Golden sunrise light streams through the pinelands at Everglades…

Golden sunrise light streams through the pinelands at Everglades National Park in Florida. Across the park’s 1.5 million acres, thick forests transition to wide wetlands and coastal lowlands; each distinct ecosystem dependent on water conditions and a few inches of elevation. On your next adventure, explore these different lands and waters in search of your perfect Everglades moment. Photo courtesy of Andrew R. Slaton.

9 Tips You Can Use When Talking With Your Doctor

Don’t be reluctant when talking with your doctor.

Be open and honest.

After all, the best family medical practitioners want to hear from you. They want to build strong, trust-based relationships with their patients and the only way that can happen is if the communication flow is as free and easy as possible.

Promoting an open, empathy-based communication with you is the way your professional family doctors put the “care” in “health care.”

Here are some ideas to consider when it’s time to talk to your doctor:

Be personable but get to the point

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You’re busy but you probably don’t know anyone busier than your family doctor. If she’s really great, she’ll make you feel like you’re her only patient even though you aren’t.

When you sense your doctor is a bit busy, think “ABC”. Be “Accurate” and tell her exactly what you need to say. Be “Brief” and use as few words as possible. You also need to be “Clear”. Try not to muddy-up the message by being overly descriptive.

Be prepared

It’s a great idea to come to your appointment with a written list of questions and concerns. It’ll help both you and your doctor remain focused on the important stuff.

Bring a buddy

If you can, have a friend or family member come with you. Your buddy can take notes, think of new questions, and chime in with his own observations. This will enable you to focus all your attention on communicating with your doctor.

Don’t self-diagnose

It’s easy to gather information online but remember, you’re not the doctor. Let your physician make the diagnoses and recommendations. It’s also a good idea to have the doctor suggest resources so you can find more information.

Find out how to access your online medical records

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Keeping track of your test results, treatment plans, and other specific information related to your care can help save time during your doctor visit. It can free up valuable minutes, which you can use to gather new information and insights.

Ask questions

Ask a lot of questions to help you understand your treatment and overall health issues. The best questions to ask your doctor are open-ended questions.

They can leave your doctor free to answer based on her knowledge and experience rather than just confirming or refuting your pre-conceptions.

Be honest and open about the “embarrassing” stuff

Sexual issues? Bowel problems? Even concerns associated with aging, such as memory loss?

Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor about it. It’s unlikely that you’ll bring up a topic she hasn’t discussed before.

Inquire of the person, not just the data bank

How many patients do you think your doctor will see today or this week? Did you ask her how she’s doing or feeling?

Ask.

Really listen to her answer. Remember, empathy is always a two-way street. A better relationship means better care.

Ask how your doctor prefers to communicate

These days, many family doctors request patients to send an email before the actual visit. This can help save time. Some doctors, on the other hand, prefer a quick phone call before a visit.

Make the most of your communication when talking to your doctor. If you want the best health care, start by establishing a better communication flow. It can help ensure better care.

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The Art of Love

Why art? What is it? What is it for? These are the questions that have vexed scholars and historians, makers of art and lovers of art, since the beginning of civilization. What color is art? Can beautiful art be ugly, can ugly art be beautiful? Does art distort life, mirror it, or duplicate it? Does art have a taste? In Why Art? we are guided through a metaphysical journey where the mysterious and regenerative properties of art are put to the test.

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Tips For Restorative Sleep

 

We all know how important it is to maintain an active lifestyle to be healthy. Numerous studies and reports come out seemingly every day encouraging us to be active if we want to be healthy and live longer lives. Yet in the drive to stay active, the importance of stopping to get the proper amount of rest gets pushed to the background too often. A good, restorative night’s sleep is imperative for our bodies’ ability to recuperate and recharge after a full day’s activities. In today’s society, though, it’s often considered a luxury. There’s so much call for us to be doing tasks constantly that getting the recommended seven to nine hours of sleep our bodies need each night is seen as almost selfish. The American drive to do more may be a big part of the reason why the average American only gets about six and a half hours of sleep each night.

When you wake in the morning without getting the right amount of sleep, you can feel the effects all day. You may feel sluggish, worn out and unfocused — making it harder for you to properly function during the day. Thus, creating more stress in your life. You may rely on stimulants such as coffee or soft drinks to keep yourself awake. However, these stimulants can make it more difficult for you to fall asleep at night and keep the vicious cycle perpetuating itself. Not getting enough sleep also puts you at elevated risk for a host of health issues — including diabetes, obesity and heart disease. Shortchanging your body with only a few hours of sleep per night can lead to serious problems that aren’t worth the short-term gains.

