The Path of Fearlessness

By Leo Babauta

The more I work with people who are struggling with habits or life problems, the more I see how fears are holding us back.

Fears stop us from building healthy and productive habits. Fears cause us to procrastinate, keep us from finding work that is meaningful (or doing that work if we’ve found it). Fears keep us from finding friends or connecting with people on a deeper level. Fears keep us from being happy in each moment.

Underlying all of those fears are a few key fears:

  • Fear of failure or being unprepared
  • Fear of uncertainty
  • Fear of being inadequate or being rejected

The two key fears are the fears of uncertainty and not being good enough, and in my experience, they’re both the same thing. We’re afraid of the uncertain future (and uncertain situations) because we don’t think we’re good enough to handle whatever might come out of the chaos.

These two fears (uncertainty and inadequacy) affect our lives in so many ways, and yet we rarely face them. We don’t want to feel these fears, so we run. We distract ourselves. We keep busy instead of being still to feel them. We find comfort in food and smoking and alcohol and TV.

In the end, the running doesn’t work, but only makes things worse.

There’s an alternative: the Path of Fearlessness.

Three Keys to Developing Fearlessness

What would our lives be like if we didn’t have fear holding us back?

We might find the freedom and joy that comes in being present with each moment.

We might find the underlying goodness that’s always there in each of us.

We might be able to finally live the lives we’ve always wanted to live.

So how do we walk this Path of Fearlessness?

Three practices to work with:

  1. Facing the fear mindfully. The truth is, we rarely allow ourselves to feel our fears. We run from them, pretend they aren’t there, distract ourselves, lash out at others, trying to find control. But we don’t even admit we have these fears, most of the time, let alone actually allow ourselves to feel them. So the practice is to just sit there when you notice yourself feeling any fear, and see if you can stay with it for awhile. Don’t stay with the story about the fear in your head, but rather how it feels in your body. See that it is stressful or painful or uncomfortable. Notice the particular physical feeling of this fear, this time. See if it changes. See what you can learn about it. See if you can be compassionate with it.
  2. Seeing your underlying goodness. As we sit in meditation, we can see that this moment is actually pretty wonderful. And this moment includes ourselves. We are part of the unconditional goodness of every single moment, and if we sit still we can start to feel that. There is goodness in our hearts, all the time, if we allow ourselves to feel it. There is the ability to appreciate and wonder, to feel and to love, to be present and to be grateful. Start to appreciate this, and you’ll start to develop confidence that you’ll be OK, even in uncertainty, even if you’re being judged, even if you put yourself out there with vulnerability.
  3. Embracing the joy of groundlessness. Uncertainty is scary because we don’t like the feeling of not having stable ground under our feet. We want certainty, control, stability, permanence … but life is filled with uncertainty, impermanence, shakiness, chaos. This causes the fear. Instead, we can start to embrace this uncertainty, see the beauty in impermanence, see the positivity of groundlessness. This uncertainty means we don’t know what will happen, which means we can be surprised by every moment! We can be filled with curiosity about what will emerge. We can reinvent ourselves each moment, because nothing is set, nothing is determined. There is joy in this groundlessness, if we embrace it.

No, these are not easy practices. But you can practice with them right now, and set aside a few minutes each morning to practice. You’ll see your confidence emerge, your fears dissipate a bit, your ability to appreciate each moment and yourself grow.

The Path of Fearlessness is one of mindfulness, of daily practice, and of finding the courage to face and push past the fears into joy.

My New Course: The Path of Fearlessness

I highly encourage you to join me in my Sea Change Program for one of the most important courses I’ve ever offered: The Path of Fearlessness.

It’s a six-week video course that’s a part of my regular Sea Change Program (free for 7 days, $19/month after that), and consists of:

  1. 2 video lessons per week
  2. A Fearless Challenge: Do daily 5-10-minute Fearless sessions
  3. A live video webinar with me
  4. Daily challenges on the forum (optional but recommended)
  5. Questions about the course can be asked on the forum

Sign up here: Sea Change Program

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The Power Of KINDNESS

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importance of kindness

Happiness researcher Sean Achor demonstrated through his extensive research that if you perform random acts of kindness for two minutes a day for twenty-one days, you can actually retrain your brain to be more positive. Studies such as his show that when your brain is more positive you are more likely to be creative, intelligent and productive. These attributes can spin into what we perceive as ‘quality of life’ attributes – job success, wealth, healthy relationships, and better health. This adage, that happiness breeds success, is counterintuitive to what Western society popularly perceives as the opposite, that success lends itself to happiness.

