The Powerful Morning Habits You Should Steal From Highly Successful People

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Getting up early with the sunrise or even before is considered a must for successful people. Simply ask the boss of your boss, any politician or professional and the answer you would get is that they all wake up at the crack of dawn. This allows them to gain a leg up on anyone who gets up late.

Many find it hard to resist and prefer to snooze till 9 a.m. at least. Creating a routine and sticking to it requires stamina and willpower – the key traits of any powerful individual. You may not think so, but your self-discipline is really strong in the mornings as later in the day you can get exhausted and therefore other priorities like resting and eating arise. Hold off the snoozing and read through our tips to adopt morning habits to guarantee a productive day!

TIPS TO GET GREAT MORNING HABITS

The things you have to do are quite easy when you think about it. Try not to focus on the fact that this is done early in the morning but on the actual tasks. In the first days, it helps a lot.

  • Have a healthy Oatmeal or yogurt will do just fine.
  • Be careful with your body clock. Go to bed earlier than usual.
  • Put limits. Set an alarm clock for the times you wake up and have to go asleep.
  • Turn off the sounds on your phone. No texting or playing games at night.
  • Stick to a morning routine every single day, weekend
  • Track your progress and the way your body reacts. Adjust your sleep pattern accordingly.

We would like to particularly focus on several key steps without which no successful person starts their morning. They are easy to follow, and most highly successful people follow them.

Firstly, Get Up An Hour Early.

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Yes, there is that extra hour in a day. But you’ve simply overslept it every time. This extra hour gives you time to adjust and think about the upcoming day. The research shows that early risers relatively more optimistic, and they also foresee problems and find better ways to solve them.  This is something to think about when you want to reach new heights in business.

Secondly, Always Drink A Glass Of Water.

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It does help your body. Having a cup of water in the morning before coffee and anything else does several good things to your body. It helps start your metabolism, wakes up your body and aids your digestive system. Of course, if you love coffee, you don’t have to skip it from now on. It is actually the morning beverage of most people. It gives you that extra kick. But, first, drink some water.

Thirdly, Think About The Day.

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What are the most important things that you have to accomplish this day? Outstanding entrepreneurs always keep their goals in mind at the start of the day. This allows them to focus on work hard to achieve them throughout the day.

For example, financial professionals check the stock markets immediately after waking up. For those who are at the top of their game the result is enormous, as the information, they gleaned on stays with them for the whole day and saves lots of time analyzing the market later on.

Other entrepreneurs, meanwhile, start with stretching and meditation before going head-first into the business. Steve Jobs’ phrase illustrates it the best way: “For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?

We fully agree with Jobs’ suggestion as it is a great way to start every day. This way you get a concise assessment of the direction you are heading in. Great things start with small steps. Just take a few minutes to think about your truly important goals as they deserve it each morning.

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Veronica Hunt is an experienced blogger from Delaware City, DE. She loves travelling  and provides readers with up-to-date info in the spheres of marketing, motivation and productivity. You can find Veronica on Facebook and LinkedIn.

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3 Tips To Start An Every-Day Meditation Practice

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Meditation is becoming more and more popular these days. And it’s no surprise. Studies by Yale, UCLA, and Harvard have proven its scientifically-backed benefits. For those who develop a regular practice, the rewards are reaped in increased calm, clarity of thinking, and more. With all these benefits, who wouldn’t want to pick up the habit? Well, it’s easier said than done…

Most people who give meditation a try start out strong, meditating every day for a week or two. But as weeks turn to months, every day turns to a few days a week, and then slowly fizzles out altogether. Unfortunately, a sporadic meditation habit won’t do much for gaining calm and clarity, so how can you start meditating more often? Here are three key strategies.

Prioritize

We all know about priorities. But when it comes to little things, it’s easy to push them aside for comfort or other seemingly more important tasks. For those who attempt to meditate regularly and fail, meditation is usually one of the first things to get bounced from their schedule when life gets busy or tough. And really, this is exactly when you should be meditating most, as meditation will make it far easier to manage the stress and balance your schedule.

So, what do you do? Make meditation one of your top three priorities, or tasks to accomplish, for the day. If you can’t prioritize the meditation habit, none of the following ideas will do any good.

Take baby steps

In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey writes, “In all of life, there are sequential stages of growth and development. A child learns to turn over, to sit up, to crawl, and then to walk and run. Each step is important and each one takes time. No step can be skipped. This is true in all phases of life, in all areas of development, whether it be learning to play the piano or communicate effectively with a working associate.”

Just like with any developmental process, building a habit takes time. It’s a growth process. An athlete doesn’t become an Olympian in a month. A six-year old doesn’t become a man overnight. And you too, shouldn’t expect to become a 20-minute-a-day meditator in a couple weeks. This is why it’s essential to remember to take one step at a time.

Instead of aiming to meditate 20 minutes every day from the get go, start out small. Meditate for one minute the first few days. Once you’ve successfully accomplished that, take another step forward and meditate three minutes for a few days. As you continue to consistently meditate on a daily basis, keep upping your minutes. Go to five minutes, 10 minutes and so on. Sooner than you know it you’ll be up to 15, 20, or even 30 minutes on a regular basis.

Meditate in the morn

Unexpected plans are a common cause of skipping out on meditation. If you usually meditate when you come home from work, a late night at the office or happy hour with friends can derail your daily meditation practice. Don’t feel bad if this happens once or twice, as even the most experienced meditators aren’t immune to skipping out on a session every now and then. However, while missing meditation a few times a month won’t do much for disrupting your increased calm, regularly missing it several times a week will. The solution?

Meditate in the morning. If you meditate before you go to work, there’s absolutely no way any unexpected plan is going to disrupt your practice.

While these three tips will help you create a regular meditation practice, it’s also important to think about why you want to meditate every day. In other words, think about those awesome benefits you get from a regular practice—calm, clarity, and gaining a better sense of direction in your life and career. Let these be the motivating forces behind your daily practice. Remind yourself of them often, and you’re much more likely to reach your goal.

John Weiler is the author of An Ordinary Dude’s Guide to Meditation. Learn more at his website Ordinary Dude Meditation or follow him on Facebook.