That’s why it’s so crucial to develop good sleep habits and stick to them every night. One of the best sleeping habits is to ensure that you go to bed at the same time each night, so you can give yourself plenty of time to get the amount of rest your body needs. If you’re interested in making sure you get the right amount of restorative sleep each night, the following checklist provides you with tips that can help. As important as it is to be active to stay healthy, don’t forget how valuable a good night’s rest is, too.

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The B&N Podcast: Kristin Hannah

Every author has a story beyond the one that they put down on paper. The Barnes & Noble Podcast goes between the lines with today’s most interesting writers, exploring what inspires them, what confounds them, and what they were thinking when they wrote the books we’re talking about.

In Kristin Hannah’s 2015 bestseller The Nightingale — set in WWII France — her narrator tells us “In love we find out who we want to be: in war we find out who we are.” With her latest novel The Great Alone, Hannah’s characters come to a similar awareness – not via the crucible of combat, but the challenge of making a life “off the grid” in a homesteading community in the Alaskan wilderness. In this episode of the podcast the author talks about her long family connection to Alaska, and why its grandeur made the right backdrop for a story about survival of perils close to home.

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Alaska, 1974: Unpredictable. Unforgiving. Untamed.
For a family in crisis, the ultimate test of survival.

Ernt Allbright, a former POW, comes home from the Vietnam war a changed and volatile man. When he loses yet another job, he makes an impulsive decision: he will move his family north, to Alaska, where they will live off the grid in America’s last true frontier.

Thirteen-year-old Leni, a girl coming of age in a tumultuous time, caught in the riptide of her parents’ passionate, stormy relationship, dares to hope that a new land will lead to a better future for her family. She is desperate for a place to belong. Her mother, Cora, will do anything and go anywhere for the man she loves, even if means following him into the unknown.

At first, Alaska seems to be the answer to their prayers. In a wild, remote corner of the state, they find a fiercely independent community of strong men and even stronger women. The long, sunlit days and the generosity of the locals make up for the Allbrights’ lack of preparation and dwindling resources.

But as winter approaches and darkness descends on Alaska, Ernt’s fragile mental state deteriorates and the family begins to fracture. Soon the perils outside pale in comparison to threats from within. In their small cabin, covered in snow, blanketed in eighteen hours of night, Leni and her mother learn the terrible truth: they are on their own. In the wild, there is no one to save them but themselves.

In this unforgettable portrait of human frailty and resilience, Kristin Hannah reveals the indomitable character of the modern American pioneer and the spirit of a vanishing Alaska—a place of incomparable beauty and danger. The Great Alone is a daring, beautiful, stay-up-all-night story about love and loss, the fight for survival, and the wildness that lives in both man and nature.

Discover more fiction by Kristin Hannah.

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Critically Uncertain: Zadie Smith and Marilynne Robinson

I’ve been thinking lately about the essay, why it seems both so essential and so fraught right now. This is not an academic question but a matter of how we survive, or don’t, on the page. “Writing exists (for me),” Zadie Smith admits in the Foreword to her capacious new collection, Feel Free, “at the intersection of three precarious, uncertain elements: language, the world, the self.” The key words there are precarious, uncertain; every essayist (or essay reader) understands what she means. “I realize,” Smith acknowledges further, “my somewhat ambivalent view of human selves is wholly out of fashion . . . It is of course hardly possible to retain any feelings of ambivalence — on either side of the Atlantic — in the face of what we now confront.” And yet, somehow, we do. Here, we see what the essay offers, perhaps especially in an era that is so resolutely unambiguous: a reminder that fashion is fleeting, that there is more to us than what gets reported, that the key conundrum of our humanity — What are we doing here? — remains.

What Are We Doing Here? is the title of another recent book of essays, Marilynne Robinson’s series of inquiries into faith, theology, and politics, and if it seems a stretch to connect to Smith’s more internalized investigations, it’s a stretch I want to make. The point, or one of them, is that the essay is both interior and exterior, the expression of a soul, of an intelligence, looking out. We have been conditioned by a variety of factors — including and perhaps especially Internet culture — to think of the essay as entirely personal, a mechanism for testimony or amends. That’s part of it, although what Smith and Robinson have to tell us is that the personal can also be political or public, that what we think, and what we think about, can be as revelatory as what we have or haven’t done. I’m interested in the essay because I am an essayist, and I am curious to see what other essayists are doing with the form. But I am also interested in the essay because I am a human being. “It reminds me,” Smith writes in a piece on Facebook, first published in The New York Review of Books in 2010, “that those of us who turn in disgust from what we consider an overinflated liberal-bourgeois sense of self should be careful what we wish for: our denuded selves don’t look more free, they just look more owned.”

