Love is grand, isn’t it? For those of us who are lucky enough to already have the great comp any of a partner, there’s nothing better than being in love. Having someone to always be there for you, laugh with you, cry with you and spend the rest of your days with. Yes, love certainly is grand. For those who are just starting out in a relationship, the question is always, when do you say I love you?

This is never an easy thing and I often wonder if it’s harder for one gender than it is the other. Do women fall in love faster than men do? I imagine thousands of surveys and much research has been done on this topic. I wonder if men fall in love just as swiftly as women do but they are more reserved in declaring their love. Perhaps due for fear of being rejected? Who knows, really. As grand is love is, it’s still a funny thing.

Does he or doesn’t he?

We always first want to know if they do. We question their actions, their words, their texts, every little thing they do. We look for clues of love. He brought me flowers, so he must love me. She talks about me to her friends all the time, so she must love me. Sometimes we mistake love for simply a deep like or appreciation. There’s a fine line and, yes, that like could very well turn into love but it very well may not either. This person may like you a lot but may not be attracted to you in sense of a committed relationship.

Many of us have such a strong attachment to the outcome that we forget to just relax and have fun while we are dating this person. Because of this, we forget what it’s like to be real, have fun and live with no expectations. Does he or doesn’t? The answer will reveal itself soon enough.

Who are you anyway?

It certainly is hard to tell if they love you or not. Remember dating is where it all starts. We have to check our lust and egos at the door, first and foremost, when we first start dating. You probably are absolutely beautiful and had a million dates in high school but this isn’t high school anymore and he wants to know how beautiful you are inside too.  And you probably were the most popular guy in university and all the girls wanted to date you, but. You get the idea.  You have to remember to stay true to you. To who you are now. If you are pretending to be someone you’re not, chances are, the person you are dating will discover that eventually anyway and before anybody has a chance to declare love, it will all be over.

There’s always that period where you are desperately trying to find out more about this person, find out about all of them, learn their bad habits, their good qualities, etc., before we can decide if we are going to give our heart to them. Imagine if that person was pretending to be so me super awesome being, you did fall in love and suddenly their true colours displayed themselves? You fell in love with a chameleon and sadly enough, that happens a lot. That’s why it’s important to always just be yourself. The person you are dating is either a good match for you or not. Best to find out early enough on.

Is it time now?

If you listen and trust your gut instinct, which I might add, never lies, it will warn you or guide you. Pay attention to it. If there is a teeny bit of gnawing inside of you that is warning you that something isn’t right, listen to it. What does your gut say? What does your heart say? Gut first, heart next. Have there been any slight red flags in the dating process? Pay attention to them. If the gut feels good and the heart is fluttering, then just come out with it and say it. If you feel it and you have eliminated it as being possible lust, then in my opinion, just say it. If that’s how you feel, that’s how you feel. The heart nor the gut, ever lies and if they are both telling you it’s love. Then it’s love.  If you feel from them, and you will feel vibes from them from how they are treating you, the same emotions you are feeling, then love is in the air. And love is grand.

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What does authentic mean? Really. So many claim to be authentic but very little prove it. What sets the authentic people apart from the rest of the world? To be authentic means to be genuine, true and real. No second guessing their personality. What you see is what you get. They are the real deal. So what is it that they do that others don’t?

In a cookie cutter world, we are mostly trying to fit in, blend in or follow the leader. So few of us want to lead or dance to the beat of our own drum for fear of failure or being laughed at. It’s so much easier to just follow the crowd. Not better, just easier. And then there’s the authentic people. What makes them different? What sets them apart? Here are just a few things.

1. They are not afraid to stand out.

Whether it be with the way they dress or their voice or their jobs. they have no fear in standing out above and from the rest. As a matter of fact, they don’t give it a second thought. There is nothing wrong with their outfit, at all. They are uniquely them and they love being themselves. No inhibitions.

2. They use their voice.

They say what they mean, mean what they say and won’t back down from a great conversation, debate or something they strongly believe in. they won’t sugar coat things to protect someone’s feelings (they won’t deliberately or intentionally hurt your feelings either though)

3. Just be yourself.

They encourage you to be yourself around them. They don’t want you to pretend to be someone you’re not, especially not in their company. This is the only person you can do that with, comfortably. They don’t have time to hang with fake people and they don’t want you to be one.

4. They know how to deal with every and any kind of situation.

Stressful, horrible, good and bad. They are extremely flexible in their attitude to life and the cards that life deals and their attitude is more often than not, optimistic and positive. No drama for them.

5. They love their own company.

They really truly do. They think they are awesome and that their company is fantastic. They don’t feel the need to have to be with people all the time for entertainment or company. They love themselves enough to hang out alone.

