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Regret. It’s presumable the number one feeling you preferably want to avoid in your life. Regret is defined as feeling sorry or sad about something that you did or did not do. Did you fully comprehend the previous sentence? Regret is somehow always bad. On the one hand if you did something that you wish you didn’t do you’ll feel miserable. On the other hand if you didn’t do something that you in fact wanted to do then you’ll also feel miserable. That’s why everyone wants to avoid regret, but unfortunately not everybody is successful in doing so. Therefore, let’s take a look at what the best ways are to save yourself from regret.
Most people have a hard time with putting things in perspective. Most people never know how strong they are and what they’re capable of, because they lead their lives by limiting beliefs. They’ve created these limiting beliefs by themselves because someone once told them they couldn’t do something or they might have had a bad experience in the past. However, most things aren’t as bad or as frightening as they might seem. Often it’s the mind that distorts our reality. The best way to find if you’re making situations worse than they really are is by ‘stepping out’ of your biased mind and look at something you’re scared off with a fresh perspective. ‘Getting out’ of your mind might sound crazy, but I encourage you to try it. When you do, ask yourself questions that put the situation into perspective. For example; is it really that frightening or is my mind making things up and what is it that I’m really afraid of? These questions will relax you and make you think more clearly. Most of the time when people put ‘things in perspective’ they start to realize that it’s not their inability to do something that’s holding them back, but that it’s their mindset that’s holding them back.
In twenty years from now, you’ll be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did do. You’ll come across many opportunities in your life and not one will ever happen twice. It’s normal to be in doubt about something. However, the people who tell you about all the potential risks that are involved in something you would like to do are often even more scared than you are. Their fears ‘feed’ the doubt that you may already have. To prevent that from happening you need to remember one thing; the worst thing that can happen is that you fail. So what?
Failure is one of the best teachers to gain new experiences and valuable insights. You might think that this is a too optimistic perspective on life. However, instead of thinking about it like that, see it rather as an inspiring and an ever improving perspective on life.
How often did you wish that you said something more precisely or explained yourself more clearly? Or maybe you said something on accident out loud that wasn’t meant to be heard for a certain person. These are just a few examples of regret that almost everyone can relate to. So how can you prevent this from happening? By communicating and listening. The words that are unsaid and issues that remain unresolved will haunt you for the rest of your life until you start to make change in approach on how you treat people. Try to approach for example the conversation with the mindset as if this was the last time ever that the two of you spoke to each other. Many issues can be resolved by just listening diligently and communicating without accusing or judging.
Being unhappy and pretending like everything is okay is one of the worst things you can do. Not only is it bad for your own well-being, but you’re also lying to your loved ones. You might expect that they will find eventually if they truly know you. Although it’s true that some people who know you well enough can see through the act, they still need to be willing to take the effort and to have the courage to ask if there is something wrong with you. If you do this you’re making it their responsibility when in fact it’s your own. Your family/friends or maybe even both may not like this fake attitude and it can really have a negative impact on your social life. The best way to prevent this from happening is by being real. Maybe now your social circle won’t always like what they see, but they respect you for not pretending that everything is fine. You’ll prevent the occurrence of feeling guilty, mad and maybe even betrayed.
You’ll have to make a lot of tough choices and decisions in your life. Of course you would like to make the right ones since no one wants to look back at their life and wonder what would happen if they did things differently. However, the truth is that you can’t always know that you’ll make the right call, because no one knows what happens tomorrow. Despite the possibility of making a wrong decision, you can always base a decision on the right intentions. And that will be far more important in retrospect, because in the end we only regret the chances we didn’t take!
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That word makes us cringe. The thought of being stuck with anybody or anything really is horrible but what happens when it’s a manipulator? People say you aren’t stuck anywhere and for the most part, they are right. If you don’t like where you are move, you’re not a tree. Right? Sometimes it’s not that easy. You are required or obligated to stay where you are. Whatever the case may be, you are in a room and you are with a manipulator and you are stuck. What now?