Smith caught flak when that essay originally appeared, derided as retrograde and out-of-touch. But one of the pleasures of both her collection and Robinson’s is how they reveal the emptiness of such critiques. It’s an intention embodied by the structure of Feel Free, which Smith divides into five parts, beginning with “The World.” The idea is to open wide, as they say, and then move inward, in increasing spirals, toward the self. The strategy suggests a certain necessary tension — framing identity, even freedom, on both individual and collective terms.

“What would I have been and what would I have done — or more to the point, what would have been done to me — in 1360, in 1760, in 1860, in 1960?” Smith asks in “On Optimism and Despair,” a talk she delivered two days after the 2016 presidential election. “I do not say this to claim some pedestal of perfect victimhood or historical innocence. I know very well how my West Indian ancestors sold and enslaved their tribal cousins and neighbors. I don’t believe in any political or personal identity of pure innocence and absolute rectitude.” This is an almost perfect encapsulation of the pattern of her thinking, from the societal to the particular and back again. “The three of us,” she writes in “North-west London Blues,” referring to herself, her mother, and a bookseller about to lose her shop in Willesden, where Smith grew up, “lamented this change and the cultural vandalism we felt it represented. Or, if you take the opposite view, we stood around pointlessly, like the Luddite, fiscally ignorant liberals we are, complaining about the inevitable.”

Smith is critiquing everything we don’t want to talk about: complicity and naïveté, what we take for granted and how we are positioned, our good feelings about ourselves. It’s a territory to which she returns throughout Feel Free. In “Fences: A Brexit Diary,” she describes a North London dinner party (whisper of her novel NW) where guests lament “the strange tendency of the younger lefty generation to censor or silence speech or opinions they consider in some way wrong,” until a lone dissenter speaks: “Well, they got that habit from us.” Later, Smith recalls a playdate never set up for her daughter and a friend, due to a divide between herself and the other mother, “not because I was black . . . but because I was middle class.” The implication is striking not because we don’t recognize the dynamics but because we do. “To see what is in front of one’s nose,” George Orwell wrote, “needs a constant struggle.” For Smith, too, such a struggle is the driver of the essay.

What makes Feel Free so resonant is this refusal to let anyone, herself included, off the hook. At the same time, she is compassionate and understanding of our failings — although understanding alone, Smith knows, is not enough. More to the point, her purpose is inquiry, the essayist’s natural state of asking as opposed to answering: precarious uncertainty again. If, on the one hand, she is writing out of a certain expertise — she is sharply pointed on books and art and film and popular culture — her real subject is the provisionality of everything.

Even her children stir a litany of questions. “Their beloved father is white, I am biracial, so by the old racial logic of America, they are ‘quadroons,’ ” she writes in “Getting In and Out,” which considers both the film Get Out and Dana Shutz’s painting Open Casket, accused of cultural appropriation at last year’s Whitney Biennial for its portrayal (by a white artist) of Emmett Till. “Could they take racial suffering as a subject of their art, should they ever make any?” The openness is stunning, down to what her kids may or may not become. That, however, is only the beginning, as Smith fires off a series of interrogatives, so fast we cannot address one before the next arrives. Her children, she tells us, “look white. Are they? If they are, shouldn’t white people like my children concern themselves with the suffering of Emmett Till? Is making art a form of concern? Does it matter what form the concern takes?” The list goes on for nearly half a page. Her concerns move inexorably from the cultural to the existential — or maybe the two are increasingly the same.

“I had a Person 1.0 panic attack,” she writes in the Facebook essay. “Soon I would be forty, then fifty, then soon after dead; I broke out in a Zuckerberg sweat . . . Can you have that feeling on Facebook?” For Smith, this is a key distinction, not the generational divide but the conundrum of authenticity in a world defined by its façades. When even our online profiles supersede us, what does it say about identity? What does it mean for our selves? These are questions, I would tell you, with no answers, which makes them the most important questions we can ask.

What Are We Doing Here? undertakes a related sequence of investigations, albeit through a different lens. Like Smith, Robinson means to reflect on “what we now confront” (how could she not?), yet she is also intent on a longer view. Her concern, in other words, is not social media or contemporary art or public life, or even how we navigate the nebulous landscape of the present — not exactly. Rather, it is our relationship to history. “I am fascinated by history,” she informs us, “and I don’t know what it is . . . I am especially fascinated by erasures and omissions, which seem to me to be strongly present in their apparent absence, like black holes, pulling the fabric of collective narrative out of shape.” These black holes (and isn’t this the perfect analogy, gravitational fields so encompassing that nothing can escape them?) have everything to do with dogma, political or otherwise.

