4 Reasons To Choose A Career Helping Others

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Choosing the right job is challenging at the best of times. How did you choose your career? Perhaps you followed in the footsteps of your parents or siblings, or perhaps you simply pursued a subject that you enjoyed at school. If you’ve ever faced an existential crisis about your work, chances are that feelings of guilt were to blame. What am I doing here? What does this mean? Will this work mean anything when I’m done? These are all common questions that professionals will ask themselves on a daily basis.

The majority of careers are self-serving, and you have to look really hard to see how you are helping other people around you. But the career you chose out of school doesn’t have to the be the one you stick with. If you’re thinking about making a career change, or want some advice on choosing your career path, consider these five reasons that a career helping others can bring you the greatest amount of joy.

Greater Job Satisfaction

It’s easy to feel like a small cog in a giant machine, but helping other can combat these feelings and leave you with greater job satisfaction at the end of the day. By having a positive impact on the people around you, you’ll find it easier to get up and head into work every morning.

You’ll Live Longer

The verdict is in: jobs that make us miserable are actually killing us sooner. It’s a very basic formula, but people who enjoy their work are much happier, and happy people are healthier than their grumpy counterparts. A study by psychologists at the University College London revealed that people in a good mood were 35% less likely to die in the next 5 years. And this isn’t the only study that supports the link between happiness and a long life.

You’ll be surrounded by inspirational people

Industries founded on helping other people tend to attract an incredible range of people. Most industries attract the same sort of person, so you are surrounded by people who look, think and act just like you, but careers that focus on helping others will attract people from disparate backgrounds.

It Helps On Those Darker Days

Helping others doesn’t have to mean completely changing your career – you could pledge your support for a local cause, or you could offer pro bono professional services to a local charity. If everyone pledged to help other people, even in a small way, imagine how much better the world could be? Simple steps like registering to foster a child can help you to overcome the darker days and remind yourself that there is so much good in the world.

Some Parting advice

Helping others isn’t always a walk in the park, which is why there is documented evidence of a condition called “compassion fatigue” in healthcare professionals. Imagine caring so much about people that one day, you are unable to do so anymore? You actually get worn down by caring too much. While this is an extreme case, moving to a career where you can help other people shouldn’t be seen as a simple fix, as it will still be work, and it can be trying at times.

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Zen of Busy: Continual Letting Go When You’re Overwhelmed

By Leo Babauta

These past two weeks have been hectic and exhausting for me. My wife’s father passed away, and I’ve been in non-stop planning, coordinating, cooking, cleaning, driving around mode.

Yesterday was the funeral, and it was a long, tiring and busy day. Incredibly sad, but busy.

In the midst of this busyness, I’ve been trying to remember the practice of “continual letting go.”

I see it as a Zen practice: whatever you think you know, let go of it. Whatever you are sure of, let go of it. My mantra is: You know nothing. The result is that when I remind myself of this, I try to see things from a fresh perspective. I realize that I think I know something but I don’t really, and so I try to see it as if I don’t know.

What’s the point of this? By continually letting go, we don’t have to be so stressed out. When we realize we don’t know:

  • We don’t have to be mad when someone is acting in a way we don’t like.
  • We don’t have to have anxiety when we don’t know if things will go as planned or hoped.
  • We don’t have to have all the answers. We can have questions and curiosity instead.
  • We don’t have to get into a tense “No I’m right” battle with anyone else.
  • We don’t judge other people as much, so we can be open to who they are and have a good relationship with them.
  • We don’t have to control things, but can instead just try to be helpful without controlling the outcome.

The benefit of this is that by continually letting go of what I think things should be, of what I think I know, of needing to have control or certainty … I can just let go and relax. I can do my best, but not stress out about it when things don’t go my way.

I don’t have to be afflicted by anything. I can be busy, but not afflicted by that busyness. I can be tired, but not afflicted by the fact of my tiredness. I can have things go differently than I planned, but not be afflicted by that fact. The first conditions (busy, tired, things not going as planned) are not always in my control. But I can let go of knowing, and so not be afflicted by any of these conditions. Being afflicted by the conditions of life is what causes our real problems.

So in the midst of tiredness, busyness, chaos … I try to remember to let go, continually.

When someone comes to me with something unexpected, I try to let go of what I thought the situation was. Then I open up to this new situation, with fresh eyes.

When someone is cross with me or grumpy, I try to let go of how I think they should be acting. And then be curious about why they’re acting that way, and love them in the midst of their suffering.

When I’m tired and have a lot to do, I try to let go of the idea that I shouldn’t be tired or busy. Then I look at the situation with fresh eyes and realize that I can do these tasks despite the discomfort, out of love for my family.

When things are messy or disorderly, not the way I like them, I try to let go of the way I think things should be. Then I try to see the situation with fresh eyes, understanding that there will always be chaos and mess, and that this too can be loved.

