Charisma is a powerful skill to have.
All of the top leaders, businessmen, entrepreneurs, and celebrities have charisma. When people talk to them, they feel like they’ve known them all their life. It’s as if there is a magnetic attraction pulling them in. That’s the power of charisma.
If you learn how to cultivate and master this skill, it will have a huge effect on every area of your life. You’ll be able to influence people to do what you want them to do. You’ll be able to get what you want out of life. You’ll be able to build a cult-like following of people. Whatever your goals are, having charisma can get you to your final destination much faster.
But what if you don’t consider yourself charismatic at all?
Even if you don’t think you are super charming or outgoing, you can still improve your charisma. Here are four quick hacks on how to be more charismatic.
1. Start Smiling More
One of the easiest ways to be more charismatic is to smile more.
If this is something you struggle with, go and practice right now. Find a mirror and start smiling in front of it. Keep doing this until it looks genuine and not forced. Nothing is worse than receiving a fake smile from someone. It screams dishonesty and makes building rapport much harder.
Smile. Smile. Smile.
It’s going to make you feel better, and it’s going to make the person you’re talking to feel better.
2. Give Strong Eye Contact
Have you ever given someone eye contact and feel like there’s energy flowing between you?
You feel the pressure. That’s the power of strong eye contact.
When you’re talking to somebody, lock eyes with them. Look them directly in the eye. Do not waver or look away.
Doing this is one of the easiest ways to build rapport with people. For example, Bill Clinton, who is known as one of the most charismatic individuals on Earth, is known for his strong eye contact.
If you Google, “Bill Clinton charisma”, you’ll find hundreds of blog posts and articles talking all about it.
People who have interacted with him have raved about his charisma. They describe him as being hypnotizing to talk too. He makes you want to be around him more. Here’s the funny part – Republicans, who normally wouldn’t agree with his policies or viewpoints, have said that after talking to him they felt themselves wanting to support him.
And you know what he did?
Give them strong eye contact.
3. Be Interested
Notice I didn’t say be interesting.
It’s important that you’re interested in people.
You know what people care the most about?
You can use this to your advantage. If you show interest in them, they’re going to automatically like you.
Because you made them feel good about themselves.
And you can show interest in people without having to kiss their butt either. Ask them genuine questions. Make statements about them. Show enthusiasm and excitement towards them.
Doing this helps you have more engaged conversations with people.
4. Practice Self-Amusement
The last hack you can do to become more charismatic is to be self-amused.
What is self-amusement?
It’s when you say or do something for the sole reason that you find it amusing or entertaining. You’re not trying to get a reaction out of someone. You’re not looking for validation. You’re purely doing something because you felt like it.
That is self-amusement.
Here’s how you can develop this skill – Lower the bar of what you find funny.
Don’t take yourself too seriously.
For example, people who have a “sophisticated” sense of humor usually are very ego-centric. They want to look and feel smart, thus they only allow themselves to laugh at “high-level” jokes.
That’s your ego talking.
What are you trying to prove? That’s a boring way to live life. The happiest people are those who don’t take themselves too seriously. They don’t care what anyone thinks of them.
Say something because it makes you happy. Don’t care what other people think about it. Don’t care if they find it funny or not. Say it because you find it hilarious.
There’s something called the “Law of State Transference.” The law states that whatever emotion you’re feeling the other person is going to feel it too. Feeling awkward? They’re going to feel awkward. Feeling happy? They’re going to feel happy.
Knowing this, you can use it to your advantage when it comes to self-amusement. When you say something you find hilarious, there’s a high chance they’re going to find it funny too. It’s all thanks to the “Law of State Transference.” Try it out.
And there we go.
Those are four quick hacks you can use today to be more charismatic. Go out and practice them right now.
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