Kindness is a simple concept, yet so very impactful. It can make the world a better place by ending suffering at the hands of war, hunger, human rights violations, and injustice. It has the power to drastically improve our own well-being as well as that of our families, friends, acquaintances, and strangers. The very act of expressing graciousness to one another can make us more empathetic of other people’s hardships. Within the workforce, kindness towards one another can inspire employees to be more productive and make businesses more profitable. And within our communities, kindness contributes to safer and cleaner schools and neighborhoods.

Does the paragraph above sound a bit dramatic? Pay attention to how kindness has the ability to impact your life. Observe those moments when someone does something unexpectedly kind for you. How frequently does it happen? How does it make you feel? Does it transform your outlook on the day? I challenge you to commit a random act of kindness. Spend two minutes a day doing it for just three weeks. How does it make you feel? How does it make your recipients feel? Share your stories with us here.

Bob Kerry once said, “Unexpected kindness is the most powerful, least costly and most underrated agent in human change.” What a profound statement! And yet it is the easiest thing in the world to execute. With very little time (even just two minutes a day) and very minimal effort we can transform a human being’s day, week, or even life. The return on investment is off the charts! How can something so simple and so easy have such a tremendous impact on others and ourselves?

Every act of kindness creates a ripple effect that spreads from person to person with no end in sight. Kindness is contagious like a disease in which the outcome is divinely beautiful. Jamil Zaki, Professor of Psychology at Stanford University and Director of the Stanford Social Neuroscience Lab recently conducted a series of studies that observe how witnessing kindness inspires kindness, causing it to spread like a virus. He concludes that “by emphasizing empathy-positive norms, we may be able to leverage the power of social influence to combat apathy and conflict in new ways.”

To start a movement of kindness we created Kindness & Co, Random Act of Kindness Kits. The kits empower an individual to start their own chain reaction of kindness. Each Kit includes a long list of fun and innovative ways in which the recipient can create their own acts of kindness. Because we found that people increasingly value experiences over material things, Kindness Kits are our way of replacing consumerism in holiday or birthday gift-giving and replacing it with the truly honorable experience of spreading cheer in people’s lives.

Additionally, businesses and organizations are using Kindness Kits for employee gifts, thank you’s, lead generation, and tokens of customer or employee appreciation, to name a few. While it seems inconceivable that benevolence has a place in today’s cutthroat, competitive, winner-takes-all business environment, even the most successful companies are recognizing its virtues. Billionaire and entrepreneur Mark Cuban was recently quoted saying “Nice is way undervalued right now. It’s one of the most valuable assets out there,” when asked about negotiating tips.

I was absolutely thrilled when Erin from PickTheBrain, after seeing our video, agreed to partner with Kindness co. to spread the message of Kindness! Instead of buying bland, typical gifts again this year for your friends and family, and acquaintances, how about saying and doing something more imaginative and creative that will make a bigger difference to both you and them. And rather than giving your employees a logo-emblazoned chotski that lacks any real value to them, give them the experience of kindness. Give a positive experience that makes the recipient happy and helps the world. In the words of Maya Angelou, “People will forget what you did, they will forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”

Every act of kindness creates a ripple effect that spreads with no end in sight. Let’s run with it!

Join Erin & I to start your kindness journey >>> Try it here!


Jesse Weinberg is a cereal entrepreneur living in the Pacific Southwest and loves nothing more than to spend time free time with his wife and son. He is the founder of GlobalYodel.com, a community that explores the world from a local and Global Yodel Media Group a content/influence marketing agency. He thinks kindness is cool and in 2015 founded Kindness & Co with the mission of starting a movement of kindness though Random Act of Kindness Kits and beyond. He is dedicated to shifting the paradigm of collective human consciousness to revolve around more kindness.

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The 5 Best Podcasts on Communication

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The 5 Best Podcasts On Communication

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Communication is a delicate play between speaker and listener, involving so many intricate elements that can either engage or discourage us. There is so much that happens on a subconscious level while we communicate, from body language, tonality of voice, to visual listening. It is difficult to truly engage in communication if one is only listening to hear and respond as opposed to listening to understand. Here are 5 podcasts that help one grow with language and communication:

  1. This ‘School Of Greatness’ podcast uses the art and power of listening as its main focus. Chris Lee delivers a message that leads to success in relationships by explaining how emotional intelligence enhances ever aspect of your life. He dives into the ten key principles that will set you on course to achieving the power of listening.

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  1. The Communication Diva is a podcast that covers a range of topics, helping people communicate well to improve relationships. One of these podcasts, an interview with Samantha Skelly touches on the whether the millennial generation has the ability to listen versus simply hearing. She has a interesting take on listening, that is that it’s an art, as opposed to hearing which can be flippant, as people seem too absorbed in their tech gadgets to be fully engaged.