I see that I’m stressed and holding onto the way I want things to be, and so I tell myself I know nothing. And I let go. Then something else comes up and tightness comes up in my body, and I notice this and try to let go. I breathe, smile, and open up. I see things as a beginner. It happens again and again, often from one moment to the next, and I try to continuously let go, let go, let go.

And by letting go of what I know, I’m opening myself up to what’s in front of me. This unfolding moment of unexpectedness.

And it is truly magnificent.

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5 Weekly Habits for a Meaningful Life

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With self-improvement, it’s easy to intellectually obsess over ideas. But practical information that can be easily absorbed and applied is essential you’re going to improve your quality of life. So lately I’ve been asking myself if what everyone is reading is translating into some positive change. To that end, I’ve also been wondering if what I’m writing is helping others.

If an article or book fails to stimulate the reader, such that they’re not able to connect the dots in their life in a new way, then either it’s not relevant (in which case, they shouldn’t have been reading it in the first place) or the author hasn’t crafted the content well enough.

It’s worth doing a filter test with anything you read by first asking yourself: Does this book or article seem like it can help me improve my life?

(Each book or article can only ever improve the quality of your life by 1-5%. But when you read and apply information from dozens of books and articles, those little blocks of 1-5% can create powerful, lasting changes in your productivity and happiness.)

I hope this article provides you with just at least a 1% improvement in your quality-of-life.

“Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless and add what is specifically your own” – Bruce Lee.

1)  Spend more time reading Books and Articles that lead to Positive change

I could easily spend hours reading books on the history of the world. But while I do appreciate the lessons the past has to offer us, I realize that the amount of potential benefit I’ll be getting in this category of books (concerning how my behaviours change for the better) is limited.

So, from that perspective, it’s more helpful to read books and articles related to Psychology, Habit change, Time Management, Health, Spirituality etc. That’s because the level of knowledge I have in these areas affects the way I lead my life more profoundly.

For instance, if I’m aware of what daily habits will improve my mood and apply them, I’ll be a happier person. If I know and consume the foods that go well with my metabolic type, then I’m likely to feel and perform better in all my activities. If I know certain spiritual truths, then I’ll approach trivialities with greater openness and acceptance.

Nowadays, instead of just reading what’s on the front page of a website, I will click on the categories in self-improvement that I’m most fascinated by. I then carefully pick articles based on the title and the introduction. Doing this means I only spend time reading the best articles, for me, in the current season of my life. I also use Feedly to quickly scan for great articles.

Takeaway: Look into particular categories of books and articles where you feel your knowledge is weak and where it’s directly translatable to a change in your habits. For example, when I felt my time management skills needed improving, I started focusing more of my reading in that area.

Knowledge is only potential power. It becomes power only when, and if, it is organized into definite plans of action, and directed to a definite end.” – Napoleon Hill. Potential value for your week if applied: 1%  (52% Improvement in your ‘Knowledge’ in a year)

2) Switch your phone off one day per week

I put my phone on flight mode every night and make sure it’s left outside the bedroom. After my morning routine, I disable flight mode and get that nice dopamine rush from those ushering notifications. To be honest, I’m not that popular so I don’t get that many.

But I only unlock my phone so to speak, once my habits, such as Meditation, Stretching, and Reading have been taken care off. So I don’t start each day with the varying pings and requests that inevitably come flying in.

Since Monday sets the tone for the week, I find that it’s important that I do whatever I can to prioritize all my attention to what’s most important in my work-life on this day. So after a quick check in the morning, I keep my phone off for the rest of the day, each Monday. Replies by WhatsApp missed calls, and texts can wait.

More often that not, I don’t end up missing anything urgent. Plus, I tend to be less attached to my phone for the rest of the week. I’ve taken this further by installing TimeUsed on Android (Moment – alternative for iPhone), which shows me how much time I’ve spent looking my screen on any given day.

This forces me to only use the apps and speak to the people that give me the most happiness.

Takeaway: Consider keeping your phone off one day per week.

“Life is what’s happening when you’re looking at your smartphone.” – Anonymous. Potential value to your week if applied: 1% (52% Improvement in your ‘Peace of Mind’ in a year)

3) Eat the same Breakfast or Lunch every day

Every day we make hundreds of little decisions, but perhaps the one we antagonise over the most is what we’re going to eat. All that mental energy could be spent elsewhere. Certain foods can affect the way we feel and think and in profound ways.

Just try eating two croissants with butter and jam before your workout and see how you feel. Or maybe have a certain brand of cereal that you’ve never tried and go to work. Likely, you won’t be pleased with the way you feel in either scenario.

By automating one of your meals, you reduce the chance of eating foods that just don’t vibe with your unique biochemistry by a 1/3 (if you eat 3 meals a day). You’ll also end up experiencing less decision fatigue and stress. The counter-argument might be “Well eating the same food for a meal daily is annoying as heck”.

But I think that if you pick a group of foods that you love for one of your daily meals, you’ll never get bored of it until at least three months (at which point you can then change it up again for variety).

Takeaway: What are the healthy foods do you absolutely love that you can consume daily?