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5 Steps I Took To Increase My Self-Esteem, Permanently

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So I’ve been doing the Jar of Awesome technique to boost my self-esteem. It’s not bad. But it was literally recommended by someone random so I don’t know if it’s credible or not. Having said that, I’m trying to measure the effects just based on how I’m feeling – from a self-esteem perspective –  and it will take a few more weeks before I get a good assessment. (stay tuned!)

The real reason I bring that up is because I found a new technique that’s more credible. I was listening to the I Love Marketing podcast, which is hosted by some very successful entrepreneurs. They mentioned a technique without a name so I will name it the “5 Steps Toward Ambition.

First, you rate yourself on a scale to see how much you need this. A 1 is a perspective of “It’s all downhill from here in my life”, a 3 to 5 is “I’m running out of time to accomplish what I want” and a 12 is the max score which is “I am proud of all my achievements and they boost me to achieve even greater things”

Although I have some aspects of 12, I was startled.

Because there is definitely some “I’m running out of time” mindsets going on in my mind. And I think everyone has this at some point. Young teenagers compare themselves to kids who are already millionaire pop sensations, middle aged people realize they could have used their time better, and old people realize death is coming.

For me, I am not scared about running out of time to get rich. Having studied so many successful people, I have encountered so many examples of people who got rich after years of patience and a horrible starting point, that I am chill about that. But I am scared of not being able to accomplish the tasks I want to accomplish specifically before I get old. Some life goals just do not feel the same as an old geezer.

Basically, this exercise helps you stay ambitious and increase your ambition. It also (supposedly) changes your mindset and perspective so that you are constantly growing and doing better stuff rather than falling into a negative view of “it’s all over.”

I think this is huge for me since I definitely have some negative gaps I need to fill. And I think it’s a huge edge and advantage for you if you improve this as well. Most average people in the world have these negative mindsets that discourage them from doing anything ambitious.

So how do you do this exercise?

You list 5 positive achievements, the reasons why you consider they are progress, further progress you can make through action steps.

So Joe Polish, one of the hosts, did it as an example and I was shocked.

Because he did that was insightful for me. He listed some very small achievements that I do as well that I always gloss over. I don’t celebrate them. I don’t acknowledge them much. I don’t pay myself on the back for it. And it was just one of those golden insights that gave me a slight hint towards a possible reason why my self-esteem and self-love is not as high as it could be.

If you are curious, here are some of the achievements he listed: eating a healthy breakfast, getting enough sleep, and meditating.

So I want to do this whole exercise myself for you here for the first time to kick start this and maybe encourage you to follow along:

Achievements:

I slept in today and got 10 hours of sleep.
I walked and semi-jogged for an hour today without needing to go to the gym.
I meditated today.
I ate a healthy breakfast of oatmeal today.
I wrote some awesome drafts of future blog posts today.

Why they are positive:

It prevents exhaustion and creates optimal health.
It improves my focus, energy levels, and clears my mind. It also reminds me that I don’t need to pay to exercise.
A lot of successful people do this. I wanted to adopt this to see if it will improve my success. It’s great I am keeping it as a habit.
It’s an incredibly nutritious food that has a healthy amount of protein and no bad ingredients.
They improved my writing and I have a feeling they will help a lot of people when they are released.

Further progress I can make (action steps):

I can refine my sleep schedule so I do not oversleep or binge sleep to make up for the weekdays.
I can push myself to jog more so I am not just walking.
I can meditate longer. My sessions are fairly short right now.
I can eat this more consistently by getting up earlier. I should go to sleep earlier to do this.
I can set up a consistent editorial schedule so I am not just writing randomly and bewildered at what to do.

So there you have it!

I do feel better and more in focus. I think celebrating what I have accomplished is really important for increasing your ambition, putting things in the right perspective, boosting your self-esteem, and having a healthy mindset. Just to keep things in perspective, today was not the best day for me. I had a toxic relationship I had to deal with. I’m bringing that up to just show you that real people have bad days too. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Keep your head up.


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The Two Strategies That Skyrocketed My Motivation by 49.08%

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The Two Strategies That Skyrocketed My Motivation by 49.08%

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Is a lack of motivation crippling you?

It’s not your fault.

Research has proven two strategies that skyrocket motivation, but we don’t teach them in schools or the workplace.

As a culture, we have given up on the science of motivation. Instead, we share inspirational cat pictures on Facebook. While I have nothing against inspirational pictures (or cats), that’s just not effective instruction.

Disengaged employees cost the U.S. over $400 billion per year. Meanwhile, we’re ignoring decades of science that all point to the same two strategies.

Help me change that.

The two types of motivation

Two strategies boost motivation: purpose and incentives.

Purpose is finding the meaning behind a task. Most nonprofit workers, artists, and parents find a sense of purpose in their work.

Incentives are extrinsic rewards for accomplishing a task. Paychecks, bonuses, and gold stickers in kindergarten are examples of extrinsic motivation.

Traditional systems use only one form of motivation. Employers expect the promise of a raise to boost innovation. Political candidates craft a more emotional appeal to encourage volunteers to increase the number of tedious phone calls they make.

But we have it all wrong.

Both purpose and incentives can be effective, and both have their place. But neither strategy is the whole story. You see, science shows a distinction between the two. That difference radically transforms their effectiveness, and that’s where most people go wrong.

The contradictory science on motivation

Research on motivation seems to go against common sense.

The London School of Economics conducted a meta-analysis of 51 studies that found that “the provision of incentives can result in a negative impact on overall performance.”

A 2016 study of U.S. military hospitals showed a statistically significant reduction in efficiency when a pay-for-performance financial incentive was put in place.

Another study from Switzerland showed that when volunteers were paid for their help, they actually volunteered less.

So is the answer that financial incentives don’t work? Well, no. The science is more complicated than that.

To find the answer, we need to understand that not all activities are alike, and motivators work differently with different types of activities.

Types of work, types of motivators, and MIT students

Work falls on a continuum. At one end are complex activities that require brainpower, and at the other are mechanical tasks that involve minimal thinking. When we look at motivation through that lens, what do we find?

Let’s examine the research.

In a recent study on MIT students, researchers gave participants two tasks—typing the “v” and “n” keys back and forth as fast as they could—a mechanical task if there ever was one. The students also solved a matrix of addition problems, representing complex work. All students performed the same tasks, but were split into two groups. One group was offered $300 for better performance on the tasks, and the other group $30.