“The willingness,” Robinson insists in her preface, “to indulge in ideological thinking — that is, in thinking that by definition is not one’s own, which is blind to experience and to the contradictions that arise when broader fields of knowledge are consulted — is a capitulation no one should ever make.” Whatever else she is doing, she is articulating the essayist’s creed. Among the points of essay writing — of all writing, really — is to take nothing at face value, to shake not just the reader but also the writer out of his or her complacency. “I write,” Flannery O’Connor once suggested, “because I don’t know what I think until I read what I say.”

For Robinson, this is a matter equally of faith and politics; she is deeply committed to theology and to religion, although this is not to say that her work is doctrinaire. “The question of the existence of God and all the rest,” she writes, in one of my favorite sentences here, “is not affected in any way by the ineptitude of the case made against it.” Something similar, she notes, might be said about our public life. Again, from the Preface: “I know it is conventional to say we Americans are radically divided, polarized. But this is not more true than its opposite — in essential ways we share false assumptions and flawed conclusions that are never effectively examined because they are indeed shared.”

What Robinson is getting at is this: We are united, perhaps most of all, by the tendency to fall prey to our preconceptions. The insight echoes Smith’s ruminations on Brexit, and on race. (“It sounded right,” the latter observes of multicultural London’s self-image as diverse and inclusive, “but the evidence of my own eyes offered a counter-narrative.”) “Indeed,” Robinson avers, “unread words may govern the world, not well, since they so often are taken to justify our worst impulses and prejudices. The Holy Bible is a case in point.”

The essay, then, offers a mechanism to look more closely, to set aside what we think we know in favor of what we need. For Robinson, this means, among other strategies, re-imagining the legacy of the New England Puritans, who sought to create what she characterizes as “a radical community, an experiment, created by covenant among members whose bonds were hoped to be mutual charity — that is, compassion and love.” Robinson is not naïve; she understands what has been done in the name of such a covenant, and her purpose is neither to whitewash nor exonerate. Instead, she is exploring context, connecting the American experiment to its English antecedents, including the revolutionary figure of Oliver Cromwell, and then turning her gaze outward again, to the nation in which we now reside. “Why does it matter?” she asks, not quite rhetorically. “Everything always matters.” That, too, represents the posture of the essayist. “At this time,” Robinson continues, “the country needs to regain equilibrium and direction. It needs to recover the memory of the best it has done, and then try to do it all better.”

There’s more than a bit of wishful thinking in such a statement, a faith in “the better angels of our nature,” as Abraham Lincoln said. I share that faith, although it is fraying. So maybe it’s more accurate to say: I share that narrative. “Essays about one person’s affective experience,” Smith writes, “have, by their very nature not a leg to stand on. All they have is their freedom. And the reader is likewise unusually free because I have absolutely nothing over her, no authority.” This is why they work when they are working, narrative as conversation, since both the essay writer and the essay reader have no choice but to communicate as who they are.

Like Smith, like Robinson, I am that outmoded creature, the sentimental humanist. So, too, I want to say, are all of us. “[W]e need a metaphysics,” Robinson argues, “an unconfirmable parallel reality able to support essential concepts such as mind, conscience, and soul, if we are to sustain the civilization culture and history created for us . . . Nothing about these statements is self-evident.” She’s referring, one more time, to the back-and-forth position of the essayist: personal yet also public, introspective and committed all at once. “It’s this self,” Smith explains, “whose boundaries are uncertain, whose language is never pure, whose world is in no way ‘self-evident’ ” — yes, that word again — “that I write from and to.” That is what we share; it is why the essay is as necessary as ever. That is what we are doing here.

 

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Do you remember what is was like to be a child, when everything…

Do you remember what is was like to be a child, when everything seemed so huge and amazing? No matter your age, that’s the feeling you’ll get walking through the Giant Forest at Sequoia and Kings Canyon National Parks in California. Growing over 250 feet tall and over 30 feet wide, these wonders of nature are a sight you’ll never forget. Photo by National Park Service.

 

Ikigai: The Japanese Secret To A Happy Life

The pressure to find happiness can lead to a sense of inadequacy and disappointment.

In fact, the pressure to be happy can make you unhappy.

Instead of forcing yourself, try Ikigai. It can get you out of bed in the morning.

In the culture of Okinawa, Japan, Ikigai (pronounced “eye-ka-guy”) roughly translates to “reason for being.”

In a 7-year study involving about 43,000 adults, it was found that those adults who were able to find their Ikigai were alive 7 years after the study.

This was even after taking other factors, like diseases, into account.

Ikigai is similar to “happiness”.