Manipulative people know their gift. They aren’t stupid. Understand this right now, they know they are manipulators they probably just don’t call it that. They know exactly how to make people do what they want, when they want as often as they want. You aren’t the first to get caught in their web and you won’t be the last. Happens to the best of us. The positive side of this, if you can even find one, is that there are ways to deal with this type of people.
Only of course, if you aren’t agreeing to anything that will hurt you or anyone else. Just let them go on and ramble and come up with whatever ridiculous plan they have and let them be. It is pointless in trying to argue any reason into them so don’t even bother. If the manipulator is your partner it might be time for you to come up with your own plan soon.
It’s an argument you won’t win if winning is the end result you are looking for. It won’t happen. You are probably right and have all the logic but that will all fall on deaf ears. The manipulator is also never wrong and always right. Remember that now and it will save you tons of grief, frustration and days of tears and anger. You can’t argue with a manipulator.
Let them know that you have a voice, be diplomatic, and have your say. If they have pushed you too far then flip to your stand your ground mode. There’s nothing wrong with doing that. The only problem is, they may or may not listen to you or care what you have to say. You could be wasting your breath. Remember #2. Be calm, assertive but not argumentative or aggressive.
Even the time you have to spend with this person right now, it will come to an end soon, unless it’s your partner, then your problem is much bigger. If it is only a family gathering or a one-night event or something of the sort, you will be done with them soon. Before you know it, you will be back home and detoxing all that negative energy.
Is it possible to discuss this situation with this person? Sometimes it is and you may have great success so don’t discount that route. Try and talk to them and let them know their behaviour is uncalled for and how it makes you feel. If the manipulator happens to be your partner, maybe they will try to get help for whatever their situation is. You won’t know until you talk about it and find out. Get to the root of the matter. Work together if you can. People can change.
Is there some way you can deal with this person that maybe you aren’t aware of yet? Maybe someone you know has been through this exact same thing and they can help you. Seek out the advice of guidance of a friend you know who has been involved with a manipulator and what tools they used to handle them. It just might make your encounters more enjoyable, if anything.
Manipulative people may not be the nicest people to deal with, but like any other person, there is always a positive and loving side to them. They know this too. They are charmers. Though it certainly isn’t pleasant to deal with them, it s also not impossible. If they need help, subtly offer it to them and let it go.
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“I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel’s sake. The great affair is to move.” ― Robert Louis Stevenson, Travels with a Donkey in the Cevennes
Almost every person you know (perhaps including yourself) wants to travel the world. And it’s not just because you see your friends’ sunny photos by the beach on Instagram. Traveling has plenty of benefits: from seeing your dream city, experiencing different cultures, to leaving everything behind and starting over.
For a lot of people, their travels have changed their lives forever. They found new jobs, a new home, new friends, and a new reason to exist.
Whether you want to fly off to Paris or to simply visit another state, the idea of a getaway is enough to make you restless. But here’s the catch: you’re broke. If you’re like most millennials, you love life but hate the fact that it’s challenging to follow your dreams due to lack of funding.
So what do you do when you have bills to pay but you want to see how traveling can change your life? Do you quit your job and go? Or do you suffer in silence for a couple of years until you get a light bulb moment?
This may already be obvious to you: but you don’t need to travel the world to turn your life around.
A coworker of mine is a cyclist. Every weekend, he goes on his bike and pedals on together with his other cyclist friends.
Not only is this great exercise, he claims it helped clear his mind of worries AND he was able to visit remote locations. His Facebook page is proof of that. He has pictures of long, narrow roads surrounded by greenery, steep mountains that look golden under the sunset, and grassy trails dotted with wildflowers.
Sure – it’s not international travel. But he still went on a journey.
For my friend, cycling was his way of exploring, while de-stressing after a long week of hard work. It’s economical, great for the body, and has helped him quit his addiction to video games. He says that since he started this new hobby, he has never gone back and feels a renewed sense of vigor now.