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  1. This podcast ‘Been there, done that’, interviews Bob Parkinson, and helps one communicate effectively in business. His thought is that one must always write or talk, whether through email, presentation or a face to face meeting toward your audience. Content, packaging and delivery are the most important factors in effective communication in the workplace.

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  1. Jeff Shirk’s podcast ‘High Performance Leadership’, discusses the visual communication most people listen with. He believes organizations struggle because we have lost the connection to emotion through of our dependence on technology. He offers tools and principles for leadership, placing a strong value on the art of communication.

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  1. This podcast centers in on an interview with Dr. Simone Alicia (NLT), which helps one increase the effectiveness of your communication. Known as the Self Esteem doctor, she posits that changing our own thought patterns about our beliefs and self- esteem, can change how we communicate. Your mindset and your confidence are connected to your value in the workforce. She speaks a lot about tonality and its effect on communication, those being a question tone, a statement tone and a command tone.

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When people have the feeling that they ‘get someone’, it is an indication of a good rapport and connection which entrusts those to you both personally and professionally. Communication is an art, and it is just as much about not saying the wrong thing when tempted, as it is about saying the right thing at the opportune time.

“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools speak because they have to say something.” -Plato

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The Science Behind Smiling

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The Science Behind Smiling

The Science Behind Smiling

Charles Darwin, best known for his theory of evolution which he presented in one of the most important books of all time, On the Origin of Species, explained how populations adapt to their environments over time. In doing so, he laid down the foundation for evolutionary biology as we know it. On The Origin of Species is Darwin’s most famous work, but he also wrote a much lesser known book titled The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals, where he claimed that all humans show emotion through similar behaviors. This view is one that psychologists today generally agree with, affirming that certain expressions of emotion are common to all of us, regardless of race, culture, or age. One of these universal facial expressions is a smile.

Smiling and Happiness

The natural response to happiness is smiling. And according to science, the reverse is also true: smiling can actually create happiness.

Recently psychological scientists Tara Kraft and Sarah Pressman conducted experiments to find the link between stress and smiling. They found that when people smiled while completing mundane tasks, they had lower heart rates and stress levels than those who wore a neutral expression throughout their tasks. This effect was especially pronounced for participants who produced a big ear-to-ear smile, known as a Duchenne smile. The experiment led the researchers to conclude that when faced with stressful situations, it may be a good idea to put a smile on your face, if only for a moment, as this lowers stress. Smiling also tricks our brains into believing we are happy, and one way it does this is by making us think of happier memories, which boost our moods.

Smiling and Stress

Even though the exact relationship behind facial expression and mental state is largely unknown, it has been suggested that smiling reduces levels of the stress-inducing hormone cortisol. Increased levels of cortisol could potentially lead to cardiovascular disease, mental illness, and obesity, so it’s worth every effort to try to decrease our cortisol levels.

Smiling also has a positive impact on the balance of neurotransmitters present in your brain. Neurotransmitters are powerful neurochemicals that are responsible for regulating our physical, mental and cognitive functions such as sleep cycles, pain resistance, weight control and even emotional state. The effect of smiling on neurotransmitters can help stabilize your mood during daily stressful activities ,and help calm your nervous system.

When an imbalance in neurotransmitters occurs, it can trigger a range of complications such as obesity, alcoholism, caffeine or nicotine dependency, depression, panic attacks, bipolar disorder, and many other conditions. Therefore, the simple act of smiling can activate neural messaging in your brain that promotes health and happiness.

Smiling and Attraction

Research shows that when you smile, people treat you differently. Smiling instantly makes you appear more reliable, relaxed, sincere, and attractive. The Face Research Laboratory in Scotland conducted a study by asking a group of men and women to view images of people and rate their attractiveness. The study found that people who smiled more were rated as more attractive than those who avoided eye contact and didn’t smile at all.

Perhaps this is why celebrities invest in perfect smiles, often opting for porcelain veneers to give them flawlessly straight, white teeth. According to a cosmetic dentistry practice in Boston, broken and stained teeth can make a person look older, while a brighter smile gives a look of health and youthfulness. Anyone you spot on television will more likely than not have a perfect smile. This gives them a youthful glow while simultaneously making them look more attractive.

Smiling and Endorphins

When the smiling muscles in our face contract, it sends a signal to the brain to stimulate the reward system that further increases our levels of endorphins, or happiness hormones. This triggering of the reward system can have the same effect on our happiness as eating chocolate or receiving a monetary prize. According to science, it really is possible to have a “million dollar smile!”