6. They don’t need validation from anyone.

Ever about anything. They do their best. If it wasn’t their best they will try again tomorrow. They like who they are, they like their hair, clothes, or whatever. They don’t need to seek anyone’s approval.

7. They don’t get defensive when people criticize them.

People are people and not every one is going to like them. They are always open to constructive criticism and take it as exactly that. They are open minded enough to listen to what the other is saying and appreciate their input.

8. They just act.

They trust their gut enough to do that thing they’ve been thinking of or talking about. They don’t look to others for advice. Most often, others will deter them from what is in their heart. They just go off and do what their heart is telling them to. Carefree and enthusiastically.

9. There is beauty in everything and everyone and they see it.

They see love and kindness and beauty everywhere and if for one second they don’t find it, then they will be it. They will be the change the world needs and are quick to jump in and be that person.

10. They don’t hang out with negative or judgemental people.

They really can’t be bothered and find it is a total waste of energy and time to be with people who don’t see the good in everything. They have no qualms about telling people that either. They don’t care if you like that or not.

One important thing you should know about authentic people; they could not care less if you like them or not. They are extremely self confident and don’t need you to like them and never seek anyone’s approval. They are absolutely perfectly happy with who they are. Remember, they love who they are.

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About 39 percent of world’s population was overweight in 2014. The percentage trend is steadily increasing.

It is bad.

When I was younger, I used to eat lots of food and still stay lean. I thought it might be my genetics or the metabolism was fast. I used to enjoy all the foods I loved and everyone was jealous of me.

Naturally, I grew in life. My height and weight too. At one point, my height stopped growing, my metabolism dropped due to less physical activities.

One thing remained with me – the eating habit. It was tough for me to stop that. I kept eating too much. People used to literally call me to eat if they had more food during festivals.

The belief was – Rohan could eat any amounts of food. My proud eating moment was going to come to an end. And my belly become big and I was fat.

We hate our belly becoming big. We start to wear loose clothes and blame it on genetics. It is easy to do that way. The last time you checked your weight – you probably promised to do something about it and yet you did nothing.

Let’s find out what we can do…

Laziness in Exercise

Studies suggest we tend to less prioritize our health over other things like office work, kids responsibilities and other chores.
We have equal times – you, me and Dwayne Johnson. We all work, have kids, have doctor’s appointments and many other stuffs.

You have to make a way for your health. Ignore it and then at old age, you will regret your decision. Start now, start small and you will benefit for lifetime.

The Reveal

Studies suggest intake of sugar’s over long term is linked to weight gain. And we love our Starbuck’s coffee, Mcdonald’s coffee and dunkin donuts.

Most of us eat them at the breakfast. We are doing ourselves more harm than good.

You may argue – it is guilty pleasure. We all need to enjoy good food.

You can – if you do exercise to control your body weight.

Most of us ignore doing daily exercise or do it at less frequency. The result being – we keep on taking sugar and its products, our weight keeps on increasing and we keep on complaining.

Diet Versus Exercise

We need to lose weight.

The best way to do this is by using the combination of diet and exercise. 80 percent of the results comes from dieting and 20 percent from exercise.

Exercise should be used with an intent to grow strong and develop muscle.

Dieting should be used to eat less fats, sugar and increase protein intake. This will help you in lowering your waist size and grow healthier over time.

Dieting Debunked

Dieting doesn’t mean eating less foods. It means eating foods with less calories and carbohydrates. You need to target foods like soya bean, egg white and water-melon.

Each one of us has a different daily schedule. You shouldn’t expect to lose weight by doing exact same things your friend did. Results vary, diet vary and exercise vary too.

When you move above the competition spirit, you go into self-discovery mode, you grow.

Exercise Debunked

We have high expectations, we love to try for the greater things.

This attitude is nice, it might land you success in different fields of life. This won’t work in fitness though.

Sorry to break your heart. The best tip in exercise is to start small and have the bare minimum expectations. For example, start by doing 5 pushups daily and your expectation should be to do it 5 consecutive days.

You move ahead from there and set little higher goals and exercise module. This keeps on repeating forever.

Only You

Yes, you want to lose that weight, gain weight or get bulky – you can do it.

The biggest barrier is starting. The second barrier is impatience. Start now, be patient and keep on working. Remember whether in weight gain or loss, your diet plays an important role.

Go to a dietician now and get your diet. Follow it religiously, you are bound to see results down the road. The only way you don’t get results – when you stop it in between.

Resolution doesn’t work. Motivation does – most of us need it daily though. Buy a fitness CD, share on facebook your fitness goals, stay committed and success will be yours.

Conclusion

Sugar intake has an impact. Control it from the beginning – or start now and reap rewards later.

Or maybe you can take control of your diet and be proud of your body. Next time your family goes to beach, you would roam topless with a smile on your face and satisfaction in your heart.

How else you can lose weight/gain weight? Tell me in comments.

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