The results give us a clue how to motivate ourselves to work harder.

The mechanical-task group did a stellar job when presented with the increased reward. It was clearly the winner in productivity—as long as the brain wasn’t too involved.

But that’s where the reward ended. In the math problem segment, the group offered $300 for high performance actually did worse. Much worse.

Perhaps, the researchers surmised, the effect was due to cultural bias. They performed the same experiment in India. Same result.

The hidden secret to extrinsic motivation

It isn’t just one study. More and more research has proven the same conclusion—extrinsic motivators only work on mechanical tasks.

A study of elementary students paid for higher standardized test scores showed that math (arguably the most rote of the subjects) was the only skill with an increased score. Subjects demanding more complex reasoning such reading, science and social studies stagnated.

In a 1962 study, participants were given a candle, matches, and a box of tacks. Researchers instructed them to attach the candle to the wall in a way that prevented wax from dripping on the floor.

One group was told they wouldn’t be compensated but their answers would help researchers gather data. The second was told they’d receive $5 for being in the top 25% of fastest participants, and the participant with the fastest time would get $20. In today’s money, those rewards equal around $40 and $160, respectively.

The answer to the challenge is to empty the box of tacks and attach the box to the wall. It takes most people 5-10 minutes to find the answer.

That’s about how long it took those told their work would bring an intrinsic benefit—helping researchers. But those offered money? It took them, on average, three and a half minutes longer to finish the task. Consistent with previous findings, productivity on challenging work declined when incentives were offered.

Researchers conducted another test condition, but this time removed tacks from the box. This takes the challenge out of the puzzle, and transforms it into a mechanical procedure of tacking the box to the wall.

Sure enough, the people who had been offered the extra incentive did it faster.

The research is clear: extrinsic motivators only work when the task requires little brainpower. When the work is complex, the motivation has to be intrinsic.

But I was curious—could I use the studies in my daily job?

How I channeled my inner mad scientist

I first learned about this research through Dan Pink’s extraordinary TED talk on motivation, which provided a starting point for this article.

But I wasn’t satisfied with just the research. I wanted to try it out on my own.

What if I could take those findings and craft a motivation plan that allowed me to work more productively and stay motivated while doing it?

I put it to the test.

While my “study” wouldn’t have scientific rigor, I tried to replicate bonafide research as best as possible. I tracked my motivation during the process of writing two articles. Both were similar in length and content, and I wrote both in similar test conditions.

Every fifteen minutes, I wrote down my amount of motivation for finishing the project on a scale of 1-10. A higher score indicated higher motivation.

The two experiments I performed on myself

For my control task, I completed the article using my normal planning and strategy methods. I pushed through no matter what.

Overall, I wasn’t too pleased with that score, but felt like it was a fairly accurate representation.

Many people think of writing as a creative endeavor. Much of it is, but there is a large amount of rote work as well—proofreading, fact-checking, and editing tend to be monotonous tasks with little creative thinking.

For the second experiment, I broke up my tasks into two categories—complex work and mechanical work.

Researching, outlining, and drafting the article were complex tasks. Editing and revising each section were mechanical.

In the experiment, I wrote down the reason why I was completing the complex tasks, and used that as my motivator during that process. The reason I wrote down was to hep people through the article I was writing and draw a bigger audience through the exposure the article would bring.

For the less complex tasks, I rewarded myself with a guilty pleasure—playing a text-based computer game I recently discovered. For each of the seven sections I completed, I rewarded myself with 10 minutes of guilt-free time on the game. The 70 minutes were to be used all at the end.

After tracking my motivation every 15 minutes, the results were in.

The stunning conclusion that changed how I saw motivation

Based on the motivation scores I accumulated over the hours on the first, unmotivated project, I finished with an average score of 5.88 of a possible 10.

I frequently dipped to three, two or even one on my ten-point scale. Overall, the project just didn’t interest me.

On the second project, where I applied what I had learned about motivation, I tallied a stunning average of 8.77—an increase of 49.08%. The lowest single score I had was a seven.

In addition to that, I completed the second article in 76.47% of the time, shaving off valuable minutes.

I was a bit hesitant about using the game time, afraid I would fall into a vortex of distraction. I’ve frequently succumbed to what researchers call the “what the hell” effect in the past. I had already wasted five minutes. What difference did it make if I spent another five, ten, or sixty on the game?

I was pleasantly surprised to find it was easy to pull myself away when the time came. When that time had been earned, it was easier to stop. I knew I had earned it, and I didn’t have reason to give up on my work and keep procrastinating.

How to use the motivation research for yourself

While my study wasn’t scientific, it was game changing for me to see what kind of motivators would work best for me.

Using this method, I found a system that works well when I need motivation. If my task requires thinking, I focus on why I’m doing it. When it’s nothing but drudgery, I give myself an extrinsic reward.

It’s not just for me, however. You can apply the same principles of motivation to your daily life.

If you’re planning on losing weight, write down your reason as you plan a diet and workout plan. For each time you accomplish those steps, provide yourself some time to do something you love (preferably something other than eating).

If you are trying to watch less TV, focus on the why and build in a replacement habit. Then each time you do the replacement habit, add a reward at the end. This has the added benefit of making the habit easier to stick with.

Motivation is yours for the taking

Extrinsic and intrinsic rewards can both work, but both need to be used in their respective area of strength. If you are doing a lot of tedious work, an extrinsic reward will be the best motivator.

If you need to increase the complex thinking and planning you or your colleagues do, your best bet is to focus on the why. A raise or promise of more rewards won’t change behavior as effectively.

So now that you know how to motivate yourself, what are you waiting  for?

Choose your task, find the best type of motivator, and start.

Go out and do it!Want another helpful, science-based blueprint for accomplishing more? Check out Stephen’s guide to Habit Forming Morning Routines. Stephen Roe applies the scientific method to personal development at his site ThougthfulGrowth.com.

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How to Define Dreams: 4 Tricks to Live How You Want

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Are there days at work when you look out your window (if you’re lucky enough to have one) and dream of where you could be, or what you could be doing? It pains me that most people consider this “normal” and “inevitable.” I’m here to tell you that you cannot only dream fantastic adventures, but there are practical steps you can apply to actually step out of that window.