When it comes to happiness, children clearly have an advantage over adults—they smile 400 times a day on average, as compared to 20 times a day for adults. If you find it hard to smile, try being around people who tend to smile a lot. According to a Swedish study, it is difficult to keep a straight face when constantly faced with people who are smiling at you.

So not only does smiling reward our brain’s feel-good system, it also makes us look more attractive and lowers stress levels. In stressful situations, smiling is a great way to temper extreme levels of stress and to keep your cortisol levels under control. Smiling is an act that many of us may have to practice in order to make a regular habit. However, it’s a habit worth investing in, as smiling, happiness, and health have a scientifically proven link to one other.

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5 Easy Ways to Decide Priorities in Life

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5 Easy Ways To Decide Priorities In Life

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Life is made up of a lot of things.

A lot of relationships, work, pains, dreams and – well – there’s a lot.

You become stuck while trying to give your time to all that matters to you. Circumstances get out of hand. Time management doesn’t seem to work. Your chaotic life makes you restless. Your determination of accomplishing more fades away when you lose enthusiasm and see your plans fail.

It happens to everyone.

You can’t always calculate how you spend every moment in life. It’s impractical, since you can’t make more time by being too cautious about how you spend your time either.

To be honest, productivity too has its own limits. There’s always a threshold point beyond which nothing works for you – no matter how hard you try and what you change.

Wisdom lies in accepting this truth and not being too hard on yourself. It’s alright if your plans aren’t happening. You cannot control everything. Once you’ve done what you need to do, let go. Don’t stress out or feel low.

It’s your dissatisfaction and self-critical attitude which makes you insecure. Otherwise most of the time, life is fine, the way it should be.

What makes us restless?

We often feel anxious and worried about how we do things.

Like something in life is missing or is yet undone.

There are several reasons to it.

However, one major reason is that we’re already dealing with several activities in life. Managing everything at once turns out to be overwhelming experience. In some way, your life becomes disorganized and the ups and downs become harder to face each day.

I don’t wish to sound smart or pretend like life is perfect for me, but I’ve learned that one reason which makes harder for us to live peacefully is our indecisiveness due to which we fail to resolve our priorities in life.

Life isn’t a mathematical equation. You don’t treat all your work calculations. Still, you possess an ability to decide what’s right for you. This is your inborn tendency of deciding priorities.

You’ve developed this ability over years by teaching yourself what’s right or wrong for you in life and intentionally making some aspects of life more important than the rest.

Each one of us has his own priorities. Based on way our own ways of living, we can decide priorities to make life easier.

How to decide priorities in life

Although it’s completely up to you to decide what matters the most to you, there are certain parts which you cannot ignore if your want your life to be peaceful. They’re common in all stages of life. If you take care of them, everything falls into place.

Here are some ways to decide priorities in life – they aren’t any form of advice but genuine ways which can help you overcome you indecisiveness and assist you in reordering you priorities in life.

1. Free yourself from what causes you pain

This should be your first priority.

End what doesn’t let you live your life to the fullest.

A normal life is a blessing as compared to the one in which you need to survive the constant blows of pains with each passing day. You don’t deserve that suffocation.

Free yourself from all that drags you down or breaks your self-esteem. You’re worthy of every bit of happiness which exists in this world, but you can only have it when you try to escape from the place which you’re living in against your will.

Are you in debt? Pay it off slowly until you can live in peace.

Stuck in a bad relationship? There’s no point in suffering; find a way out of it.

Stay away from negative people if they suck your life out of you. It’s your job to take a stand against everything out there which can make you timid. Do it at your own pace, but find a way to end your sufferings.

2. Fix what went wrong                                                        

Sometimes, life’s more about mending the past than it’s about than it’s about building the future – but it’s sort of the same thing.

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Fix your life.

Take charge of what you think shouldn’t be like what it is. Focus on things that can make your life better and do them often.

The unsolved business of the past can keep you restless forever, so make peace with your past before you move on, otherwise your past will follow you everywhere.

Do you have any regrets? Get over them. If regrets still hurt, then do something which won’tyou’re your regrets affect you anymore. Your regrets are already a thing of past.

Are you living in guilt? Apologize to the ones you feel you’ve done wrong to – it doesn’t make you weak. Forgive yourself and release the past. Step out of the dark place you’re living in.

Once you take a stand for making your life better, nothing can affect you much. Eventually everything gets better.

3. Do more of what’s right for YOU

Be a little selfish.

It’s quite easy to forget your own identity while you’re living by the rules of the world.

