For all the gestures of inter-communal solidarity that have been given much publicity since the June 18 attack outside a London mosque, the more significant and ominous sentiment has been one of vindication. Anecdotal evidence, the prevalence of online Islamophobia, and a spike in cases of anti-Muslim taunting in the street suggest that many Britons, from small towns in southern England to depressed, working-class areas in the north, feel that “they” had it coming.
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A Presumption of Guilt
Late one night several years ago, I got out of my car on a dark midtown Atlanta street when a man standing fifteen feet away pointed a gun at me and threatened to “blow my head off.” I’d been parked outside my new apartment in a racially mixed but mostly white neighborhood that I didn’t consider a high-crime area. As the man repeated the threat, I suppressed my first instinct to run and fearfully raised my hands in helpless submission. I begged the man not to shoot me, repeating over and over again, “It’s all right, it’s okay.” The man was a uniformed police officer. As a criminal defense attorney, I knew that my survival required careful, strategic thinking. I had to stay calm.
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There are skies and then there are Blue Ridge Parkway skies. The southern end of the parkway in North Carolina winds through the highest elevations, offering dramatic mountain top views. When photographer Robert Stephens chanced upon this scene at Bear Trap Gap, he said “It almost felt like an out of body experience. You can’t believe what you’re seeing, but it’s there! I was so in awe of the light filtering over the ridges I had to remember to snap my shutter!” Photo courtesy of Robert Stephens.
Symbolizing Your Way to Success
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How tiny objects can have a massive influence on the world
”The feeling of having no power over people and events is generally unbearable to us—when we feel helpless we feel miserable,” writes the author Robert Greene. “No one wants less power; everyone wants more.”
Research shows that feeling powerless or experiencing a lack of control decreases happiness and well-being. By influencing the world around us, we gain a sense of control. We all want to make our own meaningful mark on the world.
On this quest towards influence, something that we often underestimate is our use of symbols.
A symbol is anything that conveys meaning. It’s something that brings to mind associations beyond the definition of the symbol itself. It can trigger mental representations that are far broader than the symbol’s inherent meaning. In that way, symbols are powerful.
Letters and words are symbols of course. But so are the clothes you wear, the car you drive, and the job you have. The twinkle in your eye, the smirk on your face, the timbre of your laugh. What a person says, how they say it, and to whom are all symbols. The same goes for companies—everything it does forms a symphony of symbolism.
We cannot always decide how other people will interpret our symbols. But what we can control is what symbols we use, and how we use them. We can be deliberate about their usage, instead of spraying them around us like a sprinkler.
One of history’s great men can show us how to harness the power of symbols.
The fur cap man
In 1776, the American congress sent Benjamin Franklin to France as special commissioner. His mission was to seal an alliance with the European power, and to secure weapons and financing for the ongoing Revolutionary War.
Franklin knew that this was a delicate, precarious situation. His newly-founded nation was depending on him. Without the support of the French, the United States was destined to be nothing more than a temporary uprising.
Luckily, Franklin was a master of symbols (as well as a master of many other things). He knew that gaining the ear and the trust of the stingy French elite required the right image. His reputation as a simple printer, politician and scientist wasn’t going to cut it. He needed to become the “American version of the French spirit and way of life,” and to appeal “to their notorious narcissism,” as Robert Greene writes.
What symbols did Franklin use to express the right message to the French? The best example was the soften marten fur cap. He had picked up the headpiece several years before during a trip to Canada, and he knew it was the perfect ruse for his new foreign mission. Franklin wore the cap everywhere he went in Paris.
“The cap … served as his badge of homespun purity and New World virtue, just as his ever-present spectacles (also featured in portraits) became an emblem of wisdom,” writes his biographer Walter Isaacson. “It helped him play the part that Paris imagined for him: that of the noble frontier philosopher and simple backwoods sage.”
He struck the perfect balance between deep thinker and exotic influencer — exactly what was needed at the time. Franklin made such an impression that the local ladies even started wearing wigs that looked like his cap. They called the new fashion trend coiffure á la Franklin.
Franklin clearly knew what he was doing. He was deliberate about the symbols he used. “He carefully crafted his own persona, portrayed it in public, and polished it for posterity,” writes Isaacson. “Wherever he went he assumed the look, the outward morals, and the behavior of the culture at hand, so that he could better make his way,” says Greene.