“A solid routine fosters a well-worn groove for one’s mental energies and helps stave off the tyranny of moods” – Mason Currey. Potential value to your week if applied: 1% (52% Improvement in your Health in a year)

4)  Every Morning or Early Afternoon (Mon-Fri), write Two Fun Things you Plan on doing that Evening

Work can make us serious and cerebral if we don’t make sure to smile along the way. Having something to look forward to (not in an escapist way) means that no matter what comes up, you have those two end of the day celebrations that you know will be there waiting for you.

It could be playing with your pet, watching a TV show with your loved one, or going to an event, or meeting with friends. Whatever it may be, set an intention for it in advance so that you have something to at least look forward to.

I’ve noticed that whenever I go to bed without enjoying those small rewards, I don’t get that great of sleep and I wake up less happy and a little more grumpy. I’ve also noticed the same with other people. So it’s important that we do something fun that stimulates us each day.

Takeaway: Introduce a little anarchy in your evenings.

“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy” – Proverb.  Potential value to your week if applied: 1%. (52% Improvement in your ‘Fun’ in a year)

5) Write down your mistakes and worries on a little Note

It’s funny how much we beat ourselves up over the little problems and mistakes that creep up in a day. And they creep up every single day no doubt, and usually, we get frustrated with ourselves as a result. Then we get into a mental game of Street fighter where we KO ourselves round after round. This cycle can start one day, continue the next, and so forth. Before we know it, we’re feeling unhappy with life on a whole.

This partly stems from a perfectionist mind-set. No absurdities, worries, or mistakes can creep up. We can’t feel bad and have it be okay. No everything needs to be AMAZING every single day. And because we don’t end up living up to standard, we get depressed when all we need to do is the accept the feelings that are coming in.

So I’ve got a little note in Google Keep that I call ‘Worries and Mistakes box’. Every time I notice a little weed prodding in my mind I write it down in this Keep note. Just giving it that attention seems to calm the gremlin noises in my head down. So for instance, as of writing this, I ate some bad food last night, and as a result, I didn’t sleep that great. I could either let that mistake from yesterday derail my present day, or I could acknowledge it by writing it down.

Takeaway: Dissolve the power your negative thoughts have over you by writing them down.

“Labeling our thoughts helps us break the self-identification with the thought.” – Karla Helbert. Potential value to your week if applied: 1%. (52% ‘Stress Reduction’ in a year)

So that’s it! Those are the five unique ideas you’ll want to implement if you want to lead a more powerful and meaningful life. If you’re a creative and you’re interested in learning more about what you can do to increase your odds of living more meaningfully each week, I’m going to give you a Free Bonus to help.

In the meantime, which of the five habits will you use consistently to improve the quality of your life?

About the Author: Samy Felice is a writer who is passionate about unique ideas related to living a meaningful life. His Free Book explores ways people can make success easier.

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4 Ways to Boost Productivity and Enter Flow States Consistently

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Can you recall a time when your work felt effortless?

Nothing distracts you. There’s no internal resistance. You are focused, energized, and immersed in the task at hand. You make connections seamlessly. Your creative output soars. Time stops. Your enjoyment in the moment rises.

Psychologist Abraham Maslow called this a peak experience. Psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi continued Maslow’s initial findings to develop the science of flow.

Flow is a mental and physical state of being. Everyone has access to flow states, but some people access them with greater frequency.

To access a state of flow more often, try the following

1) Play to Your Natural Strengths

Another psychologist, Martin Seligman, demonstrates that when people do the things they are naturally good at in their work, they are generally happier and experience more flow.

To determine your natural strengths, take a free scientifically validated survey to determine your top strengths on the VIA Institute on Character website.

Then, determine at least three to five ways you can access these strengths in your work.   

2) Reduce External Distraction

Distraction is the primary culprit that steals our attention. Each time you are interrupted from a flow state, research suggests that it takes an average of 10 to 15 minutes to return to it.

Consider how often you get distracted in a given hour (for the average executive, it’s over eight times) and you can appreciate why flow can seem so rare.

When you’re working on a specific task, eliminate anything that can make noise and draw your attention. Close your email program. Put your phone on “airport mode.” Silence all notifications. Shut your door.

Establish a predetermined time parameter to work uninterrupted on a project that’s meaningful to you. You can’t eliminate distraction indefinitely, but everyone can go offline for an hour to focus on something important.

3) Find Your Center

Once you deal with external distraction, you’re still left with the biggest distraction of all: your own mind. When you’re in a state of flow, you can access more of your brain’s potential. You can focus because your mind isn’t ruminating in the past or projecting into the future; it is absorbed in whatever you are doing. You are fully present.

There are many centering exercises. Mindfulness meditation is a popular way of quieting your mind by observing your thoughts with nonjudgmental awareness.

One of my favorite methods is to put your attention on the bottom of your feet. Simply put your complete awareness on your feet for about 20 seconds. Observe any sensations you might feel. Notice if you feel more calm and focused.