Here are four ways you can begin to live what has been called the Good Life or the Rich Life – basically the life where you optimize your time and experiences. I fully believe that achieving a full, robust existence includes being phenomenal at what Tai Lopez calls the 4 Pillars: Health, Wealth, Love & Happiness. I also have a fifth pillar that I think is rather important: Purpose. So, when I introduce these four tips to you, keep in mind these five Pillars and apply it to your answers.

1) If Money Was No Issue (Spoiler Alert: It Isn’t)

This is a very famous question posed by British philosopher Alan Watts. What would you be doing right now if money were no object? If you had enough money to last one hundred lifetimes, what would you be doing this Wednesday morning?

Think of the Pillars: if money was not an issue, would you be doing something to improve your health? Wealth? (Trust me, there are other ways besides money to be wealthy.) Love? Happiness? Purpose?

For me, it’s bettering myself at all five. I work out in the morning, early, because I know my body comes first. Then I will read for a half hour and then write for another 30 minutes (like I am now). These attribute to both my Wealth and my Purpose, because becoming a great writer is my purpose and reading helps with that, as well as enrich my life with new knowledge. I’d then want to spend time with the people that I love to cultivate relationships. And because of all of this, combined with the fact that I accomplish all of this before some people even wake up, I have entire afternoons to do what makes me happy. (And of course I’d have all the money in the world, so I would take trips galore!)

Find out what makes you healthy, wealthy, happy, etc. and do that. Because it is the truth – money is no issue when it comes to living out your dreams.

2) Set a Deadline

Interestingly enough, if you don’t plan out your dreams, they remain just dreams. Shocking! If you actually want to do something, the only one stopping you is you, as I’ve said before. So, to deter this mental block, begin physically planning out your dreams. And the first step is to create a deadline.

What do I mean by a deadline? Well, if you were ever in college or had a project due for work, chances are you procrastinated. But there was an end date and time, and somehow miraculously you pulled it off and came out with a decent product from your time-crunched efforts. The same concept can be brought to your dreams.

For example, I want to take a trip to the Dominican Republic with my girlfriend in February, which means we’d have to book it in December. December 1st, to be exact. In order to do this, we have to save a combined $500 per month. Originally we had the trip planned for October of next year, where we had to save around $250 instead. Why the change? Because I knew we could do it. We juggled our budgets a little bit and bam! We’ll be at an all-inclusive resort on a white sand beach in no time.

How does this relate to your dreams? Well, a deadline is by definition a finite amount of time to accomplish something. Life itself has a deadline. So whatever dream you have – running a marathon, writing a book, starting your own business – needs to have a timeline where it challenges you in some way.

And while we’re at it…

3) Put Some Stakes On It

In 1990, Jim Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million and dated it for Thanksgiving Day five years into the future. He noted the reason as “For Acting Services Rendered.” Because this was his dream, he was confident that he could cash that check in the time he allotted.

Fast forward 5 years: literally that Thanksgiving day, Jim got his first check for filming The Mask for $10 million. Now, whether that is strictly accurate or not is not the point. The point is he bet on himself and won. Won BIG.

Why can’t you win big? You are the safest and surest bet to ever take. I’m taking a chance on myself to become a fantastic financial advisor and make money on the side through my writing. So why can’t you open that bar, quit that job, turn that passion into passive income? Put stakes on yourself, like writing out a check to someone else pre-dated with your deadline and make it so you don’t have to pay them that check. (Don’t go into debt though. Not suggesting that.)

It’s nearly fail-proof if you are determined and what you are chasing is your dream. And if you fail, you have learned something new and can try again.

4) Dreams > Goals

Huh…those last two sound more like goals then dreams. Are our dreams the new goals?

No. Absolutely not.

A goal is something you work towards that will help you feel accomplished. A dream is something you accomplish that you’ve wanted to do all your life. One keeps you busy, the other keeps you effective for what you want in your years here.

So, even though goals are good and can be useful to stay productive and focused, dreams need to be seen in the highest regard. Which would you rather have: read 20 books in a year or read 1 book while on the beach in the Caribbean in between zip-lining and snorkeling and fantastic food and drinks? The former is a goal, the latter is a dream. Both can have deadlines, both can have stakes, and both can be achieved if money were no issue. The difference is the memories. You’ll barely remember the titles of 20 books you read over 12 months on your coach in your house (snore…), but I guarantee you’ll know which book you read while the ocean lapped against your feet with a Mojito in your other hand.

So enrich your life. Money is not the end game. It’s a means to an end, meaning it should be seen as a vehicle to what you want in life. Just because you have millions of dollars does not mean you have a rich life, and just because you have $500 in your bank account does not mean you don’t. It’s a matter of the right perspective. Strive for a strong 4 Pillars, with an extra one for even more support. Become rich with dreams, and then PLAN those dreams into reality.

Motivation is over. It’s time to go out there and do it. Never be on the wrong side of the window again.

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How Long It Really Takes To Form a New Habit (and how to get started)

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How Long It REALLY Takes To Form A New Habit (and how to get started!)

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21 days.

21 days and that’s all it takes to form any habit in the world. This is the most common piece of advice you’ll find about habits. It’s plastered all over popular psychology websites, self-improvement columns, and is even the premise for quite a few apps.

Seems easy enough. Just do anything for 21 days and magically it should stick. But let’s take a closer look…

How many days does it really take?

Unfortunately, for anyone who’s actually tried to form a new habit, especially a more elusive one – like exercise for instance – 21 days isn’t the case.

I actually felt pretty down on myself after looking back and thinking,

“It took a heck of a long longer than 21 days for me to start exercising regularly. I must suck.”

Well thankfully, I wasn’t alone.

In 2009, a study was done in the European Journal of Social Psychology where each participant chose an eating, drinking, or other behavior to carry out daily following a unique cue. For example, one glass of water after breakfast. This activity was to be performed for 12 weeks.

The results? The average time it took for a behavior to become a habit was 66 days. But the real kicker was the range of the data. Some participants automated their behavior after just 18 days while others took up to 254 days!