Never underestimate the power of small things. Like the tiny bits of coral washed ashore, they collect to form the beautiful sandy beach. It doesn’t matter where you go: be it to another island, a neighboring state, or back to your parents’ house. What matters is what you did – and felt – during your short expedition.
If you want to spice up a relationship, going on a date (particularly somewhere romantic) is often recommended. That’s why honeymoon trips are usually held in Paris, Maldives, Prague, Sydney, or Venice. These destinations are beautiful, boast of countless activities, and have that air of romance.
So why not do the same if you want to spice up your life? That’s right: date yourself.
Psychiatrist Abigail Brenner, M.D. suggests being alone to help you make better decisions and choices. Being in solitude gives you the free space to be yourself. To become who you truly are without outside influences.
Back when I needed to think about whether or not to quit my job, I would retreat to the woods near my mother’s home. It was just a few minutes away, and I knew the path very well. I would go out in late afternoon, just when people would go inside their homes for dinner.
It was during these solitary walks when I would silently weigh the pros and cons of my choices. In my head, I would go over my plans. I imagine myself working, finding joy in the small things. But sometimes, I would picture my situation differently. I was a digital nomad working everywhere with my trusty laptop. These daydreams may seem silly, but they helped me choose a good path to follow.
Back then, my impulsive self would have just quit. But reality is a good wakeup call. Had I not taken the courage to be alone, I would have followed my impulses like before and perhaps regretted my decision. Thanks to these solitary walks, I have gained new insight to what I want to achieve in my life.
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” ― Marcel Proust
So what can you do when you’re itching to get away but have little time or patience to do get started?
Begin small. In fact, start so small that your first trip is just within your city (or state). You’d be surprised to find that the place you’ve become so familiar with still has one or two surprises just waiting to be discovered.
Take freelance writer, Ginny Graves, for example. In one post, she recalled being so caught up in her worries that she didn’t notice the cute, black, potbellied pig in her neighborhood until one rainy day, when she saw it frolicking in the rain. Often, little slivers of joy pass our eyes but we fail to notice them because we’re too focused elsewhere.
Wanting what we don’t have is normal. Being worried about little things is also typical human behavior. But it’s when we dwell on negative emotions that they start to wreak havoc with our potential.
Maybe the change you’re looking for is right in front of you. Perhaps the happiness you’re seeking is already beside you. Sure, it’s alright to daydream about sunny beaches or romantic castles. But you probably don’t need to leave everything behind to see a significant change in your life.
Maybe you just need a fresh perspective.
Traveling isn’t just about seeing the world. Real travel happens when you start seeing the world in a new light. Like getting glasses for the first time, you suddenly begin to notice every crevice, every nook, and every curve. It’s when you think to yourself with a smile: what’s here is good, after all.
—
Cristina Antonio is the EIC of scoopfed.com and a writer of all things related to world news, movies, real estate, health, or social media. She’s currently focused on helping healthcare workers find better career opportunities through Locum Tenens. Cris also enjoys painting, collecting toys, reading German novels, and lurking the Web.
You’ve read Why You Don’t Need To Travel Far To Turn Your Life Around, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’ve enjoyed this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
You’re reading Why You Don’t Need To Travel Far To Turn Your Life Around, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’re enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
“I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel’s sake. The great affair is to move.” ― Robert Louis Stevenson, Travels with a Donkey in the Cevennes
Almost every person you know (perhaps including yourself) wants to travel the world. And it’s not just because you see your friends’ sunny photos by the beach on Instagram. Traveling has plenty of benefits: from seeing your dream city, experiencing different cultures, to leaving everything behind and starting over.
For a lot of people, their travels have changed their lives forever. They found new jobs, a new home, new friends, and a new reason to exist.
Whether you want to fly off to Paris or to simply visit another state, the idea of a getaway is enough to make you restless. But here’s the catch: you’re broke. If you’re like most millennials, you love life but hate the fact that it’s challenging to follow your dreams due to lack of funding.
So what do you do when you have bills to pay but you want to see how traveling can change your life? Do you quit your job and go? Or do you suffer in silence for a couple of years until you get a light bulb moment?