Keeping both of your feet firmly on the ground as you work will help you maintain your focus for extended periods of time.

4) Adopt an Attitude of Open Readiness

Rigid thoughts and beliefs block our creativity; they stifle flow. Adopt what the Zen Buddhists call a Beginner’s Mind. Let go of preconceived notions. Surrender the need to control the next moment. Drop the false notion that you need to know all of the answers.

Then, stay ready and alert. Creating is an active art. Those who enter flow states on a frequent basis earn it by staying devote to their work.

Finally, don’t expect to enter a state of flow. Expectation and anticipation will only create resistance and frustration. Maintain a playful attitude. Experiment without expecting an outcome.

Flow happens at the intersection of effort and allowing. You’re in charge, but only to a degree. Embrace this ambiguity. And go create something great.


Scott Jeffrey writes at ScottJeffrey.com about productivity, creativity, energy, and how to create your best work. To get effective methods for enhancing your mental performance, join his free newsletter.

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7 Small Habits to Help You Handle The Overwhelm of Working and Living in the Digital World

How to Handle the Stress in the Digital World

“If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn’t ask me, I’d still have to say it.”
George F. Burns

“Give whatever you are doing and whoever you are with the gift of your attention.”
Jim Rohn

Life today is quite different compared to when I was a kid in the 80’s and early 90’s. Back then I had a TV with just a few channels and later on a Nintendo videogame. That was it.

Today many of us have smartphones that we use to browse the internet, to work and to play games. We spend a many hours in front of computers and a part of our day is often spent online.

There is so much information these days. So many potential distractions and sources that seem to have made people more stressed, overwhelmed and unhappy than they were in the past.

Working and living in this age isn’t always easy.

So this week I’d like to share 7 habits that help me to keep my attention on what truly matters – both at work and in my private life – and at the same time minimize stress and overwhelm.

1. Shut off notifications.

To find focus the first simple thing to do is to shut off notifications in:

  • Your email client.
  • Messaging programs.
  • Social media and gaming apps.

Then get back to what truly matters without those pings hanging over you and distracting you.

2. Keep your smart phone far away for quality time/work.

The simplest way to not be distracted all the time by your smartphone is to put up small obstacles so you don’t have that easy and tempting access.

Here’s, for instance, what I do when I work:

  • I put the phone in silent mode.
  • I put it in another room at the other end of our home.
  • Then I check it a few times a day for calls and text messages.

We often do the same thing during the evenings and weekends to make sure that the time we spend together is quality time and not time spent being distracted.

3. Unplug or use an app to keep your focus on what matters.

When I write a new article or work on a course then I usually do that disconnected from the internet.

If that’s not possible for you then try a program or browser addon like for example StayFocusd or Cold Turkey Pro to temporarily block the sites where you know you tend to procrastinate and waste too much time.

4. Disconnect over the weekend.

Stay away from work and offline over the weekend. Leave your work phone at your job.

If that’s not possible keep things to a minimum:

  • Leave that work phone in silent mode and check it just every 24 hours over the weekend.
  • Do a quick 2 min check of email once a weekend (that’s what I do).
  • Reply only to the calls, texts and emails that are very important. Otherwise, let them wait until Monday.

5. Focus your information inflow.

Ask yourself:

  • What email newsletters in my inbox have I actually read and gotten something good out of in the past 30 days?
  • What podcasts I have listened to that have given me value in the past month?

You can ask yourself the same questions for magazines, blogs and forums and so on. Then take 5-15 minutes to unsubscribe to the ones that just clutter up your inbox, smart phone, bookmark list and shelves.

Time is limited. So is your attention.

So use both of them in a way that enriches your life and that focuses on only the best information sources. This very simple exercise can be surprisingly effective to get rid of mental clutter too and think more clearly again.

6. Stop comparing your life to someone’s high-light reel.

When you start comparing yourself and your life to what old classmates, friends and celebrities share on Instagram or Facebook and you each day see how perfect and wonderful their homes, kids, work and lives are then that can create a lot of stress and erode your self-esteem.

So what can you do if you get stuck in this habit?

  • Remember that what they share is usually just the high-light reel of their lives, the most positive moments. The other stuff that is a part of life happens too, you just don’t see it.
  • Focus on comparing yourself to yourself instead. See how far you have come, what you have learned and what you have overcome.

7. Remember the 5 little words for sanity: One thing at a time.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed by all the tabs open in your browser or missed messages, when you’re distracted by something while trying to have quality time with your loved ones and when the stress is starting to build up remember those 5 little words.

Breathe and let them help you to connect with this moment and with simplifying things. Use them to slow down, to find clarity in what you need to do and to resharpen your focus and attention once again.

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7 Stunning Books To Read If You Are An Aspiring Writer

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Every person who has made up their mind on becoming a writer realizes that – just as with any other occupation – there are a lot of catches and tiny things to be aware of. Therefore, they seek advice from the more renowned and established authors on how to create a great piece. Also how to unleash the inner writer, how to avoid writer’s block, etc. The best way to look for such advice is, obviously, just to google it. True, there are a lot of articles on the topic to be found all over the Internet. But while many of such articles are relevant and comprehensive, it is quite naive to assume that such a massive topic can be covered by just one or two articles – regardless of how well-written and to-the-point they may be.