At first, the data may seem disheartening. At second glance however, it strikes me as strangely comforting.  It reminds us that habit, much like success, isn’t a one size fits all. How long it takes to form a new habit varies wildly, depending on:

  1. The type of behavior trying to be turned into habit, and
  2. The unique individual forming the habit.

Which makes sense. When starting from scratch, drinking one glass of water each day is obviously going to be easier than writing 1000 words daily. And someone who has already trained their willpower (yes, willpower can be trained) will have an easier time forming a habit than someone just starting to develop better habits.

Now for the good news…

Even though habits follow wildly different timelines to being formed, they all follow the same general framework to get there. So how does one stick to a habit when it could possibly take 254 days to become routine? Let’s dive in.

What makes habits so elusive.

To start forming habits, it’s important to understand what makes them so hard to stick. It could be any one of the following reasons:

  • You didn’t really want to form the habit in the first place. Someone else thought it might be a good idea, so you listened.
  • The habit is too hard.
  • You tried to form too many habits at once.
  • Your life is incredibly hectic and/or busy.
  • The unexpected throws you off your game (sick, happy hours, vacation, visitors).
  • You lose the initial motivation then just quit.
  • You miss a couple of days then decide now must not be the right time.

These are all valid reasons. It makes sense then that our plan for forming a new habit must address most, if not all, of these bad guys.

Steps to forming any new habit.

  1. Pick just one habit to form at a time. Contrary to popular belief, changing your life doesn’t have to mean a full overhaul. It’s actually best to change one habit at a time. James Clear does a fantastic job explaining the science and benefits of this strategy. It’s also a principle of habit change, so it’s wise not to ignore.
  2. Start small. Set a ridiculously small goal to start. If it seems ridiculous, it should be. Otherwise make it smaller. We can’t always rely on motivation to start a big and scary task, but by breaking it up into something smaller, we minimize the motivation necessary to start.
  3. Forget performance, only focus on starting. Behaviors only become habit once performed over and over again for a prolonged period of time. If you’d like to make something routine, you simply have to make sure you do it consistently over and over. Once it becomes an autonomous behavior, aka a habit, then you can scale up performance.
  4. Identify your cue and don’t forget to reward yourself. The cue, the routine, and the reward are the three pillars of the habit forming loop. This is the science behind how habits are formed. Don’t try to reinvent science.
  5. Enjoy yourself. A good way to fail at a new habit is not wanting to have the habit in the first place. If you want to exercise but hate running, how about lifting weights, biking, or swimming instead? Don’t try to force yourself to run just because your super skinny co-worker runs 5 miles each day. Work on habits that you want, not someone else.
  6. Have a plan for failure. Everyone has bad days, and sometimes those bad days cascade over into your new habits, causing you to miss a day. What’s your recovery plan/contingency when this happens? It’s important to have a plan in place to get back on track ASAP and mitigate the effect of a missed behavior. Missing one day isn’t the end of the world, but missing two or more days in a row usually leads to discouragement and giving up. Think ahead of time about how you will get back on track and simply execute when a bad day hits.

“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.” –Benjamin Franklin

  1. Create accountability. Everybody needs some help, and creating accountability to minimize the amount of failure is mandatory. Don’t rely on your own motivation and willpower to get the job done. Like we discussed, bad days happen. By having one or more people in your corner, you can actually increase your chances of sticking to the habit by about 50%, at least in my own experience.

Practice makes perfect.

Habits aren’t rocket science, but they are a skill. This means that the more you practice forming habits, the better you get at it. If you’re a newbie just starting to develop better habits, take my advice and start extremely small.

Just one glass of water every day is a perfectly easy way to build your habit skills, while also improving your health.

Telling your significant other how much you appreciate them is another perfect way to build your habit skills, while bolstering your relationships. It’s also incredibly effortless, but ridiculously powerful.

Remember, whichever habit you choose to work on, don’t get discouraged if it hasn’t become automatic after 21 days. Science is on your side as long as you’re consistent and follow the advice in this article.

Jason Gutierrez writes at themonklife.net about behavioral science and how to create better habits to drastically improve your life. Sign up for his free newsletter to get practical advice for becoming a superhero version of yourself.

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The ABCs of Millionaire Motivation

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The ABCs of Millionaire Motivation

the ABCs of success

Here are the 26 letters to your future success!

A – Alignment of Actions to Achieve Record-Breaking Miracles – Your daily action is what you do every single day. Do your daily actions move you closer to the achievement of your goals and dreams or pull you further away from them? Every single action that you take somehow impacts your ability to achieve success. If your daily action, or lack of action, does not align with the achievement of record-breaking miracles in every area of your life, then get refocused and commit to take action that will produce the results that you desire.

B – Build a Bullet-Proof Belief Structure – If you don’t believe in yourself and your ability to achieve your ultimate Why in life, then there’s absolutely no way that you will reach the level of success that you desire. You must build a bullet-proof boundary around your belief so the enemy (naysayers, bad habits, fear, etc.) can’t plant seeds of doubt that will ultimately destroy your belief. Develop a rock-solid belief structure, and there’s nothing that can stop you!

C – Consistently Conscious and Clear – Commit to be consistently conscious and clear of what you are doing each and every day to build a record-breaking future. Your actions must be deliberate and scheduled. You can’t just fly by the seat of your pants and expect to achieve massive success. Invest in a paper planner and a whiteboard so that you can write down your daily schedule and stay laser-focused on the achievement of your goals and dreams.

D – Disciplined Deliberate Decisions – You must be disciplined enough to make deliberate decisions about your success. It will take personal discipline to make decisions that support your success instead of hinder it. Being disciplined and deliberate about your decisions will catapult you to the next level of success in your life and business.

E – Encouraging Environment – Your environment will either empower you to stay focused on success or keep you stuck in mediocrity. Your office, car, construction zone, or wherever you build your business every day must keep you focused on your Why in life and why you do what you do every day. Surround yourself with photos of your family, your Why card, charities, or basically anything that gets you fired up to achieve your goals and to stop at nothing until you do.

F – Ferociously Focused – In our current society, we are constantly tempted by distractions like cellphones, the internet, TV, and even other people. It takes seconds for someone or something to grab your attention and get you completely distracted for hours. You have no time to waste! Commit to being ferociously focused on your goals and dreams every day and delete the distractions from your life.