In the end, his mission was a success. Franklin became beloved by the French, secured their financial support, and sealed a vital military alliance. The United States’ success in the Revolutionary War, and the country’s existence, owes much to Franklin’s masterful use of symbols.
Symbolizing yourself
Franklin’s fur cap shows that some objects can have disproportionately large effects on the world around us. On our journey towards influence, leveraging symbols is one of the most powerful tools we can use.
Reflect upon your own symbols, or your company’s use of symbolism:
What are your most important symbols?
What symbols express the wrong message?
What are you not expressing right now? What symbols could you use to get those messages across?
Try as we might, we can’t control how others perceive our symbols. But what we can do is to be more deliberate about the ones we use and how.
A simple starting point is to consider your use of the quintessential symbol: words. “The word is only a representation of the meaning; even at its best, writing almost always falls short of full meaning,” says writer Stephen King. “Given that, why in God’s name would you want to make things worse by choosing a word which is only cousin to the one you really wanted to use?”
Where do your symbols fall short? What are the symbols you really should be using?
Alex Carabi is a brand and leadership consultant and coach, helping people and organizations to rethink reality and bring meaning to what they do.
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June 24th
7 Tips in Choosing Perfect Toys for Your Kids
When a birthday or holiday rolls around, no doubt your kids will present you with a wish list of the toys they want. And every time a toy commercial comes on TV, your child is probably pointing to everything they see, asking you to buy it. While you’ll want to fulfill some wishes, there are some more things you should think of when buying toys for your kids.
Here’s how to make the right choice for finding perfect toys for your kids.
Choose Brand Names
Brand names tend to be more reputable and often offer warranties that ensure the durability of the toys you buy. If you shop online, in particular, be cautious of brand names because there are many knock-off items at cheaper prices. While those price cuts might seem like a bargain, they often aren’t very durable. They’re also more likely to come from a vendor with a less than stellar reputation which could leave you with a broken product and wasted money.
Check Out The Reviews
Internet trolls aside, the majority of reviews you see are legitimate. You can learn a lot about the products you plan to buy by seeing what others who have bought and used them have to say about it. If there are more bad reviews than good ones, you’ll probably want to look for a different brand or product instead.
If you want to know if buyer reviews are legitimate, check out Fakespot.
Keep It In The Age Limit
Toys are all designed for different age ranges. Children under the age of 3, for example, shouldn’t have anything with small parts because of the dangers of choking.
Other toys are for older children and while a child of 5 won’t be attempting to eat small pieces, they might not have the patience or understanding for a toy that’s been created with older children in mind.
Think About The Product Features
That toy guitar sure is cute! But does it have a volume control on it? If not, you’ll be doomed to listen to it blaring every single time you attempt to make a phone call. Some products in the same genre will have very different features on them too and it’s up to you decide what makes one set of features better for your child.
Choose Toys That Do More Than Entertain
Some of the toys you choose for your child will be purely for fun value. But other toys will have educational elements to them. Things like water tables or block sets or even toy kitchens all provide an opportunity for your child to learn new things like colors, shapes, new words, even new languages.
There are also other toys that can help children build self-confidence or self-esteem such as pretend toys or musical instruments. While it’s nice to give your kids plush and cuddly toys to love on, the perfect toys for your children can teach soft skills too.
Think About Assembly
Is the toy you’re choosing ready to go right out of the box? Or will it require some effort on your part to put it together?
Make sure you’re aware of the packaging and assembly so you won’t be surprised when you’ve got a new dollhouse that you have to put together while your children shriek with excitement and try to touch everything as you’re assembling it. Talk about pressure!
Compare Prices
Once you’ve decided on the toys you want to buy for your child, you’ll want to look at the price. Not everyone has a limitless budget. You’ll want to factor in things like the cost as well as the usage of it.
For example, if you’re going to buy a walker, you might want to invest in one that has a detachable face of learning activities. That way, when your little one begins walking on her own, she’ll still get use out of this toy.
Before you buy it anywhere, compare the prices of the toys you’ve selected among reputable stores in your area as well as online. Don’t forget that if you order online, you will have to factor the cost of shipping into your budget unless it comes with free shipping.
Remember, toys should be age-appropriate, safe, and durable. Keep that in mind and you’ll always find the perfect toy!
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