How long are you planning to be a puppet of this world? No, the world isn’t a complete miserable place either – but you need to think about yourself in it. Give less damns, be a bit careless regarding how others treat you and start thinking of yourself.

Act on your dreams and risk if your feel like doing so – it’s you who has to deal with the consequences, not the world. It’ll clap when you’re done. Till then, don’t let others make you a coward.

Also, find what makes you happy. Pick up the tiny reasons which can make you smile. Sometimes, it’s just the small things in life which can make you happy in spite of being insignificant.

Always find time for these little, even if it isn’t much, whether it’s about having a meal with your family or talking to your old friends. They’re a priority.

4. Work on creating the new

While you’re busy with life, keep stepping out of your limits.

Engage yourself in new activities. Explore new parts of your work. Those things help you think beyond your limitations and get you new opportunities.

Life can be still, but that stillness is a responsibility to prepare for the future. You might be content and happy. Yet, do what will pay off in the future for your own welfare.

Starting a new business to ensure your financial safety, buying a home for your family, changing your diet for a better health – all take all these steps not only for the present but for a better future.

When you work for your future, you can be more assured about what your life is going to be life. So you worry less and feel at peace.

5. Get used to change

Be prepared for a change and accept what’s coming. That’s the only way to not let life break you.

Nothing always happens as per your expectations. Life’s uncertain. You cannot control every aspect but only find ways to recover and bring your life back to normal.

Life doesn’t suddenly become easy because you set certain priorities and work on them.

It’s your ability to adapt to change can improve your life even when the odds are against you.

What do you think should be our main priorities in life? How do you decide yours? Let me know in the comments below.


I’m Vishal Ostwal. A writer, blogger and the kind of person whose name rhymes with his surname. I write about making life worth living on my self-help blog. Follow me on Facebook for my newest updates.

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How to Not Be Driven by Your Aversions

By Leo Babauta

I have a friend who doesn’t realize how much he dislikes so many things — much of his life is spent avoiding things he doesn’t like, or trying to rush through things like exercise, or annoyed by people who do things he doesn’t like.

We all have aversions to things, more than we probably realize. It’s not a problem to have aversions, but if we’re driving by the aversions, we’re locking ourselves into a limited life.

For example:

  • If you hate vegetables, it’s hard to eat a healthy diet.
  • If you hate exercise, it’s hard to be strong and healthy.
  • If you dislike when people do certain things (smoke, drink, eat junk food), you’ll be annoyed by people often.
  • If you dislike traffic, politics, reality TV stars, bureaucrats, you’ll be frustrated by many life situations.

Note that aversions aren’t always “bad” — actually, I don’t think they’re bad at all. Some aversions can be helpful: not liking being abused, for example, or being averse to eating unhealthy food. However, they can restrict us in many cases and make us unhappy if our lives aren’t free of the things we’re averse to. So in that sense, working to not be controlled by our aversions is freeing and better for our happiness.

I’m not saying I’m free of all these aversions — I definitely have my share, and I’m working with them. I’d like to share how I work with them.

Becoming Aware of Aversions

The first step, of course, is becoming aware of your aversions. Take a minute to make a list of the things you hate, that you avoid, that annoy you, that you can’t stand.

For example, do any of these bother you?

  • Certain kinds of foods
  • Types of exercise or activities
  • Kinds of TV shows
  • Certain behaviors of people you know
  • The way some people behave on the Internet
  • Some websites or apps
  • Deal-breakers of potential dating partners
  • Situations that commonly frustrate you
  • Specific social situations

There are lots of other examples, but start a list. Add to it every time you get frustrated, see yourself avoiding something, or get annoyed … add to the list.

Notice your desire to avoid certain things. When you notice, try working with that feeling of aversion, using the ideas in the section below.

Working with Aversions

When you notice your aversion, just sit and face it.

Notice how it feels in you — not your story about it, but how it feels in your body. Where is it located, what is the quality of its energy, is it a changing sensation, is it intense, throbbing, pulsing, stabbing, dull, tight, aching?

Open yourself up to this feeling. Don’t run from it. Don’t instantly reject it. Accept that it’s there, and be curious about it. See it as something to study. Most people want to ignore it, but you’re willing to find out more.

Be friendly with the feeling. Relax, be open, be curious, be gentle. See that it’s not so bad. See that you can survive, even if you sit with the feeling.

See that it changes. For me, it can be strong, but then it crests and then fades. It’s momentary, temporary, just a passing feeling like any other feeling.

Notice that you don’t have to be controlled by this one feeling. In fact, every feeling or thought is just something that arises, not something that you have to get lost in or controlled by.