G – Gradual Growth – There are no successful shortcuts to success. Taking those shortcuts may give you temporary gratification, but not long-term results. Commit to gradual growth and commit to a two to five year process; gradually releasing the old you, excuses that are holding you back, and limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck. This is not an overnight process! Don’t set yourself up for disappointment with shortcuts. Commit to growing gradually and enjoying results that will last forever.

H – Habits – A habit is a behavior pattern that gets developed over time. Your habits will predict your future, good or bad. It’s important that your habits empower you to keep improving, growing, and learning. If your habits don’t support you on your success journey, then it’s time to change some of our behavior patterns to create new habits that will guarantee record-breaking results.

I – Influences – You must commit to understanding how your influences in life impact your ability to achieve success. Who or what is influencing you behind the scenes? Do those influences suck the life out of you or empower you to achieve your goals and dreams? Your influences will eventually show up in your life-results, so make the decision now to eliminate the influences out of your life that are keeping you stuck.

J – Just Take Action – Yes, it’s that easy! Just take action already. Stop over-analyzing and giving yourself even more excuses to stay in your comfort zone. Just take action! Every action starts with an idea and ends with you moving forward with that idea in some way. Once again, just take action! Continuing to think about it will not get you closer to the achievement of your goals and dreams.

K – Kick the Chicken – There’s a story of a farmer tying the feet of chickens and laying them in the back of the truck to take them to the market. When the farmer unties their feet, they don’t move, because they still think that they are being held down. The farmer actually has to give the chickens a little kick to get them back on their feet. Have you been held down so long in life that you just stay down and don’t even try to get up? You must kick the chicken in your life! You are free so get up and go after your goals and dreams!

L – Long-Term – You must be committed long-term to yourself, your family, and your Why. As I always say, start locally and then go globally. Cement your commitment within yourself, your family, and the areas of your life that you participate in every day first and then expand your vision. Remember, it’s long-term so you must have a rock-solid foundation for many years to come.

M – Monumental & Massive – You have a God-given right to achieve monumental, massive, prosperous success in every area of your life – physically, emotionally, financially, and socially. You were not born to live in mediocrity, be broke, sick, or lonely. Your birth certificate gives you the absolute right to achieve monumental, massive success in every area of your life. You were born a Champion so start living like one!

N – Never – You must commit to NEVER quit on your goals and dreams. The word “quit” shouldn’t even be part of your vocabulary or an option in any area of your life. Plus, Champions don’t quit! Losers quit. That sounds harsh, but you and I both know it’s true. I don’t believe you are a loser so there’s absolutely no way you should quit on anything in your life. Most of the time when people quit, they don’t know that the achievement of their goals and dreams is right around the corner…they just can’t see it! Don’t let that be you! You are a Champion!

OObstacles: We all have obstacles in our life that distract us, usually on a daily basis. However, you must learn how to use these obstacles to drive you rather than frustrate you and keep you from taking action. Overcoming obstacles builds character and is part of your story of triumph. Keep forging forward and never give up!

P – Pleasantly Persistent: Yes, it’s possible to be persistent in your business especially following up with your customers without being annoying and overbearing. Don’t be that person! Stay focused on your mission of marketing, your ethical product or service, and providing extreme customer service to your customers, and your persistence will be well received. This is much different than just constantly trying to push your products and services. Commit to be pleasantly persistent and represent yourself as the Champion that you are inside and out.

Q – Question Yourself: A key strategy to finding out if you are doing all that you can do to achieve the level of success that you desire in your life and business, is to question yourself. Start by asking yourself basic questions like, “What action am I taking every day toward the achievement of my goals and dreams?” or “Am I laser-focused or constantly distracted throughout my day?” Don’t get overwhelmed by this. Just start with one question per day that will keep you focused and hold you responsible for your daily progress.

R – Reflection: You are a direct reflection today of your decisions yesterday. Basically stated, whatever you do today will show up tomorrow. It’s inevitable so keep that in mind with every decision that you make. One of my top quotes is “What you do behind the scenes will predict your scenery.” Take a look around at your scenery. Do you like what you see? If not, commit today to changing your daily decisions and set yourself up for an amazing future.

S – Stand: Life is constantly trying to knock us down, but the good news is that as long as we can look up, we can stand up and take charge of our lives. When the enemy of fear, doubt, and procrastination attacks you, stand faithfully for your Why in life. Say affirmations like, “Never again will I retreat when the enemy of fear tries to steal my dreams.” Stand in faith and speak words of affirmations that empower you to keep going. If you are saying that’s cheesy and are embarrassed to do affirmations, then you don’t want to achieve your dream bad enough. I’m sure getting knocked down a few more times by the enemy will change your mind.

 

T – Time: As the old adage says, “Time will always tell its tale.” Remember this when it seems like nothing you do behind the scenes is producing the results that you desire. Just like the bamboo, it might take a couple of years for the seeds that you’ve planted to break ground, but when they do, there’s no stopping you! Keep faithfully planting seeds and taking daily actions toward the achievement of your goals and dreams. Your future is going to be absolutely phenomenal!

U – Understand: It’s time to understand that you were born a champion, and you have a responsibility outside of yourself, your family, and business. You have a responsibility to strive for no less than excellence in everything that you do and change lives worldwide through your giving. Sometimes, we get so caught up in ourselves and what we want in life that we forget that there’s a whole world out there that needs us and our talents. Champion, start taking responsibility today and figure out how you can change the world one life at a time.

V – Vision: As quoted in ancient wisdom, “Without a vision, you will perish.” No, you likely will not physically die, but without a vision of where you want to go and what you want to be in life, there’s no way that you can achieve it. Your dream will remain trapped inside of your heart and never see the light of day. Write a Why card and lay out your vision. If you don’t know where to start, email Team@LifestyleFreedomClub.com and we will send you a sample Why Card. This will serve as a road map that will guide you down your success path.

W – Willing: To be successful in life and business, you must be willing to step out of the crowd that has kept you comfortable all of these years and move forward on your own. Don’t be concerned what others say about you or what you are doing. Being criticized by naysayers is part of being successful. Stand up and be willing to be different and take different paths in life that will ultimately lead to the achievement of your goals and dreams.