If you want some substantial and complete recommendations, then you need something more than just a few articles. So, today we are bringing you 7 book for young and aspiring authors to read (in no particular order) to improve your writing skills. Mind that this article may contain spoilers to some of the mentioned titles.

  1. Becoming a Writer by Dorothea Brande

First published in 1934, this book has aged well. It dives into every aspect of the creative process and recaptures the atmosphere of creative writing classes. From some of the best professors that the author herself had taken back in the 1920s. Book speculates on the very process of writing and the writer’s attitude towards their work, investigating what it takes to become a writer.

It is not a technical manual. But it’s rather a guide from a friendly tutor figure that is willing to explain how to be an author, how to discipline oneself to always get the work done, etc.

Dorothea Brande believes that everybody is born with a certain amount of talent, and it only takes some effort and determination to develop it, if you really want to become a writer.

  1. On Writing: A Memoir Of The Craft by Stephen King

This autobiography / masterclass was published in 2000, just one year after the author’s near-death experience. The book is brilliantly structured and flows smoothly from the author’s personal experiences to how they influence his writing. One of the world’s most celebrated writers of today.He uses his own example to give you a masterclass on how deeply personal issues can be dealt with by means of writing, and help you to share what you have to say in a way that the world will listen.

Apart from that, King investigates how his devotion to writing helped him to overcome his near-death experience, which makes this work also a great source of inspiration.

  1. Runaway by Alice Munro

This pick is actually not a manual or a guide, but a fiction. First published in 2004, this book was awarded the Giller Prize that year.

This is a slow-paced prose. It flows simply and quietly, but one cannot but notice the enormous attention that the author has for the detail. This makes the book a true finding for an author who struggles to get and idea for a story. Illustrating how a single brief glance at something you see every day can give rise to an engaging story. This book can be viewed as a workshop on how to squeeze a good read from the most mundane things. Once you learn how the smallest and least noticeable detail can be immortalized in writing, you will inevitably feel guided on how to have your own masterpiece done.

  1. Daily Rituals: How Artists Work by Mason Currey

Creative people are known to have some foibles. Sometimes writers reflect upon themselves and their peculiar habits, and ask themselves: “Is everything alright with me? Am I becoming some kind of a weirdo?” Not exactly a great thought for an artist to think.

In this book, Mason Currey collect the daily habits and quirks from 161 recognized writers. As well as some comments upon how these rituals were supposed to aid them in their creative process. After you read about someone who stands on their head for an hour or so and assures that it helps to overcome their writer’s block, your own peculiarities don’t seem so out-of-line anymore. In fact, your habits become quite innocent, if not mundane.

  1. On Writing Well: The Classic Guide to Writing Nonfiction by William Zinsser

Despite the title, this book is well worth reading even if you are a fiction writer. It gives you an insight into the mechanics of the language. The advice is always sound, to-the-point, and conveyed in a warm and friendly tone.

Though the book was originally published in 1976, it stands the test of time well. It can be found useful by writers of all kinds: fiction and non-fiction, journalists and bloggers, even students who work on their school essays, or someone who has to write emails in their job.

Besides, William Zissner’s own writing is easy and inspiring – the kind of narration you might want to consider integrating into your own writing.

  1. As I Lay Dying by William Faulkner

Another piece of fiction on this list. This seminal work by the celebrated Nobel Prize winner William Faulkner shudders the conventions of the writing of its time. It was originally published in 1930. The story of a poor family in a small town in the South on a quest to arrange their matriarch’s burial.

Not only is the story being told from not one, not two, but 15 different points of view. All these points of view look nothing like how a normal writer would write them down. They are as if they come directly from the character’s mind. A stream of consciousness was not a widely used technique at the time, let alone applying it to 15 different characters in one book.

William Faulkner’s As I Lay Dying is your perfect example of breaking the rules done right.

  1. Writing the Breakout Novel by Donald Maass

Suppose you have a good story already, but now you want it to get published and become a hit. This is the perfect guide on how to shape your story into a bestseller. Donald Maass is not only a successful novelist but also a top publishing agent. He is willing to share some insightful advice on how to get your writings skyrocketing to the tops of the charts.

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5 Things You Must Do In The First Hour Of Your Day

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Believe it or not, how you spend the first hour of your day can have significant effect on your mood, motivation, mental energy and health. In all cultures, it is dictated that the day must be started with a mild stretch, a walk, a bath and praying. This inculcates a good metabolism, mood and clarity of mind. There is a reason this protocol has been followed over centuries and after scientific analysis and research we are back to square one. Let us elaborate on the activities a day must start with and why:

  1. Mild Exercise and Stretches: The body acts in a way where you need to stretch. This is due to the reason that stretching improves circulation, relieves tension and increases flexibility that the body needs before doing any activity.

