.”

Whether we realize it or not, Emotional Intelligence impacts many areas of our life and ultimately our bottom line. In fact, research from Harvard Business School demonstrated that EQ counts for twice as much as IQ and Technical Skills in determining who will be successful!

WHY EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MATTERS

With all the advancements and advantages technology brings, it can’t compensate for poor manners, bad choices, or lessen “the fallout” from not knowing how our actions impact others. And there’s no “app” for that!

Emotional Intelligence, therefore serves as an important footstool to elevate our social standing and enhance our personal and professional relationships.

Accordingly, here are a few practices and principles to consider:

THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK…
While most of us would agree that complete candor is a really cute quality in children, we typically expect grown folks to possess the maturity and emotional intelligence to know better, demonstrate proper discernment, and observe some type of respectful boundaries.
But, unfortunately, that isn’t always the case. For some people, what comes up comes out; they say exactly what they feel.

Be forewarned: saying anything that comes to mind can brand us grown-ups as uncouth, unkind, and even cause irreparable damage to our relationships.
Even the Good Book tells us that “the power of life and death is in the tongue.”

With this in mind, here are a few tips to becoming a classier communicator, to preserve your relationships and good image:

*Consider the nature of the relationshipIn law there’s a term referred to as “standing” that applies equally well here. In other words, what right do you have to say what you have on your mind? Is your relationship a close one that merits getting “personal” with the other person? For example, my friend Lil and I share things in the spirit of “sisterhood” that I wouldn’t typically share with all my other girlfriends–based upon a long friendship and trust.

*Consider the timing
Say for instance, a friend is dealing with the devastation of a recent split with someone she truly cared for. Is this really the right time to confess her man once tried to hit on you?

*Consider the setting
Whenever possible, avoid criticizing and correcting others in a public forum. It’s rude and potentially embarrassing.

*Consider the consequences
Though the “truth may set you free” it may also “liberate” long-term friendships. Proceed with caution.

*Consider the usefulness of the information
Is it something the other person has control over? If not, “mum’s the word.”

Remember, although we are privileged to live in a country that enjoys freedom of speech as an unalienable right, freedom ain’t always “free.” Choose wisely.


JENNIFER BROWN BANKS is an award-winning blogger, relationship columnist and author of the Ebook, “Get Smart”– How to use Emotional Intelligence in a Technological World.”

Learn more at her top blog for writers: Penandprosper.blogspot.com

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