X – Xray: We’ve all seen the x-rays of the human body that give us an inside look at what’s really going on. Similarly, you must be willing to take an x-ray of your life and be honest with yourself about what’s holding you back. It may be painful to look at those areas of your life, especially if what’s holding you back are your associations, but it’s time for you to examine those cracks in your foundation that are causing it to constantly crumble. Imagine a surgeon looking at an x-ray and examining it closely to choose the right action to correct the injury. You must do the same thing. Take necessary action to get rid of the things holding you back so you can finally move forward.

Y – Yearning: There’s a champion inside your heart yearning to get out and take charge of your life. Many times, people are too afraid to release their inner champion and go after what they really want. Don’t keep your champion trapped and longing for the life that you know you were meant to live. Take a deep breath, ignore the fear holding you back, forget what everyone around you is saying, and allow the champion inside of you to go after your goals and dreams like a roaring lion.

Z – Z-Out: When I worked in my family art gallery, I had to z-out the credit card machine every day to see our financial numbers and how we did for that particular day. You must do the same thing at the end of your day. Of course, not a physical z-out, but mentally consider everything you did that day and determine your results. This is daily accountability that will help you see what you accomplished that day and also what you still need to continue to work on. I also recommend to journal your daily accountability, because when you write something down, you internalize it. Commit to your daily z-out so that you can stay focused on your long-term goals.

Thank you for investing your time in reading The ABCs of Motivation. Remember, motivation is not a positive attitude, smiling, and being all fired up when convenient, it’s part of what you do every day to empower yourself to keep going, never quit, and ultimately achieve your goals and dreams. You are a Champion, and I believe in you!

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Your High-End Business Consultant and Strategic Business Coach…

John Di Lemme

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How To Find Your Inner Peace

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I bet you sometimes feel stressed, afraid, overwhelmed and even frustrated at times. The reason? There are plenty; the dog, the kids, the boss and even the sun shining in your face.

These negative thoughts and emotions, if not taken care of, can become so overwhelming that you can start to sink.

I can certainly relate.

I have also had my challenges and I am sure I will have plenty more as long as I am breathing.

From an early age, I became interested in finding ways to alleviate and even leverage the hard times of my life. I began reading relevant literature and started to implement some of the ideas that stuck out to me. Some ideas worked, others didn’t but the more I tested new ideas the better I became.

In this article, you will learn about a technique I have used successfully to deal with any negative thoughts or emotion. The best part? You can apply it virtually anywhere. It is very practical and easy to use. You don’t need special clothes, books or even a coach to do it. It is very simple and effective.

I. Where did this technique come from?

A couple of months ago I read the book “The Art of Learning” by Josh Waitzkin. With its help I came up with the idea of this technique. In this book, which I highly recommend to anyone, I found so many great lessons that I read the book twice in two weeks.

I took plenty of notes and even after that I couldn’t get enough.

One lesson, in particular, made a great impression on me. The lesson was, “If you avoid your thoughts, they will come back stronger”. In the book, the author explains how he learned this lesson the “hard” way during a very important chess match. At the most intensive part of it, the author was deeply concentrated trying to figure out a strategy to beat his opponent until a familiar song came to his mind and made it harder for him to concentrate.

He decided to avoid the song and try to concentrate as much as possible. No matter what he did the song became louder in his head. The author had this experience a number of times more until he came to a breakthrough. In a similar match, he faced the same challenge but this time, instead of avoiding the song, the author decided to use the chatter in his mind to his own advantage.

What he did was to adjust his thoughts to the rhythm of the song.  The result? He restored his total concentration and he never had an issue like that again.

II. The Birth of the hugging technique

Feeling inspired by this story I decided to use this idea.

I thought to myself “I can use this concept to deal with negative thoughts”.

The idea of welcoming the bad as we welcome the good in our lives is a wonderful way to adapt to whatever life brings to us.

Please take a second to think for a moment. Can you remember trying to avoid or getting rid of a thought in your mind but you found yourself powerless because the thought kept coming stronger and more insisting on taking over your attention? I would also suggest that eventually, you found that the moment you stopped trying to “clean” your mind from this thought, it lost its power.

III. The Law of Non- Resistance

In other words, you witnessed the law of non-resistance that states “Whatever you resist it will persist”.

Whatever we avoid causes the greatest discomfort. If we can only understand that the only way to overcome challenges is to accept them instead of avoiding them, the faster the process of going through the discomfort will be.

Using the ideas from “The Art of Learning ” and the Law of non-resistance, I decided to visualize how I “hug” what I associate in my mind as negative.

By “hugging” the discomfort I symbolically welcome it into my mind and believe it or not when I do this I stop resisting the discomfort and I become more comfortable with the fact that it is there. Once I feel comfortable being uncomfortable I am able to assess the situation from a neutral perspective which enables me to take better decisions and end my suffering quicker.

The more intensive the discomfort, the harder I visualize how I “hug” and accept the negativity.  You might want to ask me “What do you actually imagine hugging?” Well, it depends on the situation. If a person makes me feel uncomfortable I imagine hugging the person, if it’s a situation, I imagine how I simply open my arms and say sincerely “thank you” or I could hug anyone connected with the creation of my discomfort.

Sometimes I even visualize how I hug myself. Just visualizing yourself being in the process of hugging works pretty well.

IV. Are you doubtful?

Some of you might be doubting this idea but let me ask you something.

Do you like to hug your closest friends, family members or to be hugged by them?   Do you enjoy putting your arms around a person who causes your happiness?

I suppose yes.

There is one important thing that you must consider:

Hugging is a symbol of appreciation and acceptance.

Normally, when we forgive someone, we hug each other as a sign of acceptance and forgiveness.

Since, historically, we hug each other for ages, our brains have developed the habit to associate hugging only with positivity.

Since our brains associate hugging with love, acceptance, forgiveness and happiness we can experience the same emotions when we visualize hugging someone.

If we visualize well, it will feel as if we are hugging this person in reality.

Instantaneously, the hormones responsible for positive emotions will increase their percentage in our bodies and we will feel happier.

The same effect can be observed when we imagine that we “hug” someone or something that causes our discomfort.

V. Useful tips 

Before you implement this technique let me give you some tips.

– First of all! You must believe that it can work for you.

-Secondly, please understand that life is happening for you and not to you, therefore every discomfort is an opportunity for you to become a better version of yourself.