Lying in the same position for an elongated period of time causes the body to develop stiffness, hence it must be ‘warmed up’ before you start a task. Similarly, this also translates to joint flexibility. Stretching makes the blood move faster and bring circulation to the extremities. Try doing the stretches for 30 seconds to relieve any mental or physical stress carried forward from the previous day.

You can start by a normal arms stretch, slight back twist, stretching upwards and toe touching. For a proper stretching routine try the yoga asana Suryanamaskar.

  1. Avoid any tech contact: Stop making your phone the first point of contact in your life. Research suggests checking your phone first thing in the morning has a negative effect on your mental health as notifications from the previous day make you feel like you have cloud over your head, leaving you hesitant to get up.

According to Sid Savara, an expert in time management and personal development, says that the minute you check your email in the morning, “you risk doing what someone else wants you to do.”

If it’s the alarm clock you worry about, buy a traditional one as a bedside object and it will work wonders for you. The rays from electronic display can make you in fact more lazy and put your right back towards oversleeping.

  1. Freshen yourself up:

Drink a small glass of water to get your system running and avoiding any dehydration from the previous night.

A splash of cold water on your face improves mood, brings blood circulation to the face and relieves any tension you might have stocked up. Taking care of personal hygiene gives a sense of freshness and optimism.

Now the most significant part – a cold shower. A cold shower (you can adjust the temperature a little bit in winters but not too much) provides immune-friendly changes and increases your body’s lymphatic, circulatory and digestive systems to initiate a healthy effect on your body.

It can also help decrease symptoms of depression so you know it is a feel good activity. If nothing else, it will activate you and what’s as good as a little screaming in the morning?

  1. Do your chores and make your bed – These are not to increase the quality of your life but make you avoid stress in the morning and clear your mind.

Cleaning up, organizing, packing yourself lunch, brewing coffee, disposing your dirty clothes from the previous day are some activities. Also, you will have a small sense of achievement right in the morning and come back to a tidy environment after a stressful day as well. It surely does not mean the ones who make their bed are any less busy but instead most of the times, are productive.

71 percent of bed makers consider themselves happy; while 62 percent of non-bed-makers admit to being unhappy. Bed makers are also more likely to like their jobs, own a home, exercise regularly, and feel well rested, whereas non-bed-makers hate their jobs, rent apartments, avoid the gym, and wake up tired [source: psychologytoday.com]

  1. Visualize & plan your day ahead: There is strength in the power of visualization. When you see yourself doing something, you will have the will to go ahead and do them as well.

This does not mean checking your email and start working. These are the goals you have set for yourself and want to achieve. Think about them, plan how you will go about them and add a few things in your weekly planner or todo list if anything pops in your head.

You will be one step ahead already. Before doing anything, you have started to achieve your goals.

Essentially, you have to avoid a stressful motivation of something left incomplete or something you need to complete. Do not confuse accomplishment with negativity towards tasks you do not want to think about, but do them instead.

Keeping your head clear for the first hour of your day will increase your overall productivity throughout the day.


Aymeric Gaurat-Apellii is a software consultant, programmer, blogger and the Founder of Weekplan, a weekly planner web application. Read more by him here.

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The 7 Best Blog Posts on Motivation

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What will you do with the time you have? Go to work, stay in bed, hang out with family, spend your savings on a round the world trip, stay in a relationship, take a hike? Some of that will depend on circumstances and external factors of course, but when it comes to making choices in life- we are in the driver’s seat. The psychology behind a decision or a choice is often lead by some internal process or impulse that we call motivation. It gives reason to action and desires and stimulates our interest toward a particular goal. What if motivation did not exist? The truth is it always will exist. All motivation is a result of the interaction between our conscious and subconscious mind and there are several types to note, intrinsic (desire for internal fulfillment such as learning), extrinsic (arises from outside pressure) and self –motivation (ability to get what is needed done without influence). Here are some blogs that hone in on how to harness our motivation to achieve our desires:

1.This blog aims to put the onus on ourselves to get motivated. The idea that we can spend hours surfing the web for videos and blogs on motivation seems ironic because if we motivate ourselves to do this task, we can certainly inspire to do another. It includes a Ted Talk by Meg Jay in which she speaks of her young therapy client, she talks of adding value to who you are with ‘identity capital’. Exploration is not the same as procrastination, make the work count.

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  1. Through the steps of a recovering addict, the idea of motivation seems insurmountable at times, this blog helps one stay on a path toward fulfillment of your goals and applies to all across the board, not just those who are sober. He posits that each day gives us an opportunity to celebrate and motivate.

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  1. Research suggests that 65% of people fail to continue with a desired resolution, so this blog gives us ways to stay on track. Simple and easy tips that can be applied immediately, such as writing down a thought, doing research and doing it right now!

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  1. Most of us get out of bed (or linger in bed…) and lack the motivation we so eagerly anticipated we would have the night before. Research suggests there are clever ways to circumvent this behavior that trick the mind into productivity and success. The tips in this blog are doable and small, yet powerful.