You have the freedom to eat vegetables or converse with annoying people without falling apart, and in fact if you stay present in the middle of the situations, you can appreciate the beauty of it.

And in the end, you can embrace these aversions instead of running from them. They are a part of the human experience, come from a loving part of our hearts, and are not anything to panic about.

We can move through the world of desires and aversions with love and joy and an appreciation for everything around us.

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6 Reasons Meditation Is More Important Than Your Job

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6 Reasons Meditation Is More Important Than Your Job

Those who have maintained a consistent meditation practice for some time understand that the benefits are self-evident, and really need no explanation.

For many of us, though, there is a constant struggle to ‘find’ time in our days to simply sit down and meditate, particularly if we work stressful jobs or long hours.

This, however, is just a mindset.

What we need to begin to see is that meditation is actually more important than our work lives. We know we have to make meditation a priority, we need to convince ourselves why.

What follows here are 6 reasons why meditation is actually more important than your job.

When you reflect on these ideas, you’ll start to understand exactly why a meditative practice should be one of the most important priorities in your life.

  1. It makes you happy

A 2014 study by the conference board found that 52% of workers are unhappy at work. Other studies have had similar findings, with a leaning towards more unhappiness amongst the millennial generation. The reality is that most people aren’t actually finding much satisfaction from their work.

If we compare that to studies of long to meditators, we see that those who are happier because of meditation practices are effectively 100%. However, hundreds of short-term studies of 8 to 12 weeks have shown a similar trend.

  1. It genuinely improves your social skills

While a job may introduce you to a lot of people, it often won’t truly improve our social skills. This is because it puts us in an unnatural environment (often competitive) in which we stand to lose something if we don’t maintain a particular image.

Meditation reduces (and can completely eliminate) any social anxiety you have, it also improves your ability to empathize and notice subtle social cues, as well as your listening skills, by allowing you to be more engaged in the moment.

  1. It makes you a better leader

Most hierarchical jobs will not teach you the skills required to be a good leader unless you are fortunate enough to reach an executive position.

Meditation, on the other hand, will naturally lead you to develop the psychological resilience, detachment from outcome, and decision-making capacities that are necessary for leadership positions.

A number of high profile CEO’s from Richard Branson to Steve Jobs and Mark Echo have highlighted the enormous impact that meditation has had on their businesses.

  1. It exercises your brain

One common issue with many jobs is that there are repetitive and not engaging enough.

While most people mistakenly think that you need to find your passion to find fulfillment in your work, the reality is that you just need to find the right degree of challenge. This means something that pushes you, but not enough to cause lasting stress. Unfortunately, most jobs struggle to offer us the right balance, and therefore we either end up bored or stressed.

Meditation not only exercises our brain enough to keep us engaged, it increases our resilience over time, allowing us to enjoy a progressive challenge that – according to the reports of meditators with over 50,000 hours of practice – is essentially limitless.

  1. It improves your relationship with money

While a job will provide you money, it won’t fix any unhealthy relationship you have with money. In fact, what it will likely do is make it worse.

It’s natural that the more time you spend invested in a job, the more your brain will become wired to value the rewards of the work. This is why we so often see people who are close to retirement age and unwilling to stop working and let go of income, even though they are a lot more financially comfortable than they were in their 20’s and 30’s.

Conversely, Meditation decreases your attachment to money, and all the stresses and fears that go along with it. Ironically, this may actually result in you increasing your earning potential.

  1. It improves your immune system

Whereas most jobs, particularly if they are desk jobs, take from your health – while providing a salary that can cover medical costs – meditation actually improves your health, eliminating the need to go to the doctor in the first place.

There are a number of studies that suggest that mindfulness can help with a variety of health-related factors, one of which is the management of glucose levels and protection against diabetes.

Though we all need to earn an income to keep food on the table, if we begin to see meditation as a real priority in our lives, the benefits we experience can be truly life-changing.

 

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Ben is a freelance writer, and the co-creator of Project Monkey Mind – a blog for the 21st-century worker who wants to take control of their mind, smash through their limitations and lead a life worth living.

 

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5 Important Life Goals You Need To Accomplish Before 30

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5 Important Life Goals You Need To Accomplish Before You're 30

You’ve probably heard your Mom or Dad use the expression -“Youth is wasted on the young.” When you’re young and time seems to drag its feet, a minute feels like an hour and whatever your parents say really doesn’t strike a chord. But once you’re out of college and are settled in that great first job you landed, you come to the realization that there might be something to what they were saying.

Once the thrill of the new job wears off, you begin to realize you spend over eight hours a day doing underpaid work on a job you don’t even love. What happened to all that “me” time you used to have? Those minutes that seemed to last forever now fly by and all you’re left with (if you’re lucky) is a measly four or five hours after work.