– Last but not least, understand that the only way to lead a great life is by committing yourself to always take the “Right” decision. Not the decision society, your friends and family want you to take but the right decision that your gut/intuition tells you to take. In my experience, when I have to face and accept the challenge in front of me, my intuition always gives me the feeling that “This is the right decision”

My greatest hope is that you find this article helpful. If you are interested in more great content like this one check out my website Guided Meditation for you. If you have any questions, feel free to send me an e-mail. I will be glad to write you back.


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“You Are Exactly Where You Need to Be.” (No, seriously)

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Exactly Where You Need to Be

When I first heard this quote, I thought it was nonsense, just a way to make people feel good about being stuck or having a late start in life. After all, if you are exactly where you need to be, then you would not be stuck now, would you?

Yet, as I delved more into the world of personal development, it started to make sense, especially with a traffic analogy.

In Traffic: Exactly Where You Need to Be

Abraham Hicks talks about an interesting study the Mythbusters did. First, they studied the amount of traffic passing through an intersection with four-way “Stop” signs in a fifteen-minute interval. Then, they changed the intersection to that of someone directing traffic. Interestingly, the amount of traffic passing through actually decreased. In other words, when people were allowed to make their own decisions at the four-way “Stop”, more traffic passed than when someone else made the decision for them.

Then, the intersection was changed to a roundabout (traffic circle) with no stop signs. Here, people decided when they would go. In this configuration, the most amount of traffic passed in a 15-minute interval.

The lesson learned is this: When people are allowed to make their own decisions in order to get to where they need to be, the traffic that we call life flows the quickest.

Yes, even when someone pulls out in front of you at the last second and causes you to slow down, it’s still the fastest way for both of you.

Detours

When someone pulls in front of you at the last second, it interrupts your flow. For example, this happens often at your job. You are enjoying the ride and you are in the flow, doing your thing.

Suddenly, someone wanting to move faster or just join your path seems to selfishly dump a bunch of work on you, work meant for two people. He also expects you to do in half the time.

Detours can take you to an undesirable part of town, a place you will be so glad to get out off before something bad happens. Detours can also take you to a beautiful part of town, places you may have never otherwise seen. What at the surface looked like a disaster at the time (a crippling disease, the loss of a job, the death of a loved one) usually leads to something better.

In other words, take the bad with the good. Look at them as learning opportunities. Oftentimes, the bad is an impetus for making changes for the better. It could be something as life-changing as starting that business you’ve always talked about in order to escape unreasonable deadlines and a supervisor who likes throwing you under the bus because you failed to meet those deadlines.

So, perception is important here. How you interpret the events of your life and how your respond matter most. Ask the Universe to help you get out of your own way. When you are able to do so, you can start showing people your higher self and in doing so help them.

Force Negates

Humans are such interesting creatures. We live for the interesting moments. And yet when those interesting moments do occur, we get angry.

Everyone on the Road of Life is exactly where they need to be, on their own journey, and going their own flow. When we try to force other people to follow our paths and ride our ride, resistance comes. We have a very human tendency to unconsciously impose our beliefs on other people in order to justify them to ourselves. Other people actually slow down or even stop as a result, their own flow conflicting with yours.

In the end, we all get to where we need to go. Enjoy the journey.


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3 Easy Ways to Start a Stress-Free Life Today

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3 Easy Ways To Start A Stress Free Life Today

3 ways to reduce stress

Are you overwhelmed with stress daily? Change may be easier than you think. Here are 3 easy ways to redefine your crazy weeks.

#1: Develop a routine.

The biggest contributor to a stress-free lifestyle is routine. Without it, life is chaos. It provides the foundation for all of your behaviors and gives you the consistency to reach a goal. Whether it’s related to eating, sleeping or exercising, be sure to determine your needs accurately and lay out the groundwork for successful completion.

#2: Remind yourself to enjoy each day.

It’s a shame we need to remind ourselves to enjoy each day. Over the last ten years, I’ve learned from my personal training clients that people are generally unhappy. I don’t blame them. With the overwhelming stresses of work, family, and Chicago sports, it’s easy to be distracted from the fruits of life.

Although I wouldn’t expect you to dismiss these stresses, I certainly encourage to change your perspective on them. Life will throw challenges at you each day. It’s time to embrace them as learning experiences for growth and wisdom. By doing this, you may look at these challenges in a more positive light and begin to enjoy the process of living—not just the achievement of results.

#3: Simplify your life.

Since there are many obstacles that you face daily, simplify your approach and environment as much as possible. Life is stressful when submerged under a disorganized mess. Make the following changes today:

  • Get rid of clothes, paperwork, and other random things in your closet/cabinets/trunk/yard/garage/basement that you haven’t touched in 6 months.
  • Quit trying to multitask. Free your mind and focus on one thought at a time.
  • Place things that you use daily in the same spot (e.g., your keys, phone, etc.). Quit wasting time searching for misplaced items.
  • Consolidate bank accounts. Track your spending habits all in one place.
  • Save time by ordering what you need online. You no longer need to waste hours searching for products in multiple stores.
  • How long does it take you to wash your clothes? Have you thought about consolidating your whites and colors in cold water? Unless your clothes are filthy, there isn’t a need to separate your clothes into different Save your time, sanity, and money and wash everything at once.
  • Learn to say no. Quit overextending yourself! Only accept projects, social invitations or responsibilities within your limits.
  • Unsubscribe to email newsletters.

How else can you start a new life today?

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Looking for other ways to redefine your life? Check out my recent articles 50 Ways to Change Your Life Today or 9 Self-Improvement Books That Will Change Your Life too.

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Michael Moody is the author of the self-improvement book Redefine Yourself: The Simple Guide to Happiness and the former fitness expert on NBC’s The Biggest Loser/MSN Chicago tour. The owner of the successful Chicago personal training business Michael Moody Fitness, his fitness and life-structure programs have helped his personal training clients lose more than 2,500 pounds since 2005. Michael has been featured in Muscle & Fitness and Today’s Chicago Woman magazines, among others. During his time as the official trainer for PBS’s The Whitney Reynolds Show, he also produced an inspirational segment about his travels in Guatemala.

Having researched emotion and coping behaviors in university-level studies, Michael has presented various fitness, motivation, body image, and stress-management programs at Illinois State University, DePaul University, corporations, high schools, and workshops.

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