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  1. “Mistakes are portals of discovery.” James Joyce. This blog is essential for anyone that has been held back by anxieties and self-doubt. Using the fear to achieve success, if you can think of the worst thing that can happen in each case, you will loosen its grip on the outcome. Therefore allowing a free flow of creativity and productivity needed to attain your goal.

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  1. Abraham Lincoln once said, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” This quote, used in his blog, perfectly embodies what it is to drag our feet. Perhaps the most damaging obstacle to motivation is in fact, procrastination. But the good news it is completely avoidable. There is a routine of rituals to follow in this blog that work to help one stay on track.

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  1. This blog is full of informative and inspiring videos to help with motivation. One that is particularly essential is the one on ‘beating the odds’. The idea that our very existence is beating the odds and what is against you is negativity, insecurities, fear and self-doubt.

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Intention and desire set the course for many goals that will take a long time to achieve, and motivation will keep us engaged and moving forward. If we approach life with a ‘what is the point?’ mind set it clearly makes motivation an uphill battle with such a self-defeating attitude. Discovering what it is that motivates us all individually is the very first key in unlocking our personal power and potential. Beyond that motivation is necessary to see our tasks to completion and it is essential to adopt tips and tricks to remain on that path.

Do you read a great blog about motivation that’s not on the list? Leave a comment on FB!


 Larissa Gomes is a breast cancer survivor and single mom to her spirited baby boy! Originally from Toronto turned Angeleno, she has worked in roles from writer, actor and producer for well over a decade. In that time, she’s developed concepts, film and television screenplays, short stories, along with freelance articles, blogging and editing work.

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Is It The Right Time To Pack Your Bags And Move?

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Moving is a daunting task. It won’t only exhaust you physically with all the packings and the utilities to consider but it can also be emotionally and mentally draining. No wonder there is only 12% movers’ rate from the total population in the past years. Let’s face it, nobody wants to uproot from the place he spends half of his life in and transfer to another place he is unfamiliar of.

But when times get tough and you need new ways to survive and prosper, don’t you think it is about time to start a new chapter of your life? Don’t you think it is about time to start a new beginning in a new place?

Relocating from one place to another may not seem to be a practical thing to do but it could be your next best move.  Perhaps it is a better way to chase your dreams. Keep on reading and find out the few reasons why you need to relocate.

Because Moving Can Change Your Career Path

Have you ever felt that you are not satisfied with what you are doing anymore? Have you ever felt that you just don’t belong and going to a new place will make you feel more fulfilled? Yes? Then maybe, it is just the right time for you to relocate and pursue your passion elsewhere.

There is definitely a new city out there where you can fully explore your passion and put it into work. If you need to quit your job to follow your passion, then perhaps it is the right thing to do. We know how it feels… to get stuck in one place doing the same job over and over again. You feel empty and lifeless. So go somewhere else where you will feel more alive… where you are free to unleash your inner passion.

Because Opportunities Knock And You Have To Open The Door

Nothing can bring you closer to opportunities than you coming after them. Give yourself a chance to grow. There are some cities in the country that are more suited for your skills. For example, tech-savvy people can test and harness their skills more in San Francisco as compared to other cities.

As they say, the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But you will never know unless you try. You can’t be in the same place all your life without knowing what life could be on the other side of that fence.

Because You Want To Build A New Connection

Building connections is a part of growing up. With your networks and connections around, you have your support system. When you move from one city to another, you are building new connections. These connections will not only help you to be more productive but, they will help you to become more confident about yourself.

You need other people to help you grow.  Moving to a new city will help you find new people to build a new circle. These people will help you progress in business, careers and other significant aspects of your life. Though, it can be challenging at first, building new connection will make you feel more secure about yourself and once you get used to it, it can really be lots of fun.

Because You Need To Know Yourself Better

At some point in your life, you become confuse of who you really are and what you really want to do. It is not impossible that your decisions are influenced by the series of events that is happening in your environment.

There is no better way to come up with decisions that are solely your own than to go somewhere you are not so familiar with and reflect. Moving to a new city will give you a fresh start. People couldn’t care less about who you are and what you were doing before, you have a chance to start a new life and build a new identity that you want people to see in you.

Because There Is No Reason To Stay

YOLO! Cliché as it is but true. Why would you let your life get stuck in one place when there is nothing to hold on to? Life goes by too fast and before you know it, you might have missed the chance to enjoy life. So, when it seems that there is no reason for you to stay, why won’t you explore other cities and have a chance to live independently?  Who knows, maybe you’ll meet the one who will inspire and persuade you to chase your dreams and be who you want to be.

The physical stress of relocating is nothing compared to what you may likely to gain when you move. Besides, there are checklists you can follow for a stress-free transition.

Moving is a life-changing experience. There is no guarantee of a better life when you move, but when your dreams and your life goals are elsewhere, will you stay and wait for them or will you chase your dreams?

It is up to you to decide.