This may already be obvious to you: but you don’t need to travel the world to turn your life around.
A coworker of mine is a cyclist. Every weekend, he goes on his bike and pedals on together with his other cyclist friends.
Not only is this great exercise, he claims it helped clear his mind of worries AND he was able to visit remote locations. His Facebook page is proof of that. He has pictures of long, narrow roads surrounded by greenery, steep mountains that look golden under the sunset, and grassy trails dotted with wildflowers.
Sure – it’s not international travel. But he still went on a journey.
For my friend, cycling was his way of exploring, while de-stressing after a long week of hard work. It’s economical, great for the body, and has helped him quit his addiction to video games. He says that since he started this new hobby, he has never gone back and feels a renewed sense of vigor now.
Never underestimate the power of small things. Like the tiny bits of coral washed ashore, they collect to form the beautiful sandy beach. It doesn’t matter where you go: be it to another island, a neighboring state, or back to your parents’ house. What matters is what you did – and felt – during your short expedition.
If you want to spice up a relationship, going on a date (particularly somewhere romantic) is often recommended. That’s why honeymoon trips are usually held in Paris, Maldives, Prague, Sydney, or Venice. These destinations are beautiful, boast of countless activities, and have that air of romance.
So why not do the same if you want to spice up your life? That’s right: date yourself.
Psychiatrist Abigail Brenner, M.D. suggests being alone to help you make better decisions and choices. Being in solitude gives you the free space to be yourself. To become who you truly are without outside influences.
Back when I needed to think about whether or not to quit my job, I would retreat to the woods near my mother’s home. It was just a few minutes away, and I knew the path very well. I would go out in late afternoon, just when people would go inside their homes for dinner.
It was during these solitary walks when I would silently weigh the pros and cons of my choices. In my head, I would go over my plans. I imagine myself working, finding joy in the small things. But sometimes, I would picture my situation differently. I was a digital nomad working everywhere with my trusty laptop. These daydreams may seem silly, but they helped me choose a good path to follow.
Back then, my impulsive self would have just quit. But reality is a good wakeup call. Had I not taken the courage to be alone, I would have followed my impulses like before and perhaps regretted my decision. Thanks to these solitary walks, I have gained new insight to what I want to achieve in my life.
“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes.” ― Marcel Proust
So what can you do when you’re itching to get away but have little time or patience to do get started?
Begin small. In fact, start so small that your first trip is just within your city (or state). You’d be surprised to find that the place you’ve become so familiar with still has one or two surprises just waiting to be discovered.
Take freelance writer, Ginny Graves, for example. In one post, she recalled being so caught up in her worries that she didn’t notice the cute, black, potbellied pig in her neighborhood until one rainy day, when she saw it frolicking in the rain. Often, little slivers of joy pass our eyes but we fail to notice them because we’re too focused elsewhere.
Wanting what we don’t have is normal. Being worried about little things is also typical human behavior. But it’s when we dwell on negative emotions that they start to wreak havoc with our potential.
Maybe the change you’re looking for is right in front of you. Perhaps the happiness you’re seeking is already beside you. Sure, it’s alright to daydream about sunny beaches or romantic castles. But you probably don’t need to leave everything behind to see a significant change in your life.
Maybe you just need a fresh perspective.
Traveling isn’t just about seeing the world. Real travel happens when you start seeing the world in a new light. Like getting glasses for the first time, you suddenly begin to notice every crevice, every nook, and every curve. It’s when you think to yourself with a smile: what’s here is good, after all.
—
Cristina Antonio is the EIC of scoopfed.com and a writer of all things related to world news, movies, real estate, health, or social media. She’s currently focused on helping healthcare workers find better career opportunities through Locum Tenens. Cris also enjoys painting, collecting toys, reading German novels, and lurking the Web.
You’ve read Why You Don’t Need To Travel Far To Turn Your Life Around, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you’ve enjoyed this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
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, but this one also adds a fresh lemon scent to your kitchen. All you need is a small plastic container and a lemon.
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