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The difference is that even if you are miserable now but have a goal in mind, you may still feel Ikigai.

Have you ever been so absorbed in doing something that you forget to drink and eat?

What were you doing?

You may find your Ikigai in those moments.

If you can find out what you are good at, what you can be paid for, what the world needs and what you absolutely love doing, then you have your Ikigai.

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Let’s break it down:

1. What you love: It’s going to be something that you do because you enjoy doing it. Make a list.
2. Be good at it: If you enjoy it, you’re likely to be good or at least decent at it. Make a list.
3. Can be paid for: For it to be Ikigai, you should be able to make a decent living off of it. Is there a niche for it? Make a list.
4. The world should need it: It should be something people find useful. Make a list.

By now you should have four lists.

Is there anything that exists on all four of them?

That’s a really good contender for Ikigai.

Also, consider the things on the “I love doing it” and “The world needs it lists”.

Are you suddenly going to start loving doing something that you don’t enjoy doing?

Not likely.

It’s easier to get really good at something you enjoy or figure out a way to make a living from.

Ikigai may be an answer to the Millennial frustration

I want my life to have meaning and consequence. On the other hand, I want to enjoy the lifestyle that comes with money.

Whether it’s Ikigai or what Chris Myers calls Enlightened Entrepreneurship, find your passion and then the medium through which to express your passion.

Ikigai isn’t about working harder and longer.

In fact, only 31% of Japanese say they’ve found their Ikigai at work, which means 69% of people find it elsewhere.

Ikigai is about feeling that your work makes a difference in people’s lives.

Unlike the English term “purpose in life”, it need not refer to dauntingly large or spectacular projects.

It doesn’t need to be grand or showy.

You can find your Ikigai in doing one small thing as well as you possibly can.

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The Threats, Real and Imagined, of Mexico’s Election

In less than five months, Mexico will have a presidential election that is being described by US and international media commentators as a perilous undertaking. The problem, according to the pundits and the Trump administration, is that the leftist candidate Andrés Manuel López Obrador holds a sizable lead in the polls, and could well be Mexico’s next president. But is his possible election really such a threat? It is difficult to say how much he could do if elected, given the forces arrayed against him, both at home and from the north. But if there is a reform candidate and party in the race, it is López Obrador and his Morena party.

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Truths About Life: $1 Million Ideas Given For a Penny

Combine your goal of self-realization with the right actions. Start bringing your ideas to life by writing them down.

Stop searching for the truth and look deep into you as you already know the truth. The only challenge is acknowledging it.

Truths about life

I learned a lot from “Uncle Agbo” at Zion Nursery & Primary School Amagu. There, I used to serve him as the office boy. I ran all the errands without expecting a penny from him.

Then one day, he said this to me:

• No time is right for you to reach your goals more than the one you set for yourself.
Then, I went ahead to put these words into little action as I could at the moment. He always wanted me to be early to school but he never forced me. He only smiled each time I arrive early. Whenever I see him being so happy with me, I feel I am doing something good.

• Always show gratitude to the people who made a difference in your life, even if it is just by smiling. It won’t make you weak; it will make you the king of that moment and you will realize how encouraging that is for other people.

See Also: The Magic of Appreciation: How to Practice Gratitude

Always remember this:

Only love can heal the World. It’s not the one you receive, but the unconditional love you shower on people.

Life can be so difficult and challenging, but we can make it better. It must start with you. Look at your neighbor right now and just smile.

Did you do it?

Ok, ask your neighbor how he/she felt seeing your glittering face. Whatever the response is, accept it as a revamping factor to do more in the near future.

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I faced a lot of challenges in the past years and decided to note these lines down for you. They will help you to be better this year as they are really amazing.

• Nobody will love you the way you want. Only you can do that for yourself.
• Nobody will push you beyond your limits. Your personal conviction will do it for you.
• Nobody can give you true and long-lasting happiness. It will come the moment you admit that happiness is possible and obtainable.

Do you want to live a fulfilled and abundant life like me?

Here are the things you need to do today:

•Start taking actions without fears.
•Take the risk.
•Plan for opportunities even before they arrive. They will always come around.
•Cheer yourself up even when no one is doing so for you.

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Life is too short so do not give a single chance for distortion. Live every minute with the right mindset.

This article is an open platform for your thoughts. Whatever you make of it is what it means to you.

This is how the universe is. There are numerous spaces with unlimited opportunities but most of the time, we do not see them. It’s not because we are blind but because our comfort zone is like salt.

It is sweet and admirable and you could have tasted sugar, had you stood up and took the steps to change.

See Also: 15 Tips On How To Live A Fulfilling Life

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