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In Memory of Juan “Brand” Cruz, a Man Who Inspired Me to Be Better

By Leo Babauta

About 10 days ago, my wife Eva’s father Juan “Brand” Salas Cruz passed away, and he left an immense legacy.

He also changed me in ways I am only now beginning to realize.

He was a man of fierce and immense love for his family and anyone whose life he touched — and he touched a lot of lives, for many years. My father-in-law Juan was a man who was there for anyone, whether you were one of his beloved grandchildren, nephews or nieces … or a friend of his at the Guam Legislature … or a fellow rancher who was in need. He was there, always.

He was the guy who was called when someone was in trouble. The guy who made huge amounts of foods for weddings, graduation parties, funerals, birthday celebrations. The man who would fight for his loved ones, would be a second father to nieces and nephews, would do anything at all for his brothers and sisters, who poured out love for his grandchildren.

He changed me, because I saw him live that message of love every day that I knew him. He changed me, because he inspired me to be a better man. And I love him for that.

A Life of Contribution

Juan Salas Cruz was born in 1948 in Santa Rita, Guam, when the village was still newly built in the red-dirt hills of southern Guam. It was shortly after World War II, and Guam was in ruins from war, when the Japanese occupied the island until 1944.

He was born to his parents Juan Camacho and Luisa Salas Cruz, the “Brand” family, and he was one of 14 brothers and sisters. So a huge family, one that is incredibly loyal to each other.

He served in the Navy in the Vietnam War, worked at the Guam Telephone Authority, and then he met his wife, Lourdes Santos, who he loved for 40 years. They had three children together: my wife Eva, along with Amy and Juan Jr. There was nothing he wouldn’t do for these three kids.

Juan worked for many years in the Guam Legislature, as chief of staff and key administrative staffer for several Guam senators. He was the man behind the scenes for many people in the government, the problem solver, the mover of worlds.

He was also the first person in his family to get a college degree, and he had a strong intelligence that he didn’t often show off but that you could see in his eyes and actions.

But he was not an academic: he was a fisherman and a rancher. He loved fishing with a “talaya” (the Chamorro word for fishing net) and would take his nephews and nieces with him to remote beaches to catch fish that he loved to barbecue. He absolutely loved his ranch in Dededo (in northern Guam) and raised pigs that he would roast for people’s special occasions, along with vegetables for his delicious soups. He was often found with red dirt smeared all over his clothes and cowboy boots after a long day at the ranch, and some of his best friends were his ranch neighbors.

How I Knew Him

Some of my favorite memories of him were were when I would help him cook. He had a huge outdoor kitchen with massive pots and pans that he got from Navy surplus, and it seemed like every week there was a big event he was cooking for.

I would help him make red rice (a Guam specialty), or make incredible amounts of fried rice, eggs, bacon, pancakes and more for family breakfasts on New Year. We would barbecue, smoke beef, fry fish, bake hams, roast pigs. And then after all that, we would clean those massive pots with a big spray nozzle and hose down the kitchen.

I remember helping him after a typhoon had devastated the island and we had no power or running water. He would drive his big red 4×4 truck around getting water for family members and friends, helping them fix their houses, cleaning up debris of torn-up houses and trees, getting equipment to whoever needed them.

I remember him with his grandchildren, my kids … and how they were the world to him. He threw big birthday parties for them, took them to the ranch to ride tractors and help feed the pigs, brought them donuts on random mornings just because he was thinking of them, made them their favorite dishes and desserts, was always looking for toys for them, and would kiss them as if it were the last kiss he’d ever get.

I know how much he loved his home island of Guam. There was no other place like it, and he would say, “Guam is good,” with a pride and love in his eyes. He loved the backcountry ranches but also the people in the villages, and he had friends everywhere. Everywhere. He would listen to island music (and also country music) and he talked to me about his pride in the Chamorro people.

His Love Lives On

It’s an understatement to say that loved his brothers and sisters and their kids — including his brothers and sisters on his wife’s side, and their kids, they were no different in his eyes, all family, all deep inside his heart. Love is a tremendous word, but it’s inadequate to express how he felt. He would do anything for them, and often did.

He had nephews who were sons to him, on both sides of the family. He had nieces who were daughters to him. And their kids were his grandchildren. He raised not only his own kids but many others, and they are so broken up about the loss of this father figure in their lives. He went to any length to help them, and taught them so much about life.

He is not dead, because he lives on in their hearts, in their actions, everything they do reflecting some part of him, from how they treat each other and others in the community, to how they made a huge fiesta spread with several dozen dishes last night to honor him.

He lives on in me, my wife, my kids. In his daughter Amy, in Juan Jr. and his wife Jenny, in every relative who loved him and wants to express that love in some way. He lives on in his wife, Lourdes, who now has to go on without her partner. I’m so sorry for your loss, mom. I’m sorry for everyone’s loss, because his cowboy boots can never be filled, nor can the place he holds in our hearts.

All we can do is live by his example, and be better people, out of love for him.

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