It’s time to set some goals. You have to plan your future. This is no time for idling, because what you do in your 20’s can affect a huge part of your future. Not sure where to start or what to do? Here’s a guide to help you live life fully before you turn 30.

1. Pay Off Your College Loan

If you want to enjoy your life and live out your dreams, you need to have money. And the sooner you pay off your student loans and all your other debts you might have incurred, the faster you can use that hard-earned money to enjoy whatever makes you happy.

Most millennials today have trouble being financially independent. And this is because they’re still having a hard time repaying their college loans. According to Mark Kantrowitz, publisher and vice president of Cappex, the average student debt for 2016 records to $37,173, and this is more than 5% high from last year.

Here are some things you can do to easily pay off your college loan:

  • Cut the principal down quickly to get lower interest charges. For example, instead of paying around 300$ a month, double it down to $600 if you can afford it.
  • Work part time on a job you love and use the money to pay for your student loan.
  • Live cheaply and give up a few luxuries during the years you’re paying your debt.
  • Work for a company that offers student loan paydown plans.

2. Invest Your Money

Once your debt is paid off, it’s time to think about investing your money. Financial experts believe that during your 20’s is the best time to invest aggressively. This is the phase where you can take huge risks and start building your wealth.

Try learning about investing your savings and how to make your money grow while you sleep. I recommend reading Suze Orman’s The Money Book for the Young, Fabulous & Broke or If You Can : How Millennials Can Get Rich Slowly by William J. Bernstein. With the money you earned from your investments, you could improve your wealth a few years down the line. Here are some tips to help you get started:

  • Start saving. If you’re just 22, you probably won’t have enough money to invest in something big. But you have the opportunity to do so. Even if you set aside 10-20% of your income every month, that amount can grow in time.
  • Invest in your 401k. Don’t miss this golden opportunity to save for your retirement.
    Invest in yourself. If you haven’t yet – go to college. Take up courses to hone your skills and improve your financial situation.
  • Or you can start a business or a money-making blog about things you’re passionate about. Make sure that you consulted experts before setting up your business and you’ve armed yourself with useful tools to manage your blog.

3. Take Steps To Improve Your Health

Now that you’re “adulting”, take a good hard look at your eating and exercising habits. Staying healthy can save you tons of money and you’ll thank yourself when you reach your golden age.

Easier said than done, getting into a healthy routine can be hard for most of us. But it doesn’t have to be. Here are ways to manage a healthful lifestyle:

  • Commit to a regular exercise routine so you can maintain a healthy weight. If you’re having a hard time you can start off by simple half hour walks every afternoon or early morning jogs before you get to work.
  • Start learning how to cook your own meals. Use more healthy ingredients instead of preservatives.
  • Maintain a circle of supportive family and friends. Good emotional health is as much important as physical wellness to your overall well being.

4. Get Serious About Your Love Life

Remember those minutes that seemed to drag on forever? Well, they aren’t now. And, there are several other clocks ticking too. If you’ve neglected your relationship status, or just haven’t had the time to look for a partner, it could be the time you made a serious commitment to being committed. Time flies you know, you don’t want to be that little old lady with a bunch of cats, now do you?

Learn to focus and appreciate the positive aspects of your partner or the guy you’re dating. Practice open-mindedness. Stop being a Negative Nancy and see good in people.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable and to trust your partner. If you want an intimate emotionally connected relationship, you have to open your heart to your special someone.

5. Explore and Live Life Fully

You’ll be surprised at how many people are so busy trying to get ahead that they forget to have fun. It’s important to enjoy your life as you’re trying to build it. Don’t forget to do the things that make you happy. Whether it’s a hobby, a sport, traveling, go out and explore the world and enjoy every minute of it.

Make time for things you love doing every day. Plan your time so you can schedule days for having fun with friends or traveling with your partner. Once you start having kids, it’s going to be hard to find time for yourself.
Whatever goals you have, make sure you set an achievable timetable to them. Being over ambitious and over-reaching will just make you anxious.

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Compassion in the Midst of Madness

By Leo Babauta

Whether you’re in the U.S. or not, the results of yesterday’s election can bring up some strong feelings — maybe outrage or depression, maybe elation and shock, maybe contempt for others.

In this crazy emotional time, I urge you to try a compassion practice.

Perhaps, like some people I know, you are angry about the outcome, and can’t believe your fellow Americans would elect the person they elected. Perhaps you’re feeling vindicated, and are unhappy with the way your fellow Americans have steered this country for the last eight years. Perhaps you’re not from the U.S., and you’re feeling scorn for Americans, or confusion, after the results of this election.

Whatever you’re feeling, it’s likely to come from a place of non-understanding. That’s not likely to help our community, locally or globally, nor will it help our own happiness. It can be a transformative practice to practice compassion right now.

The truth is, we each have personally experienced what the other side is going through. The results of the election represent the feelings of millions of other people — they speak in some way for our fellow human beings. We have each felt these emotions: feeling left behind, feeling frustrated, distrusting, powerless, angry, hopeful for change, disliking the change that we see.

Imagine yourself feeling those feelings, one at a time. Feel how difficult they are. Now imagine that someone from the other side is feeling those things.

See if you can feel compassion for a fellow human being for feeling them. Feel a connection to them, because you too have suffered through this difficulty. Feel a connection to all your fellow humans who are going through their difficulties right now, in the U.S. and around the world.

We are connected, even if we have immense differences. We live and work together, we feed each other and depend on each other, we support each other and share ideas, we all are going through immense change and struggle, we have struggles in our lives and feel helpless to change the world at large.

The other “side” might have a different worldview that causes them to vote a different way than you, to want different policies … but underneath, we all have the same tender hearts. And by finding this common ground, we can reconnect to each other in a compassionate way.

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The Truth About Dealing With Your Busy Lifestyle: 9 Healthy Habits You Must Adopt

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Healthy Habits You Must Adopt

Nowadays the tempo of life is speeding up, reaching new records every moment. Many people think that is almost impossible to have healthy habits while coping with their busy lifestyle. To some degree this is true, but, if there is a will, you can transform your active lifestyle into a healthy way of life.

We know the routine – You need to get up early in the morning, prepare the kids, finish some little work you delayed, make lunch for the kids, accompany them to the bus stop and then the working day just starts, meetings here and there. It’s quite a busy lifestyle. We get it.

The good news is that you can still develop healthy habits while dealing with a hectic way of life. We came up with nine natural and extremely healthy habits which won’t allow the busy lifestyle to get on your health’s way.

1. Keep in mind that you need to drink water

Your body is 70% water. Surround yourself with water, literally, do that. Get a bottle in your car and on your office desk. If you are drinking water from a coffee mug, fill it with water after you finish your latte. Make a statement that you will fill your cup three times a day with fresh water.

2. Break out the crock pot

Make it a routine in the morning, throw some meat and seasonings in the pot. When you come home, you will have a ready meal. We know that there isn’t a shortage of crock pot recipes you can find some if you google it.

3. Make extra food for dinner

We do not mean to fill yourself at the dinner over. Just eat the amount you are eating regularly and save the leftovers for tomorrow. They can be handy in the morning when you are in a rush to work. You can just pick up them, and you have lunch.

4. A simple plan is better than no plan at all!

Plan your meals during the day, and you’ll prevent yourself from making unhealthy choices. Only you’ll stick to the plan and eat what’s written there. Remember, if you fail to plan, you probably plan to fail.

5. Be prepared for emergencies!

When it comes to adopting healthy habits, this one is a must. When you are in crisis for food, the emergency snacks are the best option. Have some healthy and delicious meals in reserve, and when the trigger is activated, you’ll have your savior in your hand.

6. The best time for exercising

You must figure out time in the morning and put your exercising there. It can boost your energy plus you can spend the jogging time planning your day. All you need to adopt these healthy habits is to get up a half hour earlier.

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7. High-intensity interval training (HIIT)

Did you say a hectic lifestyle? No worries, we have the appropriate workout for you. HIIT. With this kind of exercising, you’ll burn much more calories in a shorter period than the long steady workouts. It’s your choice.

8. Squeeze the gym time

Instead of taking rest days try supersets. This alternative will significantly shorten the time set aside for the gym and also will deliver nearly the same results as HIIT. It’s simply a beneficial habit you should give it a try. Meanwhile, practicing it your heart rate will grow, and that means more calories burned.

9. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help

If you need help with your healthy habits and be more efficient with your workouts seek help from professionals. They will create a personal schedule for you accompanied an eating plan. Next all you need to do is to be consistent, the results will follow after.

This a short list of healthy habits for dealing with a busy lifestyle. The idea is to do more with the time you have. As you can see these tips are easy, just they need to become your habit to enjoy the benefits of them. Nothing comes easy and fast, so stay committed and give yourself credit for the accomplishments by now, but promise yourself that you will engage more and accomplish more. There is always a room for improvement if you eliminate all the excuses like I don’t have time for that… No one will do it for you so do yourself a favor and